Scorpio & Aqua Doomed to Fail?

He is a Scorpio I am an Aqua

We fight, we make up, we fight some more. We talk to each other with walls up protecting ourselves. We say something innocently and the other person takes it as an attack. We don't understand each other, but we love each other!?

We both want the same things out of life. We both want the white picket fence and the big house with 2.5 kids etc... We both enjoy daydreaming together about all of the wonderful things we both want together, but when reality sets in, and we have to deal with each other out of the day dream it is a constant struggle. We are stubborn, pig headed, arrogant, and each of us feels we should be in charge and tries in our own little ways to control the other person.

We aren't even sexually compatible, with him being a Scorpio I thought he could at the least match my "drive" but I am the one left wanting. So much for the Scorpio rep.

I do love him, but I don't want the rest of my life to be this struggle. Sometimes I wonder if we are doomed to fail and I am just continuing in this relationship hoping for the daydream to come true.

Anybody have any helpful insights or words of advice?

Wow! UM...I am a female Scorpio and I was "temporarily" involved with an Aquarius male. And honestly. It just didn't work. He said I took everything he said and "mixed it up" we never agreed on ANYTHING. Aquarius is the sign of freedom and Scorpios like possession. Aqua's really don't like that. Ironically that wasn't really our problem. Just way to many differences. Now we know longer even speak. I just couldn't deal with him.

I mean it depends on the two people involved. Hopefully you two can rise above whatever problems you are facing but in my opinion! NO WAY! Scorps are emotional and Aqua's are most definitely NOT!

LoL 2.5 kids = 2 kids and a dog

Weve been together about 7 months. I know relationships take work. I have put in a lot of work already with him. We talk, we compromise, we make up. If it is this much work now (in the beginning) what do I have to look forward to in the future. I hope it will get better, but I am not sure.

I know sign compatability is not an exact sience and you shouldn't base anything off of it. I just look at the coincidences and it seems like we are doomed to fail astrologically and we are starting to fail in the relationship too.

Mamma Roz: Your thread mentions the negative stuff. What about any positive stuff? By reading what you typed, it sounds like you already know what to do...

You say you compromise, but how effective is it if you're back to arguing and making up all over again?

There is good. He is a big teddy bear and loves to cuddle with me.
When we can actually have an open heart to heart type conversation (rare) I can see his sensitive side come out and I can feel how much he cares for me.
He like to do little romatic things like send flowers to work or buy little gifts on our special days. He actually remembers special days (like the day we first met, etc..)
We share similer interests. etc...

good advice, DB

look at who he is and not what you want him to be.

totally agree...great advice DB...


ROZ trust me every relationship is hardwork coz no two people are exactly the same...there will always be differences but dont just give up on him if hes a 'big teddy bear and loves to cuddle' LOL and ' he cares' for ya and likes to ' do little romatic things'.....

I do hope things work out for the best.....

Thank you guys. I appreciate all of the input.

Sadly I know in my heart he is not right for me. We just don't understand what each other needs and wants and talks about. He is a sweet good guy and I love him and want him to be happy, but if i really take a good hard look at the future with him, I know I will not be happy.

I am a huge coward and hate to hurt someone. My first instinct is to just stop calling and emailing him, but that is not right. He needs to be given the respect of being told face to face. How do I do it and let him down easy and make him understand I want to continue knowing him and being friends, but as a relationship I just do not see it working out.

Will he understand this?

I have attempted to remain friends with x's in the past and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I want this to be an amicable break and I want the door to be open to a friendship because I do think he is great.

Do scorpios do the "friend" thing?

How do you guys handle break ups?

Scorps and Aquas don't mix...

plain BS... they can and they do..its a great match....u people who think it cant work reminds me of that song : 'you're still the one'...

Looks like we made it
Look how far we've come my baby
We mighta took the long way
We knew we'd get there someday

They said, "I bet they'll never make it"
But just look at us holding on
We're still together still going strong

Ain't nothin' better
We beat the odds together
I'm glad we didn't listen
Look at what we would be missin'



Roz.. do whats best for ya... just dont listen to what people say... it can work if u guys are willing to make the effort...

good luck girl

They said, "I bet they'll never make it"
But just look at us holding on
We're still together still going strong


people said the same thing about my scorp..... i LOVE to prove the world WRONG 😛

well aquarius key word IS = I KNOW. SCORPIOS KEY WORD IS = I DESIRE. I PERSONALLY THINK SCORPIOS KEYWORDS SHOULD BE , I KNOW , I AM , I LOVE ,I DESIRE, I WANT , I WILL, I OBSERVE, I AM INTUTIVE, I AM BEAUTIFUL , I AM SEXY , I AM UNIQUE.. ETC. WELL MY POINT IS , BECAUSE AQUA'S ARE KNOW IT ALL'S , THEY INTEND TO CLASH WITH US SCORPS WHO HAVE AWSOME INSIGHTS. IT'S HARD TO COMMUNICATE WITH A PERSON WHO THINKS THEY KNOW EVERYTHING!!!! ANYHOW BABY GIRL AT THE TOP, WHO WROTE THIS DISCUSSION BOARD, TRY AND LEVEL , TALK THINGS OUT , INSTEAD OF ARGUING! BE COOL , APPRECIATE AND ALLOW HIM TO TREAT YOU LIKE A QUEEN. I KNOW SCORP MEN AND ONE THING I KNOW IS THIS, EITHER THEY LOVE YOU OR NOT. THERE IS NO IN BETWEEN. EITHER THEY TREAT YOU LIKE A QUEEN OR NOT. NO IN BETWEEN. OKAY BOO!@ PEACE

ALSO AQUA'S ARE THE WATER BARRIER'S , WHICH MEANS THEY ARE THE FLOW OF WATER. WELL SCORPIO IS A WATER SIGN , BUT SCORPIOS ARE THE ONLY WATER SIGN THAT DOESN'T SWIM, THEY ARE A DESERT INSECT. WIERD , HUH!!! WELL MY POINT IS , AQUA'S SEEM TO GET ALONG WITH THE OTHER WATER SIGNS A TAD BIT BETTER, BECAUSE THEY ARE WATER SIGNS THAT SWIM. GET IT! FOR EXAMPLE, THE FISH , THE CRAB WILL GO WITH THE FLOW OF WATER BECAUSE THOSE ANIMALS SWIM! SCORPIO INTENDS TO BE SO DIFFERENT BECAUSE THEY ARE A WATER SIGN THAT DOES NOT SWIM. THEY WILL MOST LIKELY GO AGAINST OR REBELL AGAINST A KNOW IT ALL AQUARIUS. PLUS AQUARIUS SEEM TO BE ARGUMENTATIVE. WE LIKE TO GET DOWN TO THE POINT AND AVOID CONFLICT.. SCOPRS AREN'T REBELLIOUS AND OR IMMATURE , WE JUST DO WHAT WE WANT AND WOULD RATHER NOT BE JUDGED FOR IT!!

BUT REMEMBER THIS , A PERSONS SPIRIT COMES FIRST , IN OTHER WORDS THE SIGN IS JUST AN ACCENT. A PERSON'S SPIRIT AND PERSONALITY COMES FIRST , THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THAT HUMAN BEING, IE, LIFE EXPERIENCES, GENTICS, HOUSEHOLD, ETC, AND OTHER ACCENTS , SUCH AS SIGNS AND WHATEVER ELSE. IF TWO HUMNA BEINGS ARE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER , IT WILL WORK ,REGARDLESS OF THEIR SIGN..

I think you should talk to him and tell him how you really feel, honestly and calm....If he loves you he will want to make it work and do whatever it takes as long as you are willing to do the same...

I agree with you JuiCy (I usually tend to whenever I browse the forums). If there is passion and love, then you can talk things out. The problem it seems is that both are so guarded, how are you going to get to know each other if you don?t trust each other to open up? Someone has to start it. Mama Roz, you said you?re both arrogant, which is synonym with insecurity, isn?t it? I would not end it before trying to talk to him honestly about it. Unless you don?t love him anymore

I have a question for you flygyrllchi. You said that scorp men either love you or not and when they do, they treat you like a Queen. Do they treat their (girl)friends like queens too? Are they attentive and flattering with friends? Telling them how beautiful they look, how nice they are, how much they missed them and like them? I?m getting what looks like very mixed messages from this scorp man. Sometimes he treats me like a budy, sometimes he flatters me. I?m confused.

You said that scorp men either love you or not and when they do, they treat you like a Queen. Do they treat their (girl)friends like queens too? Are they attentive and flattering with friends? Telling them how beautiful they look, how nice they are, how much they missed them and like them? I?m getting what looks like very mixed messages from this scorp man. Sometimes he treats me like a budy, sometimes he flatters me. I?m confused.



HA join the club, kill them all...Lol

he treats me like a budy, sometimes he flatters me. I?m confused.



scorps can be waaaaaaaaay flirty....

how are you going to get to know each other if you don?t trust each other to open up? Someone has to start it. Mama Roz, you said you?re both arrogant, which is synonym with insecurity, isn?t it?

WOW.. totally agree... Mamma Roz, u gotta honestly talk about your feelings and if he loves you he will want to make it work....

from wat i've seen, Scorp men always want to make it work and yet they dont.....LOL.....u have to do all the work 😛... I broke up with my scorpio and he still digs me and wants to get together and work on our relationship......jeeeezzz....

So, eliza0012, flirting doesn't mean anything to a scorp? Would he flirt with me if he didn't want anything to do with me? What a pain they are!

Would he flirt with me if he didn't want anything to do with me?

he could... but i dont know about your scorpio....maybe he really digs ya 🙂

wats ur sign ninainthesky123 ?

isn't she a gem?lol

isn't she a gem?

no clue Juicy....

yeah she is..i just remembered lol

::sigh:: at least someone agree's with me..lol

LMAO @ NUTCASES...yes yes they are.

actually i have to agree with you, i haven't met one that wasn't emotional or sensitive...

and who says Aquas arent emotional and sensitive?? every human is emotional.. we are just better at hiding 'em...

god damn ANYTHING CAN WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol sorry, but i believe it can! so keep trying!! lol

Scorps are too emotional for the detached Aquarius

BS.. ur just generalizing here..... every person is different and its not just ur darn sun sign that matters in a relationship.... its acutally ur VENUS and MARS compatibility thats more important....

that's right eliza..you work with me here!

Juicy.. be easy... u OK gal—

hahahha... ur sweet...

lol yes... my other twin came out to play for a second...sorry 😉

my other twin came out to play for a second...

LOL

heh =)

good nite juicy... sweet dreams 🙂


Mamma ROZ, all the best to ya....

your making me cry

hay..that didn't work.. "Your making me cry 😢 jk, but thanks! haha" ok..

lmao... ok deal, are you listening scorpio's?

NOW!!! ...ok ok please?

Ok so I attempted to let my scorpio know what is bothering me. It was a bit of a laundry list of things. We couldn't talk via phone or in person so I put it all into an email and I have not received a responce.

If I upset him he goes into his little cave and hides. So now I wonder if he will reply or call. since it was a "we need to talk" kind of email.

Oddly enough one of my biggest complaints about our relationship is the lack of time spent together. Yeah I'm and Aqua and I like my space but he gives me way to much and when I try and tell him I want more he does nothing, using valid "excuses" as to why he can't give me more time.

The ball is in his court as far as I am concerned. I love him but I have needs in a relationship and if they aren't met then why am I still there. I am more than happy to work with him on things he needs from me, but I need to see some effort on his part now.

The sad thing is we were supposed to go out of town in 2 weeks. Tickets were bought months ago and now it may be a wast for him. I'm still going because I am visiting my best friend. I was hoping to show her my wonderful man.

want me to kick him in the butt for you?

chop chop scorpy!

aw lol

JuiCy is right Eliza, I'm a gem/cancer cusp (more gem though), virgo rising.

One thing is for sure about mama roz story, if you don't have a really hot sexual connection in the first 2 years of your relationship, then it's no good. Sexual life with long term partners tend to get less intense as you'll probably know. Forget it if it doesn't start amazingly cus it won't get any better with time...

As for this pain of a scorp in my life. I'm the one messed up, not him. Ending a marriage, meeting new guy who's probably smart enough not to get himself involved with a still married, but not in fact married, woman. Wanting to sort things out on my own, but unable to get him out of my mind and heart cus he keeps playing with me, the dork.

i'm going to go on a scorpio killing spree for you ladies...or just tie them to the chair and let you hit them...feel better? lol