Scorp Dating an Aries (Lesbian Relationship)

I'm a Scorpio girl who is currently dating an Aries girl. We've only been dating for 2 weeks, and we've gone through a couple emotional rollercoasters...one of them being that not too many people take as seriously, as we are 2 girls...which sucks, but I ignore it. My Aries girl, on the other hand, angrily responds to anyone who says anything to tease her or myself, which I both like and dislike simultaneously. I like that we both share certain traits that would normally bother other people (ie: jealousy, possessiveness, etc), but it seems that she just can't hold back from saying or doing basically anything. Then she argues that I hide too much, or tease her by unsuccessfully stowing away my emotions on purpose for her to notice, ask me, and for me to leave her hanging. I have once done this to her, which I know is an incredibly bitchy thing to do, but I was feeling frustrated at the time because she wasn't listening to my feedback and advice even though she had asked for it. I am aware that Scorps and Aries aren't very compatible, which worries me because I like her a lot. We just have to compromise a lot, which both of us are reluctant to do at times. Sexually speaking, we are incredibly compatible, which I have also read somewhere. Absolutely amazing sex, although it's hard for us to go slow with anything when we are both very passionate signs...she wants to go fast, I want both what she wants and for us to take it slow, but my desires take over me and I let us go all the way...it happens every time. My self control isn't as good when I'm around her, although she still claims that it's 'too good', in reference to how secretive I can be. I've been insisting on telling her that I let her know a lot more about myself than I ever show with most other people in my life, but she doesn't seem to get that. We haven't gotten in any HUGE arguments yet, but I'm just wondering how this is going to turn out in the long run...

Posted by ScorpTorch
Sexually speaking, we are incredibly compatible, which I have also read somewhere. Absolutely amazing sex, although it's hard for us to go slow with anything when we are both very passionate signs...she wants to go fast, I want both what she wants and for us to take it slow, but my desires take over me and I let us go all the way...it happens every time.

Oy - yes that's always been difficult for me as well. Only recently have I found the 'middle'. Aries sometimes are naive with people's intentions. It's heartbreaking to see an Aries realize the true nature of false individuals. Sometimes Aries are aware of this and insist that everything be visible RIGHT away so nothing is *EVER EVER EVER QUESTIONED* (ahhhh I definitely channeled my childhood best friend - an Aries - in that last sentence). At times you're going to be completely raw from the emotion - and she'll NEED to learn that it's normal that you need to recharge or every single moment isn't meant for words or some pulse heightened adrenaline rush.

You two will have to slow down so it doesn't burn out. Keep your cool, Scorpio. You have a good head and open heart, just have her slow down to a slow jog instead of a sprint. After all, you can't smell the roses when you're looking at the finish line.

You have the worst advice. 😛

Lmao @ she angrily responds, so typical- im married to one btw. Im not a scorp, but i have placements in your sign. I have 4 planets in scorpio and he has 4 in aries, its like iraq at times. Aries get over things fast and scorpio doesnt. They might say hurtful things they dont mean out of frustration and u'll go over them and wonder if thats really how they feel. My advice to u, dont take any disagreements to heart with aries, they'll get over it quickly and will expect u to do the same. Goodluck to u and your ladylove.

ScorpTorch,
I'm best friends with Aries girls. I also have an Aries daughter.

Actually, the side when they speak their mind is the most amusing, I find. While my mind just processes in thoughts, She has it out in the open. Sometimes it may be too much to handle when they catch fire, but it goes down fairly fast and you get apologies.


I heard about the sex between Aries and Scorp, but I never dated an Aries man. I think I wasn't patient enough to let things evolve.

Unfortunately, Aries may never understand your intelligence. She may see it as aloofness. Not sure of course. My daughter likes to make fun of me sometimes. Sometimes she can be very funny and loud and sometimes she is very abrupt by letting others know that she wants to be left alone.

Anyway, every relationship takes time until you know each other better. This is an ever evolving process, because also with time, people change with life experience and age. You always have something more to find out about each other. 🙂


All in all, I think it is a great relationship.

Thanks for your input, everyone ^-^

We've been having many talks about how this is going to work out, and stick with our policy of letting each other know when we're feeling negative emotions as soon as we can grasp the reason why. I can take her irritation/anger, actually...I'd RATHER her get irritated at me everyday and be open about it than to stow them away...which I suppose is hypocritical, because I have a few issues with keeping myself emotionally open to people (even to people I love, sigh). I remember the first time she got angry at me (which was before we had begun dating). It didn't last very long at all. She was backstabbed by a friend of hers (long story short), and I remember I was giving her a different perspective on the situation, which she didn't want to hear whilst in the middle of being angry (I can understand that, and I was honestly provoking her to let it all out because she had to realize that it wasn't ONLY her friend's fault), and she turned on me, telling me, 'you think you know what's happening better than I do?' and telling me reasons why I irritated her. How did I respond? Well, for starters, I knew this was going to happen, and despite how easily hurt I can be, I told her, 'good! you've finally snapped at me! we're getting somewhere!' she responded with a look of bewilderment. I then said, 'please, I invite you to get angry at me whenever you feel you need to be. I didn't mean that I thought I knew better of you and the situation, but I DID mean to say that you were being a little narrowminded. I get that, you were/are angry. But I'm glad to see this part of you, because now I know you a little more.' It worked like a charm. A lot of people would have gotten angrier, but she calmed down right away and apologized. That was the day I started really liking her. One issue between us is that she doesn't regard [her own] emotions as heavily as I do, but she told me that she understands I value my own emotions very much and she seriously considered it before asking me out (yes, she asked first, and I responded the next day with a letter warning her about a few of my insecurities and that I would fall in love with her, and once that happens, I'd be devoted to her...because her last relationship was most certainly more casual than ours).

Despite that, we started dating after that letter. We've had our ups and downs, but I already know it would be like that. Put 2 intense signs together, and whaddaya think will happen? There'll be some clashing, but I don't mind it too much most of the time...and she's more understanding than a lot of Arians I've tried talking to. She's willing to listen as long as she isn't in an irritable mood.

Posted by Rockthenerds

LOL
I'm moved, or perhaps that's just because I wiggled my azz on the seat of my chair.
Anyhow, t'was amusing, thanks 😄

I'm an Aries in a relationship with a Scorp guy or the past 6 years. The only issue, if there is one, for an Aries - Scorpio relationship is the outburst that we Arians have. They are quick and heated up, but they also dissipate quickly ..with a little bit of embarrassment and no hard feelings to boot. Sex is of no mention. Its always great, if it is what it is. As a Scorpio, if you could let your Aries partner just have an outlet if and when she gets angry (without you coming in the way), it could be a marvellous journey. Sometimes Arians can say something quite hurtful and degrading even, if they have been mistreated. An apology, however, will soon follow. Just remember if was never MEANT to hurt you. It was just something said in the heat of the moment. It happens a lot. And it will go away with time.

And yeah, another thing, never take her opposition's side, even if you clearly know or feel your partner is in the wrong. There is a time for explaining what you feel, but never in front of people she's competing with or when she wants your support. She would never come to you if she didn't want you having her back. It could hurt her like no other.

And do try to be a little bit open about your feelings towards her. In your defence, you could say that "I wouldn't be with her If I didn't care about her. So obviously I do. So, why the constant need for reassurance?". Just so you know, even we Aries think THE EXACT SAME WAY. 🙂

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Posted by firewatergurl
I'm an Aries in a relationship with a Scorp guy or the past 6 years. The only issue, if there is one, for an Aries - Scorpio relationship is the outburst that we Arians have. They are quick and heated up, but they also dissipate quickly ..with a little bit of embarrassment and no hard feelings to boot. Sex is of no mention. Its always great, if it is what it is. As a Scorpio, if you could let your Aries partner just have an outlet if and when she gets angry (without you coming in the way), it could be a marvellous journey. Sometimes Arians can say something quite hurtful and degrading even, if they have been mistreated. An apology, however, will soon follow. Just remember if was never MEANT to hurt you. It was just something said in the heat of the moment. It happens a lot. And it will go away with time.

And yeah, another thing, never take her opposition's side, even if you clearly know or feel your partner is in the wrong. There is a time for explaining what you feel, but never in front of people she's competing with or when she wants your support. She would never come to you if she didn't want you having her back. It could hurt her like no other.

And do try to be a little bit open about your feelings towards her. In your defence, you could say that "I wouldn't be with her If I didn't care about her. So obviously I do. So, why the constant need for reassurance?". Just so you know, even we Aries think THE EXACT SAME WAY. 🙂

thanks for the advice~ I appreciate it -^-^-

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Posted by firewatergurl


And yeah, another thing, never take her opposition's side, even if you clearly know or feel your partner is in the wrong. There is a time for explaining what you feel, but never in front of people she's competing with or when she wants your support. She would never come to you if she didn't want you having her back. It could hurt her like no other.

What's even worse than that? When the Scorpio finds pleasure/enjoyment out of it... yeah, try to roll that one around in your head, Aries.

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eh, I don't feel the need to act in such a way towards her, I don't have any reason for feeling that way...although I will sure as hell have a drink of ruthlessness before dealing w/ people who try to mess with her. I WILL find time to explain what I feel later, if she was in the wrong (in my not-very-humble opinion)...because I know much my Aries hates to look as if she's lost! I can understand the feeling.
I don't whip out my mean side whenever I get bored or something, I care about her too much to screw around with her in that way. >

hello again~
checkin' in to say that we're doin' pretty well overall~ we have our conflicts, but we get through them well! I just want to share my happiness here hahaha

oh and she's a Cancer Moon, Venus in Taurus
I'm a Cappy Moon (truly and unfortunately...lol), Venus in Libra
which doesn't sound too compatible, I guess...but I like our chemistry, it's interesting

Posted by ScorpTorch


I am aware that Scorps and Aries aren't very compatible, which worries me because I like her a lot. We just have to compromise a lot, which both of us are reluctant to do at times. Sexually speaking, we are incredibly compatible, which I have also read somewhere. Absolutely amazing sex, although it's hard for us to go slow with anything when we are both very passionate signs...she wants to go fast, I want both what she wants and for us to take it slow, but my desires take over me and I let us go all the way...it happens every time. My self control isn't as good when I'm around her, although she still claims that it's 'too good', in reference to how secretive I can be.

I am surprised that you say Aries and Scorps are not compatible. I think they make an excellent match.

Agree with you about the sex😉 and the comment Sheathed Claws made about your Ram wanting everything visible so she doesn't get sideswiped later by something/someone she thought was safe.

I have 2 great Scorp buddies (one was also of horizontal interest but still a great friend) who have known me for longer than you have been alive, which is kinda scary for me!! but my respect for them grows all the time, even now.

I love their kindness and the fact they are genuine. There's no crap. They are smart and I love that too.
And they are so cool and calm - which is a nice balance for when I start getting Rambunctious😕

I think compatiable - Yes!


*I have the dreaded Cancer Moon also. Maybe it's because of all the water we get along so well?
Are Aries traditionally not supposed to get along with Scorps? I hadn't heard this before.

Some people like to do that. We are all different. (But everyone will blame the Aries I guess—)
And I am not sure if the boy/girl dynamic is different to a girl/girl dynamic?
But you never know unless you give it a try🙂