BlueAqua
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Does Scorpio Want Cake and Eat it Too?
Does a Scorpio Want to Have It Both Ways
Scorpios often value emotional depth and independence. They may seek connections without fully committing, which can seem like wanting both love and freedom. Their sincerity depends on individual circumstances, but they tend to be complex and cautious about attachment. Understanding a Scorpio's need for emotional security can clarify their intentions and feelings.
Thank you Antibling, that is what I truly want. I was waiting untill he asked me so this way I know it is true from him. At least by revealing this to him he will know how I truly feel, I dont want to pressure him into making a decision but of course scorpio's wont be pressured into making decisions
damnn the greesy scorpios. DAMN them all. the player ones give us good ones a bad name.
We want our cake and eat it and steal someone else's piece too...howzat..
Nah only joking..me only a one man woman..
Nah only joking..me only a one man woman..
Do you really want to be with a guy who you know is using someone else for sex?
To be honest, I don't get his line of reasoning. I have had Scorps say similar things to me. "The reason I can't be with you is because it would be too intense." I don't believe it is true. I think it is the nice way out, but enough that they might still get to sleep with you. Know what I am saying?
I think actions speak louder than words. I don't think a man who was really in love with a woman and wanted to marry her would risk loosing her by screwing another woman.
That is just my logic.
To be honest, I don't get his line of reasoning. I have had Scorps say similar things to me. "The reason I can't be with you is because it would be too intense." I don't believe it is true. I think it is the nice way out, but enough that they might still get to sleep with you. Know what I am saying?
I think actions speak louder than words. I don't think a man who was really in love with a woman and wanted to marry her would risk loosing her by screwing another woman.
That is just my logic.
You mockin' me BOY?
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🙂
I know. I was teasing. 😉
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Do you really want to be with a guy who you know is using someone else for sex?
To be honest, I don't get his line of reasoning. I have had Scorps say similar things to me. "The reason I can't be with you is because it would be too intense." I don't believe it is true. I think it is the nice way out, but enough that they might still get to sleep with you. Know what I am saying?
I think actions speak louder than words. I don't think a man who was really in love with a woman and wanted to marry her would risk loosing her by screwing another woman.
That is just my logic.
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I was with a Scorpio for almost 2 years. Things were good though I found him to be selfish at times. I did love him but not as deeply as love could get because I felt he was so wishy washy and I would never let myself fall that hard for him. After all that time went by one day he tells me he doesn't want a relationship. Yet, he still wants things to be the same. He told me I was a distraction because he was working two jobs and going to school. I wasn't working two jobs but, I was working a 9-5, I was a part time model and I do my little music thing. I was just as busy as he was but, we always found time for eachother. I felt like he just still wanted to sleep with me. I started seeing other people and eventually just kicked him to the curb. To this day he claims that he didn't say that he didn't want a relationship and that if he said that it wasn't like we weren't still in one. I don't get it... But like you say it sounds like a way to still get the panties off...
Do you really want to be with a guy who you know is using someone else for sex?
To be honest, I don't get his line of reasoning. I have had Scorps say similar things to me. "The reason I can't be with you is because it would be too intense." I don't believe it is true. I think it is the nice way out, but enough that they might still get to sleep with you. Know what I am saying?
I think actions speak louder than words. I don't think a man who was really in love with a woman and wanted to marry her would risk loosing her by screwing another woman.
That is just my logic.
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I was with a Scorpio for almost 2 years. Things were good though I found him to be selfish at times. I did love him but not as deeply as love could get because I felt he was so wishy washy and I would never let myself fall that hard for him. After all that time went by one day he tells me he doesn't want a relationship. Yet, he still wants things to be the same. He told me I was a distraction because he was working two jobs and going to school. I wasn't working two jobs but, I was working a 9-5, I was a part time model and I do my little music thing. I was just as busy as he was but, we always found time for eachother. I felt like he just still wanted to sleep with me. I started seeing other people and eventually just kicked him to the curb. To this day he claims that he didn't say that he didn't want a relationship and that if he said that it wasn't like we weren't still in one. I don't get it... But like you say it sounds like a way to still get the panties off...
"I don't think a man who was really in love with a woman and wanted to marry her would risk loosing her by screwing another woman.
That is just my logic."
Yeah, but no one really can understand THEIR logic.. I guess quite many guys just have 2 or more women if they just have a chance for that.. Sad but true. Even though they know they could lose the one they like more than those others.. They are just animals.
That is just my logic."
Yeah, but no one really can understand THEIR logic.. I guess quite many guys just have 2 or more women if they just have a chance for that.. Sad but true. Even though they know they could lose the one they like more than those others.. They are just animals.
Guys, just be happy that we girls like animals. Otherwise you would have doggy style with other guys 🙂
Did someone say "Raaar!!"? And the other one replied "woof". Sounds like you guys already know what to do if girls get enough of you.. lol
"Yeah,I can jump through hoops,but my hind legs aren't what they used to be, plus I expect a treat in return....."
LOL!
LOL!
To be honest, I don't get his line of reasoning. I have had Scorps say similar things to me. "The reason I can't be with you is because it would be too intense." I don't believe it is true. I think it is the nice way out, but enough that they might still get to sleep with you. Know what I am saying?
I think actions speak louder than words. I don't think a man who was really in love with a woman and wanted to marry her would risk loosing her by screwing another woman.
LS, I totally agree you. Neither do I understand his reasoning. In my honest opinion I think he wants his cake and eat it too. I feel like maybe he's taking my nice and kindness as weakness. Being an Aqua that is when I like to show the other side of myself especially when someone does this and the other person is wondering "why is she acting so cold this way. When I get like this my mind is made up. I am trying not to go there with him. I've been very understanding and caring towards him only to feel like he's manipulating and playing games with me just enough to keep me hanging on to him. We've been dating almost 6 months,.4 months ago he asks me if I could get his sister a job in pharamaceuticals. I barely knew the guy. The other day I was doing my laundry and he called, he had the ordasity to ask me if he could bring his laundry over. I wanted "so badly" to say "Are you my man?" I really care for him and trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and look at his positiveness vs the negative with him,. but am also tired of the manipulating games. OK I feel better now: )
I think actions speak louder than words. I don't think a man who was really in love with a woman and wanted to marry her would risk loosing her by screwing another woman.
LS, I totally agree you. Neither do I understand his reasoning. In my honest opinion I think he wants his cake and eat it too. I feel like maybe he's taking my nice and kindness as weakness. Being an Aqua that is when I like to show the other side of myself especially when someone does this and the other person is wondering "why is she acting so cold this way. When I get like this my mind is made up. I am trying not to go there with him. I've been very understanding and caring towards him only to feel like he's manipulating and playing games with me just enough to keep me hanging on to him. We've been dating almost 6 months,.4 months ago he asks me if I could get his sister a job in pharamaceuticals. I barely knew the guy. The other day I was doing my laundry and he called, he had the ordasity to ask me if he could bring his laundry over. I wanted "so badly" to say "Are you my man?" I really care for him and trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and look at his positiveness vs the negative with him,. but am also tired of the manipulating games. OK I feel better now: )
Blue, I feel sad for you coz that doesn't sound fair. I hope you think what is really best for you. There are many guys out there, maybe the best is yet to come.. 🙂
> The other day I was doing my laundry and he called, he had the ordasity to ask me if he could bring his laundry over.
OMG I am so outraged!!!!
Don't. Do. His. Laundry.
The fact that he even asked this floors me.
You are suffering from too nice disease, and he is totally taking advantage of it.
OMG I am so outraged!!!!
Don't. Do. His. Laundry.
The fact that he even asked this floors me.
You are suffering from too nice disease, and he is totally taking advantage of it.
Hmm.. Now you made me think, DB..
nothin hurts with Codine, man this stuff makes ya looooooooooooooopy.
"You are suffering from too nice disease, and he is totally taking advantage of it."
That too made me sad.
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Now I don't believe in love anymore. Hmph!
That too made me sad.
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Now I don't believe in love anymore. Hmph!
"Don't hurt yourself"
Why would I? I have a plenty of other things to do 😉
Why would I? I have a plenty of other things to do 😉
> It is starting to seem he is seeing what he can get away with,or how much you'll bend over to please before you snap.
I totally agree with Double 0 Bling.
He is totally seeing how far you will bend.
I totally agree with Double 0 Bling.
He is totally seeing how far you will bend.
Would you ever ask Gemgirl to do you laundry after telling her you are screwing another woman? Doubtful.
> scorps are bending women and eating cake...its hard work
Yes but getting free laundry. That counts for something. 😉
> scorps are bending women and eating cake...its hard work
Yes but getting free laundry. That counts for something. 😉
i am still with a pisces 4 almost 5 months!!!!!!!!
I never liked the guy from the first time you posted about him...but you sounded determined on making it work...
DB, I kinda sensed that from you I think I was more or less waiting for you to say this, thats how much I respect your honest opinions. You're right I was determined to make it work regardless. Thanks DB*BA shakes DB's hand*
"Blue, I feel sad for you coz that doesn't sound fair. I hope you think what is really best for you. There are many guys out there, maybe the best is yet to come.."
awwww thanks SS, Im cutting my loses with him and moving on: )
DB, I kinda sensed that from you I think I was more or less waiting for you to say this, thats how much I respect your honest opinions. You're right I was determined to make it work regardless. Thanks DB*BA shakes DB's hand*
"Blue, I feel sad for you coz that doesn't sound fair. I hope you think what is really best for you. There are many guys out there, maybe the best is yet to come.."
awwww thanks SS, Im cutting my loses with him and moving on: )
"This is realy taking the piss...how old is he — It is starting to seem he is seeing what he can get away with,or how much you'll bend over to please before you snap."
bling, he's 38,Im 33 I'v been close to snaping on but he's so sensitive to arguing I;m careful of what I say to him or more or less how I say it. Now that I look back, when he called me at night he would tell me to dream about him and think about him, maybe mind games
bling, he's 38,Im 33 I'v been close to snaping on but he's so sensitive to arguing I;m careful of what I say to him or more or less how I say it. Now that I look back, when he called me at night he would tell me to dream about him and think about him, maybe mind games
THAT IS BS AQUA - YOU DESERVE BETTER...DONT LET HIM WALK ALL OVER YOU, OR ANYONE ELSE FROM THAT MATTER BC TO ME IT SOUNDS OR LOOKS (LOL) LIKE HE IS TRYING TO GET OVER ON YOU. TELL HIM TO "F OFF"! =D
unless your in prison. then if you let them walk over you you wont get stabbed.
HAHA Thank you JuiCy, I should have done that 6 months ago
no thanks needed =)
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I asked him why didnt he tell me this sooner? He says he knows himself. And that if he were to be exclusive with me that he would Totally fall in love with me and within a couple months ask me to marry him. He says it kinda like a protection for him because he has been hurt badly in the past and promised himself he would have no attachement before settleling down again. His divorce is final this month after being married for 13 yrs. He says its kinda a guy thing. He wants me to be comfortable but states he wants nothing more than for me to be happy. He's asked me what do I see in him that I could do so much better than him. I hate it when he talks like that because then we're talking about an esteem issue with him,.at which he does seem to have. This guy would give me the shirt off his back and I will alway be the ear that will listen to him and not judge him. He wants to be with me but not be exclusive,..does he want his cake and eat it too? Or is he really sincere in his feelings?