how do you guys deal with breakups

i am a female(scorp) who just came out of a very emotionally draining 2.5 year relationship with a cancer male. i threw the final blow and he didnt want to move any further with the relationship, which is fine. throughout these two years ive been the only bread winner, and i feel as though ive sold myself short. ive chased him everytime we went through something. ive been the glue in reality that has held us together and i just want this breakup to be DIFFERENT, PERMANENT TO SAY THE LEAST, ANY TIPS? WHAT DO YOU GUYS DO TO STAY BROKEN UP? WE AS SCORPS HAVE A TENDENCY TO GO BACK EVEN WHEN WE KNOW BETTER !! HELP ME BREAK THE CYCLE

I'm with Elly. It can take an awfully long time until that one day comes when you don't think of him anymore. Very well put... consider it a detox period. No contact.

If you have a drink or two (happens to me) I feel like I'm doing it all wrong. So even if you are under the influence... no getting mushy about things.

How I handle a break up is sleep alot, go to the gym alot. Miss that person and think about the ex a ton. Then a day comes when I don't miss them anymore and I'm over it.

thanks for the advice guys. yes, it needs to end things are getting worst and worst. we have both stopped reaching out to one another which i do feel is the best remedy to cure this mess. each day does get better though, some days are better than others. we have both changed our numbers so there isnt a way to directly contact one another except for fb and email. he has to much pride to do so and i have done to much to ever try anything again. i think this is the point where its fate driving us apart because we break up but then make right back up over and over and over and over again. unfortunately for me, i put alot more into this than he did 😢 big scorpio flaw. i wanted it so bad i overlooked so much. i just want at this point nothing more but to heal.

I feel you. Im a scorpio girl. I was last with an Aries man. I think you know how that went lol. But I understand. In my case were he was having a double life the whole relationship. I thought that it would take me forever to get over him treating me the way he did esp when you are intimate with someone. I began to have more me time. Where I did things that made me feel happy. A new dress, new hair style , etc. Then I faced the rejection, no excuses or sugar coating, you just have to face it. I got more spiritual because I knew that I was taken out of that situation. I have never contacted him, looked at his picture, etc. Delete everything from him...EVERYTHING. Go out and gain your confidence back and find another man...ie start dating again. Or a compliment guy (a guy that gives you compliments) lol. But seriously, just take a moment or two and get everything out about him and when you finish, pull yourself together and promise yourself that you will never do that again and love yourself.His loss

Posted by PP
How I handle a break up is sleep alot, go to the gym alot. Miss that person and think about the ex a ton. Then a day comes when I don't miss them anymore and I'm over it.

^ this

But, really and truly, mon. You'll know when you're done. You gotta get to the point where you've had it up to here ---- and only you will determine when that is. Then doubt and regret about walking away from it all will disappear- cuz the feeling will be so liberating.

Posted by ScorpSuperior
But, really and truly, mon. You'll know when you're done. You gotta get to the point where you've had it up to here ---- and only you will determine when that is. Then doubt and regret about walking away from it all will disappear- cuz the feeling will be so liberating.

Ain't that the truth? Unfortunately, it seems most of us take an especially long time to hit the had it up to here point..or at least that's me.

Posted by Poisson
I'm not a scorpio but have a lot of water in my chart, I have a Scorp moon if that counts for anything. In addition to what have already been said above, I also treated it like a death. I grieved. I'm not saying treat him like he was dead or wished he was dead, but rather grive the death of the relationship. Some will say "don't wallow" but in some aspects in CAN be a healthy thing to do, just as long as "wallowing" isn't drinking yourself to sleep or anything physically/mentally destructive. Once you get tired of feeling like shit, you will feel ABSOLUTELY REJUVINATED, and EMBRACE IT. But it will take time... just be patient. It will get better. Hope that helps.

right i think im cried out, i just think when we were together i cried so much, now were apart im crying either way i hurt so hey i just have to put on the big girl panties and KEEP IT MOVING

Posted by ScorpSuperior
But, really and truly, mon. You'll know when you're done. You gotta get to the point where you've had it up to here ---- and only you will determine when that is. Then doubt and regret about walking away from it all will disappear- cuz the feeling will be so liberating.

YES, you are right when we are done were done.

What works for me during a breakup. Is trying to change a physical body part. Either whitening your teeth or getting a new facial exfloliant or getting a new hair style or new hair color. If your into fitness changing a body part for the better. Etc. You get the idea. Do a body transformation and work on yourself during this process helps you come out the tunnel of the rose bowl better than you were in the lockroom at half time. Cause that's all a break up is HalfTime!

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What works for me during a breakup. Is trying to change a physical body part. Either whitening your teeth or getting a new facial exfloliant or getting a new hair style or new hair color. If your into fitness changing a body part for the better. Etc. You get the idea. Do a body transformation and work on yourself during this process helps you come out the tunnel of the rose bowl better than you were in the lockroom at half time. Cause that's all a break up is HalfTime!

This.

When I was in that long term relationship, I gained XX lbs ( 😛 ), at the end of it I found myself angry, miserable, single ...and chunky. I know it sounds completely shallow. But does shift the focus back on yourself. You do what you can to help yourself out.

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Oh it is not easy! I still take forever to get over an Ex. Me and my Ex have been split for about a month and some change and I'm not over her yet nor ready to move on. So trust me i get it. But everybody is different. I lose my appetite after a breakup a little. Some people eat more. It always varies.

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Posted by ScorpSuperior
But, really and truly, mon. You'll know when you're done. You gotta get to the point where you've had it up to here ---- and only you will determine when that is. Then doubt and regret about walking away from it all will disappear- cuz the feeling will be so liberating.

Ain't that the truth? Unfortunately, it seems most of us take an especially long time to hit the had it up to here point..or at least that's me.

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Amen. Long time. In fact, that's the only thing I DO regret- not walking away sooner.

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But, really and truly, mon. You'll know when you're done. You gotta get to the point where you've had it up to here ---- and only you will determine when that is. Then doubt and regret about walking away from it all will disappear- cuz the feeling will be so liberating.

Ain't that the truth? Unfortunately, it seems most of us take an especially long time to hit the had it up to here point..or at least that's me.

Amen. Long time. In fact, that's the only thing I DO regret- not walking away sooner.

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EXACTLY!

Posted by PP
Do a body transformation and work on yourself during this process helps you come out the tunnel of the rose bowl better than you were in the lockroom at half time. Cause that's all a break up is HalfTime!

And I think I just found my latest Fb status! Thank you! :-)

Mocha

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Posted by PP
Do a body transformation and work on yourself during this process helps you come out the tunnel of the rose bowl better than you were in the lockroom at half time. Cause that's all a break up is HalfTime!

And I think I just found my latest Fb status! Thank you! :-)

Mocha

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