Long Distance Scorps ...

male scorp 25

***We seem to have communication problems , and I always feel so suspicious of him and wonder if he does me as well.***

Communication problems are not out of the ordinary for any combination. There is no magic-pill solution. Relationships require constant and never-ending effort and attention. I've yet to find a better way. As scorps, it's true we have some good intuitive abilities, but we also have minds to clarify and test them - even if we have feelings for and about people, we should think things through and observe carefully. No sense opening up too much to someone unworthy. At the same time, when it's time to share something honestly, we need to be sensitive as the the timing and method. It takes guts at times.

Suspicion is a difficult issue. Personally, I feel trust is something that needs to be developed over time (no shortcuts)- and with good reason, especially for sensitive water signs like us. Who needs to get stung unnecessarily? I counsel you to avoid falling in too deep, too quickly. I personally find that my suspicion is like a warning buzzer that I've extended too much emotion and trust without having a solid, proven basis for doing so. When suspicion or jealousy surface, I check myself regarding this.

*** He thinks I hide things and I'm not open enough about my feelings and thoughts. I do admit , I have issues about opening up until I know someone well. ***

Well, scorps tend to be anonymous, hidden, and mysterious.

Mainly a defense mechanism. No problem here, is there? With your sensitivity level, you'd be a fool to give your emotional insides to someone who hasn't proven himself consistently over time. In my own life, when I'm seeing someone and we're learning about each other, I respond to extremely personal questions with something like, "I appreciate your curiousity and if you still need to know that then ask me again in 2 (or whatever) months ... I'm just not ready to talk about that yet.". I've yet to offend someone by saying that. Mostly, they just nod in understanding. The same applies to emotions, family, and sexual issues. All I know is that it works for me. I don't know if it is "right" or not. Besides, he is most likely doing the exact same things for the same reasons.

*** He confuses me at times. He can seem so caring , and then the next day so short on words and so distant. ***

Well, he is certainly distant geographically, isn't he?

Seems very Gemini-like, doesn't it? Most likely, though, he just isn't voicing what he's really thinking. When people do that with me, I just cut the conversation short and wait for another time when they're in a different mood. Maybe you're just catching him in a bad mood. There are lots of factors. Younger scorpios tend to have a little more difficulty communicating themselves. Make every effort to be straightforward, yet sensitive to your feelings and his.

As a final thought let me just remind you that these are just general opinions on things that work in my life. That's why I use them. However, I've never been in a relationship with a scorp female. The control issues bother me, not to mention the jealousy. When I come across female scorps we usually keep our distance and show mutual respect. I highly counsel you to search the net for advice regarding 2 scorpios in a relationship. Example ...

"When two Scorpions make a love match, it is a fierce tempest of intense passion. Both are obsessed with one another, and they move forward in love, sex and romance at an accelerated -- some would say foolish -- way. Personal relations are positively steamy but, to the equal and opposite extreme, disputes will also be frenetically powerful. This relationship could go either way: It will either be the most wonderful thing in the world or a destruction of both involved. "

Take it slow and think things through.