This guy!

Could you imagine being in a serious relationship with someone who's not a great match astrologically? I don't mean just the sun sign compatibility, but the whole chart.

So I have a crush on this leo guy and he feels the same way about me. We have a great connection, but something feels a little off. Looked at our charts and there's *some* issues:

- moon and mercury square
- moon and venus square
- moon and uranus square
- moon and neptune square
- venus and saturn inconjunct
- sun and uranus inconjunct
- mars and neptune inconjunct
- mars and pluto inconjunct

I really like him. We are great friends. But I'm so scared. Not sure if I'm being too demanding or not demanding enough, been at both ends so kinda lost with the balance. There's sexual attraction but nothing spectacular, that worries me a little bit (though I know the attraction will grow but not sure if that's a good thing). Am I just fooling myself thinking this could somehow work? Please someone slap some sense into me.. All these good romantic vibes this December are making me feel like he could be the one, damn it.

Dear sags, please help me out, this situation is getting seriously out of hand and I'm completely freaking out.. The mental and spiritual connection we have is amazing, that is why I am having such hard time with this. I don't really want to settle, but I don't want to be forever alone either.

I can answer you in three categories:

1. 200 years ago people married and stayed togethere and some of them had bad synastry, astrologically.

2. If you don't dislike him, you should date him. Then take the squares for preparation. You're aware, you've advantage.

3. If you both have some positive Saturn and Uranus aspects, or if you have axis meet nodes aspects, then all the better. For long term I mean.

My experience with Leos was that I missed the point that they were great. Speak I was rude or hesitant. Don't make my mistake. Know already you are talking to a king. (damn, I make the same mistake with Leo girls. why is it easier for me to be friends with Aries than Leo?)

Posted by DwellingOnMove
I can answer you in three categories:

1. 200 years ago people married and stayed togethere and some of them had bad synastry, astrologically.

2. If you don't dislike him, you should date him. Then take the squares for preparation. You're aware, you've advantage.

3. If you both have some positive Saturn and Uranus aspects, or if you have axis meet nodes aspects, then all the better. For long term I mean.

You guys are the best, thank you for putting things into perspective for me.

1. True, life gets complicated when we have so many options to choose from..

2. That does make sense, it's not like there's anything to lose really, I am sure we will remain friends even if a dating relationship doesn't work between us. Can never win if you never even try.

3. We do, there's many other positive aspects, especially for the long term. Just not anything to spice things up sexually.

I can't help but to look up to leos. We all have our shortcomings, but as you said, they're great. Amazing people! Thanks Dwelling 🙂

Posted by RainDancer88
Take the astrological compatibility out of the equation.

When you say...
"There's sexual attraction but nothing spectacular, that worries me a little bit (though I know the attraction will grow but not sure if that's a good thing). Am I just fooling myself thinking this could somehow work? Please someone slap some sense into me.. All these good romantic vibes this December are making me feel like he could be the one, damn it."

I for one can relate. I want intensity and without it I am just like.... bleh.

But when you think about marriage. That is your entire life with one man. Consider the qualities that are important to you as as someone who will be your partner.

I think marriage is like a business relationship. Sexual energy only goes so far. When you are old and grey you will want someone who can talk to you, make you laugh and pick you up when you fall down... (or at least I deem those important)

What qualitites do you think will be important when you are in your

child raising years..?

50's?

70's?

Yeah.. There's some intensity, but not the crazy kind we sags tend crave. He is a leo thank goodness, got some fire in him.

That's a great comment about marriage. While I can't necessarily see myself getting married in the next couple of years, it is something I want for myself. With the right person ofc. But I am completely aware of how difficult it can be for sags. It's funny you mention a business relationship, I know you probably don't mean it quite as literally - but our aspects are actually very favorable for a business/teaching relationship. Thanks, you gave me a lot to think about 🙂

Today I spent the whole day around him and kept thinking about what you two said. It does feel like I am talking to a king when talking to him.. one who rules his kingdom with love and wisdom. I love stroking his mane and that really makes him purr! Inspired by RainDancer88, I gave some more thought to him as a long term partner. I could really see us happening. He'll read my thoughts and sense my moods and emotions, even those ones I try hard to hide. He truly listens to me - takes away something I said from our conversation and returns to it with a deliberate reply/comment a day later. He asks for my opinions and advice and gives me a lot of space. He's always there for me and when I need him he's got my back. He doesn't play games with my heart, everything is as he says it is. I never realized how much I've relied on him in life before. We can discuss something for hours or laugh together for hours. All I can say is I am grateful and happy that these mutual feelings have developed out of our friendship, it feels so honest and comfortable. If there is one person I can accept for what they are without wanting to change them, it's him. When it comes to sex, at least he is masculine and not afraid of being playful and a little rough with me - and it actually turns out we share the same fantasies. If he's up for exploring this world together with me then so be it, I'm gonna go for it. He/we might not decide to pursue us because of complicated circumstances (no other loves or family involved), so if that is his decision I am just gonna have to respect it.


Sorry for all the sappiness and thanks again 🙂

Thank you for sharing this beautiful time with us.



"A Sagittarius' mood can go from euphoric to insanely pissed in a nanosecond."

we are Sags, apt for euphoria. Enjoy it but please keep it real.
Yet I believe you when I read your descriptions. Fire, what else?
But it's simply too early to judge. (what if he has Virgo placements and will critisize you so that good feelings get shadowed?)

Thank you for the lovely comment Dwelling. That quote is spot on!

I'm over my biggest crush on him, I didn't act upon it until my emotions cooled off a bit.. I have seriously overdone it before, your advice for me to keep it real is very valid and a real concern of mine as well.

There is a tiny bit of that virgo there 😄

sun in leo
moon in libra
mercury in virgo
venus in leo
mars in scorpio
jupiter in capricorn
saturn in scorpio
uranus in sag
neptune in sag
pluto in libra

gemini ascendant
gemini true node

I have about everything (not even kidding) in capricorn, leo AC.

Aww thank you RainDancer

Mercury in Virgo is not bad at all. Especially not when yours is in Cap.


sometimes I think Astrology is all deception. The other times I think if your AC-DC axis meets his axis or if your SN-NN axis meets his SN-NN or AC-DC then you are meant for each other. absurd how I can keep blief and disbielf both in my head.
Now Pisces AC may be square to your SN-NN cause Sag-Gem. so fatal.

But your Leo AC meets his planets in Leo, Libra and Sag which is a good Thing.

It would be also helpful if you have Saturn positive aspects. trine, conjunct and sextile. Inconjunct would feel ok with me too if it is the only Saturn aspect you get. Cause it means living beside each other: venus and saturn inconjunct. It is not as good as conjunction and not as bad as square.

A few squares are good. It makes us complement each other.

"romantic movies"

I like them too. kinda fanatic for cozy world. But I make sure I have seen other genres in between.