
LilliLou
@LilliLou
12 Years1,000+ PostsScorpio
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
First, try to recognize that you, in fact, are being mirrored. Second, if you love the person, try to understand that they are not doing this to hurt you. Water signs are sensitive and in many ways very shy when you get to our core. If you can really examine the mirror from that context, you will find that the mirror is really about helping you to understand how they feel. Like really feel.

Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by IrresistableScorp
First, try to recognize that you, in fact, are being mirrored. Second, if you love the person, try to understand that they are not doing this to hurt you. Water signs are sensitive and in many ways very shy when you get to our core. If you can really examine the mirror from that context, you will find that the mirror is really about helping you to understand how they feel. Like really feel.
Well, I think this is tricky. Who's to say they are actually mirroring you? When is it "mirroring" vs the person just demonstrating a negative trait? This is why I have a problem with the while idea of m mirroring.
I have no problem owning my behaviour in the whole me-you-me-you dance, but I won't own yours. This is why self reflection is key.
I agree with the intentions, so some extent when again, it is not involving poor behaviour vs. mirroring.
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Most signs will tell you how they feel. "This made me feel...so on and so forth..." Water signs will try to get you to feel how they feel. If you are an intuitive, sensitive sort you should take that in and reflect.

Posted by LilliLouPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by LilliLou
Here is a little giggle for you; the anally retentive aqua in my office (cap moon methinks!?! 😛) has signed himself up for a police bulletin/ email broadcast. I live in Chch, NZ- nothing exciting ever happens! The big announcement this morning was that a bridge was closed due to a car accident... Whoa!!!
This did make me giggle.
How is it people know other people's chart specs? I can barely remember my own without looking it up constantly.
I'm just being a smarty-pants about the moon... I could astrotheme, but can't really be bothered! He is a grumpy boring old bear so I was being cheeky about caps!click to expand

Posted by xMoonManPosted by LilliLou
I like that waters 'get' the emotion and don't hide from it. They get down and dirty, wallow & roll in the emotional mudpit.
But it can be pretty intense. Crabs especially- they take the emotion and crystallize it, refract and then shatter it!
Um, yeah, I don't know about that.
At the risk of sounding sexist, that's kind of a female thing to say/think.
Male water Sun signs handle emotions in a different way to women.
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Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by IrresistableScorp
Most signs will tell you how they feel. "This made me feel...so on and so forth..." Water signs will try to get you to feel how they feel. If you are an intuitive, sensitive sort you should take that in and reflect.
Hmmm, yes....but, no?(for me anyway). I think ^^^this is where water signs get stuck (at least in terms of growth and relating to other people in the most effective way). I get the whole "water signs will try to get you to feel how they feel" approach. I've done/still do it. The problem with this approach is the fact that other signs do not respond well to this or even understand it. We see it all over the boards, even between water signs (e.g. play the mirror game). One would think that we could just sense/feel our partner's needs/hurt/concerns, get a clue and respond accordingly. Yet, we also have trouble in this area. True, not as much as with other signs, but we still have issue with it. So clearly, it is not an effective approach.
Our ability to sense another person's emotions and our sensitivity make us great givers/nurturers/healers/lovers, but this is our gift. I don't think it is our place to "force" another person to be like us (aka "get you to [intuitively] feel how they feel"). This is akin to expecting a deaf person to communicate through speech because I communicate this way. Wouldn't it be better received if I try to communicate to you the way you understand best? I think the fact that we have such a negative reaction when another water sign tries to passively make us feel that they are upset (if we haven't picked up on it) say something. So why continue the cycle by also doing it?
Water signs need to learn to feel something, own it and fully express their needs and desires without imposing these emotions on another person, even if it means they will not be fully understood by another. It helps us grow.
I think what I am saying is, as water signs we can become a little to reliant on our intuitive nature when it comes to communicating and obtaining our needs. It is a strength meant to help us connect and relate to others better, not a means of imposing our needs on others--even fellow water signs.click to expand

Posted by LilliLouPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by IrresistableScorp
First, try to recognize that you, in fact, are being mirrored. Second, if you love the person, try to understand that they are not doing this to hurt you. Water signs are sensitive and in many ways very shy when you get to our core. If you can really examine the mirror from that context, you will find that the mirror is really about helping you to understand how they feel. Like really feel.
Well, I think this is tricky. Who's to say they are actually mirroring you? When is it "mirroring" vs the person just demonstrating a negative trait? This is why I have a problem with the while idea of m mirroring.
I have no problem owning my behaviour in the whole me-you-me-you dance, but I won't own yours. This is why self reflection is key.
I agree with the intentions, to some extent, when again it is not involving poor behaviour vs. mirroring.
Thats what I mean... Where does it end? Infinity Conundrum!
Am I being distant and snotty, or is he?
Its fine for good emotions... sparking off one another is awesome, but what about the bad ones??
*SCORP EMO HEADACHE* in 3, 2, 1...click to expand

Posted by LilliLou
Much to like here, and learn from PR's wisdom!



Posted by LilliLou
^^^ And PR, massive compliments- I always find your posts are spot on! Illuminating, concise and insightful! (Promise I'm not poking my tongue out at you!!!😄)

Posted by PhoenixRising
I recently (like 2 days ago type of "recently") that men do communicate their feelings pretty often. It just looks very different.

Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by LilliLou
^^^ And PR, massive compliments- I always find your posts are spot on! Illuminating, concise and insightful! (Promise I'm not poking my tongue out at you!!!😄)
Thanks Lilli. I don't really know what to do with compliments, so I try as best as I can to ignore them without being rude (e.g. joke or deflect) if that makes any sense. It's a flaw, but it's me.click to expand

Posted by LilliLouPosted by PhoenixRising
I recently (like 2 days ago type of "recently") that men do communicate their feelings pretty often. It just looks very different.
Ooo.... do tell us more... (or at least moi!)click to expand



Posted by PhoenixRising
^^^If you're stuck on having to "hear" these words, you may be disappointed for much of the relationship.
Do I like it? No. Not at all. I can express my feelings, so why the hell can't you?! Well, because he's not me. Very similar to what was written above. Not imposing your approach on another person. I have to remind myself of this often. Daily ().
What I did find out is when I stopped trying to push what I wanted (e.g. him communicating his feelings), and accepted his effort the verbal communication came freely. I am pretty direct when it comes to addressing things and I simply put what I saw out there; basically I acknowledged the effort he was making and expressed that I understood that this was his way of telling me he did care. He appreciated hearing this very much and his willingness to communicate his feelings came after in time (to my surprise). I say to my surprise, because at that point I was more than willing to just accept this man doesn't share like I do.
I think everyone just wants to be appreciated and accepted as they are. Once they are, they are more open to the idea of adjusting to meet your needs.

Posted by LilliLou
Gosh darnit PR... I was hoping that you'd have a fool proof ABC, this still means I have to interpret the bloody buggers! (now where are the men at?)
"How I show I love a woman"
Neuro- I caught you a fish, and you can have half of my blood orange custard filled donut
Moon- I made you a mix tape — —??
EEE- I makey teh scribblehs funneh and all will be lulz
BUT; all that asides, sounds like it is going well with the Merc Leo! He sounds pretty sweet- reading between the lines!

Posted by LilliLou
BUT; all that asides, sounds like it is going well with the Merc Leo! He sounds pretty sweet- reading between the lines!

Posted by Rabbit
What's the question?



Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by LilliLou
Gosh darnit PR... I was hoping that you'd have a fool proof ABC, this still means I have to interpret the bloody buggers! (now where are the men at?)
"How I show I love a woman"
Neuro- I caught you a fish, and you can have half of my blood orange custard filled donut
Moon- I made you a mix tape — —??
EEE- I makey teh scribblehs funneh and all will be lulz
BUT; all that asides, sounds like it is going well with the Merc Leo! He sounds pretty sweet- reading between the lines!
Haha, sorry. My input is based on observation and limited brief splash of "pay attention" cold water. I'm not even sure our watery (and cuspy) men would be able to tell us with any certainty that a man doing A means B. It's unique to the man, just like a fish would be unique to Rabbit or a mix tape to MoonMan or a Monkey to 3E.
As well, wouldn't those descriptions you posted be exactly what I am referring to? Their actions reflect their emotions?click to expand

Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Rabbit
What's the question?
Where do you get those cool avis?
Oh yes, and KiwiFruit wanted to know so stuff about your kind.click to expand

Posted by LilliLouPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Rabbit
What's the question?
Where do you get those cool avis?
Oh yes, and KiwiFruit wanted to know so stuff about your kind.
And I like your cute kitty AVI PR!!!
Can we change your name to Strawberry please? Then you, me and pineapples can all be fruit salad...
sorry! TOOO MUCH SUGARRR!!!click to expand

Posted by RabbitPosted by PhoenixRising
Dammit! Rabbit stole my shine.......
I'll aim for 3,000.
Remember...the OP counts as a "reply", so technically, you're 2000.click to expand

Posted by Rabbit
Who is going to be the marshmallows and the whipped cream to mix in?

Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Rabbit
Who is going to be the marshmallows and the whipped cream to mix in?
Marshmallows?
Doesn't that work in jello or something?
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Posted by Rabbit
Cut up fruit, coconut, marshmallows, and whipped cream?
Am I the only person who's eaten that before?



Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Rabbit
Cut up fruit, coconut, marshmallows, and whipped cream?
Am I the only person who's eaten that before?
Uh, yeah.click to expand

Posted by RabbitPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Rabbit
Cut up fruit, coconut, marshmallows, and whipped cream?
Am I the only person who's eaten that before?
Uh, yeah.
Lemme guess...you never had that pale green pistachio salad stuff either?click to expand

Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by LilliLou
BUT; all that asides, sounds like it is going well with the Merc Leo! He sounds pretty sweet- reading between the lines!
Well, I don't make "reading between" the lines very easy because my analogies and experience often bleed into each other giving the impression I am talking about something when I am not. Going well? Sure, but not in the way you probably think or mean. We've definitely come to a place were we better understand each other, but nothing more. We're still dancing in circles.click to expand

Posted by LilliLou
Sorted!!!
Okay, so PR can be the Papaya (or melons did you say?? (??Y??) hehe)
Melly can be our little strawberry...
And EEE... well he's a bit banana's anyway 😉


Posted by LilliLouPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by LilliLou
BUT; all that asides, sounds like it is going well with the Merc Leo! He sounds pretty sweet- reading between the lines!
Well, I don't make "reading between" the lines very easy because my analogies and experience often bleed into each other giving the impression I am talking about something when I am not. Going well? Sure, but not in the way you probably think or mean. We've definitely come to a place were we better understand each other, but nothing more. We're still dancing in circles.
Is he a Leo sun too...click to expand

Posted by Rabbit
Pistachio salad is basically marshmallows mixed with cool whip, pistachio pudding, and pistachios.
Weirdest. Dessert. Ever.

Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by LilliLouPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by LilliLou
BUT; all that asides, sounds like it is going well with the Merc Leo! He sounds pretty sweet- reading between the lines!
Well, I don't make "reading between" the lines very easy because my analogies and experience often bleed into each other giving the impression I am talking about something when I am not. Going well? Sure, but not in the way you probably think or mean. We've definitely come to a place were we better understand each other, but nothing more. We're still dancing in circles.
Is he a Leo sun too...
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Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Rabbit
Pistachio salad is basically marshmallows mixed with cool whip, pistachio pudding, and pistachios.
Weirdest. Dessert. Ever.
You're not kidding.click to expand


Posted by LilliLou
^^hmmm... what you be hiding up in there PR??^^
p.s. I am a big fan of the Leo-Scorp connection; just trying to find the right Leo 😉





Posted by xMoonMan
Phoenix, always tryna be mysterious. Kinda cute.
What's with all you stinger girls with Scorp mars?
Does the cosmos have a sale on Scorp mars every November...
I'm sending out a mantra to find a Scorpio woman with sorp mars, I wanna find out first hand what it be all about
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Do they? Most of the male waters I know are intensely emotional- and definitely wallow when they're not getting their way! And they are great to talk to about 'how you are feeling' X... Y... Z...
One Cancer male I know is also one of those overly motivationally Hallmark card type of status update type person... You know: If you don't like your life, change it (but with extra sentiment!)
They also LOVE when you come to them for advice...