What Do You REALLY Know About Love? (Page 2)

I should be flattered shouldn't I— This passing mark from the "CHOSEN ONE" and all.

Sorry to disappoint not flattered at all...

thankful of my genetic make up yes but looks aren't what it's all about.

And NO I wouldn't be seen in your presence...different values in life

but I will be seen on your thread boards as I love to have a good laugh and really enjoy your novels. And reading you get slammed by all the lovely ladies out there.

Mwhaa

i was being the narcissistic, pompous ass i have always been!

In psychiatry, a personality disorder characterized by the patient's overestimation of his or her own appearance and abilities and an excessive need for admiration. In psychoanalytic theory, emphasis is placed on the element of self-directed sexual desire in the condition.

You said it!!! lol

yes, sarcastic as i am i said i was "being the narcissistic pompous ass i have always been" and you chose to believe me!

amazing how the jaded ones always choose to believe the worst in people! - and then you all complain about always being hurt by men and not being able to trust!


my personality is VERY in order, but due to the fact that we live in a schizophrenic world especially in the western developed nations, free thinkers like myself are classed as misfits with personality disorders...


i love myself dearly, but not to the point of being narcissistic...


to give you an example of how schizo our world is, you have glossy magazines and all forms and manner of print and television media that are perpetuating an almost singular definition of what is "beautiful" and what is "cool"..

mind you, these media publications are all using these contrived images to push another worthless product on consumers that they don't need, while subconsciously making the consumer feel UNWORTHY and UGLY...

this is done by making the beauty standard so drastically high that most people pale in comparison..

how many girls look like claudia schiffer, naomi campell or eva mendes?

this is the standard that is perpetuated and it makes the average woman VERY insecure to have to be inundated with these images of hauntingly beautiful and fantastically fit women with 0 perceptible physical flaws...


the same can be said for men, except MONEY and SOCIETAL POWER is used as a barometer to measure a man's success...

i.e. if you aren't a doctor or a lawyer or RICH, then you are just a worthless piss ant who needs to be sterilized to prevent you from breeding a new generation of welfare babies..


my point is this:

regardless of the schizophrenic society i find myself in that is CONSTANTLY telling me that i am unworthy, i KNOW differently about myself and i ACT that way..

i don't buy into the hype of being just another statistic out of billions on the face of this earth...a false notion that is pushed on me and everyone else every minute of the day, every week of the year for a lifetime...

Yes and I was being sacastic too...You're sooo easy to bait...

you throw yourself out there for critisism bragging about being the chosen one and how you can get anyone you want or how easy it is for you. Nobody really cares for someone male or female that are sooo far up themselves and look down on people. (or at least that is the way it is percieved)

As you can see they can't wait to try to bring that person back down to reality. Good for you, that you can walk around with your head held high but don't be a jackass about it, you aren't alone, you're just more vocal!

Then again... I think you do it for the feed back and to add spice to your life, I myself always have the wooden spoon ready for a bit of a stir...not to your extent but for a bit of fun...

amazing how the jaded ones always choose to believe the worst in people! - and then you all complain about always being hurt by men and not being able to trust!

Yes i agree, something of which I picked up on with the last guy I went out with...but have recognized my fault and shall correct it next time. It's not easy when 2 out of 3 times you are right on the ball with guys though!!! 2 out of 3 that I almost went out with had hidden gf's which they didnt disclose...

GB you're talking about "SEX" put your tongue back in your head!!! lol

hi, F.! "..although i don't hate blonds, i don't prefer them...i would much rather look at them than be intimate with them...i know this from experience...

now brunettes and raven-haired women on the other hand...they are my weakness...so much nature and warmth is flowing from such women....."

and waht about red haired girls, my darling? you just left me out...
yours, wiht lots of affcetyion and you know it, ladymac.

sory for tuping erros, it's late here and I'm tired, long dance session in the morning, work in the evening, but you know, life in the post modern era.
love u

I guess that depends how far into the relationship you are, "being in love" as Fund and I were discussing, is something most of you guys shy away from...

who hasn't thought about love with a woman

Your comment there looks more like being in lust with a women! Correct me if I'm wrong..

@ greatbull:

*what sweethearts said*

@ sweethearts:

i see you are up for a challenge...

i totally respect that...

i have a close libra friend who also has a scorpio rising as do you, if i am not mistaken..

the one thing that stands out about her is definitely her PERSISTENCE and her willingness to challenge me...

so, with that being said, i am usually up for the challenge.

just like i "throw" myself out there for criticism, as you put it.

that is merely a challenge to me..

the more trash i talk, the more i am obliged to rise to the occasion and back up my talk.

its like when i meet HOT women.

they are a challenge to me because its not easy to be with them for the average joe, and i DON'T consider myself average.

any man who is with an extraordinarily HOT girl has something VERY tangibly appealing about him, ...whether its money, looks, a charming personality, a golden dick, all of the above, whatever.

the average looking women are the unwilling recipients of the genetic consolation prize of BETA (passive-aggressive schmuck) males!

all the ALPHAS (assertive types) are with the HOT girls, so the average looking chicks get all the shitty male leftovers!

and they in turn pass these ugly sub-par genes onto their kids!

(you see how FUCKED UP darwinism is?)

so i throw my OWN self under the bus if only to prove to myself that a bus can't kill my spirit even when it DOES run over me!

what is a stupid bus when compared to an insightful mind?

the bus only EXISTS in our MIND anyhow!


the people who may be lurking in the shadows and waiting for an opportunity to pounce and attack are a challenge to me as well!

every time i overcome their poorly thought out remarks, it affirms the clarity of my own thinking processes..


its mere mental exercise to me and those "adversaries" are merely my sparring partners for lack of a better word.

and the sparring partner is usually the one getting paid to get his ass beat by a pro, a human, moving punching bag in other words.

except these e-diots i constantly beat up on (only because they ask for it!) are not even getting PAID!

well, i am SURE they are getting their twisted sadistic fix from the pain..i guess that has to count for SOMETHING!


you see? everyone is a winner after all and we all get something out of it!

now as far as your history of choosing lying men, i won't tell you that you should work on improving your discretion, because i am sure you are already aware of that...

you should be thankful when meeting a man like me because at least i will be honest with you and TELL you about my sexual history, sordid as it may be!

its not like i have skeletons in my closet or anything...

a guy can never win, can he?

he is honest and women wanna crucify him for his honesty...so the man goes and hides (lies) his history and women call him a liar!

its like jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire!

what can you do?

*shrugs*

@ ladymacbeth:


i am blowing you kisses full of love, my darling!

and you already know i am weak for your magnificent beauty, Love...

i didn't leave you out...

perchance, i was merely was patiently awaiting your bold, red-headed entrance only so i can save the best for last!


you have not disappointed! not in the very least!

you have truly burst onto this grand dxp stage like a bold and beautiful red-headed tebaldi (mimi) as in la boheme...


and i will play the brown bjorling to your red-headed tebaldi and shower you with love and affection in full, passionate display for the world to see!

yes my dear, you have made the entrance of a diva indeed...


what INSANE man doesn't absolutely ADORE a HOT red-head?

...and i am perfectly sane as you know, Love...


you also know that i love you too..

Babe...been out of practice for quite a few years and the sweetheart that I am I just assumed people would be upfront like myself... Boy was I wrong!!~ But don't worry I've sharpened my sword and donning the armour!!

And yes had they have told me they had a gf then most definetly I wouldn't have entertained any idea of taking it any further. The last thing I would want is to be a third party in anyones relationship, I'm a monogamus gal and expect the same. Boring to you...maybe, but I'm not settling down anytime soon.. just out having fun 🙂

So come on where's your next masterpiece—

"what INSANE man doesn't absolutely ADORE a HOT red-head?"

Amen! LOL It takes a REAL man to handle a redhead 🙂

@ sweethearts:


don't lose hope! remember, we are working on getting you OUT of that jaded state!

and a monogamous relationship is not so boring to me if there is enough variety in the relationship and i don't lose my identity in the relationship...

but dear, there may be hope for you just yet!

i have a good feeling about you!



@ gingerscorp:

that is the truth...

all the red-heads i have known have had very explosive personalities to say the least...

and of course there are the endless sexual dynamo cliches (most of them true)...

red heads are just built differently than the rest of us...

there is definitely something very special and alluring about them, especially when they are HOT..

when a red head is ugly, she is just UGLY...and i have seen some PRETTY ghastly looking red heads!

oh and sweethearts, i am still gathering material for my next piece!

i set my standards so high for myself its just keeps getting harder and harder to keep up with me!

its like i am drowning in threads and i start so many that i don't have time to see that they are developed in their entirety!

oh well...

stay tuned...

My father was a Red head... my mother asian...

I got the fire from both of them!!! But the balanced Libra tames it mostly! Lol

speaking of red-heads, my first crush in kindergarten was a red-head and she had LOTS of freckles..

but even to this day i still think red hed with lots of freckles is TOTALLY HOT...

even the ones without freckles can be pretty stunning...

Do yourself proud in the next one babe and I'll sit back and stir the butter for you! LMAO

I hated my freckles when I grew up...ever see an asian kid with squinty eyes and freckles—

They have gone now, thank goodness!

that is affirmative, dear!


i feel like its kind of fitting that with v-day around the corner (commercialas it may be) all these love threads are bouncing about!


i guess i will wait until AFTER v-day to release my next composition!

for now, at least, i want to see this thread through to its last breath because it is special to me...

i don't wanna distract myself with something new before i finish this!

unless you are done, of course...then by all means, we can move on!

i knew this half-korean and half-white girl who had freckles and she looked AMAZING! her features were great too...


she was absolutely gorgeous and i don't remember the last time i have seen such a peculiar, yet spectacular combination!

never underestimate the extreme appeal of an asian woman with freckles!

Well I'm about to go out and get picked up on by maybe another possible loser...but I've got to be positive and assume that he is a nice guy...and ask all the right questions...right?

If not I'll down a couple of vino's with my friends and maybe grab a hunky bouncer on the way out!!! And then try again tomorrow night...

lol..

good luck on your soon to be, hopefully crazy night out!


if you grab THIS bouncer on your way out, i ASSURE you, it will be a night well spent!


hold on, wait!

i don't feel myself being grabbed!?!?!


hahaha...

maybe you will receive the pleasure the next time around!

So then what are you going to do for your lovely lady for V Day—

The only way I'll be grabbing the bouncer on the way out is as I'm tripping over my own 3 feet!!!

Somebody's taught me why those guys are so delightful at the doors and I never have to pay to get in... Thanks for the insight!

unfortunately i will be working!

but i am sure there will be plenty of single, lonely hearts looking for a valentine in the lounge where i work! i am sure it wont be THAT bad!

lol...


i am sure my working v-day won't be as good as yours, though, especially now that your engine is getting warm again...

lol!

bouncers are not merely brawn and muscle!


the SMART ones never have to lay a finger on anyone or get physical because we have GREAT SOCIAL SKILLS and can usually talk someone down before a situation escalates...

and our social skills just get stronger every time we show up to work and get a first hand, close up glimpse of what works between men and women and WHAT DOESN'T..


some of the wisest souls i have ever known have worked in bars all their lives...

you gain a kind of knowledge and insight working in a bar that you can't get anywhere else, much less PAY for..and the education you get in a bar is WORTH any money you would spend on a classroom education for that knowledge gained from your local bar..

Don't fret on frecklt sweethearts. I still have them *sigh*
I'm one of those redheads... green eyes, freckles, and I burn.
I'm definately a ginger. LOL
Alot of people thing freckles are cute but those are the people who don't have to grow up being called freckle face. My mom (a redhead) always tried to make me feel better by calling them angel kisses. HA! I'd ask her in a stern voice to please tell the angels to stop kissing me.... I had enough. LOL

but i am sure there will be plenty of single, lonely hearts looking for a valentine

Oh God that's us!!!!!!!!!!

But I know we will have the best time anyways because ultimately we are just trashy minded and know how to have fun regardless... 🙂

I use to scrub my face hard all the time, funny my freckles as a kid were quite brown but now there is no evidence of then at all. Mind you my eyes aren't as squinty either!! Maybe that's because of everything I've seen!! lol

I think red heads when they are good looking are exceptionally good looking females. The males are more so so... and they do appear very tame...funny enough, is that misconstrued?

i guess it's a ploy... Far out I've just realized how naive I can be!!! DOH!

umm sweethearts, darling, i am ALL TOO AWARE of how CRAZY and UNINHIBITED a group of women in their 40's can be when going out to bars together!


trust me, they do things that most careless gemini sluts in their whoring primes who blush doing!

i know because i have had women in their 40's approach me while i am working and do unspeakable things! (well i won't speak of those things in this thread, but maybe in my next masterpiece!)


sexually, i am in my prime so it goes without saying that a woman in her 40's would be a VERY compatible sexual match for me and IT IS...

i know from experience since i seem to have been attracting older women since i was 19..


you ladies can be VERY unhibited ESPECIALLY if you have spent your whole life being a prude!


its like you reach your 40's, have been a prude all your life and abstained from pleasuring yourself and having others pleasure you and realize it WAS ALL FOR NOTHING!

so what do you do when you reach your 40's and find yourself divorced?

you go out and look for young men to fill you in on all that pleasure you have been depriving yourselves of all these years!

you go girl...

make yourself feel good...

@ gingerscorp:

i have never seen a red-headed chick with freckles and green eyes who i WASN'T attracted to...

that is definitely a winning combination...

and as far as red-headed guys go..

they just got the shitty end of the gender stick!

those dudes get NO love!

Ahahah you are sooo right there and those young guys Mmmmm sooo much stamina...AAAaaaa 😉

and you older, sexually ripened ladies...

mmmm...so much stamina, so much eroticism!

so many ORGASMS!

STOP IT unlike you I have to revert to others means of satisfaction!!!

not unplesant mind...

for now, at least, i want to see this thread through to its last breath because it is special to me...

What's so special about this thread? Most of it is you and I gabbing and certainly off the topic mostly!

You're not getting all soft and mushy on me are you— ;0

while you and i "gab" we are gracefully dancing around the topic of love, are we not!?


while we communicate with each other, we are doing so with love and out of love and i know this because i SENSE the love with my EMOTIONS..i can feel the love my dear..


and that feeling never lies to me...


my dear, is it not obvious that our communication is living proof of love itself?

we are not both providing each other with something tangible, whether a feeling or an emotion or a stimulating thought?


we are both beneficiaries of this exchange and i feel the love, do you not, my dear?


(was that "soft and mushy" enough for you?)

Like myself you always have to be right and I bet you always have to have the last say too— RIGHT—

Have definietly enjoyed chatting here with you, you have kept me mentally stimulated and also funny enough helped me move on from my past relationship as I was finding it hard to let go...


The connection I believe is more like kindred spirits...


I was thinking about the first story I read of yours "A How To on How to Get in Between A Scorpio's Legs" and how you asked her "can you please be quiet" LMAO You gota know I think that is the funniest thing I've ever heard, it cracks me up everytime I think of it!!! Dunno how I'd feel if someone said it to me but he's certainly get a whack that would wake him up!!

I guess it was just the situation and you were tired because I imagine telling you the exact same as you "TREETRUNK A HOLE IN MY EAR" at times or anybody else that challenges you!!

Oh and about the V Day thing... you're not working 24 hours so there could be something nice if you were into it. Alot of men aren't so if that's the case just say so!

I for one would be over the moon if someone ever did anything for me BUT I wouldn't hold them to anything because it has to come from their heart...

And if I ever had a bf on Valentines Day...I'd take great pleasure in planning something very Sexy! Did that around Xmas and made ME feel great! 😉

@ sweethearts:


unlike you, darling, i don't always HAVE to be right!

i just usually am...

BUT, i am fully aware and versed in the art of compromise and i definitely know how to pick my battles when necessary, especially concerning the ones who i am close to...

some things are just NOT worth fighting over...


and i have enjoyed chatting with you as well and what you say about our connection as "kindred spirits" is exactly how i feel about my beautiful libra friend with scorpio rising (blond and german as she is)....

we had sex ONCE earlier on in our friendship and i just KNEW that i wasn't attracted to her in that way!

with that being said, i KNOW she is one of my very special Angels and i tell her this all the time...

she is very dear to me..


and i am glad you liked the bit about my short-lived tryst with that scorpio broad...


she wasn't really much of a challenge which was kind of disappointing because mentally, i was all over her...

but that EDGE for which i have known scorpio girls to have was lacking somewhat with her and that is what ultimately failed to sustain my interest...


i just knew too much about her too soon and she was too simple...


and i am afraid to admit that v-day for me unraveled exactly as expected...

if i celebrated v-day or acknowledged it in any way, would i have any credibility left?

i mean, that bs goes against everything i believe in!


i am of the belief if you were not aware, that v-day is EVERY day concerning the one(s) you love...



@ ofa:


lucy liu IS HOT..

it seems like the older she gets, the hotter she gets..

she is SMOKING actually...

Had to take a break there and gather my thoughts....

Sometimes F A M some of the things you say really gross me out!! But then I realised today, that I'm not trying to change your way of thinking but learn from what you (men) are saying... I've just this weekend watched "he's just not that into you"


we had sex ONCE earlier on in our friendship and i just KNEW that i wasn't attracted to her in that way!


and what you said here is not something I can comprehend... but obviously because it's not something that I could/would ever do with a friend or someone I wasn't remotely attracted to. Yet you guys dont have a problem with it *shakes head*

You see this is where the problem is cos if it were me (women) in that situation I would feel connected having slept with you and there would be some kind of expectation...(in my mind) given maybe not all women will feel that way but a vast majority would, me being one. I dont' know if I could be friends or friendly afterwards...

To be continued, G2G

Had to take a break there and gather my thoughts....

Sometimes F A M some of the things you say really gross me out!! But then I realised today, that I'm not trying to change your way of thinking but learn from what you (men) are saying... I've just this weekend watched "he's just not that into you"


we had sex ONCE earlier on in our friendship and i just KNEW that i wasn't attracted to her in that way!


and what you said here is not something I can comprehend... but obviously because it's not something that I could/would ever do with a friend or someone I wasn't remotely attracted to. Yet you guys dont have a problem with it *shakes head*

You see this is where the problem is cos if it were me (women) in that situation I would feel connected having slept with you and there would be some kind of expectation...(in my mind) given maybe not all women will feel that way but a vast majority would, me being one. I dont' know if I could be friends or friendly afterwards...

To be continued, G2G

Whilst you (men) on the other hand just take it with a grain of salt and still want to be friends without even a moments consideration to the lady in question...

So what I'm geting at is...you now know how I feel in this situation & what I'm thinking..

How do you—
IF ANYTHING! Does it ever become awkward? Do you discuss it with her and decide you are just friends anyway...Whoops what a mistake I tripped and my dick slipped in!

I think this lesson is going to teach me one of two things...

1. To be the cold hard asian women my mother is (something I fought all my life!) and not let anyone close to me again

2. Teach me to do unto others, as they have done unto you...And be even more suspicious and guarded and YES Jaded.. and still not let anyone close to me again!

Or maybe 3... Give up and become a lesbian!

to know love is to know a libra

Well I'm a Libra and I dont think I could stand being with another Librian...could you imagine it? It's frustrating enough I have problems making a firm decision, which I might add I'm working on making that decision faster than previously BUT to have to add another indecisive person into the equation!!!

NOT to mention all that I've read about you Librian men and the way you treat your ladies!PPPfffft No thanks!

what do you mean when you say that you "just this weekend watched he is just not into (you)"?

—?

and as far as my libra friend with scorpio rising, that is a LONG story and there is no possible way for me to make that long story short...

what i will say is that at the time we had sex, i was confused because although i knew i LOVED her, i did not know that i did not love her in THAT way UNTIL i was having sex with her!

but that is probably because i was in love with her best friend and still am!


and that is NOT to say i am not extremely attracted to the libra in question because I AM!

she is drop dead GORGEOUS!

let me describe her for you so you get an idea..

she is 5'11 with DELICIOUS curves, VERY MODELEQUE (i tell her all the time she should go into modeling), oh so SOFT, and a PERSONALITY to DIE FOR!

whoever marries her will be a VERY happy man and i tell her that all the time!

but in a way, i kind of feel like she wants that man to be me!

things between us are a tad bit complicated to say the least, although there is HARDLY ANY DRAMA between us..

we almost never argue and we get along extremely well..

so all that is to say that yes, we had sex and even though we only had sex once, there ARE expectations between us...

and as far as i am concerned, i PREFER to be friends with a woman even if we still choose not to have sex with each other..

too bad most women don't feel this way, but i can empathize with you all because i understand why this is..


and this situation hasn't become awkward, or at least, no one has said anything about it up to now..

i am sure the "Aquarius-Libra-Pisces Love Trapezoid" thread over on the pisces board will shed a lot of light on this situation...

all of the parties involved know the score and there has been no animosity between any of us! we are still all the best of friends!

mind you, these girls are not only air signs, but they are also german (european) which makes them LIGHT YEARS ahead of most other women when it comes to sexual freedom and liberation...


add me into the mix and you have one big free love party, cross-continental style !


the libra has had sex with other people too!

which reminds me, we are sooo close that the other night i had a dream that she was being fondled by another man, and she LIKED it!

it wasn't a dream, it was more like a NIGHTMARE!

i woke up literally sweating my ass off!

i was disturbed and the next day i called

her in germany and told her about my dream...

she told me that she DID have sex with this guy a couple of times, but she doesn't love him...and i believe her...

suffice it to say, she ALSO told me that this guy who she had sex with wouldnt be having sex with her anymore because he was going to be "indisposed" for the forseeable future...

...so she patiently awaits my visit to germany!

she is lonely and she misses me...i miss her too and i am making plan on visiting her soon!


but i KNOW why she has sex with other people and its for the same reason I do...


we have talked about being together and all of that stuff, but she knows i am in love with her best friend so i guess she is waiting to see how that pans out and if her best friend and i don't work out, i am sure she will be there to snatch me up!


there is no reason for you to be jaded, though..

as you see by my long-winded posts, there is mutual love between this libra and i...i NEVER used her and she IS my Angel, and so is her best friend..

i know they are my Angels, my two FAVORITE Angels in fact, because i saw them in my astral journeys...

i envisioned them in the astral realm and saw them for what they are!

they are pure in spirit just like me and we ALL play for the same team!

our relationship goes waaaayyyy deeper than the flesh...

I've just this weekend watched "he's just not that into you"

It's a movie...


Ok I'm completely out of my depth here, what you say makes my head spin and the ending part I dont believe in...

But thanks for trying to explain anyway.