A puzzle... (Page 2)

Well that worked out well. Lol

There is idealisation as suggested by the "he is so perfect in every way" comment I made. In the scenario I am referring to the switch from the "hookem" phase to the "hot/cold" phase is pretty quick rather than a normal 'fading off' that you'd see between two individuals that aren't meshing after the initial connection wears off.

This thread is very honest. It gives me renewed faith in DXP.

My exhusband is very narcissic and the way I deal with him is not responding to his antics. What I mean is when he would call with his off the wall rants (funny how they re-write history) I just acted all calm as if it didn't bother me.

Posted by FixedWater
Well that worked out well. Lol

There is idealisation as suggested by the "he is so perfect in every way" comment I made. In the scenario I am referring to the switch from the "hookem" phase to the "hot/cold" phase is pretty quick rather than a normal 'fading off' that you'd see between two individuals that aren't meshing after the initial connection wears off.

It also sounds like "con" behavior and/or the beginning of abusive behavior. Do you think con artist and abusers would be more narc or sociopath?

You did not give him his 'supply' truecap, which is exactly what's needed in some/most/all of these situations.

I would think that a Con Artist and Physical Abuser would fall more to the sociopath illness than a NPD but they are both very similar. As I understand it an NPD is not as aware of what they are doing. They can't accept that what they are doing is wrong, whereas a Sociopath understands what he/she is doing is wrong.

According to this one article I just read there has been an increase in Narcissistic behavior since the early 70's. The book it refers to is called: "The Narcissism Epidemic - Living in the age of entitlement" authored by Jean M. Twenge and W.Keith Campbell published 2010. According to the numbers there Men are still ahead of Women but NPD in Women has increased more than Men. The Women are gaining....

So maybe the seemingly endless stories of how some Man or Woman Love Bombed some unsuspecting Woman or Man is a reflection of a bigger picture. I've sure had a few experiences with this type of thing and I believed something must be wrong with me (I haven't ruled that out yet). Reading so many other threads created about this very type of scenario gave me some relief in such an ass-backwards sort of way, but it really got me to thinking. What is wrong with us? What happened to our generation? Why have things changed so much where something as simple as Dating and how I remembered it, has become so darn complicated and hurtful? I don't consider our generation capable of teaching the younger generation how to Love, how can we when we do not know how to Love or simply "Cannot Love" because there is too much pain and fear in the way. Instead we put our focus on success, and we give our kids everything their hearts desire. We praise them endlessly even if they don't deserve it out of fear that we will hurt their self esteem if we don't. It is like we went from one extreme to the other in hasty stupidity and the results are a new generation that feels entitled, that has to have that brand new supped up truck or car the moment they get their driver's, that doesn't have to work so he/she can have good grades and is never made to feel the kind of consequences we felt as youngsters. The extremes... and who better to understand the extremes than a Scorp... Maybe out New Generation is exactly the right group to fix this nonsense and put us all back on the right path to integrity, honesty, and the good ole handshake that actually meant something...
Just a Thought...

Really Star, the whole thread is a bummer but something I really needed to explore. I sooo Hear You!

Posted by starlover

Aaah fire and water 🙂

Me too...love that is

Did you manage to change your avi...it actually takes up to a day sometimes to show

still has not changed. lol. fine with me though.

This is very true Star, and that empathic spirit and soul is perfectly suited for these characters to manipulate their potential victim. That's the saddest part of the whole thing because someone with such a beautiful heart, wanting a loving relationship, is given a taste. Then, without any remorse it's pulled out from under in a manner that leaves the victim literally fighting that innate desire to love another unconditionally vs loving herself.