How do you know if a Scorpio is not into you or he just needs space?

Hi. I’m a little bit confused and would appreciate some help.

I confessed my feelings to a Scorpio man earlier this year. He didn’t expect it and got really uncomfortable so I decided to put some distance between us. We didn’t speak to each other in a long time but on his birthday I contacted him. I just wanted to wish him well because I care about him but I wasn’t expecting anything because I thought he didn’t want to talk to me anymore.

To my surprise, he was happy to hear from me. He even told me that I could message him more often if I wanted to. I told him straight out that I wasn’t sure and maybe he needed to decide that because I felt like he didn’t like me when I had already told him I liked talking to him and appreciated him as a person. He then said he did like talking to me and liked me as a person otherwise he wouldn’t tell me to message him. He even said that he thought I didn’t like HIM. Ummmm weird 😳 So he suggested that I contacted him whenever I wanted and he would do the same. This is after things got awkward between us and I thought we would never be friends again. Keep in mind that he already knows how I feel about him.

He was really nice and wished me a happy Thanksgiving and kept talking to me for a few days. The conversation started dying one day and I told him I had some things to do and wished him a good night. I thought he was going to message me the following day but he didn’t. I haven’t heard from him for almost a week and I’m anxious not knowing if I’m misreading things and he’s not that into me. Now I’m not sure if I should wait for him to contact me again or if I should do it since he told me to message him too. The problem is that I made myself too vulnerable when I confessed my feelings and I don’t want to appear desperate. I think he should be the one chasing if he wants to talk to me since he’s aware of how I feel.

In the past (before I confessed to him) he used to acts like this. He’s not into texting 24/7 and I think he might need space. He would confuse me and then come back like nothing happened and told me everything was fine.

It’s just that right now the uncertainty of not knowing when we’ll talk again is killing me.

Is this a sign that he doesn’t like me or he just needs space? Should I feel embarrassed about taking the initiative sometimes?

He’s not into you, sorry to say. You can’t pry them off of you if they are.

Posted by BadderBunny
You're in the friend zone. Are you okay with being there? If not take the space you need to move on. I also don't think you should be embarassed about expressing your feelings. You saved yourself a lot of time from wondering if he was interested. Now you can consider other options.

Men usually don't like to hurt women's feelings, so he might not tell you right out that he isn't interested. But his actions since you expressed your feelings to him, being distant rather than reassuring you he feels the same, is your answer to how he feels about you. And yes every time you try to move on he comes back. Its not a sign of romantic interest, its a sign he want to keep you around. Maybe for friendship or maybe for the occasional ego stroke when the bish he really likes makes him feel like ish. Don't be confused by those bread crumbs. Keep doing you.

How you say are you okay with being there lol what's really wrong with you. I'm serious

Posted by geminiflyby
He’s not into you, sorry to say. You can’t pry them off of you if they are.

But she still into..

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Posted by BadderBunny
You're in the friend zone. Are you okay with being there? If not take the space you need to move on. I also don't think you should be embarassed about expressing your feelings. You saved yourself a lot of time from wondering if he was interested. Now you can consider other options.

Men usually don't like to hurt women's feelings, so he might not tell you right out that he isn't interested. But his actions since you expressed your feelings to him, being distant rather than reassuring you he feels the same, is your answer to how he feels about you. And yes every time you try to move on he comes back. Its not a sign of romantic interest, its a sign he want to keep you around. Maybe for friendship or maybe for the occasional ego stroke when the bish he really likes makes him feel like ish. Don't be confused by those bread crumbs. Keep doing you.

How you say are you okay with being there lol what's really wrong with you. I'm serious

Chill. This is her second thread about the same scorpio. She has said in the past she would rather have him in her life as a friend than nothing at all, because they were friends to begin with. But based on the amount of stress she is expressing, her feelings may have changed.

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I understand that maybe I’m in the friend zone but he said he wanted us to continue talking and for me to reach out to him more. I stupidly said I would. I do care about him but I don’t want to embarrass myself by chasing after him when he doesn’t see me in a romantic way. Especially after he suddenly stopped texting me.

So should I let him contact me instead? He contacted me for Thanksgiving first and now Christmas is coming and I don’t know if I should remain silent. Last year he wished me a Merry Christmas so I feel bad acting cold but at the same time I hate being vulnerable.

He’s always doing these little things for me that lead me to believe he had feelings, like remembering me during holidays and special occasions. What should I do——? 🤔

Show up to his house in a cherry red body suit, see if he wants to still be friends then.

What Sun sign are you OP?

I say do nothing. Watch and see his efforts.

But if you do want to reach out, maybe with a simple merry Christmas message

I’m a Cancer. Maybe I should just stop contacting him and leave the ball in his court.

I already wished him a Happy Birthday and showed interest so I don’t know what else to do.

If a long time passes and he doesn’t make an effort then I will start seeing other men. That’s the only way I’ll forget about him for good.

He really turned me on though 🥵 it sucks!!! It sucks that Scorpios are sexy.

Posted by Rainbow87
I’m a Cancer. Maybe I should just stop contacting him and leave the ball in his court.

I already wished him a Happy Birthday and showed interest so I don’t know what else to do.

If a long time passes and he doesn’t make an effort then I will start seeing other men. That’s the only way I’ll forget about him for good.

He really turned me on though 🥵 it sucks!!! It sucks that Scorpios are sexy.

Don't wait, move on now. He already has.

Any updates?