testing waters on dating other people

I asked aqua for the business card of this cute girl we met the other day. She says, "why." I say, "she's my type, I was attracted to her."

she says, "no, I was the one who met her, I liked her. you can't see anyone I know."

I say, "you don't know her."

she says, "you can't see anyone I've met ... why did you like her so much anyway, what was it about her that's 'your type'?"

I kept quiet, wishing i had the camera rolling again 'cause she goes off:

"why can't you just be patient; don't tell me if you're seeing anyone; I don't want to know that; all you care about is having a wet hole to put your dick in!"

So, what's up with that? Y'all saw how aloof she was towards me. Why does she care if I see anyone?

also, I was rolling my eyes thinking yep, all a guy needs is food, a safe place to take a crap, and a wet hole ... i get that she wants to feel loved, but geeze, showing some love goes a long way toward getting some.

I promised her that I was going to stop trying to keep her from sleeping with anyone else. Told her I would stop threatening to kick her out; told her that we just need to make a plan, set some goals, divide up the chores around the house, and pick a realistic time for her to save up enough to move out.

lol, I even told her i was done trying to stop her from throwing away her career ... kinda have an ulterior motive there ... I have a way to not care if that happens; I will post a lot of great video ... no harm no foul at that point.

Anyway, next morning we're walking dogs and 1st she says, "I do love you." (kind of in that tone of -- but all sexual attraction is totally gone). Then later, when i'm listing off all the things in her life that she needs to get in order, she says you just treat me so much like you're my dad.

Then later she asked if I wanted to go home with her for Thanksgiving.

I asked aqua for the business card of this cute girl we met the other day. She says, "why." I say, "she's my type, I was attracted to her."

i only read the first sentence and im too through.

Posted by DMV
I asked aqua for the business card of this cute girl we met the other day. She says, "why." I say, "she's my type, I was attracted to her."

i only read the first sentence and im too through.

haha, ok DMV ... I never read anyone's story when they drag on this long either 😛

Posted by jru2

Posted by DMV
I asked aqua for the business card of this cute girl we met the other day. She says, "why." I say, "she's my type, I was attracted to her."

i only read the first sentence and im too through.

haha, ok DMV ... I never read anyone's story when they drag on this long either 😛

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its not that its a long story. its that, she isnt the problem anymore. i truly believe that you start the majority of the spats.

seriously, if someone started off a conversation with the same sentence you used, i would be besides myself. starting shit for no reason. if u really wanted to test the dating pool, date someone who has no connection to her, at all. even if it was a fly by night person, no connection at all. dont try to date any of her friends, family, coworkers, milk man, cable guy, hairdresser, manicurist, airline attendant, cashier, geez dude the whole world is your oyster, but you wanna swim in her pool.

no, this was someone we literally just met at a farmers market and the girl handed out her card because she makes jewelry ... neither one of us "know" her. Aqua had no intention of ever contacting her ... just took the card to be nice. she only said all that stuff because i acted interested in the girl.

it was just a test anyway, i was checking to see if there was any energy there. If aqua had said, oh sure, here it is ... then i'd know, whew, absolutely nothing left in our relationship. but, there was energy there .. not a lot though. I think my plan is to give aqua some space now.

but you're right, i do start some of the shit ... she just over-reacts.

god, there is this girl at work ... she keeps the convo going when i say hi to her ... what to do, what to do?

i still have 1 free pass anyway ... really 2.

Posted by jru2
no, this was someone we literally just met at a farmers market and the girl handed out her card because she makes jewelry ... neither one of us "know" her. Aqua had no intention of ever contacting her ... just took the card to be nice. she only said all that stuff because i acted interested in the girl.

it was just a test anyway, i was checking to see if there was any energy there. If aqua had said, oh sure, here it is ... then i'd know, whew, absolutely nothing left in our relationship. but, there was energy there .. not a lot though. I think my plan is to give aqua some space now.

but you're right, i do start some of the shit ... she just over-reacts.

god, there is this girl at work ... she keeps the convo going when i say hi to her ... what to do, what to do?

i still have 1 free pass anyway ... really 2.

it isnt the fact that you all dont "know" her. you are "knowingly" bringing out her insecurities and that isnt cool. i dont know who started the game play in your relationship but it takes a bigger person to stop it.

im no saint either. work in progress

Posted by capgirl75
Bleh. I agree with DMV.
She is not over reacting.
You started it.

If you want to see other people, then go ahead. But why would you ask her for this girl's number? You just did it to piss her off. Why would it have to be this girl, that you met one time? Again, all you want is to incite a reaction.

You are an instigator, and this is crazy behavior.
I think you thrive on all this drama, which is why you will never let this girl go, as bad as you say she is.

SMH.

its all fun & games till someone gets shot

I dont know i might be wrong, but i dont believe any of this guy's stories. I havent seen any of his videos, but my mind is telling me that both of them are actors or something. Its just too unbelievable. Nobody is that stupid. Which sane minded person would let a cheating, mooching leech continue to stay in their house and torment them? It doesnt make sense. And it doesnt sound sadge or aqua like. Maybe he is really a pisces and not a sadge...or maybe a saint. If it is in fact true then i feel sorry for both of them. So much drama would drive me nuts. OP, go get help, move houses, fake your own death...whatever..just get away from this situation- IF IT IS TRUE. My apologies if im wrong..

ok, points taken, but i'm increasingly happier at home now. When you consider that I've been paying all the bills, cooking, cleaning, washing, picking up her trash all over the house ... literally I have been her personal servant, especially those 2 weeks before that test ... and if she did fail it again, it was because she was wasting brain waves on another man ... whew, I'm gonna say anything the fuck I want at this point. It's my turn.

--for the whole time she's been there, she hasn't even put a roll of TP on the roller, much less notice when we are running low and buy some.

it's almost as if i've gotten to live the unappreciated life of my ex-wife who did all that shit for me year after year only to have me leave anyway

there's definitely a take-away here: busting your ass for someone won't make them love you.

Posted by WaterCup
I dont know i might be wrong, but i dont believe any of this guy's stories. I havent seen any of his videos, but my mind is telling me that both of them are actors or something. Its just too unbelievable. Nobody is that stupid. Which sane minded person would let a cheating, mooching leech continue to stay in their house and torment them? It doesnt make sense. And it doesnt sound sadge or aqua like. Maybe he is really a pisces and not a sadge...or maybe a saint. If it is in fact true then i feel sorry for both of them. So much drama would drive me nuts. OP, go get help, move houses, fake your own death...whatever..just get away from this situation- IF IT IS TRUE. My apologies if im wrong..

lol, what proof do you want ... i still haven't fixed the holes in the wall where she hit it with the lamp one night ... I'm still finding bits of glass on floor ... really, people have been reading my stories for a while and probably know the common thread ... the aries

although, the 1st time I wrote here it was about a virgo i had crush on ... my neighbor ... lol, I've lived many other places since then, but she's my neighbor again now for the last couple of years. at least i've never told the aqua that I used to have a crush on her ... no reason since nothing ever came of that.

I'm going to post another video probably tonight. It's just me talking to camera right after I figured out she was in love with that other guy. I think you'll see that the way I was feeling is real. I showed that clip to aqua last night too. she said it was good and that I should post it, she said people will watch that ... it's a little embarrassing though ... wouldn't want my kids to see it someday because I allude to when I was having emotional affairs when I was married to their mother. It's like dammit, all the really good shit is also really personal shit ... all the reasons people would watch it are the reasons I don't want anyone to watch it. Its pretty honest, I think you will see that.

Posted by jru2
ok, points taken, but i'm increasingly happier at home now.

well then wtf dude. the thread should be titled "its my turn now dammit." then everyone understands 100% your position. revenge is your motive and no one would think otherwise. but to title it in a way as to seek sympathy is a bit...much like a psychopath.

besides, what grown man complains about someone not putting TP on the roll. shit maybe she has her mind on another man because the one at home is complaining about toilet paper.

remember when your buying toilet paper that she walks about topless. go tell the topless mooch in your house to stop screwing you if you feel so strongly about charmin.

You can bust your arse for me [i wont mind at all], guys like u DONT exist...u r an endangered species, a collector's item. Leave her and date me, i'll cherish u, lol. But seriously, get away from her..like yesterday

Posted by DMV

Posted by jru2
ok, points taken, but i'm increasingly happier at home now.

well then wtf dude. the thread should be titled "its my turn now dammit." then everyone understands 100% your position. revenge is your motive and no one would think otherwise. but to title it in a way as to seek sympathy is a bit...much like a psychopath.

besides, what grown man complains about someone not putting TP on the roll. shit maybe she has her mind on another man because the one at home is complaining about toilet paper.

remember when your buying toilet paper that she walks about topless. go tell the topless mooch in your house to stop screwing you if you feel so strongly about charmin.

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uhmm ... didn't mean the title of this thread to be looking for sympathy. I meant it literally, I was testing the waters. She says things like: "fine go fuck someone to get even." but then when it comes down to it and I'm out trying to make that happen, she's like: "where the fuck are you, why can't you just wait .... blah, blah, blah." So, I never know where I stand. So I do these little things to see if she really meant something that she's said before or not. I literally can't believe a damn word out of her mouth ... it's like we may as well just skip talking and find some non-verbal way of communication because that's the only time I get a glimpse of what's really going on in her head ... when she starts throwing things ... j/k!

Believe me, I've never complained about the TP to her ... that's pretty far down on the list.

last, i'm not after revenge either ... I'm just moving towards living my life, and running things in my house the way I want rather than the way she wants.

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Posted by DMV

Posted by capgirl75
Bleh. I agree with DMV.
She is not over reacting.
You started it.

If you want to see other people, then go ahead. But why would you ask her for this girl's number? You just did it to piss her off. Why would it have to be this girl, that you met one time? Again, all you want is to incite a reaction.

You are an instigator, and this is crazy behavior.
I think you thrive on all this drama, which is why you will never let this girl go, as bad as you say she is.

SMH.

its all fun & games till someone gets shot

I know. I keep picturing this ending in a murder-suicide.

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yeah he will call her and tell her that he is going out on a date with her sister, he will then go out to dinner with her sister, then come home tell her about it with lipstick on his face, then stab himself and see if she still cares for him and takes him to the hospital.

Posted by scorchedearth
why is everyone trying to reason with this nutjob? he's obviously not safe at all. i'm seriously worried for the aquas safety. this guy is fucking crazy. not like "teehee he's a little strange" but off his rocker fucking nutcase crazy.

and he's still too invested in her. he probably wants to still work things out with her. why else would he care how she responds to him dating other people? why ask her for that girls number unless he's trying to force a jealous reaction that he can read into?

he shouldn't be on the internet. he should be in a psychiatrists chair, working on all his crazy shit.

i agree!!!

venus in a fixed sign doesnt give up easily. slow torture for themselves.

Posted by WaterCup
You can bust your arse for me [i wont mind at all], guys like u DONT exist...u r an endangered species, a collector's item. Leave her and date me, i'll cherish u, lol. But seriously, get away from her..like yesterday

lol, thanks, but I think the way it works is if you treat me right ... I'll treat you like shit eventually and vice/versa ... until hopefully we find the right person for ourselves.

Posted by SatoriFierce
lol, oh gawd, dmv, I was thinking more that she would kill him first, and then herself. But she's probably too puss to do herself in.

But Jru, why don't you find a chick who can be like a life-partner and will let you have your little love affairs on the side. Maybe look into the poly/open communities? You will have to tame your scorpyness to let her have some fun too, tho. But with a foundation of love and honest communication it might work. I'm afraid this current chick is too me-centric and will never give you the honesty or respect you desire.

yeah see, the whole open/honest things is what i was going for. I told her that straight up at the beginning of the relationship ... somehow she misconstrued that for me wanting an open/dishonest relationship. She's the type of person that must have her secrets ... it's how she protects herself from being emotionally vulnerable.

ROTFL @ DMV - "yeah he will call her and tell her that he is going out on a date with her sister, he will then go out to dinner with her sister, then come home tell her about it with lipstick on his face, then stab himself and see if she still cares for him and takes him to the hospital."

--that 21 y/o cousin that stayed with us would be closest family. 😛 eh, not really attracted though

I got enough scorp to challenge yours (im very shitty myself), i dont mind being treated like shit cause i return the favour with interest. What do u say to getting shitty together? But u'll have to continue doing what u doing with her...clean it up! And NO cameras. Haha. Do u like or enjoy this drama with your gf and is that why u r still with her? She must have SOME boobs, lol. Do her nipples spin around or something (to give a hypnotic effect)? There must be something..

Posted by scorchedearth
why is everyone trying to reason with this nutjob? he's obviously not safe at all. i'm seriously worried for the aquas safety. this guy is fucking crazy. not like "teehee he's a little strange" but off his rocker fucking nutcase crazy.

and he's still too invested in her. he probably wants to still work things out with her. why else would he care how she responds to him dating other people? why ask her for that girls number unless he's trying to force a jealous reaction that he can read into?

he shouldn't be on the internet. he should be in a psychiatrists chair, working on all his crazy shit.

Hallelujah!

Posted by WaterCup
I got enough scorp to challenge yours (im very shitty myself), i dont mind being treated like shit cause i return the favour with interest. What do u say to getting shitty together? But u'll have to continue doing what u doing with her...clean it up! And NO cameras. Haha. Do u like or enjoy this drama with your gf and is that why u r still with her? She must have SOME boobs, lol. Do her nipples spin around or something (to give a hypnotic effect)? There must be something..

lol, where are you from 😛 ha, and why no cameras? I hate to admit it, but her appeal to me has been her demanding nature. If she didn't like something about me, she was very upfront about telling me to fix it; and a lot of the things were what i wanted to work on anyway ... and she is kinda like a pit bull in some ways, she won't let things go so she keeps me accountable ... sometimes real progress takes time.

lol, and scorchedearth's comment is actually pretty damn ironic for another reason that I can't go into.

ok, here's what it was like to be me when I figured out what was going down with this latest round of shit.

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Posted by scorchedearth
that's the thing. i'm not angry. i just wish there was some way to let the ex know what he was up to so she could take his ass to court over the rights of the videos.

if he wants to record everything they've ever done and post it on the internet he should expect he's going to get some people that think what he's doing is wrong, and to speak out against it.

it's not normal what he's doing. it's not safe. it's not okay.

i'm not entirely sure what he's doing is even legal.

Yeah, I agree with you 100% there. I don't care what she's done, there's no justification. Especially since Jru has enabled the situation and admits to enjoying the suffering...

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Alright already! I agree with you guys too. That's why the videos are down. That one above is me alone in my truck. I have every right to film that. As far as filming the other stuff goes, i'm really glad I filmed it because it was instructive for me. I could finally see how she really felt about me by watching her interact with me in the videos. It's weird how you just can't see things correctly when you are living the situation.

I shared it with you all really just as a test to see if anyone would be interested to see stuff like that or not. It seems that there is some interest at least, and my next gf may have to sign a video release waiver before I let her move in 😛

How are things going Jr? 🙂

Anything exciting happen this week-end?

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