Help!

Hey guys I'm new and I hope everyone is good.
I'm an aqua and hubby is scorpio. I heard this is not an ideal match, but anyhoo
Been married almost 4 years now to what seems the most incredible man who has a way with the ladies. I can say that now because just this past Saturday I found a woman's number in our laundry. I called her and I got the dissapointment of my life. She wouldn't say much but it was all the info I needed. Meanwhile, hubby wakes up and the phone is ringing off the hook, I don't answer cause Saturday morning is usually telemarketer hell in our house. He picks up and begans to speak to someone, then he gave me a look. The look didn't give me a clue. I began to suspect something cause hubby was speaking english. He never speaks english with his friends or family. I pick up the phone and this chick is on the other end. I'm livid, I hear him saying that my daughter isn't his (which is true)
People, I love my hubby, I also love myself. Deep in my heart, I beleive that he's never slept around while we were married. He admitted to talking and going out with this woman. He said he called her once from home, thats how she got our home number cause I called her from a cell. This has happened before where women have called the cell never the house. I have asked him to leave because I feel I don't have a choice. I can't be a doormat. He has begged and pleaded for forgiveness. He actually thinks I'm overreacting and blames me. He is now in the progress of finding a place to stay. I feel so bad cause his family lives overseas and he really doesn't have close friends to stay with. What say you guys? Am I wrong?

No WAY kick his ass out.
what a prick.

good job.

Hmm,I don't think it's overreacting.The intention could have been there whether he has or not slept with her,elsewise why would it be a problem to tell the truth.Why would the daughter be an issue whether shes his or not if they were just friends.But keeping in mind that you do love him and everything,are you a jealous person or anything?Is there something that may be the reason that he wasn't honest about these *optimistically thinking*friends?If these answers can't be answered with a yes or maybe than I think you won't need to worry much.

It's all about how much you respect yourself. More person respects himself/herself the less tolerance is being shown to such situations. Which means the choise is yours. Personally if I were you, I would kick his ass out.

Speaking as a Scorpio, he's already over the edge; you probably won't get him back under any circumstances; regardless of the way he's acting. His sex drive is a priority; always will be.

Ladydane:

So Scorpio's goes in direction where their d**ck tells them go? Ugh.

That is a big issue with us jealousy. I am not a jealous person. I beleive man and women should be friends, married or not. I mean within a respectable means. Because I had friends before him and although I don't keep in touch with them anymore, if I saw them and I wanted to speak I would. I wouldn't mind vice versa. I wouldn't even mind if we all hung out, but if you give me a reason to be jealous like lying and hiding things, then thats another story. So he said he didn't want to hurt me or make me jealous. I said you never gave it a shot to see how I would respond. He says he's not jealous but he is. I just graduated from college and I haven't been much of a wife because of my studies. He hasn't been much of a hubby ither. We've both beeen taking each other for granted. I tell him to go and he says he's looking for a place. He is so in the dog house with me(sleeping on the floor). To be honest with you all, You may think I'm weird, but this really made me want him even more, but my heart and my head tell me no. I love him, but I just can't trust him anymore. Why do I have to force, scream, and basically pack his bags myself and throw him out? I've tried to remain calm in this situation because in the past I've been a raging mad woman. Oh yeah and he is not your typical scorpio, sex doesn't move him like that. He's intense, not very passionate. Even before we got married he was this way. You guys it's so sad because breaking up is the only way to go in this, but I do know this sadness is normal and my life will go on.

Hey Kennyg its AQLUE, OK.
Anyhoo, Why do I have to be from Alsaka?
I was just stating the facts I haven't been much of a wife and yes I was getting my edge on in life for not only myself, but for my family. I'll won't ever excuse what he did. No I really don't beleive zodiac signs have much to do with anything ither. I am sure and confident in knowing that "he just didn't know what he had in me, now I'm gone" Are you implying that I shouldn't feel bad? Because no matter what the outcome this isn't a good point in my life right now.

Hey, I'm sorry about your situation!

In my opinion sorry is not even good enough to sympathize with you but that's where i'll leave it because it's your personal life. (But i'll put a lot of smiley's in my post to represent my sentiments to you as I can't truly show you them over the internet any other way.) 🙂

If you can learn something from all this I guess it is just to be careful. I do not doubt that any of this had nothing to do with you, but I guess I am saying that you know life is precious, and if your feelings for each other had been stronger, none of this could have happened. 🙂

I know the all situations like these are devastating to deal with but you have my support. Remember, TAKE CARE! Care and Carefulness is the answer to all these shake-ups and break-ups is what I've seen. When people handle all with care they end up so much more Fresh and Clean (haha laugh please) than those who do not handle with care. 🙂

The box of Life (Goodness that's corny, lol but anyways) -- ..the box of Life says FRAGILE alllll over it. So don't allow it's contents to BREAK-UP and if they do, maybe you would be Wiser not to leave them broken.

(I'll substitute the word vase for the word relationship here!) 🙂

Even if you do leave the Vase behind because you do not want it anymore and it no longer tickles your fancy or even looks nice to you or can ever look the same again in your living room, and least fix it before you leave it behind. So even though the Vase in your FRAGILE AND PRECIOUS box broke and it was hardly your fault, you don't allow some bad and broken fortune to keep you from walking further into your future with as clear as conscience as possible. 🙂
Fix the Vase, then you can leave it behind if you wish knowing that you're an amazing Individual for handling it with Care!

"Keep Ya Head Up" -Tupac Amaru Shakur


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Thank You for listening, I wish you so well,
Take Care,
Elliot! 🙂

Ah,okay,than don't let him blame you and put a guilt trip on you than,thats BS excuses on his side.It's usually always the jealous and suspecious people who usually actually do the stuff they accuse or suspect others of doing.

Regardless of the circumstances, he let something (or someone) take the place of you.

In a marriage where you're supposed to be one flesh and bone, he broke this. Rather than work it out, he took the easy way out. Cheesy.

You can still hold your head up. Fight for yourself.

Haffo, for what it's worth, a Scorpio male who can't conquer his own drive isn't worth much. For those who are more carnal than spiritual, this is what happens.

Yeah Ladydane.

I feel no respect to such people too.

Correction:

I too feel no respect to such people.

aglue- I have read these posts and I am sure that they are written with the best intentions - I am sorry about what is happening to you. I'm sure it's not a good feeling.
As a Scorpio woman - no I don't cheat and my C*% t does not dictate where I go looking for sex. What a mistake people make thinking Scorpios are like that. Not all are, my dear.
But back to your problem - you have to search your heart and mind and determine what it is you want to do. These are opinions from other people - they are not in your situation. I know you wanted feedback, but ultimately it will be your decision on what you want to do. I wish you luck and my heart and support goes out to you.