I just don't know what to do!

Ugh! I'm at my wits end. I posted on the Virgo board about my problem with this Virgo girl and I thought I did the right thing by cutting contact and ignoring her childish behavior. Whoa... didn't work. She has gone above and beyond to make me out to be the scum of the earth, harrassing me online and on my phone, and smearing my name to anyone that will listen. Her behavior is SO extream I'm starting to wonder about my safety. Seriously.

I know it sounds like a sob story coming to this board and venting and you guys are only getting my side of the story but I've always been bluntly honest and I'm not leaving anything out. I knew the friendship was toxic and I knew cutting contact would piss her off and create drama but she's going way overboard. I brought it to the board because she has all my friends involved and they are just throwing up their hands and "staying out of it".

The things she is saying are very very hurtful. I've been a bundle of nerves and on edge. When I told her I was done she tried different tactics on me. She went from threatening to pleading to hysterical. Now she's trying to bully the hell out of me. And yeah... it's getting to me even though I'm hiding it. Now she's calling me out through all my friends saying that if I wasn't such a "chicken shit" and running away from her because I'm scared to face the truth she may be "inclined to take me back as a friend". I'm dead serious. Ah! She's challanging me and I never back down from a challange! But it's gotten so childish(she's resorted to calling me red shrek) that I don't even see the need to address her issues. But gawd! I'm not a chicken and I feel like I'm backing down from her!!
Advice would be great peeps. I'm stumped as to who in their right mind would resort to this type of behavior. If she hates me so much then why bother? I wish she'd just move on! Should I get a no contact order on her or would that give her more to harp about? Geez... I graduated high school a while ago. This is beyond ridiculous!!

I'm thinking about it Winterborn. That's my last resort though. She's been threatening but it's just ...ya know.... threats. Mostly it's hurtful yet childish BS.
I'm so frustrated over this that I'm getting physically sick. I won't eat, I'm shakey, and I picked up an effing smoke today for the first time in ..... a year and a half?
I can't believe how far she's going. And for what? Lord knows. She claims she hates me but she's frothing at the mouth to ......... sheeeeet I don't know what she wants from me. A fight?
MY fiance is just waiting on me to say the word so he can go after her but it's NOT his fight and besides she'd try to pull the victim card "big scary soldier picking on poor little me".
Gawd... I have a raging headache. *sigh*

LOL Winterborn... it started out stupid but since I've told her no more contact she's gone insane. I mean crazy.
She's stalking me online, on my phone.... threats, namecalling. It's getting absurd.
If I'm being too sensitive though I need to hear it. I'm not scared of being told the honest truth. 🙂
I do know how I feel and I haven't ever been in a situation that I don't know how to stop dead in it's tracks. I just figured we'd go our seperate ways and be done. Oh no! *shakes head* She's out for revenge and I don't even know why! LOL

saphire... I think your way would be adding fuel to the fire. Sure I can beat her down (or fight her) but if I get the best of her no doubt she'd turn me in for assult. No doubt. She plays dirty. Always has. That's why I thought walking away and ignoring we be the for the best. As you can see her behavior is beyond insane.

Oh I have a ton of info on her. Shit I could get her and her husband put in jail for a LONG time and have her kids yanked from her. But ya know... I have no stomach for it. It's sad how bad it's getting. Especially since I didn't do anything to deserve it.
IDK... I guess I needed to vent. I do feel a little better. I'm still shakey. It's pent up rage. LOL
Thanks guys!

Saphire... I use to be alot like you when I was younger. The devil be damned if anyone crossed my path. But I got tired of being a spitfire and hell all the time. It was exhausting. And back then I always found myself in the middle of drama. I mellowed out a little (only a little 😉 ) and I prefer to have peace and try to take the high road rather then jump in swinging.
"Walk softly and carry a big stick". I like this quote. If push comes to shove yes... I'll fight. I've never backed down to one but in this situation this girl is looking to rile me up. I'm not about to satisfy her. That is why I'm so frustrated. I want blood bad but it'll only let her know that she's getting to me. Ignoring her is pissing her off or she wouldn't be getting so hysterical. I'm just not sure how far she's going to go. The harrassment is getting old quick and the more I ignore the more threatening she becomes.

LOL no not really. Let's just say I have an understanding with God 😉 I like His sense of humor. I know he has to have a heck of one to have created me 🙂
I guess you can say I'm spirital but I've never been the type to follow "The Rules" 😉

Hey Ginger...I was having problems with a virguy recently!! But he wasn't going insane like this chicky is...He was just being a persistant fucker, obviously hoping to wear me down and think that I would give in to his will...Didn't happen hahaha!!

Usually, if you can put forward some sort of logical and /or moralistic argument towards a virgo, that's usually when they stop acting retarded. Although in this case she does sound a bit psycho, so it may not work lol.

I told the virguy that he was disrespecting me; i'd only made a simple request (my exact words were: just leave me alone); that I didn't deserve this harassment from him and that some of my close mates were starting to get upset at the way he was behaving toward me and had offered to step in if need be. Oh and something about my decision being final and that I did not want him in my life. Since then, I haven't heard from him.

Have you asked her what the fuck her problem is? You made a simple request...My advice is: Say your piece, and be BLUNT. Don't mess around. Don't worry about her feelings, just be flat-out honest so there's no way she can misunderstand what you want. (In saying that, I personally wouldn't resort to insults or that kind of thing) If she doesn't stop, have her phone number barred by your service provider and then tell the police what this bitch is doing.

Her acting like an asshole isn't worth your happiness, ginger...You gotta find a way to deal with it and let it go, without stooping to her level (IMO)...I used to get so angry when that virguy tried to contact me, it would ruin my entire day or night or whatever...I would just be seething, so I know it's easier said than done...Oh and it really helps to talk to someone that cares about you, regarding an issue like this as well...

Good luck...I hope it gets sorted out soon 🙂

Hey Ging,

I guess some people never grow up huh? You need to block any contact you are getting from her. You can block any emails or facebook/bebo/myspace details and also block her number from your mobile/home ph. Also tell your friends you dont want to hear any gossip either, that way she wont be able to effect you. You may still hear the odd thing but mostly in a short time it'll all become to hard for it/her to get to you. And what you dont know wont hurt!

Unless your life is being threatened...that would be a whole different story!

Ginger ...... ignoring her is the answer.

Don't even listen to gossip about what she is saying about you behind your back. Since you aren't in contact with her, and since you all this stuff she is saying .... then it means that you are listening to gossip, and two, your friends are listening to this gossip enough to repeat it to you.



Friends, true friends ..... won't listen to what another person says about you, true friends will regard you according to how they view you, theirself.

If you react to these friends to even acknowledge that what this Virgo woman is saying, when they deliver this gossip ... then you are leaving the impression with your friends that this what this Virgo woman is saying has value.


If you "react" in any way .... then it validates the other person through you giving them enough credit for this very reaction.

Here's what my mind would automatically think ....


1. Why would my friends tell me these things? They know I'm finished with her, they know I want to get on with my life with her out of it ... so, why repeat to me nasty gossip that she is saying?

2. Why are they listening to her about me? These things she says about me ... don't they know me for themselves? Do they actually think this stuff is true?

3. If they would listen to her eventhough they know me and know it's not true, and if they would tell me these things eventhough they know that I have risen above her and no longer want association with her ........ then this means that their loyalty isn't with me, because is it was then they wouldn't participate in this gossip against me.


conclusion .... this would mean that they are reporting back to her because they actually like the telling of this gossip ===== any reaction I have is being reported back to her.


===== she knows she's getting my goat

Here's what you do. You confront her. Face to face. If she gets stupid. Grab her by her hair and slash her face with your nails. What's the problem?

Throw urine at her lol

^^^^^^^^^^^^^

It really is best to just ignore these psychotic women. Trust me, ignorance really will be bliss in this case. Let her do her worst...she will become incredibly tired of it when she knows she is not getting a rise out of you. If you retaliate it just gives her amunition. If she is the only one making the noise, everyone around you will eventually figure out who the real psycho is.

I had a virgo woman turn nasty on me for some reason..she was sooooo bitter and I helped her so much in terms of putting a positive spin to her life..just cheering her up..but she paid back with spreading rumours about me and basically slating me behind my back. Soooo childish. I cut her off..deleted her number, deleted her from my MSN list..she was still trying to get hold of me by sending me messages on hotmail..not nasty..just wanting to know what happened, where I am, why aren't I talking to her. I just said "ask yourself why I am not talking to you anymore, I am sure you'll figure it out soon". That was it!...

If she wants you to confront her, then do it in front of all your friends and don't rise to her...just listen to her incessant babbling and then say your piece calmly and then leave her to it..

Good luck

Tell that fucking psychotic bitch that if she doesn't stop, I'll go up there and kick her ass myself. Stupid bitch pisses me off. Seriously, she needs to get a fucking life, fucking pathetic.

If I wasn't so damn broke I'd fly there and beat the shit out of her, stupid shit spewing cunt. UGggh!!

*After regrouping*

What mm said was right though, the best tactic right now would be to ignore her. She's like a child so she'll eventually run out of steam and everyone will finally see her as a babbling, psychotic whore.

Be the better person that I know you are, ignore that bitch, she isn't worth any of your time.

What a fucking waste of life, dumb bitch.

Well... thank so much to all you suggestions and advice.

Here's the deal. I'm being a huge overly sensitive baby. Even though she doesn't know it I'm allowing her to get to me. I've had no contact with her since last week when I broke it off but she's trying to reach me through friends. Yeah... I see the comments she's leaving and it's so childish that it blows my mind and pisses me off. I mean... Red Shrek? LOL Wow. Just wow.

I had a fight with Aries today because of it. I've been moping around and he straight up told me. "Get the fuck over it and start acting like the girl I know. You're being a baby." Even though I fought him on it for awhile I know he and all of you are right. I need to let it go and stop trying to control the situation.
There is no logic to her behavior so why I'm trying to figure it out is beyond me. She's an unhappy person that has to drag me down to make herself feel better. I don't understand it and I'm going to give it my best and stop trying.
I got a package today from this girl with some of my DVD's she's borrowed smashed to bits. I guess I can just replace them. I feel like I'm taking abuse for no reason which is why this is bothering me. But I have to get over it. *shrug*
Tomorrow I'm getting her number blocked but I have a feeling that I'm going to have to change my number. Not fair but I guess I have to do it. She'll resort to texting and calling from other people's phones.

You guys have really helped me out. It means alot. Really. You have no idea how good it is to hear kind words in a time like this. Thanks. 🙂

LOL Yep she did. When I first got the package I was nervous. I half expected a dog turd or something.

I had to delete some friends off my myspace because of course she is going through their pages and leaving nasty comments about me. Hmmmm ... I'm finding out who my real friends are. Her bro who was a good friend accused me of starting drama and running away. 😢 He said I'm not being mature about it. See? This behavior and accusations have been constant since I told her to leave me alone. And the funny thing is... I didn't start anything. She did it to herself and since I told her our "friendship" is over she's been attacking me.
And I'm the immature one 😛

how old are they?

That's the kicker. The guy is 25 and she is 24. Still young but old enough to know better.

She's been hanging out with a group of high school girls 18 and 17 years old. She buys them beer and gets them fake ids.
Venting here has helped. I've been keeping it really quiet. Now I can't talk to fiance about it because he went off on me and told me he doens't want to hear about it anymore. I just needed an outlet. 🙂

Hey Ginger...I hear ya girl coz I came close to changing my number as well. Honestly people, ignoring may work on 95% of the population, but there is that small percentage that regardless of how much you ignore them, they just won't bloody stop....And it is really upsetting when you are on the receiving end of that. I speak from experience...And keep in mind, i'm no dumb bunny and I don't play stupid games either...

Best thing you can do is come to the realisation that this situation and this girl, do not deserve any more of your energy...You deserve to be happy, and to be in control of your life....Don't give this the power to bring you down, you're stronger than that. Now go enjoy yourself 🙂

Positive affirmations every time this pops into your mind, along with distracting yourself with something involving that always makes you feel good, will help you to get through 🙂 I found the worst thing was allowing myself to dwell on it...

Seriously, I would have slapped that bitch in the face by now.

Update :

I had to go to the cops. *sigh* I really don't get why it went this far but her bro sent me an email saying that she admitted to him that she was trying to "start shit" with me. He said she didn't have a reason but she thought it would be fun. When I told her to buzz off and that I was done with her and her drama she was pissed because she thought I'd get upset and fight with her. Ugh. What a child.
Anyway Friday night me and my guy fell asleep watching movies and I woke up to my phone ringing. I didn't know who's number it was but being half asleep I picked it up. It was Virgo girls husband. He threatened to kick my ass and told me to put my Aries on the phone cuz he was going to "kick his ass too". Christ on a crutch. Then we heard noises outside. My guy got up and went out to see what was going on. It was Virgo girl and her hubby drunker then skunks in the street screaming a throwing bottles at the house. I got my fiance back in the house and we called the cops.
They took off and hid before the cops could get them but as of now we have a no contact order on them. They were warned by the police if they even try to contact us we are going ahead with restraining orders and pressing charges.

I'm not the type of girl to do this stuff. I'm not a sissy. I was so reluctant to go to the police station the next day to fill out a statement I was in tears. This is so dumb outta control. I gave the cops a copy of the email her bro sent me and a print out of my text messages that she has sent me. They pushed me to press charges but I asked if I could just have them issue a warning first and next time I'll go forth with the charges.
The cops were asking how it got this far outta hand and why she was harrassing me. I felt so stupid when I had to say I didn't know exactly why she was doing it other then what her bro said in the email.
So... blah!! Is there something in the air lately or what?!?! 😛

I don't think it'll take much more time until Karma does it for me. He's drugged out of his mind and they were driving around town drunk. I got my aces covered and now it's a waiting game. Maybe I coped out but I'm trying so hard to take the high road. I just want to be done.
They are both going down a dangerous road. They cheat on each other, beat up each other and the sad thing is they have 2 young kids. DHS is investigating them. As messed up as they both are at the moment the rug is going to get yanked out from under them and they'll lose everything.
I was so so so tempted to spill when I was talking to the cops about everything but I figure that might be Karma points against me.

Yeah it's child protection services here in Kansas. The kids has had bruises in the past and the last straw was when her son drank a bottle of liquid heat (poison) and had to be rushed to the ER.

Right now they were warned no contact or the next incident that happens they will be charged. It's basically on my shoulders. I'm just going to wait it out and see.

*sigh* You sound lke such a victim. IT WENT THAT FAR BECAUSE THAT CHICK IS AN EFFING PSYCHO AND YOU LET HER. When that stuff happens YOU TAKE A STAND! Understand there is no rhyme or reason to that (crazy girl) behavior. MENTALLY ILL PEOPLE DO THINGS WITHOUT REASON. She's needs some serious medication and I'm not being funny. They are extremely dangerous OH AND P.S. GINGER Crazy people KNOW who they can target, they know and smell a victim when they see one. Wash that smell off of you. Not being funny, I grew up around 2 mentally ill people and learned fast about their "tactics".