i am in love with scropio man very confused.

well i am a virgo in a relationship with a scropio man for 8months now he is great,but you are right you never know what they are feeling he shows me in lots of ways that he cares,but in sept he left and moved back to his home town not far way about 2hrs , but we still comunicate , but i just done' know what to think? we had problems communicating, and i was so afraid, becuase things were moving fast, and he moved in , my family didn't like him, my friend didn't understand why i was with him, and that affected my decisions. i love him , and he tells me he loves me, but the distance is killing me. i fell so alone. i am not clingy type i love my space, and i allow him to have his. i haven't been wiht him sexually for about 10wks now, because things were going bad. he cam over this past weekend , becuase it was his b-day , and he brought friend i thought we were going to be together well that turned out bad i got angry , and again he punished me with no sex. what is going on in his mind. he calls , textes, but i just don't understand. i believe he loves me , but no as much as before. help me

Roxi,Roxi Roxi..
Everytime a girl comes complaining about a Scorpio you say "forget him"..
This way no girl would like us,and we won`t get laid ever..
Yuo should tell them just to get naked for the Scorpios and all problems are solved.

pookie ... you are really confusing to me, and so I'm working through this, trying to comprehend where you're coming from here ...

"we had problems communicating, and i was so afraid, becuase things were moving fast, and he moved in , my family didn't like him, my friend didn't understand why i was with him, and that affected my decisions."

It appears to me that there might have been a trust issue here, if you allowed how your friends and family feels to affect/influence your treatment of a Scorpio. Just thought I would point that out for future events if you two work this out.

Trust is frigging HUGE to the Scorp .... and if you didn't trust him when making your choices ... this would be processed as a betrayal on his end.

"i haven't been wiht him sexually for about 10wks now, because things were going bad."
"i got angry , and again he punished me with no sex."

Sex isn't proper communication, pookie ... this leaves me terribly confused and appears as though it's sending mixed signals. If your relationship was so horrible communication-wise that he would move out, yet, you would still want sex, then this sends purely physical signals out to another person .. not emotional. I know full well about this, for I live it everyday with my own Virgo. He would shrug off any kind of intimacy, emotional support .. yet, believe that by having sex, this is suppose to be indicative to how he loves me ... wrong !!!!!!!

"what is going on in his mind. he calls , textes, but i just don't understand. i believe he loves me , but no as much as before."

Let me see if I have this straight .... instead of shrugging off what your friends tell you so you can embrace your heart for him and the love you hold .. you would allow them to influence you, which causes him to believe you don't trust him, for it slants your decisions regarding him .. and since he's a water person, his emotions are connected to his sexuality, so he is now unable to make love to you, since his heart is connected to his penis ... yet, your heart and mind is disconnected from your vagina, so you believe that if he loves you, then he should forget about his emotional state and just show you love with sex that is absent of trust for you ...

When relaying this .. it appears that your angst is over him being there over his birthday and not sexing you up .. it made you angry.

What you are seeking in him, he cannot give you .. water people don't know how to love that way.

Spot on Roxi...when Scorps are into you, you know it. They are possessive. Doesn't sound like this is the case. You solved your own mystery with the words, 'i believe he loves me , but no as much as before.' It's a hard pill to swallow, but the sooner you do, the less painful it will be.

So yes, move on...because it sounds as if he already has.

P Angel, all good comments. Yet in her post she said that he brought a friend with him. It sounds as if he didn't want to be put in the position of having to be alone with her. So 'friend' was his defense.

And you are spot on about the trust. Scorps will not put themselves out there with someone they do not trust.

thanks p-angel you open my eyes. i know he told me in the beginning that our relationship is not based on sex. i trust him, becuase he should me he can be trusted in so many ways. so trust is not the issue . its me learning to love him the way he deserve to be loved, and me getting the same in return. i had his heart, but now i need to learn how to get it back. he says be like i was in the beginning, and that was head over heels nothing matter but him, , and i feel like that now , but icant touch him, talk to him all the time or see him everyday. i want this man in my life he has taught me so much about me, and i respect him for that. what can i do i feel so disconnected from him, i know he likes his space that ive learned,a nd i don't mine him having it . i just want my good thing back i believe he is the one for me in all ways. i love him so much.

he is very possessive with me not to the point that he doesn't allow me to be me. put he has a cautious way about himself. what started out to be a great weekend ended in pain. in the past he has taken my car, and hasn't came back over night, so the angry i gave to him this weekend was based on not being able to trust that he would do it again. so i refused him of this, and he refused giving me sex. so you see its not the sex its the game that makes me angry. at this point it think i should sit back, and let him make the choices about us,becuase everytime i think one way things go another. he was nice the next day, but on the way home he sat in the back seat something else to make me angry ,but i didn't get upset just let it be. does scopios ever let you know up front what they want , and don't want , and are they typical selfish people?

i can honestly say yes he is a bit of a brat, but i created that brat. i have been there for him thru thick, and thin. the mood swings i have gotten use to. i had to make a statement by not allowing him to play the same game again. he got the message , but not without getting back at me , because he know its been a minute. but he has never been really sexual he can take or leave it. thats a good thing, becuase you have more value in how you feel about that person mentally instead of sexually.

Selfish? With others maybe, but with someone they care about, they wouldn't hesitate to give them the moon and the stars.

In spite of what it says about Scorps, sex is not always the main event in their lives.

I don't know the dynamics of this relationship, but from what you are saying this guy is playing you. As with the original advice, leave him alone. If he truly cares about you, he will quit his game playing and get serious about this when he realizes you are not playing along.

u are right, but you have to know the whole story. one night 8months ago this man came inot my life with a open heart mind, and body. he was open honest about everyhting he gave me his all. this man didn't have much in the way of money and things , but he had a good heart. he kiss me after each time we left each other. the first time he said i love you i was shock, and was unable to say it again like i said things were moving fast.he was shocked this was after at least 3-4months. he was totally in love, and i found myself feeling the same way i was scared. he is younger then me not much, but that didn't matter , becuase he treated me so good he loved me from the bottom of his heart. i had ex husband drama he still was there, childern drama he still was there. i hadn't had a man living with me for about 4yrs it was new, and challenging. he is a sweet man very attentive 2 my needs i realize that when i push him away with my fear. he has been the best thing for me the lessons i have learned from him about myself that no one could ever reach.

Roxi...I've read a couple of times in Scorp descriptions that some can transfer sexual energy into work or sports. Will see if I can find it if you want.

Sex is not even half of anything.

Show up unannounced at his place with nothing on under your jacket. If that doesn't work, leave him alone.

***Trust is frigging HUGE to the Scorp .... and if you didn't trust him when making your choices ... this would be processed as a betrayal on his end.***

Because we are so honest, it baffles us that people don't trust our sincerity and honesty.

***Scorps will not put themselves out there with someone they do not trust.***

Very true indeed. Trust and knowing that the other person witll "Be there" is huge.

***does scopios ever let you know up front what they want , and don't want , and are they typical selfish people?***

We almost always let you know. We just don't like repeating oursleves once we have told you and you act as if you didn't hear us or get it.

We are selfless to people we love and care for until we feel we have been betrayed.

So pookie,
Did ya'll have sex yet? Did you sit him down and ask him what the problem is? Have you tried to leave him alone?

cape angel i haven't had sex with him yet. he is stillbeing very distance . i did meet him about a week ago, but things turned sour i met his grandmother. she is very nice. i have decided to back off for a little while to see what happens thanks for the advice.

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