All I Want Is A Good Woman ... HUH?

All I Want Is A Good Woman ... HUH?

I recently asked my guy friend (and five others)w hat he wanted in a women beside the physical attributes. He named the same clich' qualites that most men list. Afterwards, I asked him would he consider being with a woman with ALL the wonderful qualities he named ... but without most of the physical elements. Taking a few moments to think, he said: "No ... she has to have that body ..."

Really ... WHATEVER!!! In my opinion this totally contradicts his statement about wanting a "Good" woman. Keep in mine, I asked six guys this same exact question and only two out of six said looks didn't matter! LOL, and guys wonder why they end up unhappy in a relationship.

Gentlemen, "What looks stunnning on the outside may be very toxic within." Looks don't make the person.

Like myself some women will not put on a false image!

I've noticed this mentality comes from CERTAIN males of the zodiac (five of them)why do you all have such superficial expectations for women—

what do you mean? A good woman?

"What looks stunnning on the outside may be very toxic within." Looks don't make the person. "

I used to be a fat kid, so i agree...looks are just an added bonus i think

the very hansom gorgeous gentleman in the back corner is the criminal plotting your death

Hey Scorpius!

"the very hansom gorgeous gentleman in the back corner is the criminal plotting your death"

EXACTLY!

yes i know first hand but i would never stab anyone in the back thats horrible.

also, the fat smelly kid who is eating the twinkie in the front corner is the nicest.
so i dont know what you want LOL

"also, the fat smelly kid who is eating the twinkie in the front corner is the nicest.
so i dont know what you want LOL"

Actually, you were probably making a joke but you were very true in your statement scorpius. When I was younger, I more then likely would have went for that type of kid other than the class clown ...

you would rather have a fat kid thats nice than a hansom guy whose a jerk? how about a happy medium?

thats really a tough one but you know what? were all going to be old and ugly one day so who the hell cares

you would rather have a fat kid thats nice

Yes, you can take him to the gym and trim him up. Custom made boyfriend. 😉

Scorpius just curious how exactly are you going to take over the world again ?"

I am a criminal and i am going to buy lots of relistate, the details however, i cant tell you

lol virgo

brahn, what is your point of view?

"Yes, you can take him to the gym and trim him up. Custom made boyfriend."

LOL, exactly!!! I like the way you think virgo101 😉 However, I would only do that if his health was at risk. Other then that, being heavy is okay with me. I LIKE A MEN WHO IS STOCKY LOL!!! Yes I like the BIG (or small)... to say the least 😉

Virgo101 why can't you just accept him how your found him? Why does he need to be trimmed up? It sounds like you are centered around looks too.

Health reasons dear Branh. If he has too much fat his heart cannot function properly. I don't want him dying on me early.

im too small, im only 5'6 180 pounds 😢

Health reasons dear Branh. If he has too much fat his heart cannot function properly. I don't want him dying on me early

suuuurre

well, there isnt a set rule for health brahn, people can have heart or cholesteral problems from heredity. i do...

damn italians and their good food and heart problems

anyway, the true fact is most people are atleast attracted to good looks but if something is soely built on that foundation there is no relationship at all

As a matter of fact, I can make the statement as say that women are very shallow, they just aren't as real about it.

I am sorry that you have run into so many of them Branh.

Lets just be honest here, you don't want him to look fat because you don't like fat guys.

Fine I admit it. I'm active, that's why. I want someone who can keep up with me. Also someone who like ballroom dancing and that takes a lot.

well maybe if all the ugly people would stop having sex with the good lookin people we wouldnt have any problems at all 🙂 JK JK....its almost as if they're discriminated against

"Also someone who like ballroom dancing and that takes a lot."

how about salsa?

"im too small, im only 5'6 180 pounds "

No you are not ... size doesn't matter anyway ***wink ***wink ****

Hey, I'm 5'2" and 135 lb (I gained 1 pound since last week LOL). But, being my height, I'll no where near stick thin. However, I have been attracted to men who are both small and stocky ... but there's something about a stocky guy ... LOL!!! I don't know what it is but stocky men just don't bother me ... I like them BIG LOL!!!!! (MUCH PUN INTENDED) But I have to confuse I enjoy being held by a BIG man 😉

im big as in muscles but i dont have any fat on me. cappyseety, you gained a pound huh?
no one is going to like you now your too fat...hehe joking

Brahn:"But dealing with people and talking to them, I've found that at the end of the day, they almost always make their decisions on partners based on looks"

Okay, Brahn I have a question for you. If the statement above is true then why do I like bigger men. I can easily like those "Brad Pitt" types (and I do) but I like a guy that's 'meaty'. Why is that if what you have said is true ——?

LOL, like I thought Mr. Brahn 0913

NOT ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME ... I'm so happy you understand that now ... YAY!!!! I WIN 😉

Well, what if I told you that I could care for a man INSPITE of his physical attributes ... would I be a lair—?

Being a woman, I can do that with no problem ... there are just differences between the way a man and a woman when it comes to choosing a someone. Men just need to really refine their way of thinking or this cycle will never be broken.

"I remember reading somewhere that over time women grow more and more attracted to the men they love and men fall more and more in love with women they are attracted to."

Really, whoa ... I don't know about me ... I think I would have to be a attracted to the man -- but that all comes with love too.

"....it was based on the fact that men are more visually driven and women are more emotionally driven."

That theory may be true capgirl. I'm more driven by my emotions then I am with the visual. If I like someone, it's based on their personality and their approach to me ... not their looks.

DB,

From a biological point of view, you make sooo much sense. True, a man's instincts play a huge role in why it's difficult for them to be happy with one woman.

However, in modern times being with one person is just seen as "commonsense" really. Think about it, if all the men in the world decided to go and plant their seeds within numerous women just because of that chemical attraction they feel ... the world would be excessively over-populated. As a matter or fact, this explains why the world is over-populated -- their are many women who get pregnant for two and three different men and this epidemic keeps growing as we speak. Most our fatherless children because the men decided to give into that "chemical attraction" instead of using self-control.

Self-control is a huge problem ... Again I'm not disagreeing with you at all but from a "moden-day" standpoint, men and women and to learn how to control themselves.

LOL, to get back to the point ... looks do matter but I still believe you should look at a person much deeper than what they show you on the outside. Regardless to what, you will be getting that person's "representive", you won't see this person true colors until they get confortable.

"But just ask yourself...have you been with a woman, and not fantasized about another woman...even if it was just for a few seconds? if you want to make a point, use reason and an argument...You seem to write good journals on the boards...I don't take you for an idiot..."

Actually, DB I can relate to doing such a thing but it was just a fantasy and ..... AH, I see your point now. Okay, I'm thinking about what it is that I actually have issues with -- as to why I typed the intial post because I just became aware of something I didn't think of before ...

Okay, I need time to think about this DB ...

...to call men superfical for caring about looks, it basically the same thing about calling marriage superficial...you see what I mean? You take the good with the bad..."

Yes, at this point I definately see what you mean. I thinking right now because you give me some insight I've never pondered before.

Hahaha, darn you DB I was all set in my ways and how I felt about men. Grrr, you had to just come and throw a monkey-wrench in all my figuring ... didn' you 😉 Wow, my whole prospective has changed but I don't know how to impliment it yet ....

o_O

interesting argument...

DB, thank for your insights 🙂 You make plenty of sense. What I liked the most about your arguement is that you debated your point in a diplomatic way. You were not pushy with your opinion, you just stated it.

I like that! I wouldn't have been so pushy if my hormones were not infuriated at the time. However, being unfaithful is excusable in my opinion but I too would like to know why it happened.

As far as looks go. You are right, there's no getting around that "looks" (to a certain extent with other people) matter but there has just been increased influence thanks to the media. No I may not look at a person looks like many others but I do have prefences -- I wouldn't be human if I didn't.

I think it's important not to want to be attract to everyone because that's impossible -- no matter how much makeup you put on or how plastic surgury you get ... you will look the way you look and you will attract who you will attract.

It's all biology, and I see we both understand science pretty well 🙂

Keep in mine I still have issues with this (because I'm being subjective)... but they are milder now 🙂

LOL, you are cool DB 😉