justbeingscorpio
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Posted by tiziani
Well you do strike me as someone who "loses" yourself in a relationship, which I would never do. But I kind of thought that was the point of being a Scorpio. When I speak to water signs it seems they wouldn't have it any other way.
Yes, the all in and all out extremes is....wonderful and heartbreaking, addicting and destructive and uplifting. Heaven and hell!
Ok I don't know what she did and I can't tell you how to feel because the heart wants what the heart wants. But you need to do something about it. Either decide to move on or decide to forgive and forget and start a new relationship with her with newness to it
Posted by CluelessCancer
it always makes me curious to see so many libra/scorpio relationships. Some Libras can be exceptionally hideously manipulative and drama creators. They also use the Scorpio to take care of them financially.
also deflect alot and never own to their own issues.
i've never understood the match.
Omg Ive got such a big crush on this Libra girl at my job...omg I think she is so cute/sexy.....After reading this she could definitely go F herself lol My fellow bull mooner...this will empty feeling WILL end...One day youre gonna wake up and realize u were over her for a few weeks now...
Sorry for improper grammar lol tryin to NOT get caught by my supervisor...peace
Posted by StarChild63
Ok I don't know what she did and I can't tell you how to feel because the heart wants what the heart wants. But you need to do something about it. Either decide to move on or decide to forgive and forget and start a new relationship with her with newness to it
+1
do you have friends who is very agressive like a Aries or another Scorpio friend. it helps to get agressive to get out of that rotten mood. you can try what I do if you like?... I allow my friend to kick my ass. and it works. cant explain in context but I get high after I get myself beat up twice or more. and I start to get this positivity back. much like a wake up call.
Posted by SpinCycle
I hate assuming....you gave no real reason for the break up yet you seek solace here in getting over a heartbreak. Not sure why your heartbroken. I'm sure she since she is a Libra is out and about having a great time as they do. Your here talking about not eating, drinking, puking..WTH—
If she was the ONE as you put it the lie she told over a year ago wouldn't be still wearing down on you. You would have discussed it and let it the hell go because she had your heart. Love is unconditional you accept the good, the bad, the ugly and all that slimy crap in between if it can be worked out. It takes sacrifice and lots of compromises. Since you couldn't do any of these and a lie was eating at you for over a year..think about that a year...you made love, cooked, went out, slept etc..all the while you kept a wall up due to a lie she said...did you really love her or was it just for her to fill a void for something else wrong within you?
Get out of the emotional aspect of this and tear it apart logically. You will see what was going on and you will recognize that it was all for the best. So drag your head today...but tomorrow get a new outlook on your life and keep it pushing...
She's not filling any void that I need, but it was not just one lie. It was a series of them. The last one was about a year ago. My love for her has not died, but I feel like her not being able to just own up to what she did as being wrong, makes me fear that she doesn't find it wrong and will do it again in the future.
Posted by tiziani
Well you do strike me as someone who "loses" yourself in a relationship, which I would never do. But I kind of thought that was the point of being a Scorpio. When I speak to water signs it seems they wouldn't have it any other way.
I completely lose myself. I used think that was virtue, but it's not. It's a very very very bad thing.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
I think his problem is kind of similar to the oscillation Chris Brown has.
Shrui was aware of some lies (or wrong-doings?) right at the beginning of their communication. But he let the love grow.
So he has one personality which makes him act "carpe diem".
And he has the other personality which makes him check and feel fear and want to put an end to it all.
No wonder that the 2nd personality got active after he has spent much time with her. The 2nd wants to save us from losing ourselves to a partner. Even if she was a Cancer, even if she has not told lies, he'd had fear and would gotten panic. At least this is what we know from astro texts about Scorpio and from Holleywood movies about "getting cold feet".
on-off-generation.
You describe very well. In fact you hit the nail on the head very accurately. I would ask her questions to see if I could easy my fears and feel free to go on, but I never got any answers. I want to trust her and I want to be with her, but if she thinks what she did was okay then what's stop her from doing it again?
Posted by justbeingscorpioPosted by Shruikan
My relationship with the woman I thought I would marry has ended. I feel empty and sad. I feel like I don't want to live anymore and it's strange feeling. I've only felt like this one other time in my life. Any advice?
I had this feeling many times in my life (and maby i still have it right now).
Being disappointed is so hurtful.
My advice to you would be : you shouldn't ignore your sadness, live it the way you feel it. It may take long time, even so long time.. anway it won't kill you but it will make you stronger at the end.
Life is a mix of joy and sadness.. Sadness should be then handled the same way as joy. Accept it as long as we're not living in paradise. That's the earth life my dear, don't forget it!
Did you try a treatment called EMDR (Eye movement desentization process).. it will help you for sure to see positively this situation.click to expand
I'm not sure what EMDR is. If it helps I'll try it though.
Posted by tiziani
"To love life, to love it even when you
have no stomach for it
and everything you've held dear crumbles
like burnt paper in your hands,
your throat filled with the silt of it.
When grief sits with you,
its tropical heat thickens the air,
heavy as water more fit
for gills than lungs,
when grief weights you like your
own flesh only more of it,
an obesity of grief, you think,
how can your body withstand this?
Then you hold life like a face
between your palms,
a plain face, no charming smile,
no violet eyes, and you say,
yes, I will take you, I will love you again."
Ellen Bass
That's beautiful.
Posted by chococreamPosted by StarChild63
Ok I don't know what she did and I can't tell you how to feel because the heart wants what the heart wants. But you need to do something about it. Either decide to move on or decide to forgive and forget and start a new relationship with her with newness to it
+1
do you have friends who is very agressive like a Aries or another Scorpio friend. it helps to get agressive to get out of that rotten mood. you can try what I do if you like?... I allow my friend to kick my ass. and it works. cant explain in context but I get high after I get myself beat up twice or more. and I start to get this positivity back. much like a wake up call.click to expand
I don't really have any friends where I'm living now. :/ I'm alone here.
Posted by KVZZMIR11Posted by tizianiPosted by SpinCycle
I hate assuming....you gave no real reason for the break up yet you seek solace here in getting over a heartbreak. Not sure why your heartbroken. I'm sure she since she is a Libra is out and about having a great time as they do. Your here talking about not eating, drinking, puking..WTH—
If she was the ONE as you put it the lie she told over a year ago wouldn't be still wearing down on you. You would have discussed it and let it the hell go because she had your heart. Love is unconditional you accept the good, the bad, the ugly and all that slimy crap in between if it can be worked out. It takes sacrifice and lots of compromises. Since you couldn't do any of these and a lie was eating at you for over a year..think about that a year...you made love, cooked, went out, slept etc..all the while you kept a wall up due to a lie she said...did you really love her or was it just for her to fill a void for something else wrong within you?
Get out of the emotional aspect of this and tear it apart logically. You will see what was going on and you will recognize that it was all for the best. So drag your head today...but tomorrow get a new outlook on your life and keep it pushing...
Don't believe the astro hype
+1...
That is how women (no matter what sign) roll.
I do not know how, because in relationship WOMAN is the emotional one, but in relationships and breakup she becomes cold and detached, while man become the "emo pussy."
Lol.
That is why I advise OP to stop checking up on her...RUN AWAY!
Delete Facebook, Delete Twitter.
Those things are poisonous.click to expand
I think it would be a good idea to delete Facebook and stuff too, but I use it to get my music out. My Twitter as well. I'm afraid if I delete I'll lose the following I have. Youtube partnered my videos so if I lose people now, I won't get paid anymore.
Posted by munchykinPosted by Shruikan
My relationship with the woman I thought I would marry has ended. I feel empty and sad. I feel like I don't want to live anymore and it's strange feeling. I've only felt like this one other time in my life. Any advice?
omg no 😢 What happened?? I was sure you two would be a happy and wacky Scorp/Lib couple like me and my Scorp!
Are you sure there's nothing you can do to save this?
*hugs*click to expand
I wish there was, but right now it doesn't seem like it. I invited her out so that we could talk today, but she declined. Understandable, but I wanted to try and work through stuff. Instead I was left feeling stupid for asking.
Posted by ShruikanPosted by munchykinPosted by Shruikan
My relationship with the woman I thought I would marry has ended. I feel empty and sad. I feel like I don't want to live anymore and it's strange feeling. I've only felt like this one other time in my life. Any advice?
omg no 😢 What happened?? I was sure you two would be a happy and wacky Scorp/Lib couple like me and my Scorp!
Are you sure there's nothing you can do to save this?
*hugs*
I wish there was, but right now it doesn't seem like it. I invited her out so that we could talk today, but she declined. Understandable, but I wanted to try and work through stuff. Instead I was left feeling stupid for asking.click to expand
Don't feel stupid for asking.
If you hadn't then you'd just wonder endlessly if you should have.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this crap.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by ShruikanPosted by munchykinPosted by Shruikan
My relationship with the woman I thought I would marry has ended. I feel empty and sad. I feel like I don't want to live anymore and it's strange feeling. I've only felt like this one other time in my life. Any advice?
omg no 😢 What happened?? I was sure you two would be a happy and wacky Scorp/Lib couple like me and my Scorp!
Are you sure there's nothing you can do to save this?
*hugs*
I wish there was, but right now it doesn't seem like it. I invited her out so that we could talk today, but she declined. Understandable, but I wanted to try and work through stuff. Instead I was left feeling stupid for asking.
Don't feel stupid for asking.
If you hadn't then you'd just wonder endlessly if you should have.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this crap.click to expand
I didn't really expect her to, but I thought I'd give it a shot. Makes me feel like I need to retreat again. Blah
I'm horrible at getting over exes, it takes a year to feel like myself again. And they say it's natural and it's ok to miss someone and to feel down. Because it's a human being you're missing, and one human is so different from another. They way they smell, taste, speak, think, move... there is so much to love in just one human. She is irreplacable.
But so are you ! 🙂 The world needs you, and not just the sad miserable you but the you that can dream such dreams and is filled with unlimited optimism just like you were when you were a kid!
I advise dedicating your time to making new friends by inviting them over and cooking them exotic meals or going to new places together and starting a new hobby. Don't grieve too much, anyone could do that forever like the women in soap operas.
*hugs*
But so are you ! 🙂 The world needs you, and not just the sad miserable you but the you that can dream such dreams and is filled with unlimited optimism just like you were when you were a kid!
I advise dedicating your time to making new friends by inviting them over and cooking them exotic meals or going to new places together and starting a new hobby. Don't grieve too much, anyone could do that forever like the women in soap operas.
*hugs*
Life is what you make of it.
You seem very optimistic. It's a breath of fresh air. Do you find yourself able to do this quickly? Or is this what you do after a year of finding yourself again?
Posted by ShruikanPosted by KVZZMIR11Posted by tizianiPosted by SpinCycle
I hate assuming....you gave no real reason for the break up yet you seek solace here in getting over a heartbreak. Not sure why your heartbroken. I'm sure she since she is a Libra is out and about having a great time as they do. Your here talking about not eating, drinking, puking..WTH—
If she was the ONE as you put it the lie she told over a year ago wouldn't be still wearing down on you. You would have discussed it and let it the hell go because she had your heart. Love is unconditional you accept the good, the bad, the ugly and all that slimy crap in between if it can be worked out. It takes sacrifice and lots of compromises. Since you couldn't do any of these and a lie was eating at you for over a year..think about that a year...you made love, cooked, went out, slept etc..all the while you kept a wall up due to a lie she said...did you really love her or was it just for her to fill a void for something else wrong within you?
Get out of the emotional aspect of this and tear it apart logically. You will see what was going on and you will recognize that it was all for the best. So drag your head today...but tomorrow get a new outlook on your life and keep it pushing...
Don't believe the astro hype
+1...
That is how women (no matter what sign) roll.
I do not know how, because in relationship WOMAN is the emotional one, but in relationships and breakup she becomes cold and detached, while man become the "emo pussy."
Lol.
That is why I advise OP to stop checking up on her...RUN AWAY!
Delete Facebook, Delete Twitter.
Those things are poisonous.
I think it would be a good idea to delete Facebook and stuff too, but I use it to get my music out. My Twitter as well. I'm afraid if I delete I'll lose the following I have. Youtube partnered my videos so if I lose people now, I won't get paid anymore.click to expand
Don't delete, just don't post anything super personal, and don't go ocd with checking on her. Maybe give yourself a little vacation from it. With the gaining a following for you
Posted by Shruikan
I'm not sure what EMDR is. If it helps I'll try it though.
I've read a book about it and I was very curious about how this could be real. I made a search on youtube videos and in fact, many people have experienced this therapy (which looks so simple and obvious) and the effects were incredibly good.
Following the theory, thinking about your issue while making eye movements help your "rational" brain to take a lead and to overcome the "emotional" one. Then you start to focus on your issue logically and without any comprising feelings. Few minutes later, you will realize that you're making positively a progress on your analysis of your problem and that you're moving forward steps that finally will make you have a very positive conclusion and giving reason for each thing happened.
If you're lazy to look for a therapist, here a video that you can try by yourself. Sorry it's in french but the rule is simple : All you need is to concentrate on the point that makes you suffer and to follow the light point with your eyes without moving your head (of course on full screen mode)
Hope that this will help you..
Posted by Shruikan
You seem very optimistic. It's a breath of fresh air. Do you find yourself able to do this quickly? Or is this what you do after a year of finding yourself again?
Well, it hurts of course, but I have realized that it's completely meaningless to mourn over any situation after perhaps a week or two.
Everyone moves on, life moves on. Just stop for a second and really think that you are actually going to die one day and the things that seem to matter to you now are so insignificant. Your time here is limited and there are billions, BILLIONS of women out there you could have perfect chemistry with.
Guess what, every second you think about the past is... wasted ! I'm sure we can enjoy nostalgia AFTER we die 🙂
We obsess over people or thoughts not because they are important or useful but because it becomes a habit. Like a paradox.
Posted by justbeingscorpioPosted by Shruikan
I'm not sure what EMDR is. If it helps I'll try it though.
I've read a book about it and I was very curious about how this could be real. I made a search on youtube videos and in fact, many people have experienced this therapy (which looks so simple and obvious) and the effects were incredibly good.
Following the theory, thinking about your issue while making eye movements help your "rational" brain to take a lead and to overcome the "emotional" one. Then you start to focus on your issue logically and without any comprising feelings. Few minutes later, you will realize that you're making positively a progress on your analysis of your problem and that you're moving forward steps that finally will make you have a very positive conclusion and giving reason for each thing happened.
If you're lazy to look for a therapist, here a video that you can try by yourself. Sorry it's in french but the rule is simple : All you need is to concentrate on the point that makes you suffer and to follow the light point with your eyes without moving your head (of course on full screen mode)
Hope that this will help you..
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Thank you very much for this. I'm going to try it.
Posted by MoonArtistPosted by ShruikanPosted by KVZZMIR11Posted by tizianiPosted by SpinCycle
I hate assuming....you gave no real reason for the break up yet you seek solace here in getting over a heartbreak. Not sure why your heartbroken. I'm sure she since she is a Libra is out and about having a great time as they do. Your here talking about not eating, drinking, puking..WTH—
If she was the ONE as you put it the lie she told over a year ago wouldn't be still wearing down on you. You would have discussed it and let it the hell go because she had your heart. Love is unconditional you accept the good, the bad, the ugly and all that slimy crap in between if it can be worked out. It takes sacrifice and lots of compromises. Since you couldn't do any of these and a lie was eating at you for over a year..think about that a year...you made love, cooked, went out, slept etc..all the while you kept a wall up due to a lie she said...did you really love her or was it just for her to fill a void for something else wrong within you?
Get out of the emotional aspect of this and tear it apart logically. You will see what was going on and you will recognize that it was all for the best. So drag your head today...but tomorrow get a new outlook on your life and keep it pushing...
Don't believe the astro hype
+1...
That is how women (no matter what sign) roll.
I do not know how, because in relationship WOMAN is the emotional one, but in relationships and breakup she becomes cold and detached, while man become the "emo pussy."
Lol.
That is why I advise OP to stop checking up on her...RUN AWAY!
Delete Facebook, Delete Twitter.
Those things are poisonous.
I think it would be a good idea to delete Facebook and stuff too, but I use it to get my music out. My Twitter as well. I'm afraid if I delete I'll lose the following I have. Youtube partnered my videos so if I lose people now, I won't get paid anymore.click to expand
Don't delete, just don't post anything super personal, and don't go ocd with
Posted by beggarsblanket
We obsess over people or thoughts not because they are important or useful but because it becomes a habit. Like a paradox.
Very interesting thought. I find myself obsessing over things that don't really matter because I'm so used to obsessing over them. I've never thought about it this way. Thank you so much.
Posted by tiziani
I personally wouldn't delete social media, I just don't make myself very accessible to it in the first place. When you're ultra accessible over those channels people treat you like that - I pretty much rebuilt my life in a way where the only way to get in touch with the full me is in person or at worst over the phone.
I just think it's healthier. The results have definitely been healthier. What people share over social media is mostly noise. Very little reality. You might find your ex posting about how she's having a wonderful girls' night out with pictures and everything, meanwhile what she doesn't tell everything is how she left voicemails to you after she got a little too drunk, crying alone in the apartment.
Maybe I should back off of it a little bit. I've been getting even heavier into social media as of late as a form of distraction.
Posted by Mscorp
Since you are kind of guy who get obsessed with things, people etc.
I have read somewhere like you can't fight to get rid of your obsession,
But you can always replace them with other worthy obsession.
Music is usually my go to obsession, but I feel very empty. Nothing is catching my interest right now.
I was the one that initiated it. We were arguing and I was upset enough to leave.
Posted by Shruikan
I was the one that initiated it. We were arguing and I was upset enough to leave.
then there is a strong reason why you have been upset to leave. with your way of obsessing things, you will not leave if its just petty shallow issues.. there should be an underlying untold issues you both werent able to deal with or just let go other than she lied to you.
feeling empty is like that calm before the storm kind of feeling. that too shall pass soon
anyway in ten years you will laugh at the today's intensity of intentions.
No Fear Shru .... go through the fire young Scorpio. Don't forget who's in control, so a part of you says you don't want to play? Ignore it and play harder.
whenever that voice in your head start to talk and ask questions about her, remind you of what was once were.. tell that voice in your head to fuck off and just leave you alone...
I want to become a master of mind. Often I find that my mind runs off to places that I don't want it to. I know I can grow into something better though. I think now's the time to do it.
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Being disappointed is so hurtful.
My advice to you would be : you shouldn't ignore your sadness, live it the way you feel it. It may take long time, even so long time.. anway it won't kill you but it will make you stronger at the end.
Life is a mix of joy and sadness.. Sadness should be then handled the same way as joy. Accept it as long as we're not living in paradise. That's the earth life my dear, don't forget it!
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