Another Scorpio girl...

So, shortly, I matched online with some Scorpio girl, she was attracted phisically, and we texted each other back and forth a lot. I was pretty sincere with her, she was delighted with my thoughts, and said how I am smart, pretty, how different I am, how similar we are, and she always texted me first. After three days of texting, she was insecure about if I would like her in person, and if not, it would be cool that we stay friends, because she enjoys me as a person.

We set up the date for Thursday, and she was open with me, and her text were longer than mine. She was glad that I didn't invited her home for the first date, because she would say no, she likes to get to know person better first. She mentioned how sex is very important for her, and admitted that she didn't slept over her bf house through the 4 years of dating.

Then she admitted that she was thinking a lot about me at work, and second day also, that she didn't had that feeling for too long, and she is afraid to be hurt, so it's better that we don't meet each other. And day before was a whole different story, how she is willing to risk to get hurt, it is worth it, how she always wanted someone like me, little older, and all that. She thanked me many times for being so kind to her. So wtf...did I made the mistake of texting often, even though she always initiated it, and her texts were always much longer than mine? Or is she really scared somehow? I mean, who would give up for such a stupid reason? Maybe it was an auto rejection, because of her low self esteem...

When we started with texting, she mentioned that she were on a date with some guy, and that he liked her, and she liked him too, but after the date he send her message that he was disappointed that she didn't had sex with him that night. So I guess, maybe his texts got her more, because he was all about sex, or it doesn't have anything to do with that.

Any insight would be great. 🙂

It doesn't sound like the issue is with you. It's nothing you have done or said etc. The issue is with her.

How old is she? She sounds young. She doesn't seem to have herself together. She has likely made crap choices during her time dating.

Is she clear with what she is looking for and wants? If she isn't then she's not going to select suitable matches when dating. She's more likely to go on dates with dudes who do not want the same as her and when they reject her or it becomes apparent they just want sex etc then it makes her feel worse. Vicious circle.

She will continue doing the back and forth, changing her mind, going hot and cold because she's not clear with what she wants. As she's not clear, she's not confident thus leading to insecurity and bad choices.

That's my take on what you have put plus my own experience in the dating world.

In addition, do you know what you're looking for?

It can be tough out there. Many people (not just guys) hide the fact they just want sex and deliberately deceive and mislead others by pretending they want something else. It's not helpful. If you just want sex without commitment then say so. If you're looking to date with a view to possibly something more then say so.

For her, if you want to see her again then all you can do is state your intentions, stick with them, invite her out and get to know her. If she starts being a dick or fucking you around and you find it's not suiting you then move on and date someone else who does know what they want and who will be less of a head fuck.

Younger Scorp women can take time to get their shit together.

What's her chart?

Well, I don't know her chart, I just know that she is Scorpio, and she recently turned 24. I was sincere with what I want, and she said that it is tough for her to fall in love, and that the guy that she had a long term relationship with for 4 years wanted to marry her, she didn't wanted that, and that is why they break up.

I find it strange, because she said that I wouldn't be attracted in person, she feels it, but she would like in that case to be friends. She said that she likes how smart I am, and kind, pretty, how I have pretty name, and all that. Her texts were usually long, even after my short ones. She also said that she gave me number quickly, and that is something that she usually don't practice, and that must be a sign.

Also she mentioned how she is not so open when she don't know someone, because she is afraid of being hurt, but she opened about many things. So, I was clear from the start that I don't look just for sex, and she thanked me for being different, treating her right, she was amazed how I always have answer for everything, but her self esteem is obviously low.

So, when she gave up on our meeting, I asked her why she behave different today, and she said that she is afraid to fall in love, she doesn't want that to happen, and day before she said that I'm worth risking, lol.

I just said, OK, you were not sincere from the start, you like playing games, and she said, no, I am not like that, and that is why I give up. I said, OK, thanks for telling me to not waste my time. She said OK, and that's it.

Posted by Seraphlight
All your posts are weird.

Please, go, seek help. My posts are just fine, you need to check your brain...

Posted by MagicMona
she said you were pretty? are you a woman?

Handsome, whatever. If you have nothing normal to reply, then don't bother. I asked for a insight.

She may be insecure with her own looks and afraid that you won't find her attractive

Yeah, probably...but strange, because we didn't even met each other. Lol

Well, it's strange cause she said that she is not that type of girl. And someone who play games usually doesn't start bombarding you with texts, or telling you many personal things, especially Scorp.

I would just say that she is insecure, and afraid, because something similar happened to her before, and it did not finish well for her. Anyway, tnx, I will certainly look for some other girl who doesn't have low self esteem, and isn't afraid.

Youre a Sag sun. Stay away from her

This chick is definitely crazy. After one day of silence, she sent me message like "I was thinking little about you today too. Sorry if I'm bothering you".

I replied recently, and asked her does she know what she wants, because it doesn't seems so, and what will she accomplish with that message? And she was like, "I know, it was a moment of weakness, sorry".

Now she's asking me for a chance to at least meet me, because she got scared. Lol

Posted by ozzzy
This chick is definitely crazy. After one day of silence, she sent me message like "I was thinking little about you today too. Sorry if I'm bothering you".

I replied recently, and asked her does she know what she wants, because it doesn't seems so, and what will she accomplish with that message? And she was like, "I know, it was a moment of weakness, sorry".

Now she's asking me for a chance to at least meet me, because she got scared. Lol

I am going to respond to this as if I am the girl you matched with. And honestly, I really don't care what others think of me once I do.

Before meeting my current boyfriend, I decided to go through the online avenue to meet new people. I had been married for over 10 years. I spent 2 years just breezing through meeting people (Not all sexual). At points, I could be talking to 3-4 guys at a time. Probably made some of them fall in love with me, just cause I needed to feel wanted. I know, I am a jerk, but I own it. Someone like you, I would have kept on the back burner, with someone else I put before you. In the event that it didn't work out with the other guy, I'd hit you up and play coy. The fact that you are still corresponding with her, this post, and your subsequent responds tell me, she still has your interests. Whether you want to admit it or not. And for a Scorpio girl like me, means I can probably still get you to come here. And as bad as it sounds, some guys made it far to easy for me.

But one thing I did do was never ever under any circumstances, let any of them believe I was committed to them. I didn't want commitment at the time.

Lol

Tnx for detailed response. I created this topic because I'm all about learning, and I'm interested in psychology, and about chemistry, and all that. I like analyzing, knowledge is power.

So honestly, physically she isn't so much my type, but I liked her way of thinking, some mutual interest, and all that.

About back burner, I know girls that are like that. If some guy that really got their interest postpone or cancel the date, she wants to set the date with some other guy, or only to tease him, and get an ego boost without any intention, especially girls that you meet online.

Sometimes I do it too, when I want to get in the mood or so, but I will never pretend to have interest if there is no interest. At least it must be something about that girl. I took many numbers online without any intention to see them...just because I know that I can.

Or when I have many options, I don't have desire nor time to see them, or chat with them. So I know all of that.

I'm neutral to her, and she can't control me. Now she's super sweet with me, and I'm like, I don't give a damn, openly, and shortly. Also I quickly lose interest, so it's very hard to play with me like that...I know what girls can do...

I'm really more about challenge...

I think if you are the one woman man or one man woman type and they aren't they would date others. So take the time to get to know each other if you have been single along time, and meet someone who just got out of something recently it's not to be taken seriously.

Well, it's hard to keep my interest too, because I quickly get bored if I get the feeling that I'm superior than her...there must be some kind of challenge. I'm very picky. It's very hard for Sagi to settle down, at least me with five planets in Sag. I don't want to miss something, I like to explore and to meet many different girls. I need lot of space too. Maybe I could settle if that person can give me what I need...