Emotional investment and outcome

What would it take for you to emotionally invest into a partner?
How would you difine "emotional investment"? no dictionary definition pls
What would a person have to have to trigger your want to invest into him/her?
What situation you're hoping it would lead into?

A true emotional connection.

would you say it exists when two of you can just sit there and talk about practically anything and be comfortable with what you say and be comfortable with each other?

i think it's a pretty interesting subject to discuss since so many people are not emotionally invested. i'm just getting into it and beginning to undestand it myself. i'm curious to see how other people think about it. you can the astrology or life experiences.

branh091- Consistency - of what?

branh0913- very well put!!! couldn't agree with you more on that topic. the real personality always comes out.

how would you define emotional investment?

i think word consistency got a bad name since some people think it's the same as being predictable. would you want to be with someone who's constistent from day to day or who flips on you all the time?

constitance, stability and reliability - are the 3 most important factors for investing into someone? i'd think liking, loving, wanting to be around that person matters as well. is clicking on intillectual and physical levels important at all?

"lol @ Newb. Just read what you wrote"

LOL...I actually had a conversation with hubby about that. It sorta went,

Me: J, apparently we argue a lot cuz we don't have a true emotional connection
Him: What's that? And where can I get some?
Me: Apparently it's where two people understand each other without having to say a word
Him (chuckling): Is that even possible?
Me: Online it is

newbie - "it's where two people understand each other without having to say a word" - this doesn't exist unless you can do it telepathically. i think it is when you can openly talk to each other and have similar views on how to resolve issues. it's when you're comfortable enough to accept each other for what you both are. the convo between you and your hubby is a little patronizing😉

well put latinaindia. everything is going well. some things are better than i expected. some things are still up in the air but there are little hints here and there on both sides. you know the usual: when we're together it's amazing and i mean emotionally and how ge along and i'm not mentioning sex because it's not about it. when we're apart it feels like things are going to hell. rollercoaster ride like any relationship would have regardless of aries scorp pairing😉

"the convo between you and your hubby is a little patronizing"

LOL...we have a LOT of conversations like that. It's sarcasm galore!

i love "sarcasm galore!" convos 😉 aren't they the best. see, you two have some emotional conection right there since you both appreciate the same sense of humor. those little things end up into one lump "emotional connection"

"you both appreciate the same sense of humor. those little things end up into one lump "emotional connection""

Yeah...we're extremely close...possibly cuz of the years spent together...but I also learnt to understand him from an early age...and the fact he "gets" my humour just makes it all good...um...when it's good...lol

that's a great example of emotional connection. you two have it. i guess in order to get that emotional connectional you'd have to emotionally invest into your partner and relationship. am i right?

"i guess in order to get that emotional connectional you'd have to emotionally invest into your partner and relationship. am i right?"

Sure...you invest a lotta things when you're in a relationship...time...trust...emotions

Ms.Pisces- "The only things that don't change, are my core morals. But I am reliable, and I intuitively sense when I'm needed... and I'm there, no matter how inconsistent I may appear to be." - that's a very important consistant thing to have. it's one of those that really matters!!!

latinaindia: here is the link for the book http://loveisinthestars.com/SoulmateSecrets/?s=10525&e=1

what's your take on this statement: from a man to a woman "i'm emotionally invested in you"

""i'm emotionally invested in you"

Um...I'm in a relationship with you?

Do you have a water moon? 😛

What's with all the analysis of his words?

it's my post and i'll analyze all i want! lmao
"I'm in a relationship with you?" - not sure if that's what it means. if it's a relationship why he introduces me as his friend.
i'll keep my moon info private 😉

"not sure if that's what it means."

That's EXACTLY what it means.

"if it's a relationship why he introduces me as his friend"

Cuz they always do. Cuz they're down like dat...ooooooh...I'm feeling all gangstah like.

Cuz they always do - who always does? none of my men before did that. is it the scorpio man thing? newbie da gangstah😉

^^^ LOL

Mata Hari- i guess i'm not as smart as you are😉 it's like reading emotional stock market report

i never heard anyone saying that before so i got all confused and stupid😉 if he'd say i like you, i want to be with you then it'd be cut-n-dry. i thought it was kind of cryptic and evasive. 'cause me not this smart

i know, we're fun latinaindia🙂 i play little practical jokes on my scorp all the time. i think he gets confused when i'm serious or just playing. btw: did you get the book info? you scorps are just not nice ppl when being cryptical and all that so called mystery wears off pretty fast. no, you can't have another aries to play with!!!! you got to take us seriously and then you can play😉

i'm a very straightforward person so to me this statement is cryptical. i'd say simply "i like you" or "i consider you my bf" and etc.

i decided to overcomplicate thingds even more: i'll tell him that i'm emotionally invested in him as well. let's see how he's going to react😉

what are you learning too late?

it's never to late to learn!!!

not sure what you mean here latinaindia. are you reffering to the book?

aries are different and similar to scorps at the same time. you can't push us or manipulate or rush us because we'll run away. we need time to adjust and accept you emotionally. we can jump in bed with you right after meeting you and that's fine by us but being emotionally involved that's another thing!

the book is very cool and makes sense once you read all the parts. as i said, you might not get it or think it's crazy but it made a lot of sense to me personally. i tried some of her advices and it turned some things around for me in a positive way. not sure if it comes in audio form. i think you can try it for free for some time. it might sound a bit sexist and old fashioned towards women but at the end it's not. it might seem like you're there to please a man but it's not really. it's about how you can change your attitude and behavior towards relationship and men. i made some of the mistakes she described there and i tried out changing those things and it worked for me.

patience is a key virtue for both of us to consider - totally right. and absolutely no power struggle!!!! don't try to overtake us. it's just stupid and pointless since we're there to work as a team. also, don't be mysterious at all. it's also stupid and we loose our patience with that crap anyways. if you're too complicate we'll start looking the other way. at least, i do. i even told my scorp at the beginning - no head games and such. nooooooooooooo!!!!!

i had a virgo friend. never found him attractive but he was all over me. aquas are easy fun never took him as a serious material. leos always annoyed me. scorps depends on a man. i had some bad and some good experiences with them. i had a few and all of them are totally different from each other. that's why i get confused sometimes about scorps behavior and habits. i had 2 serious lt aries bf. were great relationships but wrong timing in my life. i was way too young. wish they were here now.

emotional investment is conceived as an aspect of dependence on the relationship for the experience of such intimacy. Because this type of unique intimacy implies a special trust and a mutual concern for romantic partners' feelings, sexual behavior generally becomes more likely with increasing intimacy and emotional investment in a relationship, given that sexual involvement is generally viewed as a highly restricted and uniquely private type of interaction.