Chowfun92
@Chowfun92
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Are Scorpio guys mean or indifferent to...
If I feel you are into other guys I will become more distant or stand offish with you. I don't think I've ever been rude to someone I liked though.
Posted by Shruikan
If I feel you are into other guys I will become more distant or stand offish with you. I don't think I've ever been rude to someone I liked though.
+1 bingo
I liked him prior to him even speaking to me. I noticed when he first met me he had a teasing way with me. He would pick at me. I dismissed it and figured he didn't like me, but he has a way about him that I'm attracted to. I guess since we are both Scorpios I am attracted to our similarities.
What makes me think that he likes me despite the occasional short behavior is that he watches me when I speak to other guys. I notice him stare at me hard in the background and I ignore it. I know he is attracted to me. Sometimes he initiates conversation but it seems like he can't hold it or I feel he is awkward. I know when he is being "rude" it isn't serious like he hates me, but just how he feels he needs to interact with me.
I just don't understand how to approach him. He said there is something about me, but then walks away. I just don't know how to respond to this behavior.
What makes me think that he likes me despite the occasional short behavior is that he watches me when I speak to other guys. I notice him stare at me hard in the background and I ignore it. I know he is attracted to me. Sometimes he initiates conversation but it seems like he can't hold it or I feel he is awkward. I know when he is being "rude" it isn't serious like he hates me, but just how he feels he needs to interact with me.
I just don't understand how to approach him. He said there is something about me, but then walks away. I just don't know how to respond to this behavior.
Posted by Impulsv
Either he doesn't like or he's playing the man trick when they see a woman with a lot of attention. Will do the opposite behave for her to fall. It Works doesnt it. So why Would u Want a man that feels the need to trest u bad at the get go to get u. Une volved man move on.if he likes u n behaving this way why do u want a game player.
Also why do u like him is it real or because he doesnt hice u the time a day n triggered something.
I don't show that I'm interested in other guys. The guys show that they are interested in me. Those guys talk to me, he falls back. I can't help it if he wants to play sourpuss in the corner.
Posted by Rambunctious76Posted by Chowfun92Posted by Impulsv
Either he doesn't like or he's playing the man trick when they see a woman with a lot of attention. Will do the opposite behave for her to fall. It Works doesnt it. So why Would u Want a man that feels the need to trest u bad at the get go to get u. Une volved man move on.if he likes u n behaving this way why do u want a game player.
Also why do u like him is it real or because he doesnt hice u the time a day n triggered something.
I don't show that I'm interested in other guys. The guys show that they are interested in me. Those guys talk to me, he falls back. I can't help it if he wants to play sourpuss in the corner.
As a Scorpio, you should know better.
He's not a sourpuss. He's just not going to compete for your attention. If you have been returning the attention you are given, then he's not going to bother to try for your attention.click to expand
If people speak, I speak back. He doesn't speak to me but just stares. He only speaks directly to me in groups. He mumbles things to me and walks away. He isn't really giving me opportunity. Should I just talk to him?
Posted by e11ePosted by Chowfun92
If people speak, I speak back. He doesn't speak to me but just stares. He only speaks directly to me in groups. He mumbles things to me and walks away. He isn't really giving me opportunity. Should I just talk to him?
Yes?
Sounds like you are both mirroring each other.
water games!click to expand
So we are both doing the same thing to each other, but he's the guy. He should approach me.
Posted by e11e
you sound pissed.....lol.
he may be a bit confused by that because I'm sure you are probably giving off that vibe too.
it really shouldn't be this difficult. *shrugs*
wait what, I think your confused.
What I'm trying to explain is that I know he likes me. It's as clear as day, but he wont approach me. Maybe he is waiting for me to approach him, idk. I like him too, but I don't know how to get past this dance.
Posted by e11e
he's a scorpio, you're a scorpio.
remove the gender roles and just 'be'.
...or you'll be dancing forever.
you come off like my mother. I will speak to him and try to interact. We shall see how it goes tomorrow. :/
Posted by e11e
I might be your mother.....watch your tone with me, child! 😈
you put the fear of God into me. I'll let you know Tuesday, if anything happened or how it went.
You are a scorpio girl you should know better.
Basically.. He doesnt give you clear attention , but you caught him staring..Hes seen it. Just what he wanted!! So unlike all other guys he wont come after you..stands still in his corner and just observes your every single move with penetrating eyes.. energy pulls you in..always works! And as a scorp if hes got a way about him and decent looks,and he senses you are attracted to him.. he knows he doesnt need to do much. Just like yourself!!
You both are just being scorpios.
Huge Egos.. let the games begin. Lol
Basically.. He doesnt give you clear attention , but you caught him staring..Hes seen it. Just what he wanted!! So unlike all other guys he wont come after you..stands still in his corner and just observes your every single move with penetrating eyes.. energy pulls you in..always works! And as a scorp if hes got a way about him and decent looks,and he senses you are attracted to him.. he knows he doesnt need to do much. Just like yourself!!
You both are just being scorpios.
Huge Egos.. let the games begin. Lol
Posted by seezythescorpion
You are a scorpio girl you should know better.
Basically.. He doesnt give you clear attention , but you caught him staring..Hes seen it. Just what he wanted!! So unlike all other guys he wont come after you..stands still in his corner and just observes your every single move with penetrating eyes.. energy pulls you in..always works! And as a scorp if hes got a way about him and decent looks,and he senses you are attracted to him.. he knows he doesnt need to do much. Just like yourself!!
You both are just being scorpios.
Huge Egos.. let the games begin. Lol
well put...
Posted by Chowfun92
...I am attracted to our similarities.
What makes me think that he likes me despite the occasional short behavior is that he watches me when I speak to other guys. I notice him stare at me hard in the background and I ignore it. I know he is attracted to me. Sometimes he initiates conversation but it seems like he can't hold it or I feel he is awkward. I know when he is being "rude" it isn't serious like he hates me, but just how he feels he needs to interact with me.
I just don't understand how to approach him. He said there is something about me, but then walks away. I just don't know how to respond to this behavior.
So basically it sounds like you want this man to chase you and you like attention. The stupid water dance.... If you are aware of these things take the lead then fall back. Simple. In other words, if you like him tell him straight. When you catch him staring, hold his gaze for a few and give a genuine smile then look away. If you're not interested in these other guys, but like him then try to engage him when your in his presence. If you sense he is trying, but struggling don't let the man flounder, draw him out of his safety zone and ask if he would like to find a quiet place to take the pressure off or simple lower your voice to talk to him to draw him in--sort of shut everyone out. Focus your attention somet on him--not in a creepy way. Take the lead then fall back. If he's truly interested (and there are no other factors influencing his decision) then he will find his grove and take the lead after that. Lawd have mercy, you know what going on, but you're ignoring what right in your face. You're both doing some bizarre power struggle. Come on now....
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Chowfun92
...I am attracted to our similarities.
What makes me think that he likes me despite the occasional short behavior is that he watches me when I speak to other guys. I notice him stare at me hard in the background and I ignore it. I know he is attracted to me. Sometimes he initiates conversation but it seems like he can't hold it or I feel he is awkward. I know when he is being "rude" it isn't serious like he hates me, but just how he feels he needs to interact with me.
I just don't understand how to approach him. He said there is something about me, but then walks away. I just don't know how to respond to this behavior.
So basically it sounds like you want this man to chase you and you like attention. The stupid water dance.... If you are aware of these things take the lead then fall back. Simple. In other words, if you like him tell him straight. When you catch him staring, hold his gaze for a few and give a genuine smile then look away. If you're not interested in these other guys, but like him then try to engage him when your in his presence. If you sense he is trying, but struggling don't let the man flounder, draw him out of his safety zone and ask if he would like to find a quiet place to take the pressure off or simple lower your voice to talk to him to draw him in--sort of shut everyone out. Focus your attention somet on him--not in a creepy way. Take the lead then fall back. If he's truly interested (and there are no other factors influencing his decision) then he will find his grove and take the lead after that. Lawd have mercy, you know what going on, but you're ignoring what right in your face. You're both doing some bizarre power struggle. Come on now....click to expand
It's moreso that I know he is interested in me, but he wont outwardly show it. He'll be cheeky toward me, purposefully ignore me, be mean, all to get my attention, but I want him to talk to me. Say hello I don't bite. Why should I have to chase him when he's obviously giving me signals.
I'll try to talk to him tomorrow. I also just don't know what to say to him? When I'm around him or alone with him, there is like this huge presence between us. Like a huge ball of pressure or something weird. I can't help it. He has to feel it
Posted by Chowfun92
It's moreso that I know he is interested in me, but he wont outwardly show it. He'll be cheeky toward me, purposefully ignore me, be mean, all to get my attention, but I want him to talk to me. Say hello I don't bite. Why should I have to chase him when he's obviously giving me signals.
Hmm, when did saying hello or smiling turn into chasing? At least you're going to talk to him tomorrow, so see where that goes. No need to go overboard. Simply try to engage him in a gentle way to ease the insecurity. When he says something that confuses you, ask him point blank what he means. If he says something "mean" or cheeky just smile and ask him if that's his way of flirting with you. It sounds like he's trying, but failing somewhat, so simply help him out. Some Scorp-Scorp pairing need both parties to meet half way. It sounds like this may be a challenge for the two of you.
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Also i love that song 😄
So, idk if he likes me. I was 99% sure the other day. This is what my gut is telling me. Today I tried to speak and I felt blocked. I said a few words to him, but I can't be myself around him. He said a few words back and the only thing I could muster at the end of the day was a good night. What is going on? This is the first time I couldn't talk to a crush! All the other times I'm smooth as butter. Also all the guys were hitting on me also one girl and inviting me places: I declined them ALL. I waited for him to say something or anything and he didn't. I tried talking to him. I just can't breathee or soemthing when I do it...ugh I need guidance
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Posted by PhoenixRising
Hmph. So basically you've been projecting and making this about him when you're the one feeling insecure.
When you talked to him, did you so so in the group or quitely? Is there some way you could find some time away from everyone else,especially all of these men that are hitting in you on his presence? At some point, you're working too hard, so I have no idea how to guide you beyond what has already been suggested. I haven't experience this with any of the Scorp males I've been with. They saw, they went after what they wanted. Pretty straight forward and direct. A little too forceful for my taste, but that's me and there's no need to get sidetracked.
For whatever reason the dynamic is off between the two of you. All the mixed messages could have created that and now this feels "forced". You know how it goes. We observe the object of our affection and if they come off as fickle or interested in being overly involved with other people, we simple sit back, sometimes move on mentally. This may or may not be the case with Mr. Scorp. I personally would have asked him out for coffee already and called it a day. If he says no, you have your answer. If he says yes, you move to the second stage.
Hmph. So basically you've been projecting and making this about him when you're the one feeling insecure.
When you talked to him, did you do so in the group or quitely? Is there some way you could find some time away from everyone else,especially all of these men that are hitting on you in his presence? At some point, you're working too hard, so I have no idea how to guide you beyond what has already been suggested. I haven't experience this with any of the Scorp males I've been with. They saw, they went after what they wanted. Pretty straight forward and direct. A little too forceful for my taste, but that's me and there's no need to get sidetracked.
For whatever reason the dynamic is off between the two of you. All the mixed messages could have created that and now this feels "forced". You know how it goes. We observe the object of our affection and if they come off as fickle or interested in being overly involved with other people, we simple sit back, sometimes move on mentally. This may or may not be the case with Mr. Scorp. I personally would have asked him out for coffee already and called it a day. If he says no, you have your answer. If he says yes, you move to the second stage.
When you talked to him, did you do so in the group or quitely? Is there some way you could find some time away from everyone else,especially all of these men that are hitting on you in his presence? At some point, you're working too hard, so I have no idea how to guide you beyond what has already been suggested. I haven't experience this with any of the Scorp males I've been with. They saw, they went after what they wanted. Pretty straight forward and direct. A little too forceful for my taste, but that's me and there's no need to get sidetracked.
For whatever reason the dynamic is off between the two of you. All the mixed messages could have created that and now this feels "forced". You know how it goes. We observe the object of our affection and if they come off as fickle or interested in being overly involved with other people, we simple sit back, sometimes move on mentally. This may or may not be the case with Mr. Scorp. I personally would have asked him out for coffee already and called it a day. If he says no, you have your answer. If he says yes, you move to the second stage.
What the hell did you do? Lol. Just reply without quoting me.
I don't know if I've been projecting. I feel insecure talking to him alone. Not when there is someone else around. I'm as shocked as you when I seen he wasn't approaching me. I said no to every single guy that approached me, I only like him. From the beginning he was rude to get my attention type. He would say something like "what are you doing," if I was working and I would ignore him. I learned later that it seemed he did those things for my reaction or to look at him, w.e.
I don't know what mixed messages that I'm signaling. It seems to me he is signaling mixed messages. He stares at me from afar. He seemed jealous when I was talking to that one guy. He said that there was something about me than walked away. He says these thing or behaves sometimes in a way to provoke me to thinking he likes me.
I never persued a guy. I never liked a guy and had to persue him. It's very difficult for me to be myself around him. This never happened to a crush of mine. I had no problem talking to them. He I can't muster what I want to say and come off smooth.
Ugh, I'm now guessing if he actually likes me.
Posted by Chowfun92
I don't know if I've been projecting. I feel insecure talking to him alone. Not when there is someone else around. I'm as shocked as you when I seen he wasn't approaching me. I said no to every single guy that approached me, I only like him. From the beginning he was rude to get my attention type. He would say something like "what are you doing," if I was working and I would ignore him. I learned later that it seemed he did those things for my reaction or to look at him, w.e.
I don't know what mixed messages that I'm signaling. It seems to me he is signaling mixed messages. He stares at me from afar. He seemed jealous when I was talking to that one guy. He said that there was something about me than walked away. He says these thing or behaves sometimes in a way to provoke me to thinking he likes me.
I never persued a guy. I never liked a guy and had to persue him. It's very difficult for me to be myself around him. This never happened to a crush of mine. I had no problem talking to them. He I can't muster what I want to say and come off smooth.
Ugh, I'm now guessing if he actually likes me.
1) I'm not shocked at all.
2) I didn't indicate who has been giving the mixed messages. Simple that they are happening based on what you wrote.
3) no need to "come off" in a particular way because that is what is tripping you up from what I can tell. Think about it for a minute. When a man "comes off" as smooth vs having real confidence we can pick that up easily. Speaking for myself, I prefer when a person steps to me without the pretense because the act is a turn off. Is that the same for you? If so, how do you think he would see this? In many ways Scorp males and females are different, however some very fundemental things are the same. Be yourself. Quirks, trip ups, foot in mouth syndrome etc. it's endearing and opens us up to you. You know this.
Meh. Sorry my moon is starting to kick in now, so I'm all adviced out. Take a break for a few from this dude and come back as yourself. The group thing seems to be throwing him off and the one on one approach throws you off, so I don't know what to tell you other than see if you can work through it. Dont try to be perfect and smooth. Just yourself.
Why do you think it's "very difficult" for you to be yourself around him? Rhetorical question, but feel free to answer it if you want.
Sort the answer to that question out and things may feel a bit easier.
Sort the answer to that question out and things may feel a bit easier.
I like him. I can't be my self. because Im scared that myself isn't good enough. I Want him to like me to even though s part of me thinks he already does. I honestly think he hasn't approached me because all the other guys are too. I mean I guess i wouldn't approach a person who was surrounded by people constantly trying to get at them.
Posted by Chowfun92
I like him. I can't be my self. because Im scared that myself isn't good enough. I Want him to like me to even though s part of me thinks he already does. I honestly think he hasn't approached me because all the other guys are too. I mean I guess i wouldn't approach a person who was surrounded by people constantly trying to get at them.
Perhaps. I think Impulsv makes a valid point as well. Do you normally ignore someone you like and hope will talk to you? Btw, that is one example of the mixed messages I was referring to. You're both doing some version of the same sh*t tbh.
Anyway, you can dwell on why he's not asking you out and guess until you're blue in the face or move forward to see how you can work through it. The only way to work through it is to be clear in your communication with him. Find a private way to ask him out for a drink and take it from there. Or wait for him to chase you....
He ignores me. It honestly looks like he goes out his way to ignore me. So when you have someone that is seemingly going out their way to ignore you. It's kind of hard not to do the same and it's also difficult to strike up convo.
Posted by Chowfun92
He ignores me. It honestly looks like he goes out his way to ignore me. So when you have someone that is seemingly going out their way to ignore you. It's kind of hard not to do the same and it's also difficult to strike up convo.
Understood. So leave him alone and move on. You're either going to make a move (towards him) or not.
Chow, I may not be your target audience here. I'm a problem solver. I don't dwell on every reason you can't or shouldn't do something. I have insecurities and fears as well, but I push past them or sh*t doesn't get done. You like him, so do something about it so you can confirm if he likes you as well. Some of your action appear to have put some distance between the two of you, so you have to take the lead here and initiate. Don't overdo it. No need to "chase" the man, but put yourself out there a bit and try to talk to him. Privately. if you've put forth a genuine effort to engage him (not some half ass "hey, what's up") and he give you nothing, then move on.
Be careful though. Don't go in with expectations of how he should act. Be open to his approach as he engages you. Low key and quiet does not always mean disinterest especially with a water sign. As long as he is responding and seems genuinely interested you're good for now.
Alright I'll try.
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From my point of view Scorpio males normally don't fight for attention from a woman we are quietly observing your behavior.
Yea that's what this guy does. It's funny BC as a scorpio female I do the same to him. I just was hoping as a man he'd fight for my attention
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