virgo29
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>Posted by virgo29
...he mentioned having not such a good week but didn't want t talk about...Posted by virgo29
...its only been three days...click to expand
That's all.



Posted by AgentP911roflmao!
You fucked him too soon.
Now your insecurity comes out to play.

Posted by DamnataHa ha! I didn't have that in my head when I wrote it but now I do!!Posted by AgentP911roflmao!
You fucked him too soon.
Now your insecurity comes out to play.
I heard that in my mind in the tune of a trailer for an upcoming horror movie.
You fucked him too soon.
*pin drops*
Now your insecurity comes out to play.
*dun dun dun*click to expand

Posted by virgo29You're focusing on the little details that aren't important yet you're missing the bigger, more straight forward picture.
Hey... I'm back and in need of some advice because he messaged me and tried to make plans yesterday but I had plans already so i asked him if we could reschedule for Friday and he agreed.
We texted all last night about the election and flirted obviously.. We made plans for Friday evening.. We've had sex already .. is he going to expect it on Friday (given the above comment on tree trunking him too soon) .. if so, do I give in ?
I'm looking to take this long term but I know its too soon to ask him for a relationship so I'm in no rush. Is it okay to be intimate and spend time with him without risking to turning this into just a sexual relationship.
We have had dates without sex in the past, where we just hung out and talked and made out and then he would go home.. usually during the week though. This time its a Friday night which before he seemed to have plans on a Friday or Saturday..
Anyhow, he's been messaging me all morning saying two days to go until we see each other telling me thing he wants to do to me and almost building up his own suspense.
Is it okay to have sexual texting banter with him as well or am i encouraging his sexual motives rather than building a relationship foundation? Having sexual banter is healthy isn't it?
He seems to trust me enough to get involved/spend time with me even though his job could be at risk ( I would never let that happen though). He told me a while ago he needed to know what I wanted from him and I told him it was too early to ask for a relationship because I wanted to get to know him more but I was also not interested in anything meaningless that wasn't going to lead anywhere. This was said before we even went out on our first date. He said he wouldnt want to hurt me.
I'm also divorced and he would ask me questions about how I reacted when i was proposed too.. I wasn't proposed to sadly we just discussed it and signed papers but then he followed to say that he know exactly how he's going to propose and I reposed with that's really great and didn't allow him to elaborate. he asks me many questions about my marriage (even as short-lived as it was) and I'm happy to answer his questions but is this interest real or is he just making conversation to make me think he's interested?
He says things like I can't wait to be a dad (maybe because his dad was absent throughout his life) another thing he's talked about with me. He talks about his mom and family (maybe just to make me feel special).. ..
Am I allowed to ask if he's seeing anyone else or is it too soon and he might think its a bit invasive?
Now that he is back on making plans with me but he really only did that after I initially sent him a text and he's back in full force.
Is this going to be a patter behaviour where he will disappear from time to time until one day he just disappears for good?
Please help.

Posted by virgo29I think asking him is a good idea. You need to see if you're barking up the right tree.
For me I thought about it and I'd really like to date him exclusively but I don't want to rush him.. for him right now i have no idea....
In the beginning before we decided to go out, i told him if/when he felt he was looking for something more serious maybe we would chat then and his reply was that he wanted to take his time and when the right time came he'd make it work.
We did sleep together soon into the dating part of things but it was confusing since we had been doing this dance for almost a year.... and I know it my fault because I just kept saying no to him so he probably just saw it as a challenge at the time and I saw it as liking each other...
I asked him to go out instead of my place because its his birthday but we've go into this grove of him bringing over wine, I cook and we spend time together..and he said he'd rather for his birthday stay in with me..
We connect and can talk a lot better when its just the two of us instead of a noisy restaurant. .. He does not ever push for sex, the last two times we saw each other we had dinner and just chatted non stop.. ..
If its not going to hurt anything I'm just going to ask him what he is looking for presently... so we're on the same page



Posted by virgo29If I'm interested or like the person it'll be hard to stop me. I will communicate and will spend time doesn't matter if Im busy I will make time and you will have no doubts.
In need of some advice.. 8 months down the road and finally i said yes to going out with him... Im a virgo female and this scorpio guy and I took it to the next stage and had sex. It was great.. we had dinner twice after that and it didn't involve us having sex..he talked about not being a good cook but since I am he would do the cleaning to help out.. he brings over wine for our dinners and even offer to buy dinner incase I'm not up to cooking..before leaving on my trip he says to me that I'm all he wants to be with when I get back.. we communicate really well normally..when we're together its like no else even exists (at least tat how I feel).. he opens up to me and tells me about things that bother him, I never ask because I don't like prying and feel he should confide only if he trusts me.
i left on a trip for a week and we communicated even during my trip away.. when i got back he messages me but nothing about seeing one another.. we message for the next three days constantly and then all of a sudden nothing for 3 days. .. he mentioned having not such a good week but didn't want t talk about it so I respected that and told him i was around if he changed his mind..however i dd continue to shoot little texts back for the next couple of days and he responded..then i haven't heard anything..
So odd, he went from taking the bus to to be able to see me even though he was exhausted and had work the next day .... risking his job to see me, spend time with me...spending dates together not being sexual and just talking and confiding in personal matters about family and work..i know its only been three days but could this mean he's no longer interested?. ..
I'm confused..

Posted by Scorpio323OCPosted by virgo29If I'm interested or like the person it'll be hard to stop me. I will communicate and will spend time doesn't matter if Im busy I will make time and you will have no doubts.
In need of some advice.. 8 months down the road and finally i said yes to going out with him... Im a virgo female and this scorpio guy and I took it to the next stage and had sex. It was great.. we had dinner twice after that and it didn't involve us having sex..he talked about not being a good cook but since I am he would do the cleaning to help out.. he brings over wine for our dinners and even offer to buy dinner incase I'm not up to cooking..before leaving on my trip he says to me that I'm all he wants to be with when I get back.. we communicate really well normally..when we're together its like no else even exists (at least tat how I feel).. he opens up to me and tells me about things that bother him, I never ask because I don't like prying and feel he should confide only if he trusts me.
i left on a trip for a week and we communicated even during my trip away.. when i got back he messages me but nothing about seeing one another.. we message for the next three days constantly and then all of a sudden nothing for 3 days. .. he mentioned having not such a good week but didn't want t talk about it so I respected that and told him i was around if he changed his mind..however i dd continue to shoot little texts back for the next couple of days and he responded..then i haven't heard anything..
So odd, he went from taking the bus to to be able to see me even though he was exhausted and had work the next day .... risking his job to see me, spend time with me...spending dates together not being sexual and just talking and confiding in personal matters about family and work..i know its only been three days but could this mean he's no longer interested?. ..
I'm confused..
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Posted by 13thlol it's lust not love.Posted by Scorpio323OCPosted by virgo29If I'm interested or like the person it'll be hard to stop me. I will communicate and will spend time doesn't matter if Im busy I will make time and you will have no doubts.
In need of some advice.. 8 months down the road and finally i said yes to going out with him... Im a virgo female and this scorpio guy and I took it to the next stage and had sex. It was great.. we had dinner twice after that and it didn't involve us having sex..he talked about not being a good cook but since I am he would do the cleaning to help out.. he brings over wine for our dinners and even offer to buy dinner incase I'm not up to cooking..before leaving on my trip he says to me that I'm all he wants to be with when I get back.. we communicate really well normally..when we're together its like no else even exists (at least tat how I feel).. he opens up to me and tells me about things that bother him, I never ask because I don't like prying and feel he should confide only if he trusts me.
i left on a trip for a week and we communicated even during my trip away.. when i got back he messages me but nothing about seeing one another.. we message for the next three days constantly and then all of a sudden nothing for 3 days. .. he mentioned having not such a good week but didn't want t talk about it so I respected that and told him i was around if he changed his mind..however i dd continue to shoot little texts back for the next couple of days and he responded..then i haven't heard anything..
So odd, he went from taking the bus to to be able to see me even though he was exhausted and had work the next day .... risking his job to see me, spend time with me...spending dates together not being sexual and just talking and confiding in personal matters about family and work..i know its only been three days but could this mean he's no longer interested?. ..
I'm confused..
But it was only 3 days...haha smh
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Posted by 13thlol FYI doesn't matter if it's just 3 days if I'm really attracted she will know there will be no mixed signals.Posted by Scorpio323OCPosted by virgo29If I'm interested or like the person it'll be hard to stop me. I will communicate and will spend time doesn't matter if Im busy I will make time and you will have no doubts.
In need of some advice.. 8 months down the road and finally i said yes to going out with him... Im a virgo female and this scorpio guy and I took it to the next stage and had sex. It was great.. we had dinner twice after that and it didn't involve us having sex..he talked about not being a good cook but since I am he would do the cleaning to help out.. he brings over wine for our dinners and even offer to buy dinner incase I'm not up to cooking..before leaving on my trip he says to me that I'm all he wants to be with when I get back.. we communicate really well normally..when we're together its like no else even exists (at least tat how I feel).. he opens up to me and tells me about things that bother him, I never ask because I don't like prying and feel he should confide only if he trusts me.
i left on a trip for a week and we communicated even during my trip away.. when i got back he messages me but nothing about seeing one another.. we message for the next three days constantly and then all of a sudden nothing for 3 days. .. he mentioned having not such a good week but didn't want t talk about it so I respected that and told him i was around if he changed his mind..however i dd continue to shoot little texts back for the next couple of days and he responded..then i haven't heard anything..
So odd, he went from taking the bus to to be able to see me even though he was exhausted and had work the next day .... risking his job to see me, spend time with me...spending dates together not being sexual and just talking and confiding in personal matters about family and work..i know its only been three days but could this mean he's no longer interested?. ..
I'm confused..
But it was only 3 days...haha smh
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Posted by Scorpio323OCPosted by 13thlol FYI doesn't matter if it's just 3 days if I'm really attracted she will know there will be no mixed signals.Posted by Scorpio323OCPosted by virgo29If I'm interested or like the person it'll be hard to stop me. I will communicate and will spend time doesn't matter if Im busy I will make time and you will have no doubts.
In need of some advice.. 8 months down the road and finally i said yes to going out with him... Im a virgo female and this scorpio guy and I took it to the next stage and had sex. It was great.. we had dinner twice after that and it didn't involve us having sex..he talked about not being a good cook but since I am he would do the cleaning to help out.. he brings over wine for our dinners and even offer to buy dinner incase I'm not up to cooking..before leaving on my trip he says to me that I'm all he wants to be with when I get back.. we communicate really well normally..when we're together its like no else even exists (at least tat how I feel).. he opens up to me and tells me about things that bother him, I never ask because I don't like prying and feel he should confide only if he trusts me.
i left on a trip for a week and we communicated even during my trip away.. when i got back he messages me but nothing about seeing one another.. we message for the next three days constantly and then all of a sudden nothing for 3 days. .. he mentioned having not such a good week but didn't want t talk about it so I respected that and told him i was around if he changed his mind..however i dd continue to shoot little texts back for the next couple of days and he responded..then i haven't heard anything..
So odd, he went from taking the bus to to be able to see me even though he was exhausted and had work the next day .... risking his job to see me, spend time with me...spending dates together not being sexual and just talking and confiding in personal matters about family and work..i know its only been three days but could this mean he's no longer interested?. ..
I'm confused..
But it was only 3 days...haha smh
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i left on a trip for a week and we communicated even during my trip away.. when i got back he messages me but nothing about seeing one another.. we message for the next three days constantly and then all of a sudden nothing for 3 days. .. he mentioned having not such a good week but didn't want t talk about it so I respected that and told him i was around if he changed his mind..however i dd continue to shoot little texts back for the next couple of days and he responded..then i haven't heard anything..
So odd, he went from taking the bus to to be able to see me even though he was exhausted and had work the next day .... risking his job to see me, spend time with me...spending dates together not being sexual and just talking and confiding in personal matters about family and work..i know its only been three days but could this mean he's no longer interested?. ..
I'm confused..