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Posted by Tirano24
Pissing on people is apart of BDSM. The person getting pissed on is thought of as worthless. Let's stop sugarcoating. If a guy wants to piss on you 1) He sees you as worthless 2) He doesn't respect you (either altogether or just on a sexual level.
It doesn't have to represent worthlessness. It could represent anything really. Closeness, fondness, or just purely being freaky.

I probably wouldn't try it though. I have enough weird memories without adding odd sexual experiences.

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Posted by Tirano24
Pissing on people is apart of BDSM. The person getting pissed on is thought of as worthless. Let's stop sugarcoating. If a guy wants to piss on you 1) He sees you as worthless 2) He doesn't respect you (either altogether or just on a sexual level.
I don't think everyone who wants to pee on someone has to really be into BDSM some people might just be curious and want to know what it feels like. So to say that the person being peed on is worthless isn't always the case. And no that's never been requested of me or by me.

OP, I think some guys might feel comfortable around you as you might seem adventurous and game to try different or taboo things...just a thought.
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Posted by Tirano24
Pissing on people is apart of BDSM. The person getting pissed on is thought of as worthless. Let's stop sugarcoating. If a guy wants to piss on you 1) He sees you as worthless 2) He doesn't respect you (either altogether or just on a sexual level.
It doesn't have to represent worthlessness. It could represent anything really. Closeness, fondness, or just purely being freaky.

I probably wouldn't try it though. I have enough weird memories without adding odd sexual experiences.

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This has been my experience in the past.
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Why do men keep asking if they can piss on me?


You're worthless? A hoe, perhaps? Classy women don't get asked that.
Hoping you never have a daughter. Or a child for that matter.

And that you will mature in life.

Best wishes.
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You know im not the only person who posts about sex or other taboo topics but i seem to be the only one who is subject to such ridicule.
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Posted by notsosure
Probably you come off as someone who likes to push boundaries, no!? So they ask you, because they think they will most likely get a yes out of you, instead of other "types" of girls.

That and the thing with overpowering you.

I find guys/men do the same with me, but not to the same degree though, and have thought about why myself and came to the "conclusion" as above.
Thanks for understanding. Ive worked for awhile to obtain an appearance of respect. Car, home, clothes.

Ive always seemed to have this issue. Ive posted about this in the past. Not the urination but other types of questionable interactions. Ppl told me to come off more respectful and ive changed. I dont go to clubs, less cursing, better wardrobe. But still. I get these interactions.
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Posted by Tirano24
Pissing on people is apart of BDSM. The person getting pissed on is thought of as worthless. Let's stop sugarcoating. If a guy wants to piss on you 1) He sees you as worthless 2) He doesn't respect you (either altogether or just on a sexual level.
I don't think everyone who wants to pee on someone has to really be into BDSM some people might just be curious and want to know what it feels like. So to say that the person being peed on is worthless isn't always the case. And no that's never been requested of me or by me.

OP, I think some guys might feel comfortable around you as you might seem adventurous and game to try different or taboo things...just a thought.
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Could be all this 5th house activity. I have no planets in the 8th house
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Pissing on people is apart of BDSM. The person getting pissed on is thought of as worthless. Let's stop sugarcoating. If a guy wants to piss on you 1) He sees you as worthless 2) He doesn't respect you (either altogether or just on a sexual level.
I don't think everyone who wants to pee on someone has to really be into BDSM some people might just be curious and want to know what it feels like. So to say that the person being peed on is worthless isn't always the case. And no that's never been requested of me or by me.

OP, I think some guys might feel comfortable around you as you might seem adventurous and game to try different or taboo things...just a thought.
Which is a fantasy of being degrading to and/or defiling someone like I already stated.
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Having such a fantasy doesnt render the one who has it worthless tho
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Well i just feel like my cancer rising is a detriment. It doesnt fit my sag sun nor does it aspect anything in my chart.

People, men and women alike, DXP has showed me that, tend to think of me as naive, pushover, too nice, softee, nurturing, good cook, agreeable.

Alas when i open my mouth, the sag and sarcastic no nonsense mercury in scorpio comes out, you know the real me and their taken for a loop.

The opposite is true to. If i come in all sag like, theyre all turn it down, calm down, dont do that, etc etc.

Idk your wife's chart but mine just irks me alot

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Well i just feel like my cancer rising is a detriment. It doesnt fit my sag sun nor does it aspect anything in my chart.

People, men and women alike, DXP has showed me that, tend to think of me as naive, pushover, too nice, softee, nurturing, good cook, agreeable.

Alas when i open my mouth, the sag and sarcastic no nonsense mercury in scorpio comes out, you know the real me and their taken for a loop.

The opposite is true to. If i come in all sag like, theyre all turn it down, calm down, dont do that, etc etc.

Idk your wife's chart but mine just irks me alot


Oh yeah I love and hate her Cancer rising coz there are men who thinks she's a naive pushover tho she's got a Taurus sun and a Leo moon. It makes her look like she can be taken advantage of.

Tho I have to say, it a pretty rising looks-wise.

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Lol. Yes.
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Well i just feel like my cancer rising is a detriment. It doesnt fit my sag sun nor does it aspect anything in my chart.

People, men and women alike, DXP has showed me that, tend to think of me as naive, pushover, too nice, softee, nurturing, good cook, agreeable.

Alas when i open my mouth, the sag and sarcastic no nonsense mercury in scorpio comes out, you know the real me and their taken for a loop.

The opposite is true to. If i come in all sag like, theyre all turn it down, calm down, dont do that, etc etc.

Idk your wife's chart but mine just irks me alot



Your rising doesn't aspect your moon and merc? I would think it would work well, enhance that intuition, knowing how and when to approach a situation or sit back...basically help you work through seemingly uncomfortable naughty play discussions easily.

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Well i just feel like my cancer rising is a detriment. It doesnt fit my sag sun nor does it aspect anything in my chart.

People, men and women alike, DXP has showed me that, tend to think of me as naive, pushover, too nice, softee, nurturing, good cook, agreeable.

Alas when i open my mouth, the sag and sarcastic no nonsense mercury in scorpio comes out, you know the real me and their taken for a loop.

The opposite is true to. If i come in all sag like, theyre all turn it down, calm down, dont do that, etc etc.

Idk your wife's chart but mine just irks me alot



Your rising doesn't aspect your moon and merc? I would think it would work well, enhance that intuition, knowing how and when to approach a situation or sit back...basically help you work through seemingly uncomfortable naughty play discussions easily.

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Nope. Out of orb
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Because those men have no respect for you or maybe it's has to do with how you carry yourself.
You know i have a neighbor, sign who knows, he lives with his gf and a couple of kids.

I only know him in the capacity of saying hello to all of them when i see them. I dont even give eye.contact. i go to work in a dress that falls to my knees or below. I worked in finance. Professional.

Im leaving to go to work one day and he is sitting outside. He asks me for a cup of water. I say sure and head back inside. As im walking in, i notice he gets up and asks me "can i come in and watch you walk around naked." obviously i said no.

But this is the type of interaction with men that i get. Ive never spoke more than hello to him.

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that sucks, but perhaps you really need to stop doing things for others, and do them for yourself. that nice house, car, clothes should be for you.



also men are going to be disrespectful, so disrespect them right back.

i don't know but i dont like this thread, it makes me feel yuck, not because you are into sexual adventures, but because they feel they can that to you and its "normal" for you



that's really weird.
I could not agree more. Men have no hesitation saying these things to me.
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Because those men have no respect for you or maybe it's has to do with how you carry yourself.
You know i have a neighbor, sign who knows, he lives with his gf and a couple of kids.

I only know him in the capacity of saying hello to all of them when i see them. I dont even give eye.contact. i go to work in a dress that falls to my knees or below. I worked in finance. Professional.

Im leaving to go to work one day and he is sitting outside. He asks me for a cup of water. I say sure and head back inside. As im walking in, i notice he gets up and asks me "can i come in and watch you walk around naked." obviously i said no.

But this is the type of interaction with men that i get. Ive never spoke more than hello to him.




Just reading this, pisses me off. Is this the sort of crap that Cancer risings go through?

*smfh

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Idk. I dont know there story. But this seems to be a pattern that i get.
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Because those men have no respect for you or maybe it's has to do with how you carry yourself.
You know i have a neighbor, sign who knows, he lives with his gf and a couple of kids.

I only know him in the capacity of saying hello to all of them when i see them. I dont even give eye.contact. i go to work in a dress that falls to my knees or below. I worked in finance. Professional.

Im leaving to go to work one day and he is sitting outside. He asks me for a cup of water. I say sure and head back inside. As im walking in, i notice he gets up and asks me "can i come in and watch you walk around naked." obviously i said no.

But this is the type of interaction with men that i get. Ive never spoke more than hello to him.




That´s so disrespectful!!!!

Seems like you and me have a lot in common with this, but guys take it even further with you.

How did you respond to this? What did you do? Were you polite and quiet about it, got angry, got loud? And what has happened after? Did you say anything to his wife?

Personally I believe guys go after me, because they know it has an effect on me. I take it to heart way more than I should, start to think there is something wrong with me and I behave like a slut and am somehow asking for it. They know and want to do something for themselves to boost their ego. Just like a lot of people here. They don´t care about you really, they´re selfish and just do what will make them feel good for a few seconds.
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Omg. Can i hug you! I really thank you for understanding and its even better you relate cause now i dont sound crazy.1

I respond politely. It takes quite a bit to make me go off the deep end. I just dont feel like getting all mean about my response is....

1. Safe. Some men dont take rejection well and they will call you all sorts of names and even shoot you.

2. Theyre not worth my breathe. He's already scum for what he said and ive already wasted 5 mins even entertaining him.

I do nothing to warrant these type of advances. I said nothing to homeboys gf. I often hear them fight so nah, i wants no part.

I also take it personally. Im not an emotionless person. Im actually very emotional only i am selective to whom i give a reaction to. So may be they think they have to do the most to get my attention.
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Well i just feel like my cancer rising is a detriment. It doesnt fit my sag sun nor does it aspect anything in my chart.

People, men and women alike, DXP has showed me that, tend to think of me as naive, pushover, too nice, softee, nurturing, good cook, agreeable.

Alas when i open my mouth, the sag and sarcastic no nonsense mercury in scorpio comes out, you know the real me and their taken for a loop.

The opposite is true to. If i come in all sag like, theyre all turn it down, calm down, dont do that, etc etc.

Idk your wife's chart but mine just irks me alot


Being a Sag is not enough. Just look at Tina Turner, and recently Michel'le. So don't bet your all that these guys see you differently once they see this alleged "Sag side". Let's be clear, there isn't anything wrong with liking sex lol. It's all about image to men and how you come off. I'm sensing you may have low self esteem. This is all across the board, men and women use sex to feel worthy.

http://www.survivingtherapistabuse.com/2011/10/sex-with-the-therapist-the-need-to-feel-whol/

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Nope. No low self esteem. I'm not insecure nor do i have low self esteem. No daddy issues. No mama issues.
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Posted by Tirano24
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Well i just feel like my cancer rising is a detriment. It doesnt fit my sag sun nor does it aspect anything in my chart.

People, men and women alike, DXP has showed me that, tend to think of me as naive, pushover, too nice, softee, nurturing, good cook, agreeable.

Alas when i open my mouth, the sag and sarcastic no nonsense mercury in scorpio comes out, you know the real me and their taken for a loop.

The opposite is true to. If i come in all sag like, theyre all turn it down, calm down, dont do that, etc etc.

Idk your wife's chart but mine just irks me alot


Being a Sag is not enough. Just look at Tina Turner, and recently Michel'le. So don't bet your all that these guys see you differently once they see this alleged "Sag side". Let's be clear, there isn't anything wrong with liking sex lol. It's all about image to men and how you come off. I'm sensing you may have low self esteem. This is all across the board, men and women use sex to feel worthy.

http://www.survivingtherapistabuse.com/2011/10/sex-with-the-therapist-the-need-to-feel-whol/


Nope. No low self esteem. I'm not insecure nor do i have low self esteem. No daddy issues. No mama issues.

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH, wow,from asking to take a piss to abuse and self esteem.

Sags aren't sluts we're athletes.
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Well i just feel like my cancer rising is a detriment. It doesnt fit my sag sun nor does it aspect anything in my chart.

People, men and women alike, DXP has showed me that, tend to think of me as naive, pushover, too nice, softee, nurturing, good cook, agreeable.

Alas when i open my mouth, the sag and sarcastic no nonsense mercury in scorpio comes out, you know the real me and their taken for a loop.

The opposite is true to. If i come in all sag like, theyre all turn it down, calm down, dont do that, etc etc.

Idk your wife's chart but mine just irks me alot


Being a Sag is not enough. Just look at Tina Turner, and recently Michel'le. So don't bet your all that these guys see you differently once they see this alleged "Sag side". Let's be clear, there isn't anything wrong with liking sex lol. It's all about image to men and how you come off. I'm sensing you may have low self esteem. This is all across the board, men and women use sex to feel worthy.

http://www.survivingtherapistabuse.com/2011/10/sex-with-the-therapist-the-need-to-feel-whol/


Nope. No low self esteem. I'm not insecure nor do i have low self esteem. No daddy issues. No mama issues.


You should really acknowledge this trait in you and work on it. Sags always bury things under the rug. 'Oh I'm fine, nothing's wrong with me'. That only gets you so far.
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From my point of few, burying the rug is a weekly hobby.
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Have you ever considered that you've developed a reputation for yourself? Like it or not, people talk and gossip...




The entire major city? Filled with almost a million people?



You'd be surprised, especially with modern technology and social media. Just something to consider.



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I dont think so. People know me for more than that. If so, really goes to show that men gossip more than women.
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Have you ever considered that you've developed a reputation for yourself? Like it or not, people talk and gossip...




The entire major city? Filled with almost a million people?



You'd be surprised, especially with modern technology and social media. Just something to consider.




I dont think so. People know me for more than that. If so, really goes to show that men gossip more than women.
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Well yeah.

And they exaggerate their prowess.

Dramatically.

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Because those men have no respect for you or maybe it's has to do with how you carry yourself.
You know i have a neighbor, sign who knows, he lives with his gf and a couple of kids.

I only know him in the capacity of saying hello to all of them when i see them. I dont even give eye.contact. i go to work in a dress that falls to my knees or below. I worked in finance. Professional.

Im leaving to go to work one day and he is sitting outside. He asks me for a cup of water. I say sure and head back inside. As im walking in, i notice he gets up and asks me "can i come in and watch you walk around naked." obviously i said no.

But this is the type of interaction with men that i get. Ive never spoke more than hello to him.




That´s so disrespectful!!!!

Seems like you and me have a lot in common with this, but guys take it even further with you.

How did you respond to this? What did you do? Were you polite and quiet about it, got angry, got loud? And what has happened after? Did you say anything to his wife?

Personally I believe guys go after me, because they know it has an effect on me. I take it to heart way more than I should, start to think there is something wrong with me and I behave like a slut and am somehow asking for it. They know and want to do something for themselves to boost their ego. Just like a lot of people here. They don´t care about you really, they´re selfish and just do what will make them feel good for a few seconds.
Omg. Can i hug you! I really thank you for understanding and its even better you relate cause now i dont sound crazy.1

I respond politely. It takes quite a bit to make me go off the deep end. I just dont feel like getting all mean about my response is....

1. Safe. Some men dont take rejection well and they will call you all sorts of names and even shoot you.

2. Theyre not worth my breathe. He's already scum for what he said and ive already wasted 5 mins even entertaining him.

I do nothing to warrant these type of advances. I said nothing to homeboys gf. I often hear them fight so nah, i wants no part.

I also take it personally. Im not an emotionless person. Im actually very emotional only i am selective to whom i give a reaction to. So may be they think they have to do the most to get my attention.


I totally get, what you´re saying! And men know this too: they know, that most women are not superior physically, so if we comment back, they always have the physicle power. And when a person has already crossed lines, you start thinking "okay, so probably he won´t mind crossing other lines, such as maybe get physicle with me".

I have struggled with this for a long time in my life too, and it has made me actually be and act very asexually, as a defense mechanism. And still guys approach me in a very inappropriate way. It has taken me 30 years to meet a man, I could actually relax with sexually and not feel judged or used with, if I have to be honest. I can tell other women have a hard time understanding what exactly it is I´m talking about. Actually I felt like I could talk better with a gay guy who dresses very feminine. The way - especially - guys treat him was similar in some ways, and I really felt understood, that somebody else knows what it feels like to get attacked/humiliated/violated because of your sexuality and being.

As is obvious here in your topic, some people, and I think especially men, have a very hard time accepting something or someone they don´t agree with or understand, so they try to overpower it. And as you can see here, they don´t see anything wrong with that. That´s the way many men are socialized. I don´t think i is natural to men, but they have just learned in life, that it is okay to be like this towards other people. And if other people object, they just overrule or overpower. There is no dialoge or understanding. It is a reflection of them and society. Neither me or you are doing anything wrong.
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You are a breathe of fresh air. You totally get what im saying.

Especially the part of being asexual.
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Have you ever considered that you've developed a reputation for yourself? Like it or not, people talk and gossip...




The entire major city? Filled with almost a million people?



You'd be surprised, especially with modern technology and social media. Just something to consider.




I dont think so. People know me for more than that. If so, really goes to show that men gossip more than women.

And there you go again, with your fixed and narrow-minded demeanour...



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You know its okay that people wont always agree with you right?

This is one of those instances.
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Only one person has ever brought this up. A Leo. It was something he was curious about and felt safe asking me. But we weren't serious and the Boy and I happened so Leo got the talk and I walked.
Agree, too. Leos are treetrunking porn stars (want to be, imagine to be, etc.). They treetrunk you up the arse and spank your ass until it's beet red. 😱 I closed my "doors" to that rude, crude, dude!

Saggy ex-bf would drop a spit on Miss Kitty before penetration....I also closed my "doors" to that rude, crude, dude! 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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