Scorpio wife won't stick around? (Page 3)

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She reminds me of Lindsay Davenport.

You're right.

Couldn't place it...but yeah.

It was either that or Katherine Heigl, but Heigl has changed her face I think. Looks different in so many pictures.

I can see that as well.

I see that too. Picture her with blonde hair and it's her doppelganger!!

I don't think Scorp women all have the same features. Wasn't there a thread ages ago about us looking like pixies or something??

She's pretty and I'm not even into women! He's sweet as though, yeah, I'd do him, must be those dimples! 😉

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Pixies?? Lol

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Hov come it took everybody such a long time to get there; that she is bored and wants him to be more dominant— Geez.... Make her work for it, spice it up, hint at a mystery side to yourself.

She's not a high schooler, she's his wife.

Damn that's arrogant... c ya...

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I think it's safe to say that Tiz comes across as one of the least arrogant members of this forum.

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Hov come it took everybody such a long time to get there; that she is bored and wants him to be more dominant— Geez.... Make her work for it, spice it up, hint at a mystery side to yourself.

She's not a high schooler, she's his wife.

Damn that's arrogant... c ya...

I think it's safe to say that Tiz comes across as one of the least arrogant members of this forum.

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I agree!

Well, this got awkward. I do appreciate the compliments, but my wife is WAY hotter than Lindsay Davenport. She's got the beauty/brains combo that is makes her an absolute drop-dead knockout. It doesn't hurt that she's my height at 6' and plays hockey. She's as sexy as sexy gets.

And as far as things being fine, like I said before, they were until very recently. I just want to cover all my bases so I can communicate on her level, talking to a Scorpio isn't very black and white. It's a delicate minefield to maneuver.

My ex-wife was maybe a 2, and I stayed with her for 10 years. Looks are important but aren't everything.

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She looks like an older version of Satori. All scorpio women look alike.

Maybe I need to look at more scorpio women? Or maybe you're wrong :o I've never seen Satori

she's beautiful. But has the same facial features. Scorpio women have a similar look

I guess I never noticed....

Have you seen my picture?

No

I have an eyeball on my profile... And one of me and my man...

You're dating your son? I wonder if that's what people think when they see me and the virgo. u look like a Libra.

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Lol well, he is five years younger lol

A libra? *gasp*

Lmao@ the butterball turkey

Posted by CluelessCancer
Eris what's his zodiac sign. You have a nice face. Happy Face. Very Anti Scorpioc.

He is a taurus sun and an Aries moon.

I think it's my pisces moon. Not going to accept Libra lol

Thanks, Cancer!

I praise her all the time, she's probably sick of hearing it to be honest. I hold her in high regard because she is a very strong and powerful woman, and I do respect her. I have come to the realization thanks to you kind folks that I have likely been stripping her of her independence because I am emotionally needy. I need to quit that and just be direct with what I want.

She's efficient, and extremely bright. She can multitask like no other, and she's a loyal friend. I compliment her on her brains, body, and looks every day, and tell her that I love her every time I'm thinking about it. I won't go into details, but she gets a lot of love each morning before I go to work.

I don't discount that point of view. I mean it every time, but yeah, I can see how it might seem disingenuous. Although I wouldn't mind them every day.

You murder ONE person...

She does have Scorpio Mercury.

Every Scorpio I've ever met and known rolls their eyes when they realize I'm a Leo, but somehow I'm still around so many. There has to be something good about them, right? All I ever hear is 'conceited and full of themselves' and I'm really none of that.

All I am afraid of though, is that you got some emotional needs (again, you cancer moon) that truly needs to be satisfied, and that is what an Aqua moon lacks to see...

I've seen many many aqua-cancer couples, trust me. And they all seem so lovey-dovey in the beginning, until the Aqua wants space, and the cancer actually just wants to get closer and closer. Actually its a kind of classical conflict between those two signs...

Hey! That wasn't intentional! But it was very nice...

Posted by Jynja
Enfant is a Cancer moon.

paleo, how many nights a week or month is she out late like this?

Well, recently it's been 3-4 nights per week. Sometimes it's a work event that bleeds into personal time, sometimes it's going out with friends. Last night it happened again, only she came home semi-drunk and wanting sex. I'll skip the details but I was completely put off by her actions, and I really felt like I could have been any man at that point, not her husband. I declined. It did not go over well, but I confronted her and explained how I felt and why - she was insulted and offended at first, but I asked her to give me suggestions on how better to communicate my position to her. She did, and we talked it out like adults and promised to try and communicate on each other's level better. She did apologize for hurting my feelings (a first, so a big development) and she has cleared her calendar for some 'us' time this weekend so we can reconnect. I let her know that I felt out of sync and that I feel we have a strong bond as a team, and she agreed that things have not been great lately. I was unaware of some things I did to upset her emotionally, and I apologized for that. We both have been unintentionally hurting each other's feelings but keeping it in instead of getting it out, and that's not good communication. We'll see how it goes, but I already feel much better about her approach to this and that she's warming up again.

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ME:

Sun 13??06' Leo
Moon 24??39' Cancer
Mercury 18??17' Leo


HER:

Sun 22??27' Scorpio
Moon 10??14' Aquarius
Mercury 4??25' Scorpio

This^^

Mainly just the Merc Sq Merc. Been there, done that.

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I've been dealing with Mercury square Mercury for over four years lol

Hey I'm happy to hear that 🙂 I hope you guys can resolve your issues soon !

idk why this thread end up with 22 pages but the answer is very simple to your problem....

if you two don't know how to communicate you need to go to marriage counseling. You can read a chart all day long but the answer is really simple.

^ no but if they need to work on their marriage and obvously can't communicate therapy will help them open up sometimes people need a outside source to get things back on track. Astrology isn't the answer to EVERYTHING it's a waste of pages. Solving issues can be so simple it's people that make shit complicated!

BUT OP if you guys need a new home and need to sale yours call me I'm a REALTOR 🙂

Glad to hear you two have talked, hope it all works out for you 🙂

Posted by tiziani
Astrology is an outside source.

it just shows why some problems exist not solving them versus someone to help the couple.

He is just venting anyway people only come here to talk about their problems they never really take others advice they will do what they want to do. The forums are for listening.

She's obviously too good for you.

I really do appreciate this long thread spanning several days, and I understand astrology isn't a guidebook. But I feel people who follow it do offer a unique insight to some things, even if some is just common advice learned from experiences in their own lives. Venting here while trying to understand how to better communicate with my wife was both therapeutic and a learning experience for me. Nobody here was judgmental off the bat or rude to me for being a newcomer with what some would not consider to be a real problem. But for me, it is a real problem, and one I am surely contributing to, given my actions. I'm glad I have come to a happy point in this where I am actively changing my communication in order to speak on her level to get better results. You all have been awesome, and I do appreciate the comments. They've all been great! I think I might actually be getting into this astrology thing after all...

Posted by PaLeo
You all have been awesome, and I do appreciate the comments. They've all been great!
I think I might actually be getting into this astrology thing after all...

So you weren't into astrology before but you simply figured that an astrology forum would be ideal for relationship advice?
Man, you must have been really desperate for answers to turn to the dark arts. 😛

"Nobody here was judgmental off the bat or rude to me "

well, Jupiter is currently on your side.

+ you started honestly and politely.

+ you gave proper answers to questions.

+ no lies and trollerie were to discover in your texts.

Other newcomers with half lied stories, in a desperate and hopeless situation, and with bad luck get really stoned on these dxp boards.

Dear Mr. Leo

You have a Scorpio wife. And a loyal one.
That makes you the luckiest unfortunate man. lol

First, note that Leo by nature is a bit insecure, and may be worried about nothing, and questioning about nothing can lead to aggravation to others and lead to breakup. So just be mindful of that.
But you seem to BE self-aware ... so that is good.

Why not ask her if there is anything in particular on her "bucket list" or something that she would like to do with you in the next year and plan it. If she says "no" - then ask her if it's ok if you become a transexual and borrow her clothes & makeup and eventually move to Tibet to be a monk.
The idea here is to probe what is on her mind.
All she "needs" from you is to know you are loyal and will be with her when she's old.
If you need more than that from her, or at least a statement of comfort, just explain the insecure nature of a Leo and she'll understand - or better - buy the book SUN SIGNS by Linda Goodman and read about her yourself ( so accurate ) and read about YOU ... and suggest SHE reads about YOU ... and just wait a week or two. She'll make subtle changes.

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Dear Mr. Leo

You have a Scorpio wife. And a loyal one.
That makes you the luckiest unfortunate man. lol

First, note that Leo by nature is a bit insecure, and may be worried about nothing, and questioning about nothing can lead to aggravation to others and lead to breakup. So just be mindful of that.
But you seem to BE self-aware ... so that is good.

Why not ask her if there is anything in particular on her "bucket list" or something that she would like to do with you in the next year and plan it. If she says "no" - then ask her if it's ok if you become a transexual and borrow her clothes & makeup and eventually move to Tibet to be a monk.
The idea here is to probe what is on her mind.
All she "needs" from you is to know you are loyal and will be with her when she's old.
If you need more than that from her, or at least a statement of comfort, just explain the insecure nature of a Leo and she'll understand - or better - buy the book SUN SIGNS by Linda Goodman and read about her yourself ( so accurate ) and read about YOU ... and suggest SHE reads about YOU ... and just wait a week or two. She'll make subtle changes.

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Awwww @ she needs to know you're loyal and will be there when she's old.

This is very true.

Thank you, I will definitely pick up that book! We spent some very quality time together last night and reconnected on both a physical and an emotional level. We both apologized for any perceptions that we may have had about one another in the last couple of weeks, and agreed to try and become better communicators on each other's level. We set a date for a trip to Iceland we've been fringe planning for a long time, and we are sharing the responsibilities for planning and expenses equally - I am not stepping all over her toes by doing everything - and she seems very excited about that. We played some trivia games as a team (it seems dumb, but we really enjoy playing brain games together) and laughed together, it was a great night that will undoubtedly lead to a great weekend. I feel suddenly plugged into her again, so I will just need to listen and communicate better to try and keep that connection open. I know there will be times where it doesn't always go well, but I can better prepare myself for that by reading into her better and understanding to look into what I'm doing before assigning blame. I can't thank you guys enough for the guidance and insight, I will definitely stick around these boards and try to contribute where I can!

Awwww that's so nice! Made me smile!

Iceland is so cool! I went about two years ago in Feb. It stinks of rotten egg and is pretty expensive but is amazing in the summer and in the winter, totally different place in either season.

I'm sure you don't need travel advice but here's a few tips and pointers you may or may not consider:

Food and trips are expensive. If you can get breakfast included at a reasonable price wherever you're staying then it's one less thing to worry about.

Lunch out, just basic sandwiches or a bowl of Icelandic lamb soup ranged between ??5/ $ 8 and ??12/ $ 18. Eat lots at breakfast!

Dinner out was usually ??30/ $ 50 each minimum, just for main course, anything more 'special' was more but not necessarily good. Some places do three courses for ??30/ $ 50 total. It can seriously mount up depending on how long you're there for. I was there with my sister for 6/7 days.

We frequented Subway a few times as it's a similar price to UK/USA. You might be wanting something more romantic though! The nice thing is there's no McDonalds etc there but there's loads of pizza places or burger joints that are a little more reasonable than the restaurants.

They do nice hotdogs at stands/street vendors, not expensive, get everything on it, even the weird looking grey/orange/pink sauce stuff!

They have a nice crepp shop just off the main kind of high street. They were lush.

Oh and try a HITT bar from a sweet shop or supermarket. If you like liquorice it tastes great, if you don't then give it a miss. It's like liquorice, nougat wrapped in chocolate. Lush!

I'd recommend the Blue Lagoon, obviously! We did snowmobiling too but that depends when you go. We did the triangle thing so the geysers and loads of awesome waterfalls etc. We didn't get to see the northern lights though 😢

There's lots to do but once you've done the main things then that's it really, depending on your preferences. I think 4 days min is good unless you're touring round the island then take longer.

It's definitely a place used to tourists but it holds its own.

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Posted by PaLeo
Hello all, I am looking for some advice that could possibly set my mind at ease. My Scorpio wife and I have been together for several years but lately she seems to be filling her time with other things. She's frequently out of the house for hours on end without really communicating while she's gone. It's like she'd rather be somewhere else, and when she is home she is on her phone a lot. I don't think she's cheating or anything like that, as she's a good woman and very loyal. But I get the feeling that she just doesn't want to be with me anymore, and I am just filling a role in her life like everyone else. I honestly feel like if I disappeared it wouldn't affect her for very long, she could find someone to be what I am to her. It's very distressing to me, and when I approach her about it she brushes it off and doesn't really think it's an issue. I'm a Leo, so I do want to feel important, although I think most people in a relationship want to feel that way regardless of sign. I am very emotional, and I obviously care for her deeply. I have always given her space and freedom to do what she wishes, and before recently she almost always chose to spend that time with me. Things are different now and I can't put my finger on it, and speaking to her directly hasn't gotten me any closer to an answer. Hopefully one of you Scorpios has some insight into what she's thinking!

PLZ tell your age and how long you had been married.
Do you realize 99% of population here are basically teenagers?

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Also realize that this bitch goes after married men then comes here for advice cause it's not working..... so..... you might be careful when listening to this chick.

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Now I know how the scorpio men feel in the scorpio men threads.

*gives all the scorpio men cupcakes*

men cupcake? ball squizzing?

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What is squizzing?

Posted by PaLeo
Thank you, I will definitely pick up that book! We spent some very quality time together last night and reconnected on both a physical and an emotional level. We both apologized for any perceptions that we may have had about one another in the last couple of weeks, and agreed to try and become better communicators on each other's level. We set a date for a trip to Iceland we've been fringe planning for a long time, and we are sharing the responsibilities for planning and expenses equally - I am not stepping all over her toes by doing everything - and she seems very excited about that. We played some trivia games as a team (it seems dumb, but we really enjoy playing brain games together) and laughed together, it was a great night that will undoubtedly lead to a great weekend. I feel suddenly plugged into her again, so I will just need to listen and communicate better to try and keep that connection open. I know there will be times where it doesn't always go well, but I can better prepare myself for that by reading into her better and understanding to look into what I'm doing before assigning blame. I can't thank you guys enough for the guidance and insight, I will definitely stick around these boards and try to contribute where I can!

I'm happy you two are working things out. I'm both envious and inspired by your willingness to communicate and change for the one you love. Cheers man!

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Posted by PaLeo
My wife says I'm the perfect husband, but I don't put too much stock in that - it breeds complacency on both ends. My ex-wife thought the same thing too, but then she got complacent and I walked...I was doing everything in the relationship and getting nothing out of it. I'm honestly not the perfect husband, unless trying to be one counts. I think sometimes I'm too intense though, and it burns people out. I'm really high maintenance emotionally, but everything else is very low maintenance. I'm getting mellower in my old age, so hopefully I'm learning to tone it down. This is the first time I've ever really experienced the astrology side of things, as it was very important to my wife when we met. It's all relatively new to me.

This is the problem with leo they do everything to be perfect spouse don't allow for partner to do anything for them n in the end they become resentful n throw it to ur face how u failed to treat them Like kings.
U said this happened with ex n if u continue to close off reciprocity from ur wife will happen again. Ur killing her ability to express her love to you as well n that can cause her to disconnect. I , a scorpio woman, married to a leo for 8 years. I tried to serve him meals no don't do that , but Hed serve me, I tried to do things for me but he told me not to or didn't have to. He cut my flow on showing him love.
Don't do it all leo!!! Let her do thing for u, she wants too, a scorpio woman is giving. If she can't give u by actions, affections, or words how is this love suppose to flow from her to u, yes leo a hand of applause for being a perfect spouse. Now stop it n let her be part of the team n contribute to the relationship. Shit if ur doing it all she bored n had to seek fun outside. Let her get her hands dirty in this relationship with shores, giving u a foot massage ect,

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i agree somewhat with Agent earlier on they should have known this about themselves before they married. i'm guessing it has alot to do with his mars /venus (serving) and giving so much into the relationship and overcompensating.

Yes, I have come to realize that maybe I do too much and am possibly taking away her independence in the relationship. I have my own issues with perceptions of laziness, so I don't want her to see me that way, which is probably why I do so much. I do want to be perfect, but I know that's not what she wants. She wants flaws, she wants me with all of my scratches and wounds and imperfections to know that I'm real. Since I've had the support and suggestions of the people on this board I've been able to step aside from myself and try to view things from her perspective.

Since my original post, we've talked a lot and shared with each other deeper expectations; things we already knew and confirmed years ago, but had lost touch with just due to poor communication. I'm not taking blame or assigning blame, I'm just smart enough to know that I always have a part in the things I see as problems. This past weekend was great - we made zero plans and just went with what she felt like doing, without me intervening with nailing down details. We stumbled into a wine tasting, met a couple of friends for margaritas on a whim, then walked into a place with a live band that was so good that she wanted to stay and dance all night. Normally I would find that sort of thing boring since I don't dance, but I just let her go and watched her take the floor. She had a great time, and I had a great time just watching her be happy and free. I guess I just lost sight of the real reasons I love her and why she's my wife, and that her actions I didn't like were most likely a direct result of my own actions toward her.

She's an independent woman and I can't change that. I won't change that. It's the most beautiful thing about her and I just needed to examine things differently and learn to speak to her on a different level. I am not there yet but I'll never stop trying, whether it's this perspective or another. I know I keep saying it, but the continued comments are helpful and I do appreciate it!