Brutally Honest

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by K-Scorp on Sunday, November 30, 2008 and has 12 replies.

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@K-Scorp
17 YearsScorpio

I speak to a lot of people some love me can't wait for the moment they see me again some afraid i am gonna hurt their feelings telling them things that are hurtful. And others tell me i am an ass and their are not gonna take my shit. When i just see myself being 100 percent honest is brutally honest too honest or should i tell one little white like which is gonna spark a fire of lies and people pleasing to the point where i am back where i started.

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@Roxanne
18 Years500+ Posts

i suggest learning diplomacy. i've put my foot in my mouth too many times to know that it's best just to keep it zipped sometimes ๐Ÿ™‚

i'm not suggesting lying or anything - just not saying anything at all when it's not appropriate.

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@zenalchemy
18 Years5,000+ Posts

^^^ exactly rox.
like thinking, will my input really make a difference to them - because if someone does like the truth, chances are, they won't listen anyway, so is the honesty just for my self-satisfaction, just personal opinion or do i really understand their pov?

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@dogsbody
18 Years1,000+ Posts

"Easy. The last two groups of people are expendible. Cowards and envious. Keep the folks around who enjoy YOU for being YOU. If they can't handle honesty, then they aren't worth being around. Let the fake, hang with the fake.
Stay truthful and be proud of that"

Absolutely - Very Wise and Valuable peice of advice ๐Ÿ™‚

One last thing:
Love the ones who treat you right, forget those who dont ๐Ÿ™‚
But ALWAYS be yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

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@gslove
20 Years500+ Posts

Take a look at yourself and see why it is that you need to be brutally honest. Is it always necessary to say hurtful things to people? Are you really just trying to help them or are you trying to gain power and feel superiority at the expense of hurting others. I really don't think that brutal honesty is necessary in most cases. There is always a tactful way of handling things. You can tell someone something in a gentle way and still get your point across without scarring someone for life.

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@wheelhomies
20 Years10,000+ Posts

i respect someone who is honest, but the minute i see someone being "brutally honest" (a.k.a. purposely bringing someone else down w/insensitivity and callousness) that just screams insecurity.

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@wheelhomies
20 Years10,000+ Posts

it also seems that people who feel they have the right to be brutally honest with others are out-of-touch with reality as they seem to believe that they are somehow beyond criticism. unattractive.

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@K-Scorp
17 YearsScorpio

I respect all your opinions and all but gosh talkin about a straight answer gosh i didn't get 1 JUst kidding i got tons of different perspectives on that subject. And Anyway Yeah The Scorpio i do believe is the King at Dish it out but can't take it. But guess what in the end it only matters if u believe it is important otherwise convincing to someone else that what u believe is important and they should to believe. Its useless cuz everyone has there own perspective of reality.