scorpio men are harsh? (Page 2)

You looked...shy? Do you even have any self pics on your profile?

I don't even...

I've had someone be like, "you look like you have a lot brewing up there...possibly introverted"

Me: "well you look like a bitch...fair enough?"

Like one can really analyze a mere picture and tell all the deepest inner workings of the mind.

I like how it filtered bitch to Cookie Monster. Well played...

Lolol. You remind me a lot of one of my friends. Are humor is so morbid and we are just complete ass holes to eachother. It's awesome.

*our. I suppose we can't edit posts?

That's just swell.

Posted by cherrychapstick
Im 18. He's 30.

Ahem ahem......

Posted by MellyMel909

Posted by Scorpvenus

Posted by cherrychapstick
Im 18. He's 30.

Ahem ahem......

Yeah.. now I feel a bit of remorse for the harshness of my earlier comments. I thought they were both just being silly teenagers. This could potentially be much worse...

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Ehh...I'm 24 and I recently dated a 43 year old Virgo. We met through mutual friends...besides my friends I went to school with, ALL of my friends are in the 30-50 range, I just have an older crowd. My closet friend at work is a 47 year old female Scorpio. Hm.

I had never dated that much older though, I wouldn't again. We are still friends and wish eachother the best but it didn't work because his horrible flighty communication style , I broke it off.
12 years is my limit now lol I won't date older than 35 currently. The Scorpio I am with is my age, 5 months younger to be exact. I dated another Virgo 2 years younger and it was like dating a 5 year old.

Girls DO mature faster but...18 is super young, I was still in high school! At least be 21 and be able to drink and get into bars if you date older lol

I think it depends on the person too, although I couldn't imagine an 18 year old of any gender being especially mature. I never was into the bar/club scene, I've never been "wasted". I prefer movies, trying new independent eating establishments, wineries, museums/travel/culture & art. When I go to bars, I like to do karaoke and my fav music is classic rock.

A lot of guys my age get the eyes rolled because they aren't into what I am, which is why I have older friends.

Lol why not?

I've just always been attracted to a successful, educated man with stability. Usually that makes them older than me lol

Posted by SunTauVenGem

Posted by Neurotoxin

Posted by DeeG
Scorpio's aren't that hard to figure out...if they want ya, they'll come for ya..they tend to go after women they know they have already conquered, then they loose interest but stay anyway.

Why are you the only Gemini that had been able to figure this out—

it comes with practice I guess 😉 now the question is.. What do they want from you when they come back exactly ? Or what to expect when they dissapear? Are they still longing over you and expect you to be loyal when they return?? What's the go here .

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lol. now that i'm on the other side of these questions I can't help but laugh...

Why would they disappear if they liked you? Strange...

If I vanish...I hate you.

Well that's awesome.

Lolol. I like your attitude. Honestly, just not Scorpio but this can be applied to ANY man...OR woman honestly. I will push people away when I'm upset or withdraw, but still respond and not vanish. IF I do not care, I either tell you or just vanish. Usually, I say something though.

Posted by Neurotoxin
Please read the following. Memorize it, write it on a post it note, write it in the waistband of your panties...something....

A scorpio man who truly loves you will not "disappear" for any length of time. He may become emotionally withdrawn, but he does not vanish.

A scorpio man who disappears has made a calculated decision that you are not worth his time and/or effort at that moment. Hence he is not worth YOUR time and/or effort.

***Drops mic and flips off crowd***

1 text, every 4-5 days— I don't think he's interested....emotionally unavailable and "needing space" are clear not interested signs. Ever wonder why a guy can be emotionally unavailable and distant with a girl off and on for awhile, then all of a sudden settle down? It's because they found someone they really like.

When a guy truly likes a girl, he commits. I'm not trying to discourage you but it honestly sounds like way too much heart ache. I require daily communication with someone I date, even in the beginning. If they can't commit to that, I lose interest and break it off. I don't need constant communication throughout the day (quality over quantity) but just a sweet text or two is all it takes. I would never stand for "space". When a guy says to me, "I need some space. You are crowding me", I cut it off completely. Even if a guy feels that way or is nervous/having second thoughts, if he truly likes a girl he won't make that obvious to her or risk pushing her away

This is my experience, take it or leave it. Just what I have learned (and a lot of heart ache in process!)

Emotionally unavailable+space= way too much baggage than what I'm willing to accept. When in a relationship, I require undivided attention. Now alone time, friend time, time apart, that's very important but there is NO reason why he can't talk to you daily.

My advice; unless he has really said "I vow to be exclusive", I would for sure see other people because I can almost bet he is. He is the one that is being all wishy washy and "needing space". Occupy that space with other people, I date multiple people in the beginning of dating process but usually keep physical just to one unless I really like someone I can see more with...then I cut it off with the wishy washy/fwb or whatever you may call it to pursue the interest etc. don't hold out for him because he is showing that you are NOT a priority in his life, never settle.

Lol what do I sound like to you??

-.- thanks lol

Thanks Agent Gem. I know my case very well. This has nothing to do with him being interested or not . He is truly emotionally unavailable . He is fixing himself and hence asked for some space as that is the only way for him to become better. He is a stubborn man after all. This is not a first few dates or those honey moon phrase we are talking about here. This is a lifelong commitment we agreed on upon his mental break down. I am not making this up I am sure of that. I text him once every 4-5 days.. Before this whole spacing thing it was everyday communication and almost 4-5 times a week seeing his face. . I need constant communication myself and obviously I will never settle space for MIA if it wasn't for his COnDiTion. It is not to be taken lightly.. He needs to fix himself and get better as off now.. My question is I have told him I will be there for him no matter what.. N I will love him still... However ! God knows how long it will take him to get better. I just dot want him to hold my words against me . And dating another girl is a whole different scenerio. I doubt that very much. This has nothin todo with him being non exclusive with me. This has to do with his mental condition. I hope you understand and think about my case properly before responding . It is not a washy wishhy problem. I will never ever look back otherwise .

He did want to settle . He chased me after 3 years . We talked about kids / marriage or whatever have you. It was a full serious commitment untill he had a mental break down .! So he pushed me Away so he can get better. Which requires alot of help from other professionals . I am not much use in these times of crisis . I am just kind and sincere hearted girl and natured him in a warm hearted way... It made him feel worse I guess . Trust me my case isn't easy cake . I wish it was *sigh*

I did not know he had a condition, I feel like he should be reaching out to you more though. How old are you both?

^^ I was sweetz1988 if that rings a bell ... It was all too much for him to handle. He loves me yes but at the moment it is all about him getting better. He is now getting a bit of help from his friend who's doing her placement at a mental hospital. He's fighting the battle and I know how difficult or what he is going through is not much different from hell.. His mercury is also in Scorpio so yes he's a tough bloke n stubborn one too. He was getting myself for a bit but I can't do much you see?. The last few times I was over.. The way I approached his condition wasn't at all that helpful. I know it by fact it will take him at least a good 6 months until he is stable enough to even love himself. I will put it that way.. He insisted on me moving on untill he is better again yet he can't promise me whether he will ever be. . He does not want me to suffer through it with him because he knows he will destroy me emotionally so he wants me to stay away untill he is better again. At this point I can only be his secret hope..He has all the professionals helping him out so i know it is best for both of us to be apart... However there are a few guys out there who want to date me. So I am stuck.. If he ever finds out I know it will actually torn him apart . I know that by fact.... I should probably post another thread about it but I fear my case has got NotHing with him being a Scorpio or a guy.. It is a serious condition and I should seek counseling instead .

Posted by Agentgem24
I did not know he had a condition, I feel like he should be reaching out to you more though. How old are you both?

Posted by Neurotoxin
FFS

lmfao.

And yes, I found a good one. - But... like anything else worth having... it took time, effort, and a little bit of patience... oh and a whole lot of understanding on both parts.

Nothin' good in life ever came easily... and if someone argues that, they're full of shit.

At least that's what I've come to realize.

edit: I've got the dumb today. - I've had to hide like 3 posts because I keep fucking up. CAN WE GET AN EDIT FUNCTION HERE DUNCAN?

Posted by Neurotoxin
Please read the following. Memorize it, write it on a post it note, write it in the waistband of your panties...something....

A scorpio man who truly loves you will not "disappear" for any length of time. He may become emotionally withdrawn, but he does not vanish.

A scorpio man who disappears has made a calculated decision that you are not worth his time and/or effort at that moment. Hence he is not worth YOUR time and/or effort.

***Drops mic and flips off crowd***

love this

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Posted by SunTauVenGem
^^ I was sweetz1988 if that rings a bell ... It was all too much for him to handle. He loves me yes but at the moment it is all about him getting better. He is now getting a bit of help from his friend who's doing her placement at a mental hospital. He's fighting the battle and I know how difficult or what he is going through is not much different from hell.. His mercury is also in Scorpio so yes he's a tough bloke n stubborn one too. He was getting myself for a bit but I can't do much you see?. The last few times I was over.. The way I approached his condition wasn't at all that helpful. I know it by fact it will take him at least a good 6 months until he is stable enough to even love himself. I will put it that way.. He insisted on me moving on untill he is better again yet he can't promise me whether he will ever be. . He does not want me to suffer through it with him because he knows he will destroy me emotionally so he wants me to stay away untill he is better again. At this point I can only be his secret hope..He has all the professionals helping him out so i know it is best for both of us to be apart... However there are a few guys out there who want to date me. So I am stuck.. If he ever finds out I know it will actually torn him apart . I know that by fact.... I should probably post another thread about it but I fear my case has got NotHing with him being a Scorpio or a guy.. It is a serious condition and I should seek counseling instead .

manic depressive?

Posted by Aine

Posted by Neurotoxin
FFS

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lmfao.

And yes, I found a good one. - But... like anything else worth having... it took time, effort, and a little bit of patience... oh and a whole lot of understanding on both parts.

Nothin' good in life ever came easily... and if someone argues that, they're full of shit.

At least that's what I've come to realize.

edit: I've got the dumb today. - I've had to hide like 3 posts because I keep fucking up. CAN WE GET AN EDIT FUNCTION HERE DUNCAN? 100% agree with your statement . . He's got a lot going on apart from his severe manic depression....

^^^ agreed with your statement there. He's got manic depression and a few others ...

Posted by Agentgem24
1 text, every 4-5 days— I don't think he's interested....emotionally unavailable and "needing space" are clear not interested signs. Ever wonder why a guy can be emotionally unavailable and distant with a girl off and on for awhile, then all of a sudden settle down? It's because they found someone they really like.

When a guy truly likes a girl, he commits. I'm not trying to discourage you but it honestly sounds like way too much heart ache. I require daily communication with someone I date, even in the beginning. If they can't commit to that, I lose interest and break it off. I don't need constant communication throughout the day (quality over quantity) but just a sweet text or two is all it takes. I would never stand for "space". When a guy says to me, "I need some space. You are crowding me", I cut it off completely. Even if a guy feels that way or is nervous/having second thoughts, if he truly likes a girl he won't make that obvious to her or risk pushing her away

This is my experience, take it or leave it. Just what I have learned (and a lot of heart ache in process!)

+100

Posted by Agentgem24
Emotionally unavailable+space= way too much baggage than what I'm willing to accept. When in a relationship, I require undivided attention. Now alone time, friend time, time apart, that's very important but there is NO reason why he can't talk to you daily.

My advice; unless he has really said "I vow to be exclusive", I would for sure see other people because I can almost bet he is. He is the one that is being all wishy washy and "needing space". Occupy that space with other people, I date multiple people in the beginning of dating process but usually keep physical just to one unless I really like someone I can see more with...then I cut it off with the wishy washy/fwb or whatever you may call it to pursue the interest etc. don't hold out for him because he is showing that you are NOT a priority in his life, never settle.

Excellent logic!