@pisces_89
9 Years
Confronting a Scorpio about Possible Girlfriend
How to Address Suspected Infidelity in a Scorpio Relationship
If you suspect your Scorpio partner is unfaithful, communicate your concerns honestly and directly. Trust your instincts but avoid accusations without proof. Discuss your feelings calmly and ask for clarity about his intentions and actions. Building trust or deciding to move on depends on open dialogue and mutual understanding.
that's pretty scary stuff ?
lol I'd trust my gut tho if I were you
Posted by pisces_89
I am a Pisces (27 F) and I've been dating a Scoprio man (32) for about 3 months. We've only seen each other once in November and once in December because of traveling (vacation & work), mainly b/c he travels for work internationally. When we saw each other in Nov. I ended up staying overnight at his place. I had a feeling he was also seeing someone else and asked him about it the next morning. He said he wasn't because he was so busy and I joked well you travel internationally a lot you could have girls everywhere. He said no there weren't.Since Nov., I still had this feeling there was someone else, so I googled him and found him Instagram (we never exchanged social media account info). I didn't initially see anything, but something told me to go back and look again and when I did, I saw that there was one girl from Germany pretty consistently liking his posts and after looking at her page, I found they posted the same pic at the same day (of wine at the Louvre) , she had posted about going to NYC(where we both live) for the holidays as well as El Salvador and she had a Flashback Friday pic with the two of them around the time I met him (one of her followers said she loved them together).
Now that he's back in town and we saw each other the other night. I asked about his plans for the holidays and he mentioned his 'mate' from Europe would be coming in town and staying with him and then they'd be off for 2 weeks going to a wedding and traveling in Central America. He never said guy/girl just 'mate', so I dropped it there, but later in the night I was joking with him about something and he said 'my girlfriend said the same thing'. I immediately was shocked and said point blank do you have a girlfriend. He then said would that be a problem and I said yeah if you have someone why are you messing with me?, but then he said he was joking, there was no girlfriend, and the look on my face was hilarious.
As much of a connection we have, I really feel like I should just drop him, because why would a man mention having a girlfriend if he doesn't. Was the reaction really worth it? It's clear to me that the girl from Germany will be in town, which is why we can't hangout during those days, so should I confront him and mention the Instagram page/my 'feeling' about what's going on/ his 'mate' visiting or what? This is clearly my first Scorp experience, sorry for the long post
You hAd answered all of your questions!
You aren't stupid.
Leave his ass and find some other one without 'Yale' attached to it.
Question. Is he THAT good? Lol
Posted by pisces_89
I am a Pisces (27 F) and I've been dating a Scoprio man (32) for about 3 months. We've only seen each other once in November and once in December because of traveling (vacation & work), mainly b/c he travels for work internationally. When we saw each other in Nov. I ended up staying overnight at his place. I had a feeling he was also seeing someone else and asked him about it the next morning. He said he wasn't because he was so busy and I joked well you travel internationally a lot you could have girls everywhere. He said no there weren't.Since Nov., I still had this feeling there was someone else, so I googled him and found him Instagram (we never exchanged social media account info). I didn't initially see anything, but something told me to go back and look again and when I did, I saw that there was one girl from Germany pretty consistently liking his posts and after looking at her page, I found they posted the same pic at the same day (of wine at the Louvre) , she had posted about going to NYC(where we both live) for the holidays as well as El Salvador and she had a Flashback Friday pic with the two of them around the time I met him (one of her followers said she loved them together).
Now that he's back in town and we saw each other the other night. I asked about his plans for the holidays and he mentioned his 'mate' from Europe would be coming in town and staying with him and then they'd be off for 2 weeks going to a wedding and traveling in Central America. He never said guy/girl just 'mate', so I dropped it there, but later in the night I was joking with him about something and he said 'my girlfriend said the same thing'. I immediately was shocked and said point blank do you have a girlfriend. He then said would that be a problem and I said yeah if you have someone why are you messing with me?, but then he said he was joking, there was no girlfriend, and the look on my face was hilarious.
As much of a connection we have, I really feel like I should just drop him, because why would a man mention having a girlfriend if he doesn't. Was the reaction really worth it? It's clear to me that the girl from Germany will be in town, which is why we can't hangout during those days, so should I confront him and mention the Instagram page/my 'feeling' about what's going on/ his 'mate' visiting or what? This is clearly my first Scorp experience, sorry for the long post
You hAd answered all of your questions!
You aren't stupid.
Leave his ass and find some other one without 'Yale' attached to it.
Question. Is he THAT good? Lol
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Lol you answered your own question
Posted by pisces_89
I am a Pisces (27 F) and I've been dating a Scoprio man (32) for about 3 months. We've only seen each other once in November and once in December because of traveling (vacation & work), mainly b/c he travels for work internationally. When we saw each other in Nov. I ended up staying overnight at his place. I had a feeling he was also seeing someone else and asked him about it the next morning. He said he wasn't because he was so busy and I joked well you travel internationally a lot you could have girls everywhere. He said no there weren't.Since Nov., I still had this feeling there was someone else, so I googled him and found him Instagram (we never exchanged social media account info). I didn't initially see anything, but something told me to go back and look again and when I did, I saw that there was one girl from Germany pretty consistently liking his posts and after looking at her page, I found they posted the same pic at the same day (of wine at the Louvre) , she had posted about going to NYC(where we both live) for the holidays as well as El Salvador and she had a Flashback Friday pic with the two of them around the time I met him (one of her followers said she loved them together).
Now that he's back in town and we saw each other the other night. I asked about his plans for the holidays and he mentioned his 'mate' from Europe would be coming in town and staying with him and then they'd be off for 2 weeks going to a wedding and traveling in Central America. He never said guy/girl just 'mate', so I dropped it there, but later in the night I was joking with him about something and he said 'my girlfriend said the same thing'. I immediately was shocked and said point blank do you have a girlfriend. He then said would that be a problem and I said yeah if you have someone why are you messing with me?, but then he said he was joking, there was no girlfriend, and the look on my face was hilarious.
As much of a connection we have, I really feel like I should just drop him, because why would a man mention having a girlfriend if he doesn't. Was the reaction really worth it? It's clear to me that the girl from Germany will be in town, which is why we can't hangout during those days, so should I confront him and mention the Instagram page/my 'feeling' about what's going on/ his 'mate' visiting or what? This is clearly my first Scorp experience, sorry for the long post
You hAd answered all of your questions!
You aren't stupid.
Leave his ass and find some other one without 'Yale' attached to it.
Question. Is he THAT good? Lol
Lol you answered your own question
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You will be surprised!
I will pm ok? Quickly without seduction. Ool
Lol let me rephrase that I think you already know the answer to your question
Posted by pisces_89
I am a Pisces (27 F) and I've been dating a Scoprio man (32) for about 3 months. We've only seen each other once in November and once in December because of traveling (vacation & work), mainly b/c he travels for work internationally. When we saw each other in Nov. I ended up staying overnight at his place. I had a feeling he was also seeing someone else and asked him about it the next morning. He said he wasn't because he was so busy and I joked well you travel internationally a lot you could have girls everywhere. He said no there weren't.Since Nov., I still had this feeling there was someone else, so I googled him and found him Instagram (we never exchanged social media account info). I didn't initially see anything, but something told me to go back and look again and when I did, I saw that there was one girl from Germany pretty consistently liking his posts and after looking at her page, I found they posted the same pic at the same day (of wine at the Louvre) , she had posted about going to NYC(where we both live) for the holidays as well as El Salvador and she had a Flashback Friday pic with the two of them around the time I met him (one of her followers said she loved them together).
Now that he's back in town and we saw each other the other night. I asked about his plans for the holidays and he mentioned his 'mate' from Europe would be coming in town and staying with him and then they'd be off for 2 weeks going to a wedding and traveling in Central America. He never said guy/girl just 'mate', so I dropped it there, but later in the night I was joking with him about something and he said 'my girlfriend said the same thing'. I immediately was shocked and said point blank do you have a girlfriend. He then said would that be a problem and I said yeah if you have someone why are you messing with me?, but then he said he was joking, there was no girlfriend, and the look on my face was hilarious.
As much of a connection we have, I really feel like I should just drop him, because why would a man mention having a girlfriend if he doesn't. Was the reaction really worth it? It's clear to me that the girl from Germany will be in town, which is why we can't hangout during those days, so should I confront him and mention the Instagram page/my 'feeling' about what's going on/ his 'mate' visiting or what? This is clearly my first Scorp experience, sorry for the long post
You hAd answered all of your questions!
You aren't stupid.
Leave his ass and find some other one without 'Yale' attached to it.
Question. Is he THAT good? Lol
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Lol, idk. I was definitely pulled in by the Scorpio-Pisces connection-it's real! He's very charming and outgoing, overall great guy, but you're right I answered my own questions. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't the only one seeing flags.
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.
Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
"He then said would that be a problem"
why pretend? say YES, drop one.
Drop the other chick a message telling her that her boyfriend has been seeing you for the past 3 months. Out-Scorpio the dude haha.
If it's like this after three months... sketchy, insecure, unsure, vague, not to mention you haven't actually seen each other for half of the three months... then what's the point?
Don't flog a dead horse. How's it going to get any better? Where on earth do you go from here with him? Nowhere.
The girlfriend thing wasn't good. He let that slip. Regardless, it's clearly not working the way you want. When you pictured embarking upon a relationship did it look like this? No.
You have no connection. You just think you do. Leave him alone and date someone you match better with.
Posted by Ssuperman
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
I actually kind of agree with parts of this.
It doesn't sound like you two were serious in the first place. I also get the feeling by the way you prefaced/explained your time together that you probably already knew this wasn't heading anywhere serious. He was probably being vague about other women because he was concerned you would become a bit clingy...which he wasn't entirely wrong about.
My personal opinion about these sorts of arrangements aside...You're definitely the side chick. You either break it off or accept it.
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True-we definitely weren't serious . I guess I let the snooping take over, once I started feeling that their could be someone else and was concerned about it being a longterm relationship.
Posted by Ssuperman
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
Men did!
But than they met a woman.
So crap should stop! Or do you want keep your all kitties waiting for your 'banging' schedule? That's good for you but she might opposed!
Posted by Ssuperman
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
I actually kind of agree with parts of this.
It doesn't sound like you two were serious in the first place. I also get the feeling by the way you prefaced/explained your time together that you probably already knew this wasn't heading anywhere serious. He was probably being vague about other women because he was concerned you would become a bit clingy...which he wasn't entirely wrong about.
My personal opinion about these sorts of arrangements aside...You're definitely the side chick. You either break it off or accept it.
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You are sloooooow
Posted by Ssuperman
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
I actually kind of agree with parts of this.
It doesn't sound like you two were serious in the first place. I also get the feeling by the way you prefaced/explained your time together that you probably already knew this wasn't heading anywhere serious. He was probably being vague about other women because he was concerned you would become a bit clingy...which he wasn't entirely wrong about.
My personal opinion about these sorts of arrangements aside...You're definitely the side chick. You either break it off or accept it.
You are sloooooow
There, there....
*Pats head*
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I thought your head gets patting without me involved
Posted by Ssuperman
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
I actually kind of agree with parts of this.
It doesn't sound like you two were serious in the first place. I also get the feeling by the way you prefaced/explained your time together that you probably already knew this wasn't heading anywhere serious. He was probably being vague about other women because he was concerned you would become a bit clingy...which he wasn't entirely wrong about.
My personal opinion about these sorts of arrangements aside...You're definitely the side chick. You either break it off or accept it.
You are sloooooow
There, there....
*Pats head*
I thought your head gets patting without me involved
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LAughingy ass off!
Just saw ALL on channel 252 Comcast!
I know we love us!
I love you
You love me
We are laughing
Our asses off...
Lol
Posted by Ssuperman
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
I actually kind of agree with parts of this.
It doesn't sound like you two were serious in the first place. I also get the feeling by the way you prefaced/explained your time together that you probably already knew this wasn't heading anywhere serious. He was probably being vague about other women because he was concerned you would become a bit clingy...which he wasn't entirely wrong about.
My personal opinion about these sorts of arrangements aside...You're definitely the side chick. You either break it off or accept it.
You are sloooooow
There, there....
*Pats head*
I thought your head gets patting without me involved
LAughingy ass off!
Just saw ALL on channel 252 Comcast!
I know we love us!
I love you
You love me
We are laughing
Our asses off...
Lol
You should start collecting these poems. I see a Dadaist masterpiece in your future.
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Hahahaha!
You are a hoot!
I am following your advise.
When someone pisses me off
and I write some crap I will save it!
Lol
Posted by Ssuperman
Doesn't sound like y'all are even dating.Doesn't even sound like y'all are at least FWB.
Already snooping on the man. People do have lives before they meet you.
He should dump you for invading his privacy before things get out of hand
I actually kind of agree with parts of this.
It doesn't sound like you two were serious in the first place. I also get the feeling by the way you prefaced/explained your time together that you probably already knew this wasn't heading anywhere serious. He was probably being vague about other women because he was concerned you would become a bit clingy...which he wasn't entirely wrong about.
My personal opinion about these sorts of arrangements aside...You're definitely the side chick. You either break it off or accept it.
True-we definitely weren't serious . I guess I let the snooping take over, once I started feeling that their could be someone else and was concerned about it being a longterm relationship.
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Them feelz are brutal. Don't let them consume you. Also, don't let these people telling you what to do affect you either. All these people telling you to out him, they probably wouldn't either. No need to be viscous until there's a reason to be. You don't know all the facts either.
Use cute nicknames such as "Fam" "bro" "homie" "dick" "call me one more Fu ccking time and I swear to God" "f uccckk off"
Things like that !! 10/10 would recommend
Lawl you're only dating him yet you are stalking him already. *BPD alert*
Posted by Taurasian
Lawl you're only dating him yet you are stalking him already. *BPD alert*Give her a break, the dude was doing her wrong.. if she never snooped around, he would still be playing her like a fiddle while she devotes herself to him.
It's not right. Some men think it's okay to get away with shitty behavior like this.
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you are another crazy wimmin
Never felt any kind of connection with scorps. My question is do you (Pisces) really like being submissive? I'm pisces too but sometimes I feel something's not right with me.
As for your question there's not much to discuss about. He's fooling you, be smart and plan something. I would go after him the day she arrives at the airport, would take pictures of their meeting, then get a taxi and go to his apartment. Wait for a while and knock on the door, something tells me they will be naked lol. So then you can assume he's got a gf.
Also have your pics ready, printed out. Taken together, sexier the better, in every and any kind of position lol
you can give her as a gift and tell he can't be trusted and that he's a biggest cheater asshole
If you're not traveling with him or going to weddings then I would consider your relationship as one sided and maybe a FWB type of situation.
Your womanly intuition is telling you that he is not that in to you.
Posted by Hare
Stop wasting your energy...Just dump the guy.Punish him first..then dump 🙂
Why?
Are you a petulant child or an adult?
You can't do shit on me and not expect some drama...sorry. That's not who I am...it would be lying to say otherwise. Cheat on me = Expect meltdown...
And you can expect to stay single.
Why? Who is reading? And what's wrong with being single?
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Lol. Saying the crazy you are where nobody can see it.
Oh honey, sorry to hear!
I was in the same situation back in 2012/2013. that leo was also doin international business and I noticed some girl commenting some undenieable shit on his pics when he was in the states for business. I asked him if he slept with her - he declined. Ehm... my stupid ass kept seeing him lol red flags all over the fucking place!
I had to learn it the hard way. If you continue then you'll have to go through as well. If it looks like a duck, sounds and walks like a duck - its a duck.
Posted by Astrology101
People who are admonishing you for looking up his instagram account... forget emYou had a hunch... and it was right. If you hadn't done something for yourself... you would have ended up with a broken heart.. a year later? 2 years later.. who knows how long he can play along.
He's basically cheating on his gf. smh. Plus I think he might be dating girls around the world like you mentioned....
I would not contact this guy... or even contact his gf like some mentioned.... just check up his instagram again after he goes for his trip.. and the evidence for the truth you know will be there.
You dodged a bullet. Consider yourself lucky and drop him.
Thanks. I'm going to go completely no contact with him, won't contact his girlfriend either just not my personality. I'll check his instagram again and I'm sure like you said the proof will be there.
I do feel fortunate this happened so soon and not 1 year or 2 down the line. It's disappointing but definitely dodged a bullet! If he can do it to her, he can definitely do it to me.
Posted by pisces_89
I am a Pisces (27 F) and I've been dating a Scoprio man (32) for about 3 months. We've only seen each other once in November and once in December because of traveling (vacation & work), mainly b/c he travels for work internationally. When we saw each other in Nov. I ended up staying overnight at his place. I had a feeling he was also seeing someone else and asked him about it the next morning. He said he wasn't because he was so busy and I joked well you travel internationally a lot you could have girls everywhere. He said no there weren't.Since Nov., I still had this feeling there was someone else, so I googled him and found him Instagram (we never exchanged social media account info). I didn't initially see anything, but something told me to go back and look again and when I did, I saw that there was one girl from Germany pretty consistently liking his posts and after looking at her page, I found they posted the same pic at the same day (of wine at the Louvre) , she had posted about going to NYC(where we both live) for the holidays as well as El Salvador and she had a Flashback Friday pic with the two of them around the time I met him (one of her followers said she loved them together).
Now that he's back in town and we saw each other the other night. I asked about his plans for the holidays and he mentioned his 'mate' from Europe would be coming in town and staying with him and then they'd be off for 2 weeks going to a wedding and traveling in Central America. He never said guy/girl just 'mate', so I dropped it there, but later in the night I was joking with him about something and he said 'my girlfriend said the same thing'. I immediately was shocked and said point blank do you have a girlfriend. He then said would that be a problem and I said yeah if you have someone why are you messing with me?, but then he said he was joking, there was no girlfriend, and the look on my face was hilarious.
As much of a connection we have, I really feel like I should just drop him, because why would a man mention having a girlfriend if he doesn't. Was the reaction really worth it? It's clear to me that the girl from Germany will be in town, which is why we can't hangout during those days, so should I confront him and mention the Instagram page/my 'feeling' about what's going on/ his 'mate' visiting or what? This is clearly my first Scorp experience, sorry for the long post
You haven't written anything that convinces me he has a girlfriend vs screwing around with multiple people. Scorps don't let things "slip". Rather than drag this out though, I'd say "confront" him and move on.
Posted by Hare
Stop wasting your energy...Just dump the guy.Punish him first..then dump 🙂
Why?
Are you a petulant child or an adult?
You can't do shit on me and not expect some drama...sorry. That's not who I am...it would be lying to say otherwise. Cheat on me = Expect meltdown...
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If you can go back to the OP for a moment, since this is about her issue, what "sh*t did he do" to her and at what point did he cheat on her given they weren't in a relationship?
Girl, come on now? It sounds like you two had a fling and now his woman is back on the scene. It's not algebra.
You two are dating but he only saw you once in November and once in December. How often did you Skype? It doesn't sound like he saw you two dating at all. It sounds like he needed to get laid.
Posted by Hamburgers
You two are dating but he only saw you once in November and once in December. How often did you Skype? It doesn't sound like he saw you two dating at all. It sounds like he needed to get laid.
Yeah b/c of travel only once in Nov and then once recently in December. We were in pretty consistent contact during these months with messaging and calls.
It's not worth wasting any more time on this guy. It's clear it's not who or what you're looking for. Three months is MORE than enough time to test the waters with someone to see how things roll. It's also not too much time to get too attached and involved.
It doesn't sound like there's enough here between you to bother with. You've caught slack from people here for checking out his social media but but that's just common sense. The issue here can be you may not be getting an accurate story.
The guy is barely making himself available to you for whatever reason. Does that suit what you want?
Forget this other girl for now and think about what you are looking for right now. What do you want? Relationship, dating, friends, FWB, single life?
There's so many guys out there to choose from who are likely to match with you far better than this guy.
You can either forget about him or continue waiting about for this guy.
Life is too short. If it's not working out for you then change it.
Posted by AgentP911
It's not worth wasting any more time on this guy. It's clear it's not who or what you're looking for. Three months is MORE than enough time to test the waters with someone to see how things roll. It's also not too much time to get too attached and involved.It doesn't sound like there's enough here between you to bother with. You've caught slack from people here for checking out his social media but but that's just common sense. The issue here can be you may not be getting an accurate story.
The guy is barely making himself available to you for whatever reason. Does that suit what you want?
Forget this other girl for now and think about what you are looking for right now. What do you want? Relationship, dating, friends, FWB, single life?
There's so many guys out there to choose from who are likely to match with you far better than this guy.
You can either forget about him or continue waiting about for this guy.
Life is too short. If it's not working out for you then change it.
Thank you, AgentP911... You actually addressed some of the things I've been personally experiencing. Appreciate your words.
You know the answer to this. Just quietly delete and block his number and move on with life.
Posted by AgentP911
It's not worth wasting any more time on this guy. It's clear it's not who or what you're looking for. Three months is MORE than enough time to test the waters with someone to see how things roll. It's also not too much time to get too attached and involved.It doesn't sound like there's enough here between you to bother with. You've caught slack from people here for checking out his social media but but that's just common sense. The issue here can be you may not be getting an accurate story.
The guy is barely making himself available to you for whatever reason. Does that suit what you want?
Forget this other girl for now and think about what you are looking for right now. What do you want? Relationship, dating, friends, FWB, single life?
There's so many guys out there to choose from who are likely to match with you far better than this guy.
You can either forget about him or continue waiting about for this guy.
Life is too short. If it's not working out for you then change it.
Thank you, AgentP911... You actually addressed some of the things I've been personally experiencing. Appreciate your words.
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You're welcome!
Been there, done that, learnt the hard way so if I've helped you get some perspective then great! My work here is done —
Posted by AgentP911
It's not worth wasting any more time on this guy. It's clear it's not who or what you're looking for. Three months is MORE than enough time to test the waters with someone to see how things roll. It's also not too much time to get too attached and involved.It doesn't sound like there's enough here between you to bother with. You've caught slack from people here for checking out his social media but but that's just common sense. The issue here can be you may not be getting an accurate story.
The guy is barely making himself available to you for whatever reason. Does that suit what you want?
Forget this other girl for now and think about what you are looking for right now. What do you want? Relationship, dating, friends, FWB, single life?
There's so many guys out there to choose from who are likely to match with you far better than this guy.
You can either forget about him or continue waiting about for this guy.
Life is too short. If it's not working out for you then change it.
Thank you, AgentP911... You actually addressed some of the things I've been personally experiencing. Appreciate your words.
You're welcome!
Been there, done that, learnt the hard way so if I've helped you get some perspective then great! My work here is done —
This ----> "The guy is barely making himself available to you for whatever reason. Does that suit what you want?"
Was very much of what I was dealing with from the Scorpio guy that I've been on again/off again with. I think that some people credit this to just a typical Scorpio trait. I think it's much deeper than that not to mention unfair to the person they acting out in this way, with.
This guy, I believe, is unevolved, possibly bi-polar, possibly a sociopath, definitely depressed.
The constant getting close, freaking out, then distancing... This not the quality of relationship that I'm looking for. I don't believe that it should be this hard or hurtful. It is certainly insensitive and I can't imagine if the roles were reversed that the Scorpio would be appreciative or accepting of those terms.
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Posted by AgentP911
It's not worth wasting any more time on this guy. It's clear it's not who or what you're looking for. Three months is MORE than enough time to test the waters with someone to see how things roll. It's also not too much time to get too attached and involved.It doesn't sound like there's enough here between you to bother with. You've caught slack from people here for checking out his social media but but that's just common sense. The issue here can be you may not be getting an accurate story.
The guy is barely making himself available to you for whatever reason. Does that suit what you want?
Forget this other girl for now and think about what you are looking for right now. What do you want? Relationship, dating, friends, FWB, single life?
There's so many guys out there to choose from who are likely to match with you far better than this guy.
You can either forget about him or continue waiting about for this guy.
Life is too short. If it's not working out for you then change it.
Thank you, AgentP911... You actually addressed some of the things I've been personally experiencing. Appreciate your words.
You're welcome!
Been there, done that, learnt the hard way so if I've helped you get some perspective then great! My work here is done —
This ----> "The guy is barely making himself available to you for whatever reason. Does that suit what you want?"
Was very much of what I was dealing with from the Scorpio guy that I've been on again/off again with. I think that some people credit this to just a typical Scorpio trait. I think it's much deeper than that not to mention unfair to the person they acting out in this way, with.
This guy, I believe, is unevolved, possibly bi-polar, possibly a sociopath, definitely depressed.
The constant getting close, freaking out, then distancing... This not the quality of relationship that I'm looking for. I don't believe that it should be this hard or hurtful. It is certainly insensitive and I can't imagine if the roles were reversed that the Scorpio would be appreciative or accepting of those terms.
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Unevolved
Bi-polar
Sociopath
Depressed
Those are just his good bits, eh!
Those are not going to be on anyone's list when looking to meet and date someone. It shouldn't be hard or hurtful at all. No one would want to be on the receiving end of all those 'qualities' plus the on/off AND the getting close and freaking out shit. I mean, wtf is all that about when it's at home.
Wtf would any future look like with this person except more of the same, if not worse shit. It's tiring.
That's different to already being with someone and then dealing with issues as they crop up even if it is something like depression. At least you've already been able to build a relationship so you have more foundation there to support you both.
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I am a Pisces (27 F) and I've been dating a Scoprio man (32) for about 3 months. We've only seen each other once in November and once in December because of traveling (vacation & work), mainly b/c he travels for work internationally. When we saw each other in Nov. I ended up staying overnight at his place. I had a feeling he was also seeing someone else and asked him about it the next morning. He said he wasn't because he was so busy and I joked well you travel internationally a lot you could have girls everywhere. He said no there weren't.
Since Nov., I still had this feeling there was someone else, so I googled him and found him Instagram (we never exchanged social media account info). I didn't initially see anything, but something told me to go back and look again and when I did, I saw that there was one girl from Germany pretty consistently liking his posts and after looking at her page, I found they posted the same pic at the same day (of wine at the Louvre) , she had posted about going to NYC(where we both live) for the holidays as well as El Salvador and she had a Flashback Friday pic with the two of them around the time I met him (one of her followers said she loved them together).
Now that he's back in town and we saw each other the other night. I asked about his plans for the holidays and he mentioned his 'mate' from Europe would be coming in town and staying with him and then they'd be off for 2 weeks going to a wedding and traveling in Central America. He never said guy/girl just 'mate', so I dropped it there, but later in the night I was joking with him about something and he said 'my girlfriend said the same thing'. I immediately was shocked and said point blank do you have a girlfriend. He then said would that be a problem and I said yeah if you have someone why are you messing with me?, but then he said he was joking, there was no girlfriend, and the look on my face was hilarious.
As much of a connection we have, I really feel like I should just drop him, because why would a man mention having a girlfriend if he doesn't. Was the reaction really worth it? It's clear to me that the girl from Germany will be in town, which is why we can't hangout during those days, so should I confront him and mention the Instagram page/my 'feeling' about what's going on/ his 'mate' visiting or what? This is clearly my first Scorp experience, sorry for the long post