Confusing scorp

So... On Thursday I wanted to see scorp so we made a plan and I ended up waiting for him for 2 hours. So I messaged him saying I would see him another time (because i was upset) . He said "I wanna see you" So I said another time. He put a sad smiley.

I called him an hr later and said I really wanted to see you and i was waiting for 2 hours. He said "I know". Then he said I know what I'm going to do.

I went out dancing with a friend and 2 hours after that scorp calls me and he asks where are you. and that he had been driving up and down looking for roses to surprise me with but couldnt find any.

so i begin to tell him i just cant deal with this, he's so complicated etc etc because it had been a while that i was trying to see him and he just didnt seem to want to see me.

i sent him a message after i came home saying that he should have told me that he wasnt emotionally available and that i did not deserve how he treated me, hiding thing, lying not putting out effort etc and that i wished him all the best and hope he finds what he's looking for.

he didn't respond and it has been 5 days.

i saw him at work and i said hi and he gave me a soft intense only for me look and said hi.

still no contact, no response, nothing.

has he lost interest and just didnt want to tell me?

Going through the same thing! Anxious to see answers.

Games, tests and lust?

What does that mean?

Posted by geminigirl23

i sent him a message after i came home saying that he should have told me that he wasnt emotionally available and that i did not deserve how he treated me, hiding thing, lying not putting out effort etc and that i wished him all the best and hope he finds what he's looking for.

His no contact speaks volumes. The above is like a 'goodbye' which he probably did not like and decided to not respond. I do this sometimes when I'm bothered, I don't even answer.

Not saying it's right, but you did basically wish him well. As for the games, I don't know you but I do know that Gems play some serious games that are rediculous. My gem girl friend- I had to call her out because she is too grown to be playing games that she is trying to "date". Play with a Scorp and that is what you get back. Best bet is to ignore him till he comes back, if he's still interested.

I see what you're saying about upper hand..

But what i want to understand is why not respond even to say "ok whatever, have a nice life"


i mean doesnt he think it would be an obvious lie about the roses?

When he came into my office suite, at first he walked really far away from my desk like he wanted to avoid me.

And at first i was ignoring him but then i said hi and he seemed like he was coming over to me and he just responded saying hi.

and then he seemed more normal after that.


the times before i have ended it, and he would message back saying i want the relationship etc.

so him not responding now, does it mean he's like whatever it's done?


and then no contact or anything 5 days in??


so how would i know he's still interested esp since he didn't respond to that last text?

So him not responding this time is a pretty good sign that he's done.

why not respond then and say, fine see ya?

i will admit..it has been my gem tendency to be back and forth ...

i would usually try to sort things out after tho..and i havent messaged or called..

him not responding is leaving it open-ended...or is it final?

He was looking for roses... Oh look, he didn't find any... Funny that... All words no action. As the others say, it's all crap. If you ended it then end it. Just because he didn't text back 'ok' it doesn't mean anything.

Posted by geminigirl23
So... On Thursday I wanted to see scorp so we made a plan and I ended up waiting for him for 2 hours. So I messaged him saying I would see him another time (because i was upset) . He said "I wanna see you" So I said another time. He put a sad smiley.

I called him an hr later and said I really wanted to see you and i was waiting for 2 hours. He said "I know". Then he said I know what I'm going to do.

I went out dancing with a friend and 2 hours after that scorp calls me and he asks where are you. and that he had been driving up and down looking for roses to surprise me with but couldnt find any.

so i begin to tell him i just cant deal with this, he's so complicated etc etc because it had been a while that i was trying to see him and he just didnt seem to want to see me.

i sent him a message after i came home saying that he should have told me that he wasnt emotionally available and that i did not deserve how he treated me, hiding thing, lying not putting out effort etc and that i wished him all the best and hope he finds what he's looking for.

he didn't respond and it has been 5 days.

i saw him at work and i said hi and he gave me a soft intense only for me look and said hi.

still no contact, no response, nothing.

has he lost interest and just didnt want to tell me?

Wtf? And he's the one making things complicated...basically you tried to manipulate a response from him and it didn't work. Someone should have given you the Scorp manual. Smh....

Posted by Impulsv
Who cares if he lost interest U spoke ur truth stand by it. U lost interest!!!

Exactly. Unless she full of it.

^^^^ and here we go with the real motive:

Posted by geminigirl23

the times before i have ended it, and he would message back saying i want the relationship etc.

so him not responding now, does it mean he's like whatever it's done?

and then no contact or anything 5 days in??

so how would i know he's still interested esp since he didn't respond to that last text?

Meh. If you wanted the man to step correctly then state that. If you're telling him it's done, then mean it and make him earn that spot in your life back. This^^^ will just get you many months of the same crap. You're playing yourself and he's treating like in a similar fashion. Anyway, good luck wth this.

*you

Posted by Reincarnation
He would chase you aggressively if he were committed to having you.

+1000000000 so many zeros.

Posted by geminigirl23
So... On Thursday I wanted to see scorp so we made a plan and I ended up waiting for him for 2 hours. So I messaged him saying I would see him another time (because i was upset) . He said "I wanna see you" So I said another time. He put a sad smiley.

I called him an hr later and said I really wanted to see you and i was waiting for 2 hours. He said "I know". Then he said I know what I'm going to do.

I went out dancing with a friend and 2 hours after that scorp calls me and he asks where are you. and that he had been driving up and down looking for roses to surprise me with but couldnt find any.

so i begin to tell him i just cant deal with this, he's so complicated etc etc because it had been a while that i was trying to see him and he just didnt seem to want to see me.

i sent him a message after i came home saying that he should have told me that he wasnt emotionally available and that i did not deserve how he treated me, hiding thing, lying not putting out effort etc and that i wished him all the best and hope he finds what he's looking for.

he didn't respond and it has been 5 days.

i saw him at work and i said hi and he gave me a soft intense only for me look and said hi.

still no contact, no response, nothing.

has he lost interest and just didnt want to tell me?

Never ceases to amaze me how SOME women so desperately will do anything to get the attention of a guy or still desperately wants the guy who treats them like shit especially after acknowledging the guys behavior. Pathetic.

Posted by geminigirl23
So... On Thursday I wanted to see scorp so we made a plan and I ended up waiting for him for 2 hours. So I messaged him saying I would see him another time (because i was upset) . He said "I wanna see you" So I said another time. He put a sad smiley.

I called him an hr later and said I really wanted to see you and i was waiting for 2 hours. He said "I know". Then he said I know what I'm going to do.

I went out dancing with a friend and 2 hours after that scorp calls me and he asks where are you. and that he had been driving up and down looking for roses to surprise me with but couldnt find any.

so i begin to tell him i just cant deal with this, he's so complicated etc etc because it had been a while that i was trying to see him and he just didnt seem to want to see me.

i sent him a message after i came home saying that he should have told me that he wasnt emotionally available and that i did not deserve how he treated me, hiding thing, lying not putting out effort etc and that i wished him all the best and hope he finds what he's looking for.

he didn't respond and it has been 5 days.

i saw him at work and i said hi and he gave me a soft intense only for me look and said hi.

still no contact, no response, nothing.

has he lost interest and just didnt want to tell me?

Most I would wait is one hour then I would be outta there. Off to a bar, a friend's house, somewhere other than where he would find me. Then, I definitely wouldn't contact him. His loss. I refuse to tolerate being stood up. Neither should you. Maybe give him another chance if he had a valid reason, but I would be leery from then on.

Saw Scorp today...

he came into my work suite and he walked past as usual, then he stopped a little way from my desk and his body was turned towards me and i was about to say hi and when i looked at his face his eyes were averted so i didn't say anything...

i wanted to reach out but he just had on a blank expression as usual.

why are you scorps so good with the blank expressions?!!

you are so hard to read!!

Posted by geminigirl23

why are you scorps so good with the blank expressions?!!

you are so hard to read!!

..most of the responses by Scorps in this thread are easy to comprehend for the average person.
The blank expression means you've been kicked into the shitter. Question is are you going to continue to flail about in the shitter or climb out and gain some self respect?

Blank expression = no reaction to you = move on.

Just an interpretation as a nonscorpio, on the outside looking in.

Posted by truecap
Blank expression = no reaction to you = move on.

Just an interpretation as a nonscorpio, on the outside looking in.

Scorpio or not, you're right about this.

Soo...I called scorp on thursday and he was very receptive asking me how I was. He seemed really attentive. We chatted for a bit and he asked me "what do you want" so i asked in terms of what? and he asked if i still wanted to try me and him or if i was done. So i told him that for me, i needed to see him more and that wouldnt change for me. and that i suppose him being busy all the time and not needing to see the person he was with wasnt something that would change.

to which he replied..you may be surprised.

I told him i still liked him that that hadn't changed.

so later on at like 12am he messaged me saying "hi".

the next day neither of us spoke to each other.

then yesterday he messaged me saying "hey..how r u"

and there has been nothing since..i havent messaged him and he hasnt messaged me.

he seemed to be still wanting a relationship with me...so what is he waiting for? why is he sitting on his laurels?

why do you keep calling him initiating?
Honey, hes gaming you. he enjoys fucking with your emotions he's feeding off it and humiliating you. I would be more worried about my reputation at work. The fact he avoided you now this game? He sounds very immature and what hes doing is cruel Im sure its hard to see from your vantage point but maybe you should consider to put a self protection/self respect suit on.

Good lord. There's nothing confusing about his behaviour...stop allowing him to be the puppet master.

Find someone else who is at least decent or take the time to work on yourself so that in future you won't put up with such disrespectful behaviour.

Midnight calls/texts? Fishing.

Also disrespectful.