what do I do honestly (Page 2)

Posted by BrightLight
Scorpio men can definitely wear a hardass exterior. But honestly, it's a facade because Scorpio is a water sign. Just from what you've wrote about this guy I can tell he's in turbulent waters. He's a mess of emotions and spiraling into dark waters. Your job--which the earth and air signs are going to hate lol--is to provide your sensitive, chaotic, emotional water guy with calm seas. Calm. This is the only way to shift his emotions out of the Scorpion Death Spiral of Negative Emotions.

Calm seas. How do you do this? First do not argue with him. Always come from a sensitive, compassionate place. Trust me. The only thing a Scorpio wants from their partner during turbulence is knowing they are safe within the relationship with an understanding and kind (and non-judgemental)partner. This does not mean be a doormat. It means LISTENING with an understanding ear. Use that good ole Aqua intuition and figure out the source of the turbulence and provide a safe haven. Be his loyal, devoted rock right now. Maybe make him laugh or send him something sentimental. The more he sees you as his safe place the closer you will get. You can debate him later after the storm has passed.

Some insight into his turbulence could be his over thinking, his guilty feelings about hurting you with this other woman ( which I am convinced he brought into the picture to see how you would react for reassurance), his anxiety about god knows what, his fear about you moving there. Like a million things he's put on his shoulders which is literally driving him to self medicate.

So be the calm rock for him right now. If things get worse and he goes cold on you and refuses to stop self medicating, then you may want to get out of the way. A Scorpio determined to swim in the muck is a sad sight indeed. Nothing you can do about it.

I have a feeling however that if he sees you as the calming space of shelter rather than part of the storm, he'll come around. Good luck.

Thank you BrightLight, I'll do my best. I think your description is spot on. I've definitely always tried being exactly that rock and safe haven for him, but your post gives me reassurance that I'm doing the right thing. Thank you so much for your empathy... ❤

Aquamila, can you please answer my post? I am curious about a few things.... do you speak russian? what are you going to do in his country? I mean what job?

Posted by Pandora101
Aquamila, can you please answer my post? I am curious about a few things.... do you speak russian? what are you going to do in his country? I mean what job?

I'm sorry, Pandora, I thought I had answered everything 😢
Yes, I speak Russian, but am still learning, I am currently approaching level C1. Nevertheless, there is a language barrier, I can't deny that. But I hope that this is our least problem, that we'll be able to overcome as soon as I become completely fluent. We communicate in a mixture of Russian and English. I planned on going to university in Russia. To continue my studies, to be exact. There's a few issues that make our situation a little more complicated. His military service for example, which he can only avoid as long as he goes to university, unless he leaves the country completely. This is why we never wanted to stay in Russia, but move back to Germany once he has learnt the language. Obviously, that too wouldn't be easy. I've heard people say that immigation to Germany is near to impossible unless he's married to a German citizen i.e. unless he marries me. I'm ready for pretty much anything, but I can see a lot of complications ahead, that stand in the way of really being together.