Oh Boy... What Have I Done ..

This is so embarrassing I don’t even know what to make of it.

So I dated a Cappy guy almost two years ago for 4 months. He ended things stating we had no spark and he has commitment issues. Fast forward a year later we are now friends, put things behind us and agreed that while we may not have worked out we do make amazing friends.

So over this last year we’ve become super close and have both stated we are now best friends. While I have moved on a dated, he hasn’t. He hasn’t even slept with anyone since me. We are very open and talk about everything and I know he’s telling the truth on that.

Things with a guy I’ve been dating ended recently so I’ve been pretty down about it (gemini dude). So cue up Saturday night we’re out for drinks (which we’ve done a million times) and he’s being pretty touchy feely which isn’t normal. He makes a few comments about having so much to say to me and not being able to get the words out. We head back to his place (again normal as we usually play poker) one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together.

I tried to leave and do the walk of shame and he wouldn’t let me. He held me and cuddled me all night, rubbing and kissing my back. He drove me home in the morning and acted like everything was normal. He contacted me last night and chatted as if everything was the same, just two friends picking on each other and laughing. Does he still have feelings for me? Did we just have a drunken night? Should I just pretend nothing happened? Stupid overthinking and obsessiveness is kicking in big time.

You guys are already friends, just continue on this path. Both of you know each other by now and like each other, obviously. You two are both single now too. Go with the flow!

I think it's safe to say he still has feelings and likes you.

Posted by MissKrabs

well now you have a spark too. in sane world that would be enough since you are already friends, but since we are not sane, who the hell knows. commitment issues? why is that? what kind of severe trauma did he had? if you say someone cheated on him or/and left him, imagine me rolling my eyes.

LOL she didn't leave him, he ended up leaving her and the province he was in to get away. She was 500 shades of crazy a $ $ lady. I know this due to other friends from his hometown that I've talked to over the last couple years that witnessed stuff.

... one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together...

Whoops... How on earth did his penis accidently slip itself into my vagina without me noticing!!

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Posted by saggurl88

You guys are already friends, just continue on this path. Both of you know each other by now and like each other, obviously. You two are both single now too. Go with the flow!

I think it's safe to say he still has feelings and likes you.

So accept fwb

This is what. These guys do break up keep us freinds so a matter of time this situation come up n nicely wraps into fwb

You won’t bring up commitment or his issue

Win for him

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Was there something that I missed— Did she accept a FWB situation that I am unaware of? These talks can happen whenever she or he is ready. They are both adults and can decide what they want to do.

I commented on the fact that they are friends and already know each other, didn't say anything about some FWB situation.

Yo for real, bring it up and talk it out.

Posted by tiziani

I feel like men can't handle being used for sex, probably why he did the hugging cuddling thing. It doesn't always mean there are deeper feelings there, it can be an ego thing.

But ultimately if you guys both just lay both your cards on the table that's a lot simpler. What else is friendship for if not that.

This is actually how I develop relationships lol Through sex and friendship. I need to know what the guy is working with to see if it's even worth my time. A solid base of friendship but sucky sex is a recipe for disaster for me in a relationship. Who would want to settle for that! 😛

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by tiziani

I feel like men can't handle being used for sex, probably why he did the hugging cuddling thing. It doesn't always mean there are deeper feelings there, it can be an ego thing.

But ultimately if you guys both just lay both your cards on the table that's a lot simpler. What else is friendship for if not that.

This is actually how I develop relationships lol Through sex and friendship. I need to know what the guy is working with to see if it's even worth my time. A solid base of friendship but sucky sex is a recipe for disaster for me in a relationship. Who would want to settle for that! 😛

just "fall" into relationships, eh? But i actually agree.

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Yes, It's less pressure on my part. I make sure if we are having sex, that it's only with each other but other then that, I don't pressure men into a relationship.

They seem to not last nowadays anyways and the friendship is ruined. lol I'd rather it grow into something stable and reliable, through our friendship.

Posted by tiziani

I feel like men can't handle being used for sex, probably why he did the hugging cuddling thing. It doesn't always mean there are deeper feelings there, it can be an ego thing.

But ultimately if you guys both just lay both your cards on the table that's a lot simpler. What else is friendship for if not that.

Yeah don't fool yourself into thinking a cuddle = feelings.

He prolly does have feelings for you. He's your friend and he cares about you.

Outside of that? Well just go with the flow. He will make it know if he wants more than fwb from you.

Posted by AgentP911

... one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together...

Whoops... How on earth did his penis accidently slip itself into my vagina without me noticing!!

Micro penis strikes again! Lmao

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by AgentP911

... one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together...

Whoops... How on earth did his penis accidently slip itself into my vagina without me noticing!!

Micro penis strikes again! Lmao

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This made me lol haha. It's not like I didn't know what I was doing, I guess it was more unexpected. Sneaky penises haha

Yeah I feel like since he ended things initially he should be the one to bring up any sort of change in the relationship department. For now I guess I'll just keep going with the flow and see how it goes.

Posted by starlord

But isn't all of this supposed to be depending on his venus sign?

Sun Capricorn

Moon Scorpio

Mercury Capricorn

Venus Capricorn

Mars Scorpio

Posted by scorpio1108

This is so embarrassing I don’t even know what to make of it.

So I dated a Cappy guy almost two years ago for 4 months. He ended things stating we had no spark and he has commitment issues. Fast forward a year later we are now friends, put things behind us and agreed that while we may not have worked out we do make amazing friends.

So over this last year we’ve become super close and have both stated we are now best friends. While I have moved on a dated, he hasn’t. He hasn’t even slept with anyone since me. We are very open and talk about everything and I know he’s telling the truth on that.

Things with a guy I’ve been dating ended recently so I’ve been pretty down about it (gemini dude). So cue up Saturday night we’re out for drinks (which we’ve done a million times) and he’s being pretty touchy feely which isn’t normal. He makes a few comments about having so much to say to me and not being able to get the words out. We head back to his place (again normal as we usually play poker) one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together.

I tried to leave and do the walk of shame and he wouldn’t let me. He held me and cuddled me all night, rubbing and kissing my back. He drove me home in the morning and acted like everything was normal. He contacted me last night and chatted as if everything was the same, just two friends picking on each other and laughing. Does he still have feelings for me? Did we just have a drunken night? Should I just pretend nothing happened? Stupid overthinking and obsessiveness is kicking in big time.

Good luck Doll...I KNOW you'll keep us posted (Eva looks at crystal ball);

from OP (future), "Oh, well, at least we decided to remain friends 'again' even though he barely looks at me"



🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by EvatheDiva52

Posted by scorpio1108

This is so embarrassing I don’t even know what to make of it.

So I dated a Cappy guy almost two years ago for 4 months. He ended things stating we had no spark and he has commitment issues. Fast forward a year later we are now friends, put things behind us and agreed that while we may not have worked out we do make amazing friends.

So over this last year we’ve become super close and have both stated we are now best friends. While I have moved on a dated, he hasn’t. He hasn’t even slept with anyone since me. We are very open and talk about everything and I know he’s telling the truth on that.

Things with a guy I’ve been dating ended recently so I’ve been pretty down about it (gemini dude). So cue up Saturday night we’re out for drinks (which we’ve done a million times) and he’s being pretty touchy feely which isn’t normal. He makes a few comments about having so much to say to me and not being able to get the words out. We head back to his place (again normal as we usually play poker) one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together.

I tried to leave and do the walk of shame and he wouldn’t let me. He held me and cuddled me all night, rubbing and kissing my back. He drove me home in the morning and acted like everything was normal. He contacted me last night and chatted as if everything was the same, just two friends picking on each other and laughing. Does he still have feelings for me? Did we just have a drunken night? Should I just pretend nothing happened? Stupid overthinking and obsessiveness is kicking in big time.

Good luck Doll...I KNOW you'll keep us posted (Eva looks at crystal ball);

from OP (future), "Oh, well, at least we decided to remain friends 'again' even though he barely looks at me"



🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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haha I genuinely hope that doesn't happen or I'd be losing an awesome best friend. I see him everyday as he's a customer at my work and was his usual self... then again he doesn't show much of anything around other people. We're both like that, completely different outside of work.

Posted by scorpio1108

This is so embarrassing I don’t even know what to make of it.

So I dated a Cappy guy almost two years ago for 4 months. He ended things stating we had no spark and he has commitment issues. Fast forward a year later we are now friends, put things behind us and agreed that while we may not have worked out we do make amazing friends.

So over this last year we’ve become super close and have both stated we are now best friends. While I have moved on a dated, he hasn’t. He hasn’t even slept with anyone since me. We are very open and talk about everything and I know he’s telling the truth on that.

Things with a guy I’ve been dating ended recently so I’ve been pretty down about it (gemini dude). So cue up Saturday night we’re out for drinks (which we’ve done a million times) and he’s being pretty touchy feely which isn’t normal. He makes a few comments about having so much to say to me and not being able to get the words out. We head back to his place (again normal as we usually play poker) one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together.

I tried to leave and do the walk of shame and he wouldn’t let me. He held me and cuddled me all night, rubbing and kissing my back. He drove me home in the morning and acted like everything was normal. He contacted me last night and chatted as if everything was the same, just two friends picking on each other and laughing. Does he still have feelings for me? Did we just have a drunken night? Should I just pretend nothing happened? Stupid overthinking and obsessiveness is kicking in big time.

Now that‘s what I call a real FWB!

Do you want it that way?

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by scorpio1108

This is so embarrassing I don’t even know what to make of it.

So I dated a Cappy guy almost two years ago for 4 months. He ended things stating we had no spark and he has commitment issues. Fast forward a year later we are now friends, put things behind us and agreed that while we may not have worked out we do make amazing friends.

So over this last year we’ve become super close and have both stated we are now best friends. While I have moved on a dated, he hasn’t. He hasn’t even slept with anyone since me. We are very open and talk about everything and I know he’s telling the truth on that.

Things with a guy I’ve been dating ended recently so I’ve been pretty down about it (gemini dude). So cue up Saturday night we’re out for drinks (which we’ve done a million times) and he’s being pretty touchy feely which isn’t normal. He makes a few comments about having so much to say to me and not being able to get the words out. We head back to his place (again normal as we usually play poker) one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together.

I tried to leave and do the walk of shame and he wouldn’t let me. He held me and cuddled me all night, rubbing and kissing my back. He drove me home in the morning and acted like everything was normal. He contacted me last night and chatted as if everything was the same, just two friends picking on each other and laughing. Does he still have feelings for me? Did we just have a drunken night? Should I just pretend nothing happened? Stupid overthinking and obsessiveness is kicking in big time.

Now that‘s what I call a real FWB!

Do you want it that way?

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I'm not sure, neither him nor I have every had a fwb's type thing before. We're pretty in or out kinda people, black and white.

I

Posted by scorpio1108

Posted by AquaNextDoor

Posted by scorpio1108

This is so embarrassing I don’t even know what to make of it.

So I dated a Cappy guy almost two years ago for 4 months. He ended things stating we had no spark and he has commitment issues. Fast forward a year later we are now friends, put things behind us and agreed that while we may not have worked out we do make amazing friends.

So over this last year we’ve become super close and have both stated we are now best friends. While I have moved on a dated, he hasn’t. He hasn’t even slept with anyone since me. We are very open and talk about everything and I know he’s telling the truth on that.

Things with a guy I’ve been dating ended recently so I’ve been pretty down about it (gemini dude). So cue up Saturday night we’re out for drinks (which we’ve done a million times) and he’s being pretty touchy feely which isn’t normal. He makes a few comments about having so much to say to me and not being able to get the words out. We head back to his place (again normal as we usually play poker) one thing leads to another next thing I know we’ve slept together.

I tried to leave and do the walk of shame and he wouldn’t let me. He held me and cuddled me all night, rubbing and kissing my back. He drove me home in the morning and acted like everything was normal. He contacted me last night and chatted as if everything was the same, just two friends picking on each other and laughing. Does he still have feelings for me? Did we just have a drunken night? Should I just pretend nothing happened? Stupid overthinking and obsessiveness is kicking in big time.

Now that‘s what I call a real FWB!

Do you want it that way?

I'm not sure, neither him nor I have every had a fwb's type thing before. We're pretty in or out kinda people, black and white.

I

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Always remember one thing: if a man gets a chance to get something for free and if it allows him to stay in his comfort zone = he‘ll 100% go after it.

Good luck 🌷