How should I address scorpio woman about a lie?

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I recently found out that my Scorpio has lied about something and has omitted something from me that I should know. I haven't really talked to her much over the weekend and I have not responded to her at all today. I thought it would be best that I regroup and think about if I should say something, or if I should act like nothing happened, or if I do say something should I say it in person instead over the phone or text. How can someone lie to you if they say they love you and constantly tell you how important you are to them? Suggestions?
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I have lied to my cancer bf before and I'm a scorpio 😛

Of course lying to someone is not a good thing. But in my head, I was afraid that he would love me less if I told him the truth. This happened a few times.

He confronted me about them and I felt awful and apologized, but also tried to defend myself a little.. He was so loving that he forgave me and that made me love him more.

scorpios always have secrets.
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I will never understand this sign and their notorious reputation for not trusting others, yet they lie all the damned time about stupid AND important shit. It's so freaking neurotic. But then again, those who go around not trusting people are usually like that because they know THEY cannot be trusted, which has been the case in several examples I've known of.

You should take some time to regroup and figure out how you want to approach her AND do it in person. Phone/text allows for too much fuckery to happen. You can gauge someone's reaction much better face to face and they can't lie or delay responses and blame technology, etc.
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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
what did she lie about?

are you assuming that she lied to you or do you know for absolute sure?

did she lie or did she omit information, because you cover both in your OP?

did she omit information because it wasn't relevant or did she do it on purpose...or do you even know?

the best thing to do is to confront this head on and stop being passive aggressive.

you simply say...."hey, something is bothering me....you said *this*, but the truth is *that."

then go from there.

don't go straight to screaming off the hilltops "How can someone lie to you if they say they love you and constantly tell you how important you are to them?"

Because A has nothing to do with B.

Unless you found she's married with four kids and one on the way that isn't yours.....i'm pretty sure you might be overreacting.



Twirling strawberry

She made up a story about something and I checked her story against factual things and then found more info.

1.I know for a fact she lied about something and omitted something that she should have been up front about.

2. I am very honest with her and tell her everything.

3. I want to know why she lied and why she omitted other things related to the lie. I don't question her about things and she usually tells me everything about her. Why lie and omit things when she has told me things her own family doesn't know about her. Like her deepest secrets. My thing is, if you confide in someone and have an amazing relationship, why shoot yourself in the foot and lie to that trusted person.

I'm all about being upfront and honest. Unlike most cancers I am very direct, so I thought coming here to ask you Scorpios for advice would be a good way to gather answers while I think about how to address her without it turning into a hurricane. Neither of us back down from a fight, so I'm thinking it through so I can address it in a decent manner.



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God why are you so judgemental and negative Twirling Strawberry? Stop assuming and being negative for once, I've seen your othe posts in other discussions. You're blowing up the situation, when I TRYING not to be mad and want to address it firmly but without a fight. I know her and she knows me. You don't know either of us to be so judgemental. Please stop with the negativity. It's like trolling.
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Confront her, my boss is a Scorpio man, my friend is female Scorpio you confront them, Scorpios don't like being confronted about lying yes they do it. I've caught my friend doing it at work I've stepped in and said something and walked away, it scares them. My boss he is honest with me I can look at him when he's trying to hide something I will keep giving him the look he will tell me. I'm really surprised how honest he is with me he tells me things that he doesn't tell others.

Cancer men are human lie detectors I know I'm I do it with my co-workers all the time I want answers when they won't give them to me I start looking for the reason. I've caught my other bosses lying to cover up for mistakes. When I was a self employed contractor I've caught my customers lying to me I get angry and said cut the bullsh*t.
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God why are you so judgemental and negative Twirling Strawberry? Stop assuming and being negative for once, I've seen your othe posts in other discussions. You're blowing up the situation, when I TRYING not to be mad and want to address it firmly but without a fight. I know her and she knows me. You don't know either of us to be so judgemental. Please stop with the negativity. It's like trolling.



Dude, people give you advice and this is how you behave? TS is just telling you another aspect of what you should be doing AND mirroring your words. So if anything, the negativity is coming from you.

You getting all defensive is only proof of that.

You say you're upfront and honest yet you're not communicating with your scorp and wondering what to do next.

You heard me, passive aggressive.

Upfront and honest people confront the issue straight away, not come on some forum asking for advice then venting out their discontent on others just because they don't like what they hear.

stop with the bullshit and go talk to your girl instead.
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GTFOH with that bullshit. Obviously you too are no different from twirl. How do you take my OP as passive aggressive. People come on here to discuss topic not to be badgered. My post was legit. I went to her job to talk face to face but she had already left. I wasn't driving another 40 minutes to her house. I will talk to her tomorrow. I'm not discussing it over the phone or by text. Thanks for the positivity... If my relationship doesn't work out. I will never deal with a Scorpio again, I don't understand why you Scorps get so defensive when people ask for advice. #youallarewaytoointense
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
I will never understand this sign and their notorious reputation for not trusting others, yet they lie all the damned time about stupid AND important shit. It's so freaking neurotic. But then again, those who go around not trusting people are usually like that because they know THEY cannot be trusted, which has been the case in several examples I've known of.

You should take some time to regroup and figure out how you want to approach her AND do it in person. Phone/text allows for too much fuckery to happen. You can gauge someone's reaction much better face to face and they can't lie or delay responses and blame technology, etc.



Thanks Rockyroad. I regrouped then went to her job to discuss it but I just missed her. I'll go again tomorrow. I didn't want to drive 40 more minutes to her home and discuss the issue in front of her child.
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Posted by beggarsblanket
I have lied to my cancer bf before and I'm a scorpio 😛

Of course lying to someone is not a good thing. But in my head, I was afraid that he would love me less if I told him the truth. This happened a few times.

He confronted me about them and I felt awful and apologized, but also tried to defend myself a little.. He was so loving that he forgave me and that made me love him more.

scorpios always have secrets.



LOL You're funny, thanks for a positive answer and other insights. You are correct about her being defensive even when she is wrong. I went by her job but she had already left. She lives 40 mins from her job, so I decided to just go back tomorrow to talk to her. She has a small child and there's no point in discussing it in front of the child. The thing she lied about just doesn't make any sense, she had nothing to gain by lying and making up a stupid story. Thanks again for the response.
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Posted by Noreallynow
*sighs* all scorpios are like this? I've said something a thousand times and I refuse to say it again.

Op, let them know that you know. Sit down talk with her. I'm big on telling people the truth. I wouldn't want anyone to lie to me. How can you trust someone who repeatedly lies to you? What do you have to hide? Just let her know.



Agreed. Thanks Noreallynow.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
I will never understand this sign and their notorious reputation for not trusting others, yet they lie all the damned time about stupid AND important shit. It's so freaking neurotic. But then again, those who go around not trusting people are usually like that because they know THEY cannot be trusted, which has been the case in several examples I've known of.

You should take some time to regroup and figure out how you want to approach her AND do it in person. Phone/text allows for too much fuckery to happen. You can gauge someone's reaction much better face to face and they can't lie or delay responses and blame technology, etc.



Oh hell no lol. I could never harm her or any woman.



Sometime you need to show them who's boss...

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I recently found out that my Scorpio has lied about something and has omitted something from me that I should know. I haven't really talked to her much over the weekend and I have not responded to her at all today. I thought it would be best that I regroup and think about if I should say something, or if I should act like nothing happened, or if I do say something should I say it in person instead over the phone or text. How can someone lie to you if they say they love you and constantly tell you how important you are to them? Suggestions?




I understand your anxiety. This is unnerving!

If you can trust her and look past her lie, then I assume you will stay with her and power on.

Even though anyone can justify their lies or rogue behavior by ending it with "I love you....blah, blah, blah," so talk is cheap and lies are lies.

Personally I would drop her, end it with her because I know I would not be able to get it out of my head that MY g/f lied to ME and would be suspicious of her every step from here on out, and you know PERFECTLY how women treat a "possessive, paranoid" man.
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Yep definetly unnerving. I cannot stand being lied to. I felt she was lying when she first told me the bs story. You are right. Talk is cheap, I believe in actions speak louder than words. I just want her to be honest because it really makes no sense of why she lied. I've thought of every logical reason and it makes no sense at all. So I want the truth.
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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry


the best thing to do is to confront this head on and stop being passive aggressive.

you simply say...."hey, something is bothering me....you said *this*, but the truth is *that."

then go from there.




😆 Aries Moon approach!

Posted by thatcancerguy83
I thought it would be best that I regroup and think about if I should say something, or if I should act like nothing happened, or if I do say something should I say it in person instead over the phone or text. How can someone lie to you if they say they love you and constantly tell you how important you are to them?
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non Aries Moon approach. I'm guessing air...
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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry


the best thing to do is to confront this head on and stop being passive aggressive.

you simply say...."hey, something is bothering me....you said *this*, but the truth is *that."

then go from there.




😆 Aries Moon approach!

Posted by thatcancerguy83
I thought it would be best that I regroup and think about if I should say something, or if I should act like nothing happened, or if I do say something should I say it in person instead over the phone or text. How can someone lie to you if they say they love you and constantly tell you how important you are to them?



non Aries Moon approach. I'm guessing air...
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Nope Leo Moon
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I will never understand this sign and their notorious reputation for not trusting others, yet they lie all the damned time about stupid AND important shit. It's so freaking neurotic. But then again, those who go around not trusting people are usually like that because they know THEY cannot be trusted, which has been the case in several examples I've known of.

You should take some time to regroup and figure out how you want to approach her AND do it in person. Phone/text allows for too much fuckery to happen. You can gauge someone's reaction much better face to face and they can't lie or delay responses and blame technology, etc.



Thanks Rockyroad. I regrouped then went to her job to discuss it but I just missed her. I'll go again tomorrow. I didn't want to drive 40 more minutes to her home and discuss the issue in front of her child.
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No prob. Take TS's bullshit with a grain of salt. She's notorious for victim blaming and making up stupid fuck excuses for shitty behavior. Can't really fault you for wanting some feedback before going in and doing something about it, which is something many not so perceptive individuals here seemed to not understand.
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Posted by Octoberbaby91
Nobody likes being lied to but everybody lies!

Yes even you!




It would be an amazing day when a Scorp didn't defend such asshattery. Until then, you're always going to have the lot who makes excuses and justifies bad behavior from morons within their sign.

That said, this response is pure idiocy. He's already said what he's going to do, let alone already tried to approach her. He's got the point. To prattle on about how lying is okay because everyone does it is the equivalent of being a lemming. Still feeling confident in babbling such bullshit? You should probably go back to your self aggrandizing thread about your average eyeballs and stay put. You're not ready for adult logic/conversation yet.
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Posted by Octoberbaby91
Nobody likes being lied to but everybody lies!

Yes even you!




It would be an amazing day when a Scorp didn't defend such asshattery. Until then, you're always going to have the lot who makes excuses and justifies bad behavior from morons within their sign.

That said, this response is pure idiocy. He's already said what he's going to do, let alone already tried to approach her. He's got the point. To prattle on about how lying is okay because everyone does it is the equivalent of being a lemming. Still feeling confident in babbling such bullshit? You should probably go back to your self aggrandizing thread about your average eyeballs and stay put. You're not ready for adult logic/conversation yet.



Explain why it is bad to lie to protect someone or something?
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It's an asshole thing to do to think that you're totally protecting someone by omitting the truth. Who are you to decide if that person can/cannot handle what's going on? Lies have more negative ramifications than telling the truth. You guys need to remember that since you "loyalty" obsessed asshats are far from loyal yourselves. Many Scorps I've come across are total control freaks, think they know what's best for everyone, and lie like dogs to get out of the insane bullshit that they pull.

I think the dysfunctional (read: the ones that are bitched about the most) of this sign would do a lot better with others if they practiced more of what they expect from others.