Is this Scorpio testing me?

Hi all.

Am puzzled by my Scorpio's behaviour. Been seeing him for over 4 months. Had few misunderstandings along the way, but all cleared up. Last week, I didn't hear from him for a long while. I assumed he was busy and I didn't want to bother him. Then I got nasty text from him saying: "Send you few texts, didn't hear anything from you. I get the message blablabla". So I replied and said "what do you mean? etc. I didn't get any texts from you".
Then he accused me of playing games, even though I explained to him I never received his texts. He half and half accepted it, but was still not convinced, I asked to phone him, but he did not want to speak because he was too upset.
He wanted to meet me the next day to kiss and make-up, but I couldn't make it, which he did not like, and he then got nasty again.

When we spoke next, he acted as if nothing happened between us. Maybe I should have let it go, but I felt I deserved an apology for being accused of playing games. He refused to give me one. I know he's very stubborn and I decided to swallow my pride and let it go.

This week he has been really distant with me, ignoring me for hours, but eventually replying. Very abrupt and cold in his text messages. Today was a bit better, but now he seems to be ignoring me again.

We got on really great, and I just can't understand that because of a technological fault, he is acting like this. Should I just leave him be and wait til he gets over it. Or is it a lost case?

(I know he's under a bit of stress at the moment, finishing his job soon, and not having another one yet).

Thanks,
rammygirl

LOL I'm dealing with the same thing.

Check out my post: http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=1432364<BR>




It's that Mercury retrogade bull crap fucking up communications.

Scorpio men are big babies sometimes.

Keep showing him you care. Send him little cute texts or whatever but let him cool off at the same time.

Thanks MysticDreamer.

I shall hang in there for a little longer. I have been sending him nice messages this morning, and they made him laugh. But then nothing. Sigh.
I know he'll say he's been very busy if I ask him why, so I won't bother. Never stopped him before sending a text LOL.

I have noticed that he can be like a spoilt child if he doesn't get his way LOL.
If this is going to happen too often, I'll be running for the hills hahaha.

Regards,
rammygirl

Hi am3,

You're right, that has happened, him claiming he didn't get my text til the next day. But I wasn't childish about it, like he is now, and know that these things can happen. I often get the feeling he is playing games and have confronted him about it, but he says he would never do that (yeah right). It's just sooooooooo tiring LOL. But all else is good, so will have to see what happens.

He finally texted me. Asking how things are and how my afternoon went LOL. I'm so inclined to ignore it til tomorrow morning. Suits him right, but then I'd be lowering myself to what he's doing.

Thanks,
rammygirl

Sounds to me like both of you are playing with each other ... you were perfectly capable of contacting him during this timeframe, also.

As for the apology .. well yeah >>>>>> stand should have been made immediately, and not waited until after he calmed down, to bring it up again >>>>>>>>>> a desire to re-open a wound in which you allowed him to heal from before addressing the issue.

"He finally texted me. Asking how things are and how my afternoon went LOL. I'm so inclined to ignore it til tomorrow morning. Suits him right, but then I'd be lowering myself to what he's doing."



Yes, ignore for now ... punishment in relationships is always the right course of action for mature people to gain a respectful relationship.

Make him pay, rather than properly developing a mature relationship >>>>>>>>> and then say that he's playing a game, while you have done nothing to participate.

lol don't play games🙂 i know we like to but if you want to develop a semi-normal relationship here just don't play games. text back when get the text and don't think about panishing anyone. he'll get an idea that you don't play games and he'll try not to play games.

P-Angel- hysterical! and so right

Hi P-Angel,

I could have contacted him in this timeframe, but did sent him the last text this morning.

You are right about the apology thing, I should have either brought it up straightaway or let it go alltogether. I can see that now. Am still learning :-)

Regards,
rammygirl

btw: just wait to for him to use reverse psycology to find out how you feel about him and the relationship. that's where the fun begins!!! lmao
again, don't play games and tell him to his face not to play games if he wants to be with you. then sit back and watch him play mental games with you. don't play games back and eventually he will start consider not to play games as much lmao

"Yes, ignore for now ... punishment in relationships is always the right course of action for mature people to gain a respectful relationship."

I did say 'inclined' LOL, but have texted him :-)


rammygirl

Thanks am3. Am still being myself :-) I guess he's just testing me a bit and see if I bite. I haven't so far. Will try and be patient. He did let slip that his pride was hurt (me not being able to meet, well I do have other things going on in my life LOL), so guess that's when the games started.

Ariesgirl402, I can't wait LOL, just kidding. I don't like games, and didn't think I had played them myself, but perhaps I have as a reaction to his, but I shall avoid that in future. Thanks :-)

rammygirl

fyi (for future reference):


To contact a partner is not a bother .... a bother, is not bothering to contact a partner because it makes them feel like they aren't wanted enough.


Just look in here, for example ..... people are pissed to high heaven moreso over their partners not bothering to contact them when thinking about them, than anything else.

Ariesgirl402, I can't wait LOL, just kidding. I don't like games, and didn't think I had played them myself, but perhaps I have as a reaction to his, but I shall avoid that in future. Thanks :-)" - you thought you were not playing games lol. yes, you have played games - i know i'm an aries too and we have our way of doing things. and we're naturally very playfull but some ppl can get it. here is my advice - when you fell like you want to play a game or about to start playing games - stop and do the opposite😉 if he texts or calls and you're able to answer then do so. you don't have to be his on his back and call all the time but don't play i'll text him whever games. and be somewhat fun challenging.

am3- so far so good. all lovey dovey with a hint of emotional torture directed at me for his amusement lmao

It's got to be something in the air wit Aries and Scropios....

rammy

Don't trip off of him when he starts acting like that just give him space and live your life he will be back if it was not that serious. Stop putting so much energy in him.


My male aries friend/ex FWB called me today because he was up at the hospital for an appt I went to see him in the waiting room he was telling about the women he was dating and how he can't be with her anymore because of her insecurities, so I tell him to talk to her about it and he said "some women should now certain things"...I just looked at him.


I had to tell him today a year later almost that he screwed the FWB up because of his distant and lack of communication he claims it is all my fault and that is fine I can take the blame but whatever the case maybe he will never have this again. He told me I lost all my benefits yet when I call him for something he is always there 🙂 We will forever be friends but I could never date him again.

So today when he finishes his appointment we are going to lunch...🙂

Wow, thanks for all your comments.

What I mean with I don't like games, is childish head games etc. I'm all for flirty games and fun!

To FuckinA, it's easy to walk away, but things overall have been really good so far. We all have our moods, so maybe he's just going through some stuff at the moment that he needs to deal with.

Am not going to let him walk all over me, that's for sure.

Will wait and see how it goes.

Thanks,
rammygirl

"I'm all for flirty games and fun!"

lol...do those words belong in the same sentence as "I'm dating a scorpio"—

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Until he threw his little tantrum, yes, they played a big part.

FuckinA,

Am not taking his behaviour lightly. But I can accept that no one is perfect, well apart from me of course .... NOT lol. And so far it's been going so well. So will give him another chance, but will obviously watch out for recurring behaviour like this and that'll be the end then.

Thanks,
rammygirl

Ferdy,

Did I use the wrong word? LOL

(Sorry am not a native English speaker)

Ah, so there'll be more of that to come LOL. Well I am prepared now!

I appreciate what you're saying FuckinA. And believe me, I am no doormat and will not get sucked in easily. This is the first major disagreement we are having, so once bitten twice shy I guess.

rammygirl, you're on the Scorp board. Read the threads; you'll notice a
pattern with these Scorp men. Good luck!

Thanks Ferdy, I have taken note!

FuckinA,

I asked for advice. And as you can see some people say that I was in the wrong, some people say he is. I have already said I appreciate your advice and am taking note of it.

"fa-seriously, ya know i love ya, but...you really have to have the scorp male/aries female experience to see what all the fuss is about.
and what it boils down to is..well, really great sex. ok, i said it. i admit it. the sex is scorching..so..but, the bad thing about the whole pairing is the "control" issues..a scorp man always having to be in control, the aries female never being allowed to be controlled..plus the communication issues..it's literally like trying to mesh darkness and light.."

am3, hmmm yeah the sex is mindblowing.
So far I didn't notice any control issues yet. Is it normal that that comes a bit later? And is that the stage he is at now with me? Trying to see how far he can push me? Well he won't get far after this wobbly he threw LOL.
I also read that they don't like to open up, but I have felt that he wears his heart on his sleeves, almost from the word GO. So that doesn't make sense to me.
Would appreciate if you could enlighten me a bit more.

Thanks,
rammygirl

"I know that...I'm just saying. Your responses are so typical of so many women here. I already know what they're really going to do and what they're thinking because they keep posting the same things and the same problems over and over again despite what people tell them. It's just frustrating. Sorry if I seem annoyed with you, but I guess I'm just annoyed at the whole pattern that takes place."

FuckinA,
I know that you're frustrated and that you're only trying to help me. I know what it feels like, I've got a friend with a loser boyfriend, and can't get through to her LOL. So I know how you feel. I just want to give him one more chance. So far he seemed to be a real nice guy, attentive, flirty, no possessiveness that I have noticed, good sense of humour, open. So I am just wondering if he was at his best behaviour (can anyone keep that up for over 4 months?) and his true colours are showing now. I'm not particularly naive, and usually a good judge of character, but will obviously be more cautious from now on.

"How about YOU enlighten us with his chart...WE enlighten you with the specifics...then we can ALL be enlightened"

How do I get his chart?

Ferdy
"ah...it's just all so familiar I will observe w/o commenting - lol!"

Know that's funny Ferdy LOL... Hell I am a scropio and I am always observing. Other people have the answers and I have no intentions to dispute what they believe unless it is worth commenting


FA
I don't get why I continue to waste my breath. Ultimately all of these women that come on here and talk about these problems are just gonna stay with the person anyway and accept all of their crappy behavior. It's like why even bother to complain if you're not seriously going to do something about it? What's the point in even discussing it?"

i didn't stay..and i'm not so sure that i'm up for another bout with a scorp man in the near future, but their behavior is quite intriguing i must say!

Right, FA this is a reoccurring cycle, and it seems these women still don't get it yet, so I say let them learn through TRIAL and ERROR.

"LOL...and I bet she's always complaining to you about the same problems too. Sometimes, I really just think women need attention and like to complain."

LOL, she's been with him for years however, and he's not a Scorpio, but a million times worse from what I've seen, but what do I know LOL.