@Shruikan
12 Years1,000+ PostsScorpio
The only person in my life...
Is this a family member, a friend, or a partner?
Posted by Juicysbaby214
(((Shruikan))) ive had those experiences and they are not fun :/ 😢 i actually encounter them a lot. People just want to exert power over me for some reason and when i resist its not pretty. I dont have any advice really i jus wanted to tell you that i relate to what youre saying...
99.9% of people I don't care about. It's just this one... I don't know... I can't help but to hurt from it. And I can't cut them out. Well, I could, but that's like... starting my life over if I do.
Sometimes maybe the person doesn't even know they have that power, and sometimes maybe trying to deal with their own inner turmoil they accidentally take it out on you and say things they don't really mean and by the time they realize it is too late it has already been said so now they feel more like shit trying to figure out how to make things right with you fearing maybe they won't be able to then fear turns into pride and everything becomes a mess...have you maybe looked at it that way? I mean I don't know the situation or what the person is to you so it all depends on different factors too but sometimes it is hard to know how much you really can affect a person if they are good at hiding it then that person keeps making the same mistake over again because it may seem like it doesn't affect you
What I'm trying to say is that people deal with things differently, with stress, problems and emotions, some people take it out on the person closest to them unintentionally and by the time they realize what they are doing is too late the damage has been done...my advice is to wait until both are you are calm sit down and kindly not being judgemental point out what they are doing, the person might not even be aware they are doing it or how much it bothers you or hurts you sometimes you have to tell them directly
Posted by Shruikan
that has the potential to hurt me and me make me feel little more than a piece of meat, often takes advantage of this. Anyone else have this happen? I can give two shits what most people think, but this one person can cut deep and easily. Unfortunately, they abuse that power with thoughtless words and actions. Thoughts? Experiences? Advice?😢 Does this person know..... how it makes you feel inside?
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I've talked to this person about it, yeah. Then it happens again and again. I try not to show it hurts, but it does.
I've been down that road. If you see a repeat pattern of behavior then it's not likely to change and it's not likely that they are doing it by accident. 😢
Yeah, there are some people that are unaware of the effect they have on others. Not all emotions are seen with the eye, BUT if you've let this person know how they hurt you, and theres no change, then thats a bit careless on their end. I only say a bit because some emotionally retarded people have to see, and you said you dont show it. It will most likely take that person a dose of their own medicine to understand. Some people only see by experience themselves. I hope you feel better.
Posted by confusedInsane
What I'm trying to say is that people deal with things differently, with stress, problems and emotions, some people take it out on the person closest to them unintentionally and by the time they realize what they are doing is too late the damage has been done...my advice is to wait until both are you are calm sit down and kindly not being judgemental point out what they are doing, the person might not even be aware they are doing it or how much it bothers you or hurts you sometimes you have to tell them directly
I see your point. But we have spoken about it. Over and over. Calm and in arguing situations. Then it happens again. I know it's not related to stress. I've looked for patterns. There are none. It's due to selfishness. At least from what I can see.
Posted by MoonArtist
I've been down that road. If you see a repeat pattern of behavior then it's not likely to change and it's not likely that they are doing it by accident. 😢
That's what I fear. I hope my feeling is wrong though. I know people have a capacity to change. I'm very much concerned though.
Posted by MoonArtist
I've been down that road. If you see a repeat pattern of behavior then it's not likely to change and it's not likely that they are doing it by accident. 😢That's what I fear. I hope my feeling is wrong though. I know people have a capacity to change. I'm very much concerned though.
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People can change, but they don't always choose to. It's always a choice....that's the kicker.
Posted by MoonArtist
I've been down that road. If you see a repeat pattern of behavior then it's not likely to change and it's not likely that they are doing it by accident. 😢That's what I fear. I hope my feeling is wrong though. I know people have a capacity to change. I'm very much concerned though.
People can change, but they don't always choose to. It's always a choice....that's the kicker.
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I hate kickers... maybe I'm just being a baby. I don't deal with hurt well.
Posted by MoonArtist
I've been down that road. If you see a repeat pattern of behavior then it's not likely to change and it's not likely that they are doing it by accident. 😢That's what I fear. I hope my feeling is wrong though. I know people have a capacity to change. I'm very much concerned though.
People can change, but they don't always choose to. It's always a choice....that's the kicker.
I hate kickers... maybe I'm just being a baby. I don't deal with hurt well.
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No, you're not being a baby. No one deals with hurt well and no one should have to be purposely kicked repeatedly by someone who should be loving and not hurting you. The hardest part is making that decision for stay or go.
Posted by Shruikan
that has the potential to hurt me and me make me feel little more than a piece of meat, often takes advantage of this. Anyone else have this happen? I can give two shits what most people think, but this one person can cut deep and easily. Unfortunately, they abuse that power with thoughtless words and actions. Thoughts? Experiences? Advice?
1. HEY I NEVER TOOK ADVANTAGE OF YOU
2. Is this a parent? Because I can relate to that feeling about my Virgo DAD.
3. Scorpio Men Issues 1.01
Posted by tiziani
There are good people who come together to make bad relationships.
There's:
1. Him
2. Her
3. The relationship they build together.
Some people can't build for shit. Legos is where it's at for them.
So I take it you always step on legos through the house and wonder why you get hurt?
Posted by Shruikan
that has the potential to hurt me and me make me feel little more than a piece of meat, often takes advantage of this. Anyone else have this happen? I can give two shits what most people think, but this one person can cut deep and easily. Unfortunately, they abuse that power with thoughtless words and actions. Thoughts? Experiences? Advice?1. HEY I NEVER TOOK ADVANTAGE OF YOU
2. Is this a parent? Because I can relate to that feeling about my Virgo DAD.
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1. No you have not. Yet....
2. My parents have never cared for me. They've pretty much been against me my whole life so I never trusted them
3. Ugh...
1. No you have not. Yet....
Gotta love the positive vibe 😄
Posted by tiziani
I don't know it's as extreme as "always". But Lady Scorpio tells me I need to work on some general guidelines in my life.
You are on the "Extreme" sign board. Keep your hands and feet in at all times.
Enjoy the ride.
How do you give power to the person that raised you? What happens when you depend on that person and trust them above all, only to have the disown you and call you a monster? To lose the only bond that you never thought could be broken? How do I choose that? If I could choose for it to not melt my insides, I would.
Shruikan,
are you scorpio? or taurus?
I once had that kind of situation where I looked like a piece of meat...humiliated, abused etc.
If I go back then.. it was painful for me and took me 5 yrs of his slavery. BUT, I have a strong
determination to END that kind of situation. Now, I am free and my EX Aquarius still chasing me for 10
yrs. I left him and told him... I forgive him but I can't go back where I stumbled.
They will hurt you once you allowed them even if they are the one who raised you.
Think. Prepare. and be Free.
I'm a Scorpio sun with a Taurus moon.
You are very stubborn.. Conquer it!!
How do you benefit from having them in your life?
Especially if it isn't family, what compels you to keep contact with this person?
Posted by Shruikan
that has the potential to hurt me and me make me feel little more than a piece of meat, often takes advantage of this. Anyone else have this happen? I can give two shits what most people think, but this one person can cut deep and easily. Unfortunately, they abuse that power with thoughtless words and actions. Thoughts? Experiences? Advice?Hey, Shruikan. I am not a scorpio, but I understand where you are coming from, since both pluto and scorpio are strong in my chart.
Though I am not in a position to offer sound advice, here's something to help you deal with the bitterness - I found it really helpful.
http://skywriter.wordpress.com/2009/10/06/purge-yourself-of-pluto% E2% 80% 99s-negativity% E2% 80% 94get-free-of-bitterness/
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Thank you very much!
Posted by munchkin
How do you benefit from having them in your life?Especially if it isn't family, what compels you to keep contact with this person?
Hm... I guess because I've known this person since the day I was born... literally. I mean... I don't know, he taught me everything.
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that has the potential to hurt me and me make me feel little more than a piece of meat, often takes advantage of this. Anyone else have this happen? I can give two shits what most people think, but this one person can cut deep and easily. Unfortunately, they abuse that power with thoughtless words and actions. Thoughts? Experiences? Advice?