Am I on the right path w/my Scorp?

Hi Everyone,

I’m a virgo/libra cusp sign. I am dating a scorpio on the serious tip for the first time ever. I dated one previously but I think it was serious for him, not to me. I could never get used to his extreme behavior towards me. He was soooo jealous and analyzed every little thing I did and said to the point where he came off downright insecure.
This one I’m dating now, is a little more reserved, confident exterior, and sweet (sometimes) but after watching him with others, and reading up on this sign I know there is another side to him that’s pretty similar to the one I dated before. He’s sweet at times, and distant the next, very affectionate one moment, then I get the side hugs and quick pecks the next minute, then he’s talkative , then quiet the next (almost as if in deep thought-disturb him and you get that gazing stare)lol. He’s very easy on the eyes, but that’s not why I like him. I’ve dated guys that look just as good if not better, there’s something else about this one.
We’ve only been dating two months, so I realize with a Scorp there is soo much more to discover, and I’ve told him this is why I like him so much. He’s got this non-judgmental attitude towards any topic, he’s funny, and his strong demeanor and approach no matter what life throws at him makes me want to learn more, and be closer to him. Does that make sense? I adore his protective nature, and he’s ability to lead. He’s a mystery without trying to be one. I can tell he hides his feelings and problems from me at times, but I don’t try to force them out of him I just let him know I like him, tell him some encouraging words, and that whenever he’s ready to let me know what’s up I’m all ears. Next thing I know he spills (not the whole pot of course, but enough).
He’s high in demand with the ladies, which doesn’t bother me too much as long as he doesn’t make feel as though I’m competing or just another girl he’s dating. He takes me out on dates a lot, and he’s always saying how he does not spend money on girls, they spend money on him so he obviously likes me, says he likes to spoil me for some reason (his words, not mines). In the past two months I’ve lost count on how many times he takes me out. If I ask, he always says yes even when he doesn’t really want to. He’s affectionate in front of friends and I met like 3 members of his family once when we first met. I sort of got the impression he wanted to show me off.

continued: He’s always telling me that he shows my pictures to co-workers, and relatives telling them how pretty I am. I love that he finds me attractive physically my dilemma is knowing whether or not he finds me attractive outside of my looks?

I’m no fool and like I said I did my homework on this sign, and I know a pretty face and good sex will not land this one for good, not in the way I want him anyway. We’ve been intimate twice like after 3 weeks of dating, and it was amazing to say the least, but I sort of slowed that down in a subtle way. He hasn’t had me in a month. I haven’t been laying up with him and not giving it up or anything childish like that. I just take him home at night instead of having him spend the night like we had the last 3 times. Other times it would just so happen that I was sleep or something and missed his call. I haven’t even voiced my concerns on why I’ve been resistant to sex, but the reason is because I’m falling for him a little too fast, and it doesn’t sit well with me, because I’m almost certain he’s still sexing others, if not I’m SURE he’s dating others. I know because we follow one another on the internet, and they are always yapping his neck off about each other, he gets pissed and tells them “I’m single, I do what I want.” Which is true, but for me I cant afford to invest feelings, and my body into someone that openly admits to doing the exact same thing with others, with no regard to how I might feel “just because he can.” I know it may not be fair but that’s why I’ve been slightly resistant on sex. Scorp has picked up on it, and although it hasn’t turned him off it’s made him chase a little more, I can tell he’s concerned on if he will ever get it again.lol.

Don’t get me wrong I’ve done things for him too, like bringing him food, I took him lunch to work one day (he asked). I’ve brought him food to his house twice because he likes one of my dishes a lot. And just recently I did something I NEVER EVER do, I went half with him to get this dog he wanted( $ 70). HE LOVES dogs for some reason. Always saying “if you ever buy me a dog I’ll probably marry you.” I’m not delusional I know thats probably game lol, I went half with him to show him I’m not afraid to come out of pocket SOMETIMES for a guy I like, and to also see how he reacts to it. The money I spent is nothing compared to what I’ll do for guy that I know wont take advantage and will do the same for me in a heartbeat. Unfortunately if he gets the big head, or starts trying to milk me like a cow he will never know, because I can easily play broke. I do it with my family all the time if I feel they are trying to use me. I guess I want to know if I’m on the right track with this scorp? Small things have happened like he’s not as lovey dovey in text, sometimes he is but it’s more in person than in text now, or sometimes neither he’s just chill, but if I’m affectionate it’s like he like “God yes! She’s hugging me and kissing me.” I’m getting the impression he’s trying not to get hurt just like me, but I could be wrong. I just don’t want to get played. Any suggestions? P.s I know they say our signs aren’t that compatible I also have Pisces moon, lol. I hate it, it makes me too damn emotional at times.

Lol. Thanks for your response FrostAndBite, boy aren’t you being true to that black and white nature of this sign.
Your right. I just haven’t found the right time to say it to him.
I asked him last night what his intentions were with me, and he said we talked about it when we first met. I needed him to reiterate it because lately I haven’t been sure.
He said we are dating and talking and supposed to be moving towards a relationship.
I left it there, because at first he tried to answer the question with a question without answering me first. He made it sort of awkward to the point where I just wanted to switch the subject after I got my answer. I’m a wuss I know 😢

Oh yeah, we are supposed to go out of town together next weekend with my bestfriend and her boyfriend. We went out with them before and it was a blast. But I know he’s going to try and come over this weekend, and possibly try to sleep with me since we haven’t in a while and although I really really want to because, he’s the only one I’m intimate with right now, plus it’s absolutely amazing I cant get pass the fact that I know he’s with other girls when not with me.
He even posted a old picture of him and some girl, when I confronted him he told me he posted me too, and that he used to talk to her a while back and it was nothing because other guys posted her too.
I didn’t care, I felt it was like a slap in the face, and before confronting I sort of went cold on him. I didn’t ignore him, but my text were shorter, and fewer and I took a long time to respond not on purpose but I was to the point of almost cutting him completely off when I saw it. I was that mad.

Hmmm. Well he hasn’t contacted me all day. Last night is when I took him food and my half of the money to buy the dog. He said thank you twice yesterday. Once in person, then again in text when I was on my way home. I just feel like dang, no good morning no nothing? Lol. Ugh!

I know i'm going to have to tell him how i feel sooner or later, I just dont want to rush it. I thought your sign is all about patience or moving slow in matters of the heart, because once you do there's no turning back?
I know my sign jumps and falls hard, but can get back up, sulk for a few days then we are over it...most of the time.
I guess i'm just hoping he shows his hand a little more before i just confess all my feelings for him. I've told him how much i like him before, and show him by cooking for him, and in my affections when we are around each other. Not to mention i've never been out of town with anyone other than family. Perhaps i'm reading too into things?

"He made it sort of awkward to the point where I just

wanted to switch the subject... "


So... is your Sun in Virgo or Libra?

29° Virgo?

0° Leeb?

Where's your Moon?

And where is his?

What do you guys make of him uploading the picture of him and the girl with hearts under it knowing i would see it? When he did it i unfollowed him, and went cold. He called the next day, and like i said i wasn't completly ignoring him but he could certainly feel the ice, he said so.

I was born 3pm September 23rd, which is the day Virgo ends, and Libra begins at Midnight. So technically i'm a libra. I dont know his moon. His birthday is Nov 4th. My moon is pisces, my venus is Leo.

( Hey Lyse, just wanted to say that I felt for your story... I'm rooting for you! Hope everything will turn out as you wish... I thought you were courageous! )

Aww swans! Thanks a bunch. As you can see I really like this guy, but I’ve been hurt so many times, I’m a bit guarded when it comes to my feelings. When I like someone I REALLY like them, and the thought of getting hurt or taken advantage of again freaks me out. Since my last relationship guys have accused me of being so nonchalant they are unsure if I care for real or not. Not good I know. It’s either I do too much, or not enough. Im a libra so naturally I have trouble balancing it. lol

Posted by Lyse
I was born 3pm September 23rd, which is the day Virgo ends, and Libra begins at Midnight. So technically i'm a libra. I dont know his moon. His birthday is Nov 4th. My moon is pisces, my venus is Leo.

That can vary from year to year, based on the exact time and place of your birth--

whether the sun has actually moved into the next sign or not.

Just fyi.

And moon placement (regarding his chart) can also vary, based on time, year, etc.


Moon in Pisces... bless your heart. 😄

He knows you want more and he knows you on guard. He played a mind game and purposely posted the pic with the girl to see if you were going to be open and honest about what you want. If you "know" he is sleeping and dating other women you should tell him what you want and definitely not sleep with him that means you are settling for his cramps. Tell him on the trip you want to be exclusive because if you don't he will pull away too and continue to date other women.

YAY! I’m so happy you guys are writing back.lol. I really needed an outlet.

@Reincarnation: I did tell him. I just didn’t tell him the moment he did it because trust me he would not have liked the way I would have said it at the time because it would’ve been followed by “and loose my number”.
I needed to calm down and get my thoughts together, which is why he got the cold shoulder. I knew I still liked him, so I didn’t want to play games that would burn me later which is why I didn’t completely ignore him or shut him out. I care for the guy but that picture definitely made me realize just how much. Once I got him in person I showed him that I uploaded a memorable picture of his hand on my leg while he was sleep. I posted it and made a mimi out of it saying “mood.” He loved it and wanted to comment on it, and that’s when I decided I was going to be straight up and tell him I was mad about the photo with the girl and deleted him. He laughed. Can you believe it? He thought it was cute that I was upset about it. I told him I was flat out jealous because I thought he and I were building something and when he posted it knowing I would see it, it felt like a slap in the face. He stated it was not like that, that he posted me before too (not sure if it’s true, because I didn’t see it) but he said he didn’t realize it affected me like that, and told me to add him back on Instagram.

@Busyeyes: Thanks so much for your answer. I know this astrology stuff only scratches the surface of a person, trust if I believed everything they said about this pairing, I would’ve ran off a long time ago.lol. As far as sex, I’m not going to lie I desire him as much as he desires me, I just don’t like the idea of him with me, plus other women. It doesn’t sit well at all. I choose my partners wisely and when I do they are the ONLY ones I’m with. I don’t do casual sex, or casual mates especially when I’m dating that person, it’s too hard for me to separate the two. I know somehow I will have to explain this to my scorp but it wont be easy. He hinted and flirted about us being intimate last night before getting out the car, and basically asked when will it happen again (told yall it’s been a minute for him since he’s had me.lol) I with my flirtatious ass libra ways I told him next time he comes over. Now he’s going to hold me to it I bet. Ugh! I have got to learn when to stop flirting right?

@Octoberbaby: You sound just like my bestfriend. She knows how much I like him and is strongly advising me not to engage in anymore sex until he is officially mines. The scorp knows I like him but Im not sure if he knows without a doubt that I’m willing to cut off all others, and seclude myself to only him, ONLY if he’s ready and willing to do the same. I have to say judging by his behavior with other women I don’t get the impression that he’s ready to be exclusive yet. I feel like why waste my breath asking to be exclusive if I don’t see “ready to be exclusive” behavior from him? Action speaks louder than words right?

and @Montgomery what are you trying to say about my moon?! lmbo. Oh wait i just saw we have the same. Hey now! lol

Also, he can go maybe a day or possibly two without reaching out to me. Is that normal? I know that not probably alot to a guy but it seems like a month to me, seeing as though i be wanting to hear from him everyday.

Good to know. Thanks. 🙂

Lyse

I understand where you're coming from, but as a partner of a scorp, I think you're over thinking things a bit. I'm guilty of the same thing, but then you just have to pull back and realize that Pisces moon is VERY imaginative. I'm a Pisces sun, moon, and merc. I've made peace with my "musings" as I like to think of them. lol That's all they really are. Earth to Pi Moon.

For example and I'm only telling this so that you can see this happening outside of your on relationship...I'm in the process of potentially serious diagnosis...like, life changing stuff. My 4 appointment with the neuro was today. My guy calls me at my EXACT appointment time to ask me if I'm at the doctor's. I say, "Yes Dear". He says...laughing mind you, "Well, I need help with my homework". Now...does he really not care about me or my medical stuff, etc. OMG...he cares VERY much. Every discussion we have about it...he goes quiet. I don't let this side of his personality get to me. I laugh back and him and go, "Seriously Dude...bye!"

Later, after I digest the next step of all of this...I call him back and he was already working on the assignment. He didn't want to discuss the assignment, he wanted to discuss the follow up appointment results. Then I asked him very seriously...that if I have the condition that they suspect that I have...can he handle it. He goes, "Yeah! We just have to follow the treatment plan and know what you can and can't do so that it doesn't get out of hand"

Like I said...I just hope that this scenario helps calm you down. It ALMOST sounds like we're dating the same guy, but mine is a Libra Asc so there's lots of hand holding and tactile touches on his end. They're not always good, but he does it all of the time no less (hair pulling, pinching, putting his hands all in my face to annoy me, etc)

Hi MsTeeq,

Thank you for those insightful scenarios. They helped a tad bit. I know I’m probably reading into things a bit deeper than I should but it’s only because when I like someone I REALLY like them.lol. It’s hard to stop myself. It’s either I like you, or you’re just a friend.

With him I’m having a hard time getting use to his hot and cold behavior. I hate feeling like I someone even just a LITTLE BIT more than they like me. They either have to be into me the same amount or more in order for me to feel comfortable. I’m not getting that right now, and it’s making me disappointed. Just when I think we are good, he does something to make me question it, and when I’m starting to catch feelings and the person starts acting funny it makes me want to run in the opposite direction. When we first started dating a month ago, he had this mystery about him that was attractive. I knew he had somewhat of a wall up about what he’s been through in life and little by little he was letting me know bits and pieces here and there, which I showed him great appreciation for because I know it’s not easy on his end. He was sweet, attentive, strong minded, and most of all he was consistent.

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Now he’s still somewhat affectionate, but then he’ll be distant in text. Even in person it seems as if the wall is higher than when we first started, and I won’t lie I’m starting to get a bit frustrated because it’s like dude are we moving forward or staying stagnant. Let me know something. I don’t mind his exterior with others, but shutting me out is not good because I’m all about fairness. In my mind if you shut me out and act like you don’t care I’m going to believe you and it’s only fair that I treat you the exact same way, or leave completely it’s one or the other because that’s how my mind works. I’m working on that, but for now that’s my way of thinking.
I spoke with my sister earlier about my concerns, and she told me to stick it out with him. She believes he likes me a lot, and in order for the wall to tumble down I have demonstrate some patience with him. She told me to let him know what I expect from him in a cute flirtatious but direct way, but not nagging or upset or he will get irritated. She believes this might be a small test on his end to see if I can handle him. I gotta say in matters of my heart, I don’t like test. I run off of emotions in matters of the heart, and it’s hard for me to pretend I don’t care when I do. If I act like I don’t care in a relationship or when dating someone it’s most likely because I honestly truly don’t, but the libra in me is capable of smoothing things over with pretty words to soften the blow.
The scorp is not mean to me, but he’s not being sweet either. He’s not all over me with affection, but he doesn’t pull away when I try to give him some affection. He talks to me, but it’s light and somewhat distant, which will have me feeling like he’s not really feeling me. Then he’ll flip it and say I wanted to spend more time with you, or I want to come spend the night with you. I’m like a few seconds ago you were acting like you wanted to be alone!? What gives.

Also i may have irritated him a little last night. He sent me pictures of the dog we went half on and she so pretty. I told him i loved her eyes and i think she will make really cute puppies.

At the end of the night before i went to bed i texted him goodnight with a heart next to it.
He just said goodnight.
I know it might seem petty but that shit really irritated me. It's like i'm being sweet to him and he wants to be all dry. Thats just irritating. So i texted back a straight face and told him i take my heart emojie back. That was petty but shoot im already feeling some type of way and it sort of came out.

I was thinking of calling him on my lunch or when i get off to see how his day is so he knows i'm not mad, but I dont know. I'm afraid if he's still irritated he might ignore me.