do scorpios involve quickly in a relationship? (Page 3)

LOL, my point exactly and that is why i am not with the Cap, I have to have communication in my life I love to talk, laugh smile play enjoy life.

So Dr. DB your saying I should work on my, Insecurites of being hurt,

LMAO well I guess you know me. So what do you think a black single women/mom 44 living in Washington DC, in the medical field who is afriad of being hurt again, and has an enormous about of pride. lol you can add on if you must.

so you set me up DB I thought we Scorps were supposed to stick together...

lol damn DB you went and shown me love. smoochies

Scorpionlady i just read your answer-post to what i wrote....I definetely did not want it to sound the way you took it..it was more of a thought really than a criticism to your attitude....you can maybe call it a motive for you to see things from another angle..I do apologise cause i did not want to offend you or criticise you in a bad way...that was never my intention... But that is exactly what i was talking about...the answer you gave me shows that you have judged my post to you as negative....and thereby judged me (my words rather) in a negative way.... that was not my intention....to tell on you....Really!!!
anyways i do not claim to know what you ve been through....i have been hurt a lot too though and was just trying to tell you how i have dealt with it.....anyway.....i do respect what you said...the age difference shows me that you most possibly know more about life and relationships than i do...Who knows..at the end of the day I might be the one who should adopt some things you mentioned..😉

hi everybody! im back!! im very hapy my topic is still in use...

well sure theres a small reason why im coming back... of course, to read some of topics as they a knowledge tresor to me, but also to ask for your advice again...

i've been sending msgs with my scorps for a bit and now he's silent again. he says he's extremely busy now and i can see he doesn't often go on the messanger but well.. i sent him some funny pics but he didnt even say thanks... i dont know what to think about it... the true is im getting more involved, the more he gets distant... 😢
the other thing is, we're not living in the same city..well not even a country... im moving by the end of month and will be living closer.. and his last msg includes something about hoping to see once im there (he'll be coming there because of work anyways) so... i dont know... maybe he's just being friendly? i dont really get it... if he liked me he would pay attention to me , wouldnt he? he used to send me msgs every day... ;(

undergrad. why dont you send him a cool msg and ask him if he's ok? dont be too tense,, just a friendly , witty msg... maybe he's checking you and hopes you're not paranoid and that into him, cause he's not ready for something serious yet?

Cool not a problem I can respect that.

It's just me being very protective.

Will look at the judging more
and try not to.

undergrad. why dont you send him a cool msg and ask him if he's ok? dont be too tense,, just a friendly , witty msg... maybe he's checking you and hopes you're not paranoid and that into him, cause he's not ready for something serious yet?

hey tauruslady...looks like we are facing kinda the same problem here...scorps getting more and more distant... 🙂

we did talk on the messenger... i was expecting that he would at least try to meet me... it's been like 4 days since we've seen each other...he did not do that... so i am a bit disappointed to tell you the truth..... because as you said.."i dont know... maybe he's just being friendly? i dont really get it... if he liked me he would pay attention to me , wouldnt he?" although in my case i know he likes me..don't know how much though...his behaviour shows me that he since he has not the need to see me often he is just not so crazy about me... Sex is sth you would do with many people ... if sb is really interested in you though he/she is trying to see you as often as he/she can//Ain;t that right?

i guess so... my situation is a bit worse though cause even if i wanted i simply can't see him due to distance... but im happy he's willing to see me we have the chance for that.. im just wondering whether its not just saying "hi,come around" i thought i knew he liked me too...but now i just dont know!

its not always the case, that if someone likes you, one will see you at all times.. not its not like that. sometimes you're busy, sometimes you want to take things slowly and sometimes you want to but you don't want to show too much attention in order not to chase away the other person...

relationships/love/etc are too difficult !!

"relationships/love/etc are too difficult !!"
hehe...that is exactly my scorps quote...

if it helps ... "my" scorp, before he got distant, would always send me msg to ask me what i am doing but would never directly ask me out.. he asked if i was busy..that sort of things.... but he never actually asked...do you wanna go out tonight? i was not sure if he really wanted to see me so at first i did not say anything about us meeting....then he would show me that he was expecting me to say sth.... we played this game almost every time before actually going out together..... whenever i ask him out he has never plans and is very willing to go out with me...just seems as though he can not say the actual words..."Do you wanna do sth tonight?" So it might be the same with your scorp ....maybe that is his tactics of pushing you to make the first step .. Does he know how you feel? if not he might not want to get exposed.....

DB is right on what he said...if you give him a week i am sure he will be the one to contact you first......Same thing happened to me......The thing though is that in that way I did not actually understand if he just came back for confirmation (that he is still wanted and liked by sb) or if he really really likes ME...not the idea of me liking him...Any thoughts on that DB?

ok but im gonna see him in a week time anyway... so he might not be bothered to say hello before coming... the funny thing is i actually told him in the last msg i learnt a nice expression in french lately (yes, he's french), which meant something like "i chase you you run away, you chase me i run away"
... i think i couldnt have been more stupid 😉
i dont know. somehow i believe its just his game , but on the other hand he could act in the same way if he werent that much into me.. thats why im confused.

undergrand he came back. and thats important. men need their time to go to their caves and think things over 😉) hehe that is at least what john irving reckons...😉

i dont know if he know that i like him.. i show him a lot of attention but then im trying to show im just being friendly.. im scared of being dismissed!! he has never showed he likes me in a direct way either... bloody scorps!! and last time we met i spent more time with his friends who were adoring me all the time 😢 although i tried to show him he's more important to me... and i could have seen he was trying to get closer to me, but he just couldnt because of his pushy friends... oh gosh.. i was so silly acting little girl thriving for attention... ;(

i dont know if he know that i like him.. i show him a lot of attention but then im trying to show im just being friendly.. im scared of being dismissed!! he has never showed he likes me in a direct way either... bloody scorps!!

i so understand what you re saying.......i react the same way too!! Might also be my leo ego though...why would i be exposed first? Sometimes i think he is just testing my patience.....I don't have lot of patience.....i wanna live life to the fullest ...wanna live every fucking moment!!! Cannot just sit and wait for ages for sth to happen!!

and last time we met i spent more time with his friends who were adoring me all the time although i tried to show him he's more important to me... and i could have seen he was trying to get closer to me, but he just couldnt because of his pushy friends... oh gosh.. i was so silly acting little girl thriving for attention... ;(

i think he got that you were trying to show him attention....well they scorps are very perceptive and good at reading people...

how long have you known him? i am asking because some people take time before actually letting the other person meeting their friends...

tell me more about the lack of patience... uh... but on the other hand, as they say "easy come, easy go" so i definitely need some challenge to be interested to the fullest... 😛

not long... maybe 2 months or so... but we didnt see each other much due to distance thats between us! i just loved his every-day-sweet-messages... i get a lot of attention from men but never from the rights ones... the ones i fancy are either gay or simply not interested hehe😉) ok im exaggerating now.. but thats pretty much the case 😢

undergrad how long have you known your scorp for?

but on the other hand, as they say "easy come, easy go" so i definitely need some challenge to be interested to the fullest...

that is so true.... that is my misfortune i guess.. i like the whole mystery in guys...that are actually the guys who mostly attract me....the ones i am not sure about whether and to what extent they like me....On the other hand...i really need to be loved ... and feel that i am important to that person....Impossible to reconcile those two things!

"i like the whole mystery in guys...that are actually the guys who mostly attract me....the ones i am not sure about whether and to what extent they like me....On the other hand...i really need to be loved ... and feel that i am important to that person.."

I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM !!

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if its "Impossible to reconcile those two" then i think i should go to convent... let me hope it is possible though !! 😛

i am not sure about what i am about to say..but i think scorps give a lot of emphasis on how their potential partner gets along with their friends...i mean everybody does but scorps i thing do that to a greater extent...if that is true (and you should confirm that by asking a scorp ) then it was a good thing that his friends seemed to have liked (friendlywise i hope)you so much..😉

I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM !!


that is why we are at the mercy of those damn scorps...😉 🙂

oh ...and do not try dating a gemini....if you think a scorp is hard to handle ...a gemini will just drive you crazy!!!! Scorps at least care about not hurting the other person..... Geminis just dont get it that they hurt you!

i find geminis extremely boring to be honest.. and with the one i was dating seriously it was me who let him go...

i was never lucky with leos 😉)

I get different twins - some are super fun & wild, others bore me to death.

(jumps into thread)

Geminis just dont get it that they hurt you!


If you hurt us first, you better believe we can be cold as ice..But maybe thats the gems you came across bc this one isn't like that, But we will drive you crazy!! =D and actually on your other post i do remember you saying "Why cant scorps be like Gems"...

A Gem boring?..you poor girl you lol you haven't got the full effect!! hahha

and actually on your other post i do remember you saying "Why cant scorps be like Gems"...

yes i did ....i think gems are mentally more stimulating and more interesting than scorps...... at least the gem i got to know was an extremely interesting person...
in that sense i do wish scorps were like gems......on the other hand scorps seem to understand and care about the feelings of others more than gems do..... gems want their freedom.. and they won't sacrifice it for anything or anyone? anyway i think scorps are more considerate...but indeed have more limited conversation subjects than gems... ok this is based on my experience.... it might not be what other people believe!

If he didn't like you, he would not bother calling you back...If we make an effort, it's important...

ok first of all he never calls.... ( and so i never have called him as well). He either texts me or talks to me whenever he sees me on the messenger..... It's like i am 15 all over again...😉 That looks bad doesn't it? I think maybe his ego is as big as mine...lots of sarcasm from both sides when we text each other and on the messenger...things are different when we are face to face.. Are scorpios sacrastic when they don't care enough about sb?

HA! this is what its like...."Oops did my sarcasm hurt your feelings?" GET OVER IT!..but i love it..lol

When scorps want just a sex relationship or they know deep down that they will never fall for this particular person, don't they try to have sex whenever they go out with that person or at least go out with them alone.. We usually go out with his or my friends.... and he never seems pushy to have sex with me.....What is going on? Maybe he doesn't want anything after all.... Maybe he wants to be friends..Because lately he said that what he likes about me is that i am fun and funny! I don't mean to say that this is not a compliment... but it is not as romantic..

HA! this is what its like...."Oops did my sarcasm hurt your feelings?" GET OVER IT!..but i love it..lol

i just respond back with sarcasm or sometimes try to overlook it cause i have noticed that he gets even meaner when i answer him back...BIG SCORPIO EGO..... I finally found my match ...i thought that leos were the ones with the big egos..... it;s like we are in a constant competition....

"Maybe he wants to be friends..Because lately he said that what he likes about me is that i am fun and funny! I don't mean to say that this is not a compliment... but it is not as romantic.."

ok, what i've noticed (and hope im right!!) is that when scorps are into casual/sex relationship they are very flirtatious,care for you a lot etc etc , but when they want something more they try to get closer to you.. i mean , they try to be your friends too... but when they care more they also more scared of being rejected, so they dont show their feelings too much or even hide them at all!especially when they're not sure about your feelings either...

i hope im right. i came across 5 scorpio males , so i am not sure whether thats enough to make statistics, but hopefully yes.. 😉 the ones that wanted have sex with me as a prior would be very flirtatious,friendly and touchy...
the one im dealing with now is definitely the toughest and most misleading one tough...

"When scorps want just a sex relationship or they know deep down that they will never fall for this particular person, don't they try to have sex whenever they go out with that person or at least go out with them alone"

Yes. It is a mutual thing most of the time.