What to do about this sagittarius guy !!

So I started working with this sag guy just over a year ago. We flirted like crazy, made each cry with laughter & got close.

Anyway cut a long story short we decided to spend new year together he admitted he'd been single 10 years ( I mean REALLY single .. )

We had a lovely time the together but I sensed his nervousness

After this he said he didn't want a relationship and we decided to be fwb just hooking up with me calling the shots.

We spent the weekend together 2 weeks ago & yet again had a brilliant time it's not just the sex we cuddle , make each other laugh , lots of intense eye contact & he always cooks for me and runs around after me.

After that weekend I was in work on the monday & he was his usual flirty self buzzing round my desk , hugging me & kissing on the sky plus making plans for a residential course we are attending in a few weeks ( sharing a room )

I went away for a week on holiday only to return to work with him acting very off !! Id got him a jokey Valentine card but he wen into panic mode and started saying oh we are just friends with benefits , what if emotions get involved or one of us finds someone else attractive ..that night he texted and thanked me for the card saying he thought it was brill ( added kisses ). Plus there were other things I have picked up on this week which makes me think he has eyes for someone else..

So the other night through text I messaged him saying I thiought it best we have separate rooms on the i residential he responded immediately asking what was wrong told him I suspected he was wanting to keep his options open and that I couldn't do fwb any more plus pointed out he had been acting weird .

He replied he hadn't been and that he was happy with how things were and he was sorry I felt that way , nothing had changed for him but that he really liked me as a friend and actually loves me as a person thinks I'm brilliant .. ( hmmm But admitted he did want to keep his options open but really doesn't want a relationship with anyone .

Without thinking I responded that I think I love him in a totally different way and that scares me...

For the record we are both in our mid 40's I'm gemini & fairly attractive and can usually have any guy I want im always been chased but this guy is short, not classically handsome BUT there's something about him that sparks me !!

He wooed me for a year with romantic songs etc & the way he looks at me makes me melt

I feel very confused as to how to move forward with this it would be very easy to just detach emotionally ( beauty of being gemini ) BUT I gotta work with him

Please any advice ??

Thank you 🙂

Not sky * sly

Ahhh I'm no expert with Saggitarius, but I was dating one not so long ago. He also told me he was not ready for a relationship.

In retrospective I see now I should have cut it immediately, but I was really caught up by him and let it linger for another month hoping things would change. They don't. If he says he doesnt want a relationship he doesn't.

If you have feelings for him and want more, stop it. Politely say no but thanks no.

Easier said than done 😉

Yes easier said than done especially as I work with him ! I just do not want to be drawn in again because I know him well enough to know he can't stay away from me arghhh

why tell me he really likes me, loves me etc ? Is this something sag guys say to friends ?

Both agreed to be fwb.

Told you he didn't want a relationship.

Told you he loves you as a person.

Thinks your a great friend, likes you... again used the word friend many times.



Why is this complicated? Not being mean and it could turn out to be something, but to me it basically means above. He never said he wanted a relationship, but will he keep coming back? Lol YES... sex, kisses, cuddle time, with no attachments?? Yes.. he will never leave you alone until you tell him to and stick to it yourself.

You also sent mixed messages to him. You agreed to be fwb and now want something more... you flipped, he hasn't really...doesn't matter if he says he likes you. He still hasn't told you he wants a relationship with you. So he if dates other people, what is he doing wrong unless you both agree to stop doing that and be monogamous?

Never ever use the word relationship with a sag lol. Make him think he is not in one while really he is... just go with the flow. If he is spending time with you and not someone else. He is in a relationship with you and no one else.

I appreciate all your feedback 🙂

If it wasn't for the fact I have to see him at work ( we work very closely together IT can't be helped ) I could just switch off from him

Think if he acts odd with me tomorrow I'll know for sure he's got his eye on someone else & I will not pour my attention where it's not reciprocated

Gemini pride and all that

Just wish I hadn't told him I love him !!

On the plus side one of my aries male friends wants to take me to Paris ... I'm very tempted ?