Could he start liking me again?

we dated briefly in early 2016. He liked me a lot but things fizzled out mostly because I was a virgin and not as talkative as he would have liked. He also had some problems in his life and so he gave me the "i'm not ready to date line" at the end of that summer and said "if I'm going to date anyone, I'm going to date you." That was clearly a lie. He wanted to be friends but I cut him off for a while which wasn't that easy since we work together. for about 5 months, we were very hostile towards each other.. he'd always say something to hurt me (like making jokes about dumping me) and i'd say something hurtful back.

Beginning of this year, he started dating another coworker (Scorpio) and they are still together. I didn't know they lasted this long because they stopped acting "coupley" several months ago. I found out because his best friend asked what I think of them and if it bothers me that they are dating. I instead asked him about her and he said she's very submissive and takes care of him but also gives him a lot of space which he likes. I asked him if they were casual and he said "oh definitely..for sure". Not sure how casual it is though if they've been dating for about a year.

He used to make comments about my quiet personality but the times that I've been around her, she hasn't been much of a talker either. Him and I are on good terms now. No more hostility or tension. I texted him for his birthday early November and when i saw him the next day he said he was surprised I remembered. That was the first time we texted in months and haven't texted since. There are little things he'll say that will confuse me.

For example, when we first started hanging out again he would often ask me how much I miss them (him and his friend) and I was recently hanging out with him and his friend and he turned to his friend and said how much do you miss hanging out with her? (implying that he also missed me). or one time he's friend made a joke about me being dumped (the same joke my ex would make a year ago) and my ex shut him down and said don't say that in front of her. which was really out of character for him. and if the 4 of us (his girl included) hang out during lunch, he'll repeatedly ask my opinion about something or if his girl shows him a funny picture on his phone he tells her to show me too. He also had posted a picture on Instagram that I hadn't seen and he took out his phone just to show me.

I know these examples are all very little things but it's actually a big change from where we were a while ago. I have a feeling that there is something there but I'm not sure if it's my gut telling me he likes me or if my heart is just hoping he does.

Op what's ur sign ??

uhhh, he has a girlfriend LOL kick rocks homegirl. He's probably just over the hostility because he has moved on and there's not anger, if there's no feelings. He brings his gf around you..... I think you're looking wayyy into something that just isn't. If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you not her.

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Op what's ur sign ??

I'm a Cancer

Posted by lesenfantterribles
i agree with @wildflower

my read is:

remembering his birthday made it seem like you cared. it may have softened him into bringing you back into his life. he sticks up for you & makes sure you are included in conversation, even trying to make you feel comf around his new gf.

he HAS A GIRLFRIEND of ~1 year & brings her around which is not the sign of someone liking you.

i dont understand why you would continue hanging out with this dude when you still have feelings for him & he has a girlfriend. i think it is time you moved on from him (and his girlfriend).

She's not his girlfriend though.. that's the thing. It's a casual thing.. he'd always talk about wanting a convenient hookup and well she's that. and He's doesn't bring her around. We all work together and have lunch at the same place. If she's hanging out with us it's because I'm already with the guys and she just comes to our table. If anything, he actually acts very distant with her if I'm around

Also remembering his birthday happened after all of this.. I wouldn't have texted him if we weren't on good terms already.

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Posted by nimi24
if she's hanging out with us it's because I'm already with the guys and she just comes to our table. If anything, he actually acts very distant with her if I'm around

you sound a lil possessive, tbh. the language you use to describe the situation seems very YOU centric . as if you are trying to compete with the other gal for his attention? or prove to us that he does actually like you?

either way, i call reaching

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lol and how exactly would you like me to say it? if we are literally already together when another person comes because we literally work together and we're literally sitting at the same table...?

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Posted by nimi24
if she's hanging out with us it's because I'm already with the guys and she just comes to our table. If anything, he actually acts very distant with her if I'm around

you sound a lil possessive, tbh. the language you use to describe the situation seems very YOU centric . as if you are trying to compete with the other gal for his attention? or prove to us that he does actually like you?

either way, i call reaching

lol and how exactly would you like me to say it? if we are literally already together when another person comes because we literally work together and we're literally sitting at the same table...?

ah, ok i just saw that you were a cancer. i get it now.

regardless, move on. he doesn't sound interested.

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Just saw that you were cancer... 😂😂

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Posted by nimi24
if she's hanging out with us it's because I'm already with the guys and she just comes to our table. If anything, he actually acts very distant with her if I'm around

you sound a lil possessive, tbh. the language you use to describe the situation seems very YOU centric . as if you are trying to compete with the other gal for his attention? or prove to us that he does actually like you?

either way, i call reaching

lol and how exactly would you like me to say it? if we are literally already together when another person comes because we literally work together and we're literally sitting at the same table...?

ah, ok i just saw that you were a cancer. i get it now.

regardless, move on. he doesn't sound interested.

Just saw that you were cancer... 😂😂

😏

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Yea lol. Don’t even know you, but I already like you. Guess a full moon effect in full 😁