Tattoo

Would you consider being with someone that has her/his ex's name tattooed on herself/himself?

Probably.

The past is exactly that, and I have to remind myself of this often.


I would, however, expect my partner to have it covered up, preferably w/o me having to ask. Unless, the person is deceased or something. Otherwise unacceptable.

Xun, I agree that it is generally a bad idea to have (anyone's) name tattoed on your person. And I actually don't like tattoos period. But people do dumb things, especially when you're younger. But, then you grow up, hopefully.

I've seen tattoos that were nice for the moment but don't know about having them ten years down the line. I just have a problem with something so permanent on a constantly changing/evolving being. It sets a mental block for me because I won't even try to get to know someone that has a her ex tattooed on her and she could be a nice person but she'll never get to know me because of that.

"'...and she could be a nice person but she'll never get to know me because of that.""


Indeed, and you'll never get to know her either. And you may potentially cause yourself to miss out on what could've been something wonderful. I don't believe in holding someone's past against them. Because the only thing constant in life is change. You said that yourself, which is why I find your last post a bit contradictory.

"I don't believe in holding someone's past against them."

I won't hold someone's past against her but will always consider it. Now when someone carries her past tattooed on her, she's the one holding her past against herself. If it still shows today, it's often because it's still there whether you choose to see it or not. I don't think it would be too wise for me to disregard it.

"You said that yourself, which is why I find your last post a bit contradictory."

I think when it comes to finding a partner, you want someone that's emotionally free of her past. Someone with her ex tattooed on herself simply doesn't show that. I'm not saying that she's a bad person, I'm just saying that she's not free (even though single).

No I wouldn't..period

Would you consider being with someone that has her/his ex's name tattooed on herself/himself?

if they're still proud of it and showing it around then probably not... but first I would think, what age did they do that? if young, laugh it off... if older, do they love too much/obsessive, etc? or is it a good thing they love that intensely? dunno...

but I would look at their current attitude to the tattoo and where the ex is now and stuff...

I think it would be stupid of me to base my decision of dating them to a tattoo - especially if they regret it or leave it there as a symbol not to make any more silly mistakes...

linking it to emotion may or may not be valid, as I the feeling when the tattoo happened and now are way different... so I would try to get to the root of why they still had it showing and how they feel about the person cos there are people that get tattoo just because and people that really use it emotionally/symbolically 😕

hmmm, usually the types of people who do that are those that I'm not attracted to.

Well, one thought that came to mind reading this thread was of my cousin. Her husband's name is tattooed on her, and he was tragically murdered years ago. I don't think she'll remove it because he represented a happy time in her life. It is not the case that she isn't emotionally available to love again, but as a widow, there will always be a special place in her heart for her first love.

^^^ exactly - disrespecting that as a new partner would be wrong...

my good friend had her brother's name tattoo-ed on her after he died a freak death... now a guy seeing that may be turned off thinking it's something else 🙂
I would t least find out the why and stuff...

i probably wouldn't have a conversation with someone dumb enough to do that.

There are ways and means of remembering someone after they've passed along. As tragic as the circumstances may be, having a great big tattoo on ones arm as a constant reminder is hardly grounds for everlasting love..Loving memories should reside in the heart and mind, symbolic representation seems a bit pretentious in my opinion.

They would have to have it covered up at some point. I have dated someone with their ex tatoo on their body. I made silly remarks about it but it didn't bother me that much.

lol QS - this is it --- my biggest talent is making fun of people so I'll even approach you to find out why you got the tattoo - crossing my fingers that it is a very silly reason why you got - oh boi - can taste the jokes now

What if it's funny to him/her but not to you...do you give them this "your stupid" look? lol..out of curiosity..imagine the scenario..they tell you and are laughing their heads off thinking it's really funny, man I am so funny..and your thinking..ok..come on, try and laugh along..the poor git finds it funny..

but I don't expect our humour to coincide --- that's what making fun of people is about... you're not supposed to make them laugh too 😛

but if they left the tattoo on cos it's funny, but the time they get the story out, everyone's sure to be laughing, if not, just say 'that's not really funny - so you subject us to your dead humour dude?' then use the 'stupid' look 😛

lol..that usually works..I simply cringe..

Is it snowing where you are? it's picture perfect over here..

hell yea! the snow is summat else - should go to bed cos extra cold tomo morning...

shyaries, what are you trying to understand? I'll explain 😛

You can't tell an individual where there memories should reside though. For many people, tangible symbols help to preserve memories, and there's nothing wrong with that.

All I'm attempting to point out is that there are times when judging a book by its cover will land you the short end of the stick. Everyone has a story worth telling.

Tattos are very often more about inner expression then memories. In most cases the people wearing the tattoo, don't even get to see the tattoo or see it the way it should be seen to be meaningful, many never got to see it the way others could. There are often made for others to see. There will always be a chance that one can be wrong judging by the cover but in most cases a cover reveals to an extent something on the inside. At the end it's really up to the individual approaching the situation. Is the life with an ex, a story you want to be told for the rest of your life? People will always judged by the cover at least to an extent, as with the amount of people one can see/meet in one life time, you'll never be able to enter everyone's life in and out to see their full potential. That is something one should consider before making a tattoo. Your tattoo spoke for you in the past and always will.

Imagine you find out much later on after his/her death, they cheated on you the entire time and lead a double life? what of the tattoo then? still going to cherish it till death do you part? lol..I don't think so...

NO WORK DUE TO SNOW..HAHAH..the UK is at a standstill..heaviest of 18 years!!..sooo eerie out there brilliant..i am in my element...

you're joking MM!!! I had to come into work dammit all!!!

All I'm attempting to point out is that there are times when judging a book by its cover will land you the short end of the stick.
yea SS, it's always shocking to me --- no matter the type of evolution or similar, we still do this cover judgement time ad time again.

--- based on not dating a person with a tattoo of someone's name, I would also not date a non-virgin, a divorcee, anything else?

*and

Yep Zen..no buses or trains from where I am..our area has been hit the most..It's great..chilling at home..a day off!..lol..I better check to see what the progress is..imagine me sitting at home and a p45 waiting for me on my desk!..lol..

Texted the aries tosspot from work (sorry can't stand him), and he's off too..said he'll let me know if he manages to get in and what the status is..

I wouldn't date anyone with kids no way, divorcees are usually bitter so tread with immense caution if necessary and I can't remember what else you said..

i just think any names as tattoos are stupid. even if it's 'mum' or a child's name. initials are nice for that kind of thing. an aries i know well had his kids' initials embedded in a really nice celtic design tattoo and that was tasteful.

oh yeah! it's snowing like crazy in england right now - i saw it on GMTV!! looks totally fabulous but i hate that white stuff. i love playing snowballs but if i get one in my face, i get hysterical really quickly. pathetic.

LOL nutter

Would you consider being with someone that has her/his ex's name tattooed on herself/himself?

No. Only because its like they have never broken up.

^^ haha

yea lunch time - one of the most dreaded ever 😢 still pissing it down with snow.

Actually, I'm glad not to be at home, I would be blowing all my heating if I was - my last bill put me through shock!
how come energy prices fell and bill didn't go down? block fucking suckers!!!

hahahaha blingie, you're doing a charitable work 😛 such a humanitarian you are me duck

LOL!


zen, i think i love you.

^ ditto

watch how we get voted world's most suckiest suck-ups in the next dxp 'bump the fakers out' showdown 😉