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STAY STRONG.

Posted by BlondeAmbition
STAY STRONG.

I know. You're absolutely right. I am stronger than this.
I'm so disappointed he turned out to be that guy and deep down I was almost willing it not to be true.
I thought he would at least come back for a fighting chance.
Oh well.

Why is this even a question? He lied about having someone else in the wings. Then you sank to his level. He's an asshole who inspired you to be a bitch. Practice aversion therapy.

Posted by Gennie
Why is this even a question? He lied about having someone else in the wings. Then you sank to his level. He's an asshole who inspired you to be a bitch. Practice aversion therapy.

His level would be an entirely different thing so can we have some perspective here with out being offensive.

Posted by Gennie
Why is this even a question? He lied about having someone else in the wings. Then you sank to his level. He's an asshole who inspired you to be a bitch. Practice aversion therapy.

Aversion therapy does sound interesting though.

Posted by LibWman

Posted by Gennie
Why is this even a question? He lied about having someone else in the wings. Then you sank to his level. He's an asshole who inspired you to be a bitch. Practice aversion therapy.

His level would be an entirely different thing so can we have some perspective here with out being offensive.

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I'm pointing out the fact that you have much more going for you, than to waste time on the lying asshole. So why indulge in something that is blatantly beneath you.

Posted by starlover
""I absolutely 100 per cent stand by the fact that he did something really sick. That he was wrong. That he is a liar.
Yet I keep feeling an emotional pull towards him"".


Try and go for some kind of therapy.....there is something inside of you that is drawn to that which is very harmful to you

Additionally, keep reading those words over and over

It will sink in eventually



Good luck

I think you're right about needing to read those words over and over again.
I know I'm strong enough to not contact him again but I think i need to have some perspective and not let my emotions get in the way of what the reality of the situation is.
Thank you though.

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Posted by LibWman

Posted by Gennie
Why is this even a question? He lied about having someone else in the wings. Then you sank to his level. He's an asshole who inspired you to be a bitch. Practice aversion therapy.

His level would be an entirely different thing so can we have some perspective here with out being offensive.

I'm pointing out the fact that you have much more going for you, than to waste time on the lying asshole. So why indulge in something that is blatantly beneath you.

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You're right
I may just be letting my emotions get in the way.
Need to have perspective.

Do whatever you have to do to stay away from this man, just don't do this to yourself. It will pass, do something good for yourself to distract yourself from someone who is so obviously not good for you. I know this is easier said than done.

Therapy? What for? So someone you pay a shit load of money to can listen to your whining and pretend you have something 'wrong' with you and they will 'fix' you for the right fee! Just use DXP to dump your shit on. It's great! Ignore him as you've been doing. Go do other stuff. Your intensity will go eventually and so will your imagined pull.

Anyway, why would you want someone who is a dickhead.

You'll live!

Posted by LibWman
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He lied about not having an on and off relationship.
He lied numerous times when I gave him a chance to come clean.

In my anger I tried to make him a little jealous

but then decided to let it go completely and block him out.
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You should've blocked him out after the FIRST lie. Ask yourself why you didn't and why you'd thought making him jealous would fix him.

*you, not you'd

Posted by GetMisted

Ask her why she felt the need to play games.

~sigh~ I did with my response.

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Posted by AgentP911
Therapy? What for? So someone you pay a shit load of money to can listen to your whining and pretend you have something 'wrong' with you and they will 'fix' you for the right fee! Just use DXP to dump your shit on. It's great! Ignore him as you've been doing. Go do other stuff. Your intensity will go eventually and so will your imagined pull.

Anyway, why would you want someone who is a dickhead.

You'll live!

It worked for me


🙂

I was droning onto my friends and could see i was going around in circles, so decided to get some professional guidance

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I have four friends who are therapists (psychologists/councillors/life coaches) and they drone on to me about how pathetic their clients are and how they have to sit there listening to their self indulgent bullshit. Sure, they give them help but maybe it's a British thing, shhhh we don't talk about our shit!