Taurus girl in love with Scorpio Man who is afraid of commitment but can't stop talking

Quickly we went to high school together . He was the High School football player I was the Thespian ( Singer ). We never were in the same circles . We became friends on FB 5-6 years ago they high school group. 1.5 ago he made a post about the group KISS that I love and I was suppose to go on a date abs was stood up so I was online. He made a comment so I sent him a IM about it and he said are you still dressed up , we can met for drink and hang out. Well he stared at me for over an hour and then kissed me and I was in HEAVEN. We started dating and he was married for 20 years to a Leo and she broke his heart. He has been divorced now for 2.5 years . I have been divorced for 6.5. We dated at first he was afraid cause I had kids so it was a little rough , but he worked thru it. About 6 months in , last New Years and said it is too serious , I am not ready and we broke up. Since then we still speak and see each other every few months and he tells me that I am perfect for him he is just not ready. He is not seeing anyone else, but I am dying . We spent an Amazing Christmas together last week and then. He went in his cave last night and said he wanted to be alone. He just txt me and I just have no idea what to do. I love him and I know he loves me . That is it in a nut shell.. I am so frustrated , sad, I want to be with him .

Thanks so much , being a TAURUS I am a great cook! I am trying to be patient . I know he loves me and its mutual. All of my friends want me to dump him , they say he will never commit, I feel he is so scared. I am trying to be patient but damn he is HOTT !! Lol!!

Posted by Taurusgirl0503
Quickly we went to high school together . He was the High School football player I was the Thespian ( Singer ). We never were in the same circles . We became friends on FB 5-6 years ago they high school group. 1.5 ago he made a post about the group KISS that I love and I was suppose to go on a date abs was stood up so I was online. He made a comment so I sent him a IM about it and he said are you still dressed up , we can met for drink and hang out. Well he stared at me for over an hour and then kissed me and I was in HEAVEN. We started dating and he was married for 20 years to a Leo and she broke his heart. He has been divorced now for 2.5 years . I have been divorced for 6.5. We dated at first he was afraid cause I had kids so it was a little rough , but he worked thru it. About 6 months in , last New Years and said it is too serious , I am not ready and we broke up. Since then we still speak and see each other every few months and he tells me that I am perfect for him he is just not ready. He is not seeing anyone else, but I am dying . We spent an Amazing Christmas together last week and then. He went in his cave last night and said he wanted to be alone. He just txt me and I just have no idea what to do. I love him and I know he loves me . That is it in a nut shell.. I am so frustrated , sad, I want to be with him .

Don't tell us that you want to be with him. Tell HIM. SHOW him. But don't push him.
Likely, he hasn't gotten over his Leo and figures if you'd leave your kid's father, you'd do the same to him.
His trust may have been violated and thus it's not easily granted.

One of the things he says he loves most about me is that I have a huge heart , honest very funny and sexy. He is the complete opposite of me, I am happy, bubbly outgoing , he quiet , reserved , mysterious and brooding . Wow , he makes me crazy!!

My ex husband left me and my kids , he moved to NC and sees his children 2 a year . Actually my Scorp Ex thinks I am very stone woman , I support my kids on my own . I do show him . I am very affectionate and he LOVES IT. He told me I am way more loving than his ex wife

I will say that I am a typical Taurus and Stubborn. I don't want to get rejected. As he has done that several times over the last year so I run away and hide. Much like him . We keep coming back to each other .

No he was scared. He had been scared since we feel in each other's laps, we met up on a whim , even though we went to HS together . It was love at first KISS

Buseyes you are correct. It is so hard. He had never lied to me. We can't stay away from each other but he will only let me in so far then gets scared and hides. He said to me in March of 2015 that if her were divorced for 5+ years we would be getting married but he is not done taking care of himself and doesn't want me to say no. It's possible he playing me , but I don't think so. But I sure as hell cant wait for another 2-3 years from now .

Amen about timing , g-d you sound like him . He says you are the perfect girl for me at the wrong time in my life. He wants us to be friends and to see each other and no ....not just for sex. We have spent time together doing dinner or something with my boys more times then being alone . Yes however , we still are HOTT for each other.

Posted by Impulsv
don't fear letting go of this
If it's meant to be you will be single n he will
Return in years to come without u waiting on him n causing More damage to each other in the in between

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. Wow , that was a mouthful. Thanks for saying that. May I ask if you are a Scorpio female ??

WOW!!! thanks,

Ok , good advice . I will tell him that I need some space that it is hard for me that I love him and I know he is not ready . We khave done this once before we lasted about 21 days without speaking . I am just not sure how to make it stick without being mean. I am a lover and not someone that is malicious and I DONT PLAY GAMES .

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Posted by Taurusgirl0503
Amen about timing , g-d you sound like him . He says you are the perfect girl for me at the wrong time in my life. He wants us to be friends and to see each other and no ....not just for sex. We have spent time together doing dinner or something with my boys more times then being alone . Yes however , we still are HOTT for each other.

Stop sexing each other!!!!

He has you as an fwb and is already milking the cow!! Why commit to you when he can sell you a story and get the sex and goodies for free with no commitment?!'

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I agree Busbee , we had sex for the first time in 6 months over Xmas, but most of the time it's just kissing and nothing more. But you are correct!

Posted by busyeyes88
The Scorp is playing games... If you want commitment... Play him at his own game.. And win...!

Be his best friend. Hang out. Withdraw the sex. Keep your distance and do you!! He does.not want to.commit to you so allow yourself to heal and eventually find someone who does want to.commit to you....

Don't ever be on his "back burner " or let him feel he has you on the back his hand....

Scorps don't lose attraction quickly...

I had a date with a Scorpio four years ago.. We are aqauaintances and I found out a few days ago that he still fancies me even from since four years ago..

If your scorp loves you he would not tun the risk of someone else being with you would he? But he is not ready for.commitment so just do you!!

Thank you for your honest thoughts and I am listening !!

Me too , no disrespect to anyone else , but I really want to hear from the Scorp. Boys!!

Posted by Taurusgirl0503
Me too , no disrespect to anyone else , but I really want to hear from the Scorp. Boys!!

You're lookin' at a Scorpio Man.

I am in a push and pull relationship of sorts with a Scorpio man.

What a rodeo ride it is to deal with a wounded Scorp.

I have never met anyone so defensive, so self destructive and so capabale of shutting down.

Yet he always comes back.

I honestly believe that to deal with you you have one option, which is to chck your own ego at the door completely.

A wounded Scor is stubborn, doubtful and they will push and test. Your only option is to be patient and consistent. Gently show you're not going anywhere but at the same time respect your own boundaries and self worth.

the balance of that is OH SO HARD.

My Scorp chased me forever, in his wounded mode, chasing me was fine and during that time he was lovable, kind, open, sweet and tender. When we got together he was the same for a while then he retreated. I took it to mean he didn't like me. He did. He has just lost all faith that love can end any other way than in a tsunami of pain and he's lost his hope.

I am a strong woman with high standards and when he flaked on me I ended it and walked away. But despite it all he kept coming back to me. When I check my own ego at the door and let him know how much I care, and stop feeling like he needs to open up and be vulnerable right away we get on a lot better.

I hope that if we continue to see each other (which I am not sure we can or will) that he would open up his vulnerability and then I KNOW he would be worth the wait and the patience and the time - but it's a question of perhaps in my case he really does need 3 or 4 years of pain before he can love again properly. I genuinely don't know...but I feel your pain.

I am a Scorpio also...and we wound easily and guard out hearts closely. We also need to experience the pain of one relationship before we can truly love another which is part of our wonderful loyalty.

Posted by scorpx3
OP, if he asked to be left alone, just leave him alone and give him space. Not everything can always go according to your plans, nor his. Let it be. He'll come around when he feels ready to. Meanwhile, focus on yourself and your kids, how to make yourself and your kids happy!

Thanks scorpx3 . I agree, I want him to come to me . I love my boys they have been gone for 2 weeks to see their dad. It will make me focus on them and give me the space I need to heal and get stronger . I just don't want to lose him, but if it is meant to be , he will come back . Funny though he never ever totally leaves , he always text me atleast once a week. Ugh!!

Posted by AlaniaB
I am in a push and pull relationship of sorts with a Scorpio man.

What a rodeo ride it is to deal with a wounded Scorp.

I have never met anyone so defensive, so self destructive and so capabale of shutting down.

Yet he always comes back.

I honestly believe that to deal with you you have one option, which is to chck your own ego at the door completely.

A wounded Scor is stubborn, doubtful and they will push and test. Your only option is to be patient and consistent. Gently show you're not going anywhere but at the same time respect your own boundaries and self worth.

the balance of that is OH SO HARD.

My Scorp chased me forever, in his wounded mode, chasing me was fine and during that time he was lovable, kind, open, sweet and tender. When we got together he was the same for a while then he retreated. I took it to mean he didn't like me. He did. He has just lost all faith that love can end any other way than in a tsunami of pain and he's lost his hope.

I am a strong woman with high standards and when he flaked on me I ended it and walked away. But despite it all he kept coming back to me. When I check my own ego at the door and let him know how much I care, and stop feeling like he needs to open up and be vulnerable right away we get on a lot better.

I hope that if we continue to see each other (which I am not sure we can or will) that he would open up his vulnerability and then I KNOW he would be worth the wait and the patience and the time - but it's a question of perhaps in my case he really does need 3 or 4 years of pain before he can love again properly. I genuinely don't know...but I feel your pain.

I am a Scorpio also...and we wound easily and guard out hearts closely. We also need to experience the pain of one relationship before we can truly love another which is part of our wonderful loyalty.

Give me more money, I'll feel more pain.

Posted by AlaniaB
I am in a push and pull relationship of sorts with a Scorpio man.

What a rodeo ride it is to deal with a wounded Scorp.

I have never met anyone so defensive, so self destructive and so capabale of shutting down.

Yet he always comes back.

I honestly believe that to deal with you you have one option, which is to chck your own ego at the door completely.

A wounded Scor is stubborn, doubtful and they will push and test. Your only option is to be patient and consistent. Gently show you're not going anywhere but at the same time respect your own boundaries and self worth.

the balance of that is OH SO HARD.

My Scorp chased me forever, in his wounded mode, chasing me was fine and during that time he was lovable, kind, open, sweet and tender. When we got together he was the same for a while then he retreated. I took it to mean he didn't like me. He did. He has just lost all faith that love can end any other way than in a tsunami of pain and he's lost his hope.

I am a strong woman with high standards and when he flaked on me I ended it and walked away. But despite it all he kept coming back to me. When I check my own ego at the door and let him know how much I care, and stop feeling like he needs to open up and be vulnerable right away we get on a lot better.

I hope that if we continue to see each other (which I am not sure we can or will) that he would open up his vulnerability and then I KNOW he would be worth the wait and the patience and the time - but it's a question of perhaps in my case he really does need 3 or 4 years of pain before he can love again properly. I genuinely don't know...but I feel your pain.

I am a Scorpio also...and we wound easily and guard out hearts closely. We also need to experience the pain of one relationship before we can truly love another which is part of our wonderful loyalty.

Wow alania. Thank you for sharing. The balance is a bitch . Give space but be loving and consistent and not lose your mind!!

Posted by Taurusgirl0503

Posted by AlaniaB
I am in a push and pull relationship of sorts with a Scorpio man.

What a rodeo ride it is to deal with a wounded Scorp.

I have never met anyone so defensive, so self destructive and so capabale of shutting down.

Yet he always comes back.

I honestly believe that to deal with you you have one option, which is to chck your own ego at the door completely.

A wounded Scor is stubborn, doubtful and they will push and test. Your only option is to be patient and consistent. Gently show you're not going anywhere but at the same time respect your own boundaries and self worth.

the balance of that is OH SO HARD.

My Scorp chased me forever, in his wounded mode, chasing me was fine and during that time he was lovable, kind, open, sweet and tender. When we got together he was the same for a while then he retreated. I took it to mean he didn't like me. He did. He has just lost all faith that love can end any other way than in a tsunami of pain and he's lost his hope.

I am a strong woman with high standards and when he flaked on me I ended it and walked away. But despite it all he kept coming back to me. When I check my own ego at the door and let him know how much I care, and stop feeling like he needs to open up and be vulnerable right away we get on a lot better.

I hope that if we continue to see each other (which I am not sure we can or will) that he would open up his vulnerability and then I KNOW he would be worth the wait and the patience and the time - but it's a question of perhaps in my case he really does need 3 or 4 years of pain before he can love again properly. I genuinely don't know...but I feel your pain.

I am a Scorpio also...and we wound easily and guard out hearts closely. We also need to experience the pain of one relationship before we can truly love another which is part of our wonderful loyalty.

Wow alania. Thank you for sharing. The balance is a bitch . Give space but be loving and consistent and not lose your mind!!

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No, you got it wrong.
You're NOT with HER Scorpio man, you see. You're with your own.

Uhhh oh.... what did Mr. Firebird say— Two different men? Both Scorpios but not the same?

Does a light come on— HELLOOOOO!—?

Mr. Firebird....Yes I know , but the advice is well received . And I can relate ..

Posted by Taurusgirl0503
Mr. Firebird....Yes I know , but the advice is well received . And I can relate ..

You might relate, ......to a point. Which is why you are asking.
Understand, that you are NOT the first woman to be fouled up with the mysteries of a Scorpio man.
You won't be the last and I can assure you of this. In fact, I can bet America's very future on it.

Posted by Reincarnation

Posted by Taurusgirl0503
Me too , no disrespect to anyone else , but I really want to hear from the Scorp. Boys!!

I gave my opinion. But you're not listening.

I think you're too extroverted for him. Just my intuition talking.

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Reincarnation., trust me I did listen . I am listening to Everyone. I like what you said, especially since you are a Scorpio Male . I appreciate what you said. I actually think he likes that I am extroverted , however when we are together he calms me down and I get him to open up and laugh more .

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by Taurusgirl0503
Mr. Firebird....Yes I know , but the advice is well received . And I can relate ..

You might relate, ......to a point. Which is why you are asking.
Understand, that you are NOT the first woman to be fouled up with the mysteries of a Scorpio man.
You won't be the last and I can assure you of this. In fact, I can bet America's very future on it.

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Is that movie for real??

I can only speak from my own experience of Scorpios that most share the same traits in many ways. of course they are all diferrent.

My personal viewpoint is that childhood has a lot of impact in the worst of our traits. Same for anything. So a Scorpio with an insecure childhood has a lot of difficulty managing their "Scorpio" traits in later life. Ones with a secure childhood are able to tame the beast a bit better.

I don't know any Scorpios who spend time with people they don't like.

I don't know any Scorpios who don't have an ego / pride/ fear of rejections and vulnerability.

I think Scorpio or not though, if someone has been badly hurt you have to give them patience and consistency.

Posted by AlaniaB
I can only speak from my own experience of Scorpios that most share the same traits in many ways. of course they are all diferrent.

My personal viewpoint is that childhood has a lot of impact in the worst of our traits. Same for anything. So a Scorpio with an insecure childhood has a lot of difficulty managing their "Scorpio" traits in later life. Ones with a secure childhood are able to tame the beast a bit better.

I don't know any Scorpios who spend time with people they don't like.

I don't know any Scorpios who don't have an ego / pride/ fear of rejections and vulnerability.

I think Scorpio or not though, if someone has been badly hurt you have to give them patience and consistency.

I agree with you 100% . SCORPIOS don't waste their time with people that mean nothing . I can see that with my Scorpio he was badly hurt and needs time to heal . I just miss him a lot and I am honoring him and giving him space . It is killing me !!