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Oh I understand better now. My misunderstanding.
Well apparently my stuff was supposed to have been mailed Friday. It's Tuesday and I don't have it. I don't know how they mailed it, or if it was even mailed.
My gut is telling me it's not been mailed. I think he's going to try and call my bluff, but it is the holidays. I've been wrong before when it comes to him.
What do you guys think? Mailed or not? Chalk it up as a loss?
Well apparently my stuff was supposed to have been mailed Friday. It's Tuesday and I don't have it. I don't know how they mailed it, or if it was even mailed.
My gut is telling me it's not been mailed. I think he's going to try and call my bluff, but it is the holidays. I've been wrong before when it comes to him.
What do you guys think? Mailed or not? Chalk it up as a loss?
forget your stuff and move on.
Posted by aqualady2
I think he's going to try and call my bluff ...
Bluff?
You really think you're fooling a Scorpio, don't you?
No, I mean ... you really think you are.
All this time, I really didn't realize that Aqua's were so slow-minded ... I really thought they were swift thinkers.
So, what the hell happened here?
Why aren't you capable of grasping the reality of your own experiences?
Are you wearing a helmet?
Posted by aquarius78
my scorpio cheated on his ex and i gave him a good speech about how no one deserves it.
A SPEECH !!!!!!
Oh, no .... a speech !!
so, was this before, during or after you had sex with him?
omg .... a speech. Well THAT should fix The Cheater, shan't it.
Posted by aqualady2
Oh I understand better now. My misunderstanding.
Well apparently my stuff was supposed to have been mailed Friday. It's Tuesday and I don't have it. I don't know how they mailed it, or if it was even mailed.
My gut is telling me it's not been mailed. I think he's going to try and call my bluff, but it is the holidays. I've been wrong before when it comes to him.
What do you guys think? Mailed or not? Chalk it up as a loss?
Why didn't you grab it when you left aqua? was it important stuff?
Posted by aquarius78
first of all i think alot of you are being way to harsh on her. also sexting is not ok. my scorpio cheated on his ex and i gave him a good speech about how no one deserves it. he said he felt bad n i said damn straight you better feel bad. i dont ever have the balls to go through my bfs phone, he keeps a lock on it and im sure theres a reason for that :/ I caught him going through my phone so...
id give him space thats all you can do...
Thank you for the advice!
As for people being harsh? I don't think anyone has been overly judgmental besides P. But if you look at her interactions with everyone, is she really someone you'd want to take advice from? Yes, sometimes she says the truth, but most of the time she's just bitter. Hence why I blocked her a looong time ago. I don't have time for that. 🙂
I don't consider what he did as cheating mainly because it happen prior to us dating. It actually stopped the day we met. Come to think of it, he was adamant about proving he stopped looking for anyone when we met. He actually had been asking me for a relationship for... A month I think it was, before I agreed. So I really don't consider anything in that time frame cheating.
Side note- I really don't understand cheating though. If you're going to cheat, why not just walk away and save everyone the heavy emotional stress?
Why didn't you grab it when you left aqua? was it important stuff?
Well here's the thing... It's a lot of stuff. As I said previously, you'd think I'd lived there. The only other time of my life I've had that much stuff in a space like that, was when I actually lived with someone.
As for not grabbing it- him and I actually didn't live together officially. I had kept things there, and at the time I didn't see an issue with it, but it made me uncomfortable. Just the weekend prior to our fight he was discussing making adjustments to his home to better accommodate me (on his own free will.) so honestly I had not considered getting my things. That was the last time I was at his house with him.
Ever since he will not communicate with me to let me get my things. I've suggested that I can get them, I can meet a family member to get them, and he can mail them. I've tried asking politely, I've tried being forceful, and now my last resort was to be forceful. As I said earlier, he basically told me I'll get them on his time.
Posted by aqualady2
Why didn't you grab it when you left aqua? was it important stuff?
Well here's the thing... It's a lot of stuff. As I said previously, you'd think I'd lived there. The only other time of my life I've had that much stuff in a space like that, was when I actually lived with someone.
As for not grabbing it- him and I actually didn't live together officially. I had kept things there, and at the time I didn't see an issue with it, but it made me uncomfortable. Just the weekend prior to our fight he was discussing making adjustments to his home to better accommodate me (on his own free will.) so honestly I had not considered getting my things. That was the last time I was at his house with him.
Ever since he will not communicate with me to let me get my things. I've suggested that I can get them, I can meet a family member to get them, and he can mail them. I've tried asking politely, I've tried being forceful, and now my last resort was to be forceful. As I said earlier, he basically told me I'll get them on his time.
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I notice that with scorpios once they are " mad " at you they stop treating you like a human being. It's hilariously immature. My ex did the same thing when we broke - up. It took 3 weeks for me to be "allowed " to get my things that could of been done in one day. I had a ton of shit cause we did live together.
He just sat around playing games for 3 weeks being pissy and whiney. That was years ago though.
Anyway, If it wasn't too important of things I guess I'd just let it go for now. Maybe he'll get over his period and finally give it back but who knows really.
Some people just like to sit around and waste time being pissy n never get shit done. When others like to actually be proactive. Just how it is i guess.
Posted by aqualady2
.... like, you really have to be told? .. or are you just bored, and so simply acting stupid?
You must be a bitter person? I've asked you once for no name calling. I am trying to get productive critiques, and if you're not going to be productive, then take your bitterness elsewhere.
If you aren't reading the whole story, then don't respond. The family/friends were going to help, but life got in the way. You don't know the whole story. And actually they did help a lot when it came to shuffling him around to keep it secret. Because they couldn't help by inviting people, doesn't mean anything.
As for being sleazy, he is a very upstanding gentlemen. He always opened doors, paid for everything, yes ma'am, no ma'am. We didn't even kiss until we had been dating for a month, I had actually met his family before we kissed. Just because someone has done some 'sleazy' things, does not make them a 'sleazy' person. I'm sure you're own record is not spotless no?
Again, communication issue because of the signs. If you don't know that, then I suggest you go look up compatibility. We had discussed this, and attempted to make it easier on ourselves because we were aware.
Again, I'm sure you are no patron saint in life. I would appreciate if you would not judge his character based upon fragments of a story I am telling, and I would also appreciate that if you aren't going to be constructive, then to find another board to post in.click to expand
You are a piece of work. You fucked up big time and I agree completely with every word PAngel said, because it's the simple truth. Now quit your whining, learn from this screw up and move on. Your ass is cooked with this Scorpio. We don't give second chances.
Look at the bright side Rabbit, they'll see when she comes back in two weeks Scorps don't give second chances. ONE DAY..that will sink in.
someone who spies into another's phones is already suspect. i dont get the feeling she feels "SECURE" with this guy so she has to spy on his phone. alot of women do that when they dont feel secure.
breach of trust.
breach of trust.
HE and his mum just using you
Posted by P-Angel
All this time, I really didn't realize that Aqua's were so slow-minded ... I really thought they were swift thinkers.
So, what the hell happened here?
Why aren't you capable of grasping the reality of your own experiences?
Are you wearing a helmet?
Aquas a far from being stupid, we just don't focus on one thing for long. I'm sure she is not busy sitting around thinking about this situation with the scorp the whole day. But when something does bring it up, she'll think about it for a moment & forget about it very soon after. Our minds are constantly shifting. So I know why it NOW suddenly hit her.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
P. just curious. Didn't you overlap with your husband? I mean you were both married when you met, right?
Not judging at all but just wondering
I'm judging. Really? Our very own Mother Theresa is a cheat?
Posted by LetltBPosted by aqualady2
.... like, you really have to be told? .. or are you just bored, and so simply acting stupid?
You must be a bitter person? I've asked you once for no name calling. I am trying to get productive critiques, and if you're not going to be productive, then take your bitterness elsewhere.
If you aren't reading the whole story, then don't respond. The family/friends were going to help, but life got in the way. You don't know the whole story. And actually they did help a lot when it came to shuffling him around to keep it secret. Because they couldn't help by inviting people, doesn't mean anything.
As for being sleazy, he is a very upstanding gentlemen. He always opened doors, paid for everything, yes ma'am, no ma'am. We didn't even kiss until we had been dating for a month, I had actually met his family before we kissed. Just because someone has done some 'sleazy' things, does not make them a 'sleazy' person. I'm sure you're own record is not spotless no?
Again, communication issue because of the signs. If you don't know that, then I suggest you go look up compatibility. We had discussed this, and attempted to make it easier on ourselves because we were aware.
Again, I'm sure you are no patron saint in life. I would appreciate if you would not judge his character based upon fragments of a story I am telling, and I would also appreciate that if you aren't going to be constructive, then to find another board to post in.
You are a piece of work. You fucked up big time and I agree completely with every word PAngel said, because it's the simple truth. Now quit your whining, learn from this screw up and move on. Your ass is cooked with this Scorpio. We don't give second chances.click to expand
Second chances for what? Did she say she wants him back? You must not know aquas. She's probably over it by now & just wants her things back..not him! Are you kidding me?
It sounds like this male is using you and having his family and friends in on it too and set you up to fail as for having your stuff how about he have it let it be a reminder of you to him. I mean if he was that keen on and honest about giving your stuff back to you he would have done already and he hasnt so I mean you just really lucky to not be with someone like that actually. Too much heartache and pain it would only cause which it sounds like he thrives on and that is not a basis for a healthy relationship nor friendship.
There is heartache and pain a person can thrive on that makes you better than the rest of 'em, this sounds like the destructive type where he uses everyone he can to make himself look better basically because he can and it types like that who have it the hardest the most they are the ones who have to live with themselves at the end of the day.
Although I am saddened by what you have both gone through I would like to say to you that be glad you are away from this type of person he only sees it his way and really no room for you in his life at all and never will be even though he keeps saying so and that he will change and that oh he didnt mean it etc etc (its bullshit and you know it) of course he didnt mean it until the next time and the time after that it will continue until it stops and I for one think and know it has stopped and that its time for you to get on with your life.
Hey if you dont get your stuff back then thank god for that, you know hes only trying to put it over you which he always has done and always will. Say goodbye to your stuffs coz it will be a cold day in hell before you ever get your crap back and all in working condition to, if at all.
Apart from that I really hope and pray you have the strength to get over this, Goodluck to you mr dear
There is heartache and pain a person can thrive on that makes you better than the rest of 'em, this sounds like the destructive type where he uses everyone he can to make himself look better basically because he can and it types like that who have it the hardest the most they are the ones who have to live with themselves at the end of the day.
Although I am saddened by what you have both gone through I would like to say to you that be glad you are away from this type of person he only sees it his way and really no room for you in his life at all and never will be even though he keeps saying so and that he will change and that oh he didnt mean it etc etc (its bullshit and you know it) of course he didnt mean it until the next time and the time after that it will continue until it stops and I for one think and know it has stopped and that its time for you to get on with your life.
Hey if you dont get your stuff back then thank god for that, you know hes only trying to put it over you which he always has done and always will. Say goodbye to your stuffs coz it will be a cold day in hell before you ever get your crap back and all in working condition to, if at all.
Apart from that I really hope and pray you have the strength to get over this, Goodluck to you mr dear
OP, go ice cold on his annoying ass & send the cops to retrieve your things. Some of them love power-games & him having something that he knows you really want is probably giving him satisfaction. A feeling of being in control.
Or better still, don't ask him for the things again & go on with your life. It is things after all & can be replaced, but the time spent negotiating with a control freak is irreplaceable. Let him keep them.
Or better still, don't ask him for the things again & go on with your life. It is things after all & can be replaced, but the time spent negotiating with a control freak is irreplaceable. Let him keep them.
I left a pair of jeans, a jacket & some shoes at the house of the scorp guy I was dating. He also gave me the run around, so I changed my number & forgot about the things. Next thing I knew, he brought them back but I told him I had no use for them anymore & I left him carrying the bag. Who has time to play game?
Aquas a far from being stupid, we just don't focus on one thing for long. I'm sure she is not busy sitting around thinking about this situation with the scorp the whole day. But when something does bring it up, she'll think about it for a moment & forget about it very soon after. Our minds are constantly shifting. So I know why it NOW suddenly hit her.
Ahh didn't see P post that. Ignorance is bliss. 😛
Yes you are correct. I don't spend my days dwelling on it. It's a situation I'm in, and fortunately I have enough going on elsewhere that this doesn't occupy my mind 100% of the time.
I'm also typically one of those people that usually have very little tact. I will say/do something with the best of intentions, but I will come across as an ass. So sometimes it doesn't always register that my words/actions are more hurtful than my intention ever was.
Second chances for what? Did she say she wants him back? You must not know aquas. She's probably over it by now & just wants her things back..not him! Are you kidding me?
To be fair, I did wonder if it was workable. At one point. I would like my things back and to just let this situation go.
Posted by WaterCup
OP, go ice cold on his annoying ass & send the cops to retrieve your things. Some of them love power-games & him having something that he knows you really want is probably giving him satisfaction. A feeling of being in control.
Or better still, don't ask him for the things again & go on with your life. It is things after all & can be replaced, but the time spent negotiating with a control freak is irreplaceable. Let him keep them.click to expand
Actually, maybe it's just around here, but the cops won't go retrieve your things without you. They basically will just escourt you. While I'm sure that would freak him out, I also know that he would still do whatever he could to keep my things. Because...
I had sent him a message stating the day and time I would be around to get my things. I said he didn't need to be there, it could be a family member, but I was getting my stuff. Next thing I know, he was intentionally not there. So really, if I showed up with the police, he would just do the disappearing act again. Hence why I'm trying to get advice. Maybe one day we could be friends, but my main focus right now is getting my stuff.
Posted by WaterCup
I left a pair of jeans, a jacket & some shoes at the house of the scorp guy I was dating. He also gave me the run around, so I changed my number & forgot about the things. Next thing I knew, he brought them back but I told him I had no use for them anymore & I left him carrying the bag. Who has time to play game?
Ha! Good for you. 🙂 I've been trying to forget my stuff, but damn, It's frustrating.
Posted by lisabethur8
someone who spies into another's phones is already suspect. i dont get the feeling she feels "SECURE" with this guy so she has to spy on his phone. alot of women do that when they dont feel secure.
breach of trust.
I already stated why I went into the phone. There wasn't any reasons prior to that for me to not trust him. If I did it because I felt insecure, trust me, I would say so, I'm not ashamed of my feelings. But that wasn't the case at all. Especially since he would show me his phone, I could've seen anything I wanted in there at any time. I chose not to. If I wanted to snoop through his phone, I could've gone through so much more than just the call log and texts. But that wasn't my goal to find "dirt" or "proof." I just happened to unfortunately still find it.
Good questions.
1- He has over 1,000 friends on facebook because he was a pretty big time moto cross racer. So not everyone on his facebook is his true friends. As I stated before, there was a friend that was supposed to help me, but life got in her way. She was the only friend I had the true contact information of, the others I had met I didn't have contacts.
As for the control- you've put in a spot that no matter what I say, it will be perceived that you are correct. While everyone has had a streak of "controlling" at some point in some relationship- this was not the case.
"A few of your own admissions are:
"No, don't put us in a relationship on FB"
"Yes, send my stuff to me or go to jail" "
Then please advise me as to how the first one is controlling? He asked, I told him it didn't matter to me and why it didn't matter. I never said he didn't have to, I never said he couldn't. The stance was that if he wanted it, fine, if not, I'm fine. Regardless of the facebook tag, actually respecting the boundaries of the relationship was more important to me.
And I've also said numerous times that I've asked him several different ways to get my stuff. I get what you're saying, but I'm also failing to see something. You say it's controlling, but how am I supposed to get my things then in a non-controlling way?
"And perhaps you don't see that your insistent need to control the man is the reason you're here trying to hide the fact that his letting you go is killing you by claiming that you're at your wits end with his "refusal" to give you back your stuff."
Not hiding it at all. I do care about him. Deeply. But I also am not going to sit around and cry about it all the time.
"I find it very suspicious that these friends and family who helped you plan the "surprise party" that never was became ghosts to you when you needed to get your stuff back. To the extent his mother needed to save the day? "
You don't think I think that's weird too? Hence why I even brought it up. His mom and I used to be on a constant communication basis. When we were with her, I spent more time with her than I did him. Which is why it's extremely puzzling and frustrating that now, it's completely dead silence.
1- He has over 1,000 friends on facebook because he was a pretty big time moto cross racer. So not everyone on his facebook is his true friends. As I stated before, there was a friend that was supposed to help me, but life got in her way. She was the only friend I had the true contact information of, the others I had met I didn't have contacts.
As for the control- you've put in a spot that no matter what I say, it will be perceived that you are correct. While everyone has had a streak of "controlling" at some point in some relationship- this was not the case.
"A few of your own admissions are:
"No, don't put us in a relationship on FB"
"Yes, send my stuff to me or go to jail" "
Then please advise me as to how the first one is controlling? He asked, I told him it didn't matter to me and why it didn't matter. I never said he didn't have to, I never said he couldn't. The stance was that if he wanted it, fine, if not, I'm fine. Regardless of the facebook tag, actually respecting the boundaries of the relationship was more important to me.
And I've also said numerous times that I've asked him several different ways to get my stuff. I get what you're saying, but I'm also failing to see something. You say it's controlling, but how am I supposed to get my things then in a non-controlling way?
"And perhaps you don't see that your insistent need to control the man is the reason you're here trying to hide the fact that his letting you go is killing you by claiming that you're at your wits end with his "refusal" to give you back your stuff."
Not hiding it at all. I do care about him. Deeply. But I also am not going to sit around and cry about it all the time.
"I find it very suspicious that these friends and family who helped you plan the "surprise party" that never was became ghosts to you when you needed to get your stuff back. To the extent his mother needed to save the day? "
You don't think I think that's weird too? Hence why I even brought it up. His mom and I used to be on a constant communication basis. When we were with her, I spent more time with her than I did him. Which is why it's extremely puzzling and frustrating that now, it's completely dead silence.
"I think you're lying about needing your stuff back. If you were serious about it, you'd make the effort to go get them and not go sending him messages to send them to you.
It's not about getting your stuff back. It's about a sinister motive to go hurt the man because that's who you are - controlling."
Nope, no lies. Just because I haven't laid out from start to finish from day 1, doesn't mean I haven't tried. As I stated earlier, I have tried going out there to get my things. Not once did I say I haven't. But when I did, he intentionally was not there, and I'm not breaking into someones house.
Do I also need to mention that he lives kind of far away from me? So I'm not driving out there every free moment I have. My time is worth more than that. I've already made an effort in numerous ways to get my stuff, and I'm asking here to see if there is a way I'm missing, because obviously what I'm doing isn't helping.
As for hurting? I have never wanted to hurt him, and will never want to hurt him. I care for him deeply. We are very different, obviously, and I can appreciate that. I'm also not going to just roll over and let him hold my belongings. So please, if you have any ideas please tell me, because obviously I am out.
It's not about getting your stuff back. It's about a sinister motive to go hurt the man because that's who you are - controlling."
Nope, no lies. Just because I haven't laid out from start to finish from day 1, doesn't mean I haven't tried. As I stated earlier, I have tried going out there to get my things. Not once did I say I haven't. But when I did, he intentionally was not there, and I'm not breaking into someones house.
Do I also need to mention that he lives kind of far away from me? So I'm not driving out there every free moment I have. My time is worth more than that. I've already made an effort in numerous ways to get my stuff, and I'm asking here to see if there is a way I'm missing, because obviously what I'm doing isn't helping.
As for hurting? I have never wanted to hurt him, and will never want to hurt him. I care for him deeply. We are very different, obviously, and I can appreciate that. I'm also not going to just roll over and let him hold my belongings. So please, if you have any ideas please tell me, because obviously I am out.
aqualady2
One word - Misunderstood
Scorpions are known to be private. Not a bad thing but certain things we like to keep to ourselves. Once we have met someone who we gel with we are comfortable with them we open, trust and are loyal to them 100% . This situation just blew out of proportion. Understandable you were doing something really nice for him.. he would have really appreciated it as well (I would) but going though his phone is like snooping through his personal life. I??ve never let anyone go through my phone because its got my private messages/pictures/my diary etc. Even I have kept old private messages from guys but it doesn't mean anything. I either forgot to delete them or just the guy who brought me good times.. if he came to mind (in a good way) id snoop though my old messages.. just as a memory thing.
Do you still want to be with him?
One word - Misunderstood
Scorpions are known to be private. Not a bad thing but certain things we like to keep to ourselves. Once we have met someone who we gel with we are comfortable with them we open, trust and are loyal to them 100% . This situation just blew out of proportion. Understandable you were doing something really nice for him.. he would have really appreciated it as well (I would) but going though his phone is like snooping through his personal life. I??ve never let anyone go through my phone because its got my private messages/pictures/my diary etc. Even I have kept old private messages from guys but it doesn't mean anything. I either forgot to delete them or just the guy who brought me good times.. if he came to mind (in a good way) id snoop though my old messages.. just as a memory thing.
Do you still want to be with him?
Posted by aqualady2Posted by lisabethur8
someone who spies into another's phones is already suspect. i dont get the feeling she feels "SECURE" with this guy so she has to spy on his phone. alot of women do that when they dont feel secure.
breach of trust.
I already stated why I went into the phone. There wasn't any reasons prior to that for me to not trust him. If I did it because I felt insecure, trust me, I would say so, I'm not ashamed of my feelings. But that wasn't the case at all. Especially since he would show me his phone, I could've seen anything I wanted in there at any time. I chose not to. If I wanted to snoop through his phone, I could've gone through so much more than just the call log and texts. But that wasn't my goal to find "dirt" or "proof." I just happened to unfortunately still find it.click to expand
well i read that you did it for a surprise? Couldnt you just have asked his close family for a list?
The idea wouldnt be TOO bad and it wouldnt be a breach of trust either. Something like going into someone's phone, computer, lock-safe, anything that is PRIVATE, is not for you to see or touch. He is his OWN person, you're not his wife and even a wife should respect her husband's property.
You have to use your "head" in this case.
OP, you have so much patience that I give you. I would have snapped a long time ago if I were in your shoes. Are these things that important that you're willing to play tug war with this fellow? I don't know how much attached you get to your possessions, but man, a girl needs some peace of mind. This for me would be way too much.
Anyway, I hope you get your things back in due time. All the best to you & don't forget to update on this situation.
Anyway, I hope you get your things back in due time. All the best to you & don't forget to update on this situation.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
P. just curious. Didn't you overlap with your husband? I mean you were both married when you met, right?
Not judging at all but just wondering
Nope, we we're both single.
Posted by aqualady2
I think he's going to try and call my bluff ...
The reality is ...... she's trying to fuck with him.
A person doesn't have a bluff to call, otherwise.
she's not being sincere here with you ..... you only have to read between the lines to see it.
Looks like you have a lot of excuses about not being able to get your stuff back ...
It's only a matter of time before people realize you're lying to them.
Posted by WaterCupPosted by LetltBPosted by aqualady2
.... like, you really have to be told? .. or are you just bored, and so simply acting stupid?
You must be a bitter person? I've asked you once for no name calling. I am trying to get productive critiques, and if you're not going to be productive, then take your bitterness elsewhere.
If you aren't reading the whole story, then don't respond. The family/friends were going to help, but life got in the way. You don't know the whole story. And actually they did help a lot when it came to shuffling him around to keep it secret. Because they couldn't help by inviting people, doesn't mean anything.
As for being sleazy, he is a very upstanding gentlemen. He always opened doors, paid for everything, yes ma'am, no ma'am. We didn't even kiss until we had been dating for a month, I had actually met his family before we kissed. Just because someone has done some 'sleazy' things, does not make them a 'sleazy' person. I'm sure you're own record is not spotless no?
Again, communication issue because of the signs. If you don't know that, then I suggest you go look up compatibility. We had discussed this, and attempted to make it easier on ourselves because we were aware.
Again, I'm sure you are no patron saint in life. I would appreciate if you would not judge his character based upon fragments of a story I am telling, and I would also appreciate that if you aren't going to be constructive, then to find another board to post in.
You are a piece of work. You fucked up big time and I agree completely with every word PAngel said, because it's the simple truth. Now quit your whining, learn from this screw up and move on. Your ass is cooked with this Scorpio. We don't give second chances.
Second chances for what? Did she say she wants him back? You must not know aquas. She's probably over it by now & just wants her things back..not him! Are you kidding me?click to expand
Aquarius I dated was the only sign I dated that didn't want a second chance with me. Lately now he is hitting me up which is really random but that dude hasn't talked to me since we broke up which was in 2007. I don't know those aqua's can really forget and go on.
Posted by WaterCup
OP, you have so much patience that I give you. I would have snapped a long time ago if I were in your shoes. Are these things that important that you're willing to play tug war with this fellow? I don't know how much attached you get to your possessions, but man, a girl needs some peace of mind. This for me would be way too much.
Anyway, I hope you get your things back in due time. All the best to you & don't forget to update on this situation.
Agreed. + 1
Posted by WaterCup
OP, go ice cold on his annoying ass & send the cops to retrieve your things. Some of them love power-games & him having something that he knows you really want is probably giving him satisfaction. A feeling of being in control.
I don't know where you live or where the laws are there for that stuff but I think technically if you have had stuff at someones place and you stay there more than a few days week you " techincally " live there and you're allowed to go into the house. A cop told me this once ( i live in CO, usA tho ) I didn't know this till after the fact though -_-
But at the same time here if you have a trust-passer on you're property they are allowed to shoot you LOL it's weird man.
Posted by Sag89Posted by WaterCup
OP, go ice cold on his annoying ass & send the cops to retrieve your things. Some of them love power-games & him having something that he knows you really want is probably giving him satisfaction. A feeling of being in control.
I don't know where you live or where the laws are there for that stuff but I think technically if you have had stuff at someones place and you stay there more than a few days week you " techincally " live there and you're allowed to go into the house. A cop told me this once ( i live in CO, usA tho ) I didn't know this till after the fact though -_-
But at the same time here if you have a trust-passer on you're property they are allowed to shoot you LOL it's weird man.
click to expand
TBH, I don't know my country's laws about it, I just told the OP to do that based on what I've heard on the court shows on tv lol. Judge Mathis. Anyway, if it were me, it wouldn't even had to come to that...I'd stop caring.
I wonder what she has over there, a pot of gold, maybe?
Posted by WaterCupPosted by Sag89Posted by WaterCup
OP, go ice cold on his annoying ass & send the cops to retrieve your things. Some of them love power-games & him having something that he knows you really want is probably giving him satisfaction. A feeling of being in control.
I don't know where you live or where the laws are there for that stuff but I think technically if you have had stuff at someones place and you stay there more than a few days week you " techincally " live there and you're allowed to go into the house. A cop told me this once ( i live in CO, usA tho ) I didn't know this till after the fact though -_-
But at the same time here if you have a trust-passer on you're property they are allowed to shoot you LOL it's weird man.
TBH, I don't know my country's laws about it, I just told the OP to do that based on what I've heard on the court shows on tv lol. Judge Mathis. Anyway, if it were me, it wouldn't even had to come to that...I'd stop caring.
I wonder what she has over there, a pot of gold, maybe?click to expand
Hahah could be!
Posted by P-AngelPosted by aquarius78
my scorpio cheated on his ex and i gave him a good speech about how no one deserves it.
A SPEECH !!!!!!
Oh, no .... a speech !!
so, was this before, during or after you had sex with him?
omg .... a speech. Well THAT should fix The Cheater, shan't it.click to expand
bwahahahahahahah this was funny
TBH, I don't know my country's laws about it, I just told the OP to do that based on what I've heard on the court shows on tv lol. Judge Mathis. Anyway, if it were me, it wouldn't even had to come to that...I'd stop caring.
I wonder what she has over there, a pot of gold, maybe?
lol. I love those court room TV shows. To my knowledge though, I believe in my state your name has to be on the lease/mortgage to have any legal rights. I could be very wrong though.
And what I have there might as well be a pot of gold! 🙂 Granted, most of it is small stuff... toiletries, clothes, miscellaneous items. The one I care the most about getting back is my lap top.
That lap top was given to me by my grandmother before she passed away. It is filled with pictures of her and I, and I even have some of our final e-mails saved. Some of the pictures I have backed up elsewhere, but some I don't and I surely don't have the e-mails backed up. Not to mention that is my lap top I use for school. I actually wasn't able to finish a final project for this semester because I had to start from scratch, and just didn't have the time.
That's why I'm being so... aggressive getting my things. The rest of it can go into the trash for all I care. I just don't want anyone else using them. But that lap top...
Posted by aqualady2
And what I have there might as well be a pot of gold! 🙂 Granted, most of it is small stuff... toiletries, clothes, miscellaneous items. The one I care the most about getting back is my lap top.
That's odd, because on page two you don't even mention a lap top at all. In fact you said you had so much stuff there it looked like you lived there.
Posted by aqualady2
It's a lot of stuff... Too much to list. Basically if you walked into his house, it looked like I lived there.
SO WHICH ONE IS IT? Look, stop the drama. Go to small claims court, get the value of the lap top and either get the lap top through court or stop your whining. It's clear you don't want your stuff, you want him back. It's not happening. Get that through your head.
That's odd, because on page two you don't even mention a lap top at all. In fact you said you had so much stuff there it looked like you lived there.
And this is why I tried avoiding making a list of my stuff...
How is that odd? I said I had a lot of stuff there. Not once did I mention anything specific until my last message. Yes, it does look like I lived there because most of it is small stuff, as I stated before. Just because I never specifically mentioned the lap top prior, doesn't mean it didn't exist. I'm not going to make a list of each item that was in his house and then post to this board. I know what is in there, and I know the lap top is the most important thing to me.
SO WHICH ONE IS IT? Look, stop the drama. Go to small claims court, get the value of the lap top and either get the lap top through court or stop your whining. It's clear you don't want your stuff, you want him back. It's not happening. Get that through your head.click to expand
Again, you're creating a contradiction when there wasn't any to begin with. I could make a list of everything that was there, but that's exhausting. The lap top is the most important to me, hence why it was specifically named.
As for small claims court- To be honest getting money for the lap doesn't meet the emotional value of it. I don't know if you have any posessions that are meaningful to you, but that lap top means the world to me.
Did I state I wanted him back? No, I said if it was workable I'd be interested, but at this point, I just want my stuff, particularly that lap top.
Posted by aqualady2
Again, you're creating a contradiction when there wasn't any to begin with. I could make a list of everything that was there, but that's exhausting. The lap top is the most important to me, hence why it was specifically named.
As for small claims court- To be honest getting money for the lap doesn't meet the emotional value of it. I don't know if you have any posessions that are meaningful to you, but that lap top means the world to me.
Sweetheart, there's no contradiction here but your own, that's clear. This isn't about a list or a lap top. If you took the time to go to small claims court they DO put a value on what cannot be replaced, but again...you haven't even made an attempt to have the court order him return the lap top, because it's not about the lap top, it's about your guilt and wanting him back. You blew it..either go whine to a judge or shut the hell up.
This is too much drama over a toothbrush, a dvd, a scarf, an empty box of tampons, half eaten chipotle, a pair of jeans that r2 big anyway, and a spatula. If hes a prick and a cheater, good riddance and it costs you the depreciated value of your stuff. If its small dnough to put in the mail, its small enough to forget about it. If movers have to go get it, that will learn you for next time. Stop leaving your shit.
on the flipside, if u want your stuff to get the last bit on scorpio eye gazing, then be straight up.
on the flipside, if u want your stuff to get the last bit on scorpio eye gazing, then be straight up.
Posted by aqualady2
Did I state I wanted him back? No, I said if it was workable I'd be interested, but at this point, I just want my stuff, particularly that lap top.
Now as for^^^^^^^^^^THAT^^^^^^^^^^^^
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Posted by aqualady2
I guess I'm looking for validation. He also still reads all the messages I send him, but doesn't reply. Is it an ego thing? A taurus friend says he cares, a gemini friend says hes shut down and to give him space, one scorpio friend says the he has made his choice and to move on, while another scorpio friend says he is testing me and I should continue light contact.
Any advice from scorpios, or insight would be helpful. I truly know he cares more than he is letting on.
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Posted by aqualady2
Thank you. By your best judgement though, do you think I've already burned bridges to at least being friends?
PAGE 3
Posted by aqualady2 I really don't want to hold out for something that has no hope, and wanted to be sure I was hanging on because of some misinformation.
PAGE 4 and still NOTHING about a lap top
Posted by aqualady2I don't know if he's just deleting them and it shows them read? He could very well remove me, but hasn't. Actually his whole family is still my friend on facebook, which I thought for sure they would've removed me.
Posted by aqualady2
I wonder if I unintentionally made him feel like I was pushing him away?
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Posted by aqualady2
I really wasn't trying to police him, but I appreciate the insight. I wonder if I unintentionally made him feel that way?click to expand
PAGE 6..talks about "stuff" not a peep about a lap top
arts the spin that it's about the stuff NOT A PEEP ABOUT THE LAP TOP..however can't hide how she really feels about HIM
Posted by aqualady2
I do care about him. Deeply. But I also am not going to sit around and cry about it all the time.
Posted by aqualady2
As for hurting? I have never wanted to hurt him, and will never want to hurt him. I care for him deeply.
PAGE 8 - 4 days later of much whing it's suddenly about the magic lap top
Posted by aqualady2
And what I have there might as well be a pot of gold! 🙂 Granted, most of it is small stuff... toiletries, clothes, miscellaneous items. The one I care the most about getting back is my lap top.
That's why I'm being so... aggressive getting my things. The rest of it can go into the trash for all I care. I just don't want anyone else using them. But that lap top...click to expand
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Posted by aqualady2
Well apparently my stuff was supposed to have been mailed Friday. It's Tuesday and I don't have it. I don't know how they mailed it, or if it was even mailed.
My gut is telling me it's not been mailed. I think he's going to try and call my bluff, but it is the holidays. I've been wrong before when it comes to him.
What do you guys think? Mailed or not? Chalk it up as a loss?
Your bluff?
You think he's going to try and call ...... what bluff?
Posted by aqualady2
But if you look at her interactions with everyone, is she really someone you'd want to take advice from? Yes, sometimes she says the truth, but most of the time she's just bitter. Hence why I blocked her a looong time ago.
If you blocked me a looong time ago, then how do you know my interactions with everyone?
You're just full of lies, aren't you?
Oh, I meant .... bluff
Posted by DMV
This is too much drama over a toothbrush, a dvd, a scarf, an empty box of tampons, half eaten chipotle, a pair of jeans that r2 big anyway, and a spatula. If hes a prick and a cheater, good riddance and it costs you the depreciated value of your stuff. If its small dnough to put in the mail, its small enough to forget about it. If movers have to go get it, that will learn you for next time. Stop leaving your shit.
+1. If you don't have a key to access your stuff, don't leave it in anyone's home, esp someone you're dating, because if it goes sour, then this nonsense happens.
Posted by aqualady2
As for not grabbing it- him and I actually didn't live together officially. I had kept things there, and at the time I didn't see an issue with it, but it made me uncomfortable. Just the weekend prior to our fight he was discussing making adjustments to his home to better accommodate me (on his own free will.) so honestly I had not considered getting my things. That was the last time I was at his house with him.
So, you didn't live with him, but, you had this very important laptop there with you that weekend.
And when you left, you left your laptop ... you know, that one item that you simply cannot be without.
You left ... and left it there.
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