Posted by seraph
Eleven exclamation marks means it's srs bzns.
Posted by ellessque
lol @ this scorpio with an aries moon 😛
WHERE IS YOUR MERC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(and venus?)
Posted by IntriguedScorp
Here's a better question: What can the Cancer man do to make me fall in love with him. 🙂
In my own personal dealings, when I have ventured into the "how can I make a man fall in love with me" thinking it was always, without exceptions, an unbalanced, co-dependent relationship prospect that was sure to be filled with drama and game playing. What is this man doing that is making you to become emotionally involved? really analyze this question.
IF, he is push/pulling, hot and colding, passion then no passion, etc etc etc... then you are in an unbalanced, verging on obsessive relationship.
IF, on the other hand he is wining and dining, sending you sweet messages, holding you hand or expressing himself romantically, etc etc...then what you have is real and you shouldn't have to do anything other then be yourself because it is already working. 🙂
Good luck
Posted by ellessque
holy shit, batman. you are *me* with venus in scorpio and a mars in sag.
my libra in venus has NOTHING on your venus!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😛
yeah, you need to just relax a bit and not touch anything for awhile. Let him reach out to you.
you can come can come across as a bit obsessive. you don't want to do that. not with all the major life events (moving..etc) going on his life. crabby men can be REALLY sensitive at times.....and *WE* can be a bit bossy and over the top when we can have something we want RIGHT NOW.
go get some ice cream and take a walk in the part somewhere, feed the ducks....stalk his facebook page. just don't text the snot out of him. breathe and wait, breathe and wait (I know patience sucks ass, but it's well worth it)
Posted by iwin32
Just be friends with him and go from there and if you already fell for him, well, just wait for him to do it as well. We can fall pretty fast. Be honest and sincere and everything will be fine but don't force him to do anything or make yourself look needy or clingy because he will back away. Just go with the flow.
Posted by MidniteStar
Obsession is my middle name. I can definitely relate to everything you are feeling. I've even been obsessed over a Cancer guy or two or three...hehe.
Scorpio Sun, Venus, Merc and Jupitor with a Leo Moon.
While I have yet to conquer my obsession, (and it's a real bummer), I have learned to keep it under wraps...bottled up...hidded. Well, at least the best I can. I'm sure it still shines through every now and again. When I get obsessed with a guy now, (I really hate that word obsessed), I try to find out everything I can about him. I read all about the company he works for etc. I become an investigating freak. It helps to get this out of my system without him even knowing I'm obsessed with him. Actually, my secret obsession has worked to my advantage a time or two. I've actually found out some things on a couple of guys that completely turned me off. My obsession then ended.
Work, friends, work, movies, work, reading, work, shopping, work etc. has also helped get my mind off of that dreaded obsession. Perhaps, soon, I can rid it from my life completely.
Posted by seraph
This is turning out nicely. 🙂
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Good lord, this isn't healthy.
Crushing to the near point of obsession is one thing. We've all been there at some point. But when you've gotten to the point where you're begging people to advise you in how to MAKE him fall in love with you- not healthy. It will not lead to a healthy relationship either, assuming if it were to work out.
Unrequited love sucks, but you need to keep yourself grounded and realize that you cannot make anyone fall for you. If you have to "make" someone fall for you, there's something wrong with the situation.
Yes, I saw where you said you don't necessarily mean "make," but you basically are looking for ways to manipulate someone's emotions into working in your favor. Love is supposed to come naturally. Not by force of any means.
Get your estrogen in check.
Posted by scorpfrancePosted by rockyroadicecream
i would hope we all could be nice to one another here... 🙂click to expand
Welcome to DXP, land of disenchantment.
Take what you like and leave the rest. This place is not for the weak of heart.
Im glad you are here, you will add a lot to us and hopefull receive a lot as well. 🙂
Posted by Capriquoise
Guns'n'Roses- Lies, Lies and Lies.
Posted by BigGirlPantiesPosted by scorpfrancePosted by rockyroadicecream
i would hope we all could be nice to one another here... 🙂
Welcome to DXP, land of disenchantment.
Take what you like and leave the rest. This place is not for the weak of heart.
Im glad you are here, you will add a lot to us and hopefull receive a lot as well. 🙂click to expand
Hello BigGirlPainties! thankfully i have a very strong heart so i have been taking what i like and pretty much not letting the rest effect me. and thank you for welcoming me!! 🙂
i hope to receive a lot and provide some help to others as well!! 🙂
Posted by scorpfrance
hello rockyroadicecream! i think you have misconstrued this entire thread unfortunately. i have repeatedly said that i don't believe you can "make" a person fall in love with you, and i wouldn't want to do that anyway if i could. i created this topic late last night, as i wrote before, and didn't think much about the wording. is it wrong to ask people for advice? i don't know why you think i'm begging... i think not...i'm curious and there's nothing wrong with trying to understand human behavior, which is essentially what i'm trying to do here with other people, who might be able to provide some valuable insight.
i am NOT looking for ways to manipulate someone's emotions either. i'm sorry you think i would want to. again, i think that goes back to my unfortunate wording of my topic heading - i'm sorry about that. as for my actions, all i'm guilty of in that respect is always trying to not hurt his feelings because i think he is very sensitive to any type of criticism. i just wish he could open himself up more. it's like he protects himself so much and i don't know why or understand it.
i'm quite at a loss as to why you think i need more estrogen...
i would hope we all could be nice to one another here... 🙂
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by scorpfrance
hello rockyroadicecream! i think you have misconstrued this entire thread unfortunately. i have repeatedly said that i don't believe you can "make" a person fall in love with you, and i wouldn't want to do that anyway if i could. i created this topic late last night, as i wrote before, and didn't think much about the wording. is it wrong to ask people for advice? i don't know why you think i'm begging... i think not...i'm curious and there's nothing wrong with trying to understand human behavior, which is essentially what i'm trying to do here with other people, who might be able to provide some valuable insight.
i am NOT looking for ways to manipulate someone's emotions either. i'm sorry you think i would want to. again, i think that goes back to my unfortunate wording of my topic heading - i'm sorry about that. as for my actions, all i'm guilty of in that respect is always trying to not hurt his feelings because i think he is very sensitive to any type of criticism. i just wish he could open himself up more. it's like he protects himself so much and i don't know why or understand it.
i'm quite at a loss as to why you think i need more estrogen...
i would hope we all could be nice to one another here... 🙂
Again, love is supposed to be natural. Not "HOW DO I GET HIM TO LIKE ME??" If it ain't happening on it's own, back the hell off and quit being so selfish in how you can get him to like you more than a friend. I will never understand people who think that if they change some part of themselves or behave a different way that it will work in their favor. If being you isn't going to get their attention, then guess what? It's not meant to be. Shocking, I know. Just because you're infatuated doesn't mean he has to be.
You can go on about trying to "understand human behavior" but all you have expressed is being obsessive and stalkerish in the past, as well as walking on eggshells in fear of him being turned off to the situation. You really haven't addressed what it is about him that you're trying to figure out. Just how to change YOUR approach for his widdle ego in fear of losing him. Learning human nature? No. Bending over backward to get him to like you? Yes. Again, get that estrogen under control. It's just a guy.click to expand
Posted by seraph
If there is already *some* attraction there, then scorpfrance's question is actually legitimate. Sometimes love needs a little "push."
Though I hope scorpfrance is able to take the matter lightly enough to not have it interfere with the rest of her life. That sort of disruption most certainly isn't healthy.
Having said that, there is always *some* level of manipulation involved in the courting process. It's expected, and not really a thing to be dismissed. It requires the proper perspective. And a little experience. You should know what you're doing. The courting process is as much *strategy* as it is *natural*. But all this comes with experience, and it definitely comes with some disappointments along the way.
I would wait to see if scorpfrance establishes an UNHEALTHY PATTERN before getting into any heavy discussion about obsession, etc. At this point she just seems like an over-enthusiastic girl-scout eager to get her next badge. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. 😉
Posted by ellessque
lol @ this scorpio with an aries moon 😛
WHERE IS YOUR MERC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(and venus?)
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