What to do.... ? (Page 2)

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by MoonArtist
This is how us water signs undermine ourselves. We over analyze and second guess when things change course for even a small amount of time. I catch myself doing this all the time....

Yup. Self-preservation ftw.

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Yes, this. I felt anger yesterday. That it was Not Friday yet saved me.
Also passing my phone off to my munchkin and telling her to hang onto it for me unless I got a text. That worked too. She was perplexed but took her task seriously. Lol

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Scorpio or scorpionic heavy people always seem to be one step away from throwing it all away during the rough bit-- pre-happily ensconced in a full blown love affair. It's like we think "life would be so much easier if i didn't have to do this shit. Why can't I just be a monk?" Lol

Just an observation.

A fairly accurate one. I blame my air placements though 😛

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Scorpio or scorpionic heavy people always seem to be one step away from throwing it all away during the rough bit-- pre-happily ensconced in a full blown love affair. It's like we think "life would be so much easier if i didn't have to do this shit. Why can't I just be a monk?" Lol

Just an observation.

And this. This made me laugh it is so true. 😄

^^That was a joke!

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Scorpio or scorpionic heavy people always seem to be one step away from throwing it all away during the rough bit-- pre-happily ensconced in a full blown love affair. It's like we think "life would be so much easier if i didn't have to do this shit. Why can't I just be a monk?" Lol

Just an observation.

A fairly accurate one. I blame my air placements though 😛

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I think my Venus is in Libra... is that bad?

Posted by MoonArtist

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by MoonArtist
This is how us water signs undermine ourselves. We over analyze and second guess when things change course for even a small amount of time. I catch myself doing this all the time....

Yup. Self-preservation ftw.

Yep, it's a bloody double edged sword. Blargen.

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No kidding!

Posted by FixedWater

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by MoonArtist
This is how us water signs undermine ourselves. We over analyze and second guess when things change course for even a small amount of time. I catch myself doing this all the time....

Yup. Self-preservation ftw.

Yes, this. I felt anger yesterday. That it was Not Friday yet saved me.
Also passing my phone off to my munchkin and telling her to hang onto it for me unless I got a text. That worked too. She was perplexed but took her task seriously. Lol

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🙂

Posted by FixedWater

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Scorpio or scorpionic heavy people always seem to be one step away from throwing it all away during the rough bit-- pre-happily ensconced in a full blown love affair. It's like we think "life would be so much easier if i didn't have to do this shit. Why can't I just be a monk?" Lol

Just an observation.

A fairly accurate one. I blame my air placements though 😛

I think my Venus is in Libra... is that bad?

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Perhaps Rabbit can answer this for you. I believe he has that placement.

Posted by PhoenixRising
^^That was a joke!

Lmao... I thought it was a great joke!

Posted by FixedWater

Posted by MoonArtist
This is how us water signs undermine ourselves. We over analyze and second guess when things change course for even a small amount of time. I catch myself doing this all the time and there's a little trick I've learned and its become almost second nature. I learned this because of dealing with and training animals. If your energy is frantic and confused and second guessing then the animal picks up on it and if you chase they will run. Center yourself, calm yourself and quietly wait while gently pulling in with your energy and they will calm and come to you. It works with people in a way, too.

I understand Moon, thankyou... As I read your post nodding my head and saying uh huh, this is what I need to do.
I have spent the last few days? really analyzing what we have been building, and how my instincts were leaning. I could let this whole thing go up in a ball of flames, or shut it down just like he never existed, I am so very good at endings. This is not what my instincts are telling me to do though, at least not yet. I have been 'trying on' (?)all kinds of scenarios to see if they sit 'right'. Not to mention, I have triggers that are surfacing as well, that I am working to put away one by one. I am learning too. It is a pretty scary ride in the day to day details. Good thing I'm A Scorp. 🙂

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Don't worry about scenarios. Those are things that haven't happened yet, therefore not really relevant. Go with what you know: he's in-tune with you on many levels, you both have some baggage that makes you want to flee the connection, but in the end you both want the same thing and are good people. Believe in and hold to THAT. Then calm, centered and wait.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by FixedWater

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Scorpio or scorpionic heavy people always seem to be one step away from throwing it all away during the rough bit-- pre-happily ensconced in a full blown love affair. It's like we think "life would be so much easier if i didn't have to do this shit. Why can't I just be a monk?" Lol

Just an observation.

A fairly accurate one. I blame my air placements though 😛

I think my Venus is in Libra... is that bad?

Perhaps Rabbit can answer this for you. I believe he has that placement.

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I would love to know more about how my Venus in Libra affects me.

Posted by MoonArtist

Posted by FixedWater

Posted by MoonArtist
This is how us water signs undermine ourselves. We over analyze and second guess when things change course for even a small amount of time. I catch myself doing this all the time and there's a little trick I've learned and its become almost second nature. I learned this because of dealing with and training animals. If your energy is frantic and confused and second guessing then the animal picks up on it and if you chase they will run. Center yourself, calm yourself and quietly wait while gently pulling in with your energy and they will calm and come to you. It works with people in a way, too.

I understand Moon, thankyou... As I read your post nodding my head and saying uh huh, this is what I need to do.
I have spent the last few days? really analyzing what we have been building, and how my instincts were leaning. I could let this whole thing go up in a ball of flames, or shut it down just like he never existed, I am so very good at endings. This is not what my instincts are telling me to do though, at least not yet. I have been 'trying on' (?)all kinds of scenarios to see if they sit 'right'. Not to mention, I have triggers that are surfacing as well, that I am working to put away one by one. I am learning too. It is a pretty scary ride in the day to day details. Good thing I'm A Scorp. 🙂

Don't worry about scenarios. Those are things that haven't happened yet, therefore not really relevant. Go with what you know: he's in-tune with you on many levels, you both have some baggage that makes you want to flee the connection, but in the end you both want the same thing and are good people. Believe in and hold to THAT. Then calm, centered and wait.

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Oh this is so very true, and I will take your advice, verbatim. I need to find a quiet spot, find my centre, and my calm. Thankyou Moon, You are one of those good people too 🙂

Posted by FixedWater

Posted by MoonArtist

Posted by FixedWater

Posted by MoonArtist
This is how us water signs undermine ourselves. We over analyze and second guess when things change course for even a small amount of time. I catch myself doing this all the time and there's a little trick I've learned and its become almost second nature. I learned this because of dealing with and training animals. If your energy is frantic and confused and second guessing then the animal picks up on it and if you chase they will run. Center yourself, calm yourself and quietly wait while gently pulling in with your energy and they will calm and come to you. It works with people in a way, too.

I understand Moon, thankyou... As I read your post nodding my head and saying uh huh, this is what I need to do.
I have spent the last few days? really analyzing what we have been building, and how my instincts were leaning. I could let this whole thing go up in a ball of flames, or shut it down just like he never existed, I am so very good at endings. This is not what my instincts are telling me to do though, at least not yet. I have been 'trying on' (?)all kinds of scenarios to see if they sit 'right'. Not to mention, I have triggers that are surfacing as well, that I am working to put away one by one. I am learning too. It is a pretty scary ride in the day to day details. Good thing I'm A Scorp. 🙂

Don't worry about scenarios. Those are things that haven't happened yet, therefore not really relevant. Go with what you know: he's in-tune with you on many levels, you both have some baggage that makes you want to flee the connection, but in the end you both want the same thing and are good people. Believe in and hold to THAT. Then calm, centered and wait.

Oh this is so very true, and I will take your advice, verbatim. I need to find a quiet spot, find my centre, and my calm. Thankyou Moon, You are one of those good people too 🙂

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You're more than welcome and I know you'll find it! Thanks

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by FixedWater


Phoenix, it really wasn't intended as an ultimatum. In reading it after all by itself, without the previous text to give it context it sure sounds like an ultimatum. This really bothers me, as I am not this kind of person.

Fully understood. Does he know that?

I'm not trying to ride you over this, really. I just know how I read it, so it is possible he read it that way as well. He may not have read it that way and he may just shrug it off as "...she's frustrated, I understand". You both share a level of intimacy that allows you to understand each other's behaviour much more than any of us would. I was simply pointing out the potential for this to go sideways because no matter how mature we are, we can slip and some of those nasty traits come to light. That was what I was seeing. If I am wrong, cool. If not and you want a future with this man, be aware of the potential that approach may have to ruin things. Insecurity causes people to do things they may not normally do (or claim they would never do).

*disclaimer: I am naturally rebellious/defiant and will do the opposite of what you said, just because I don't like being told what to do. Ever. I hear/read things with that filter, so take it with a grain of salt.

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I missed this earlier... Phoenix, I know you are not trying to ride me on this. I hear you, and am not taking any offense to your advice at all. I agree with you wholeheartedly, in fact. I worry that he won't overlook that specific text sitting there on his phone all by itself. He won't necessarily look to the previous text or continue to the next one. If anything I ask and hope that he see's it only as a heated moment. Which it was... and take it with a grain of salt. That potential for everything to go sideways from one text definitely existed. I am not sure though that it is relying on that one text any longer. He continues to reach out, and I continue to show I am here in as positive/neutral a way as I can muster. If that means we talk about the weather?... (HaHa two Scorp's talking about the weather, now that's funny!) ...then we talk about the weather.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Positive spin?

You called him on his shit. You know that turns scorp on. Haha

Also you made it quite clear you are invested. You know that turns scorp on. Lol

Finally now you are miserably in love. You know that turns scorp on.

Haha. Positive spin is you just blew this guys mind. Lol. Wouldn't that be incredible. @.@

IS, I really liked your post and your lineup of positive spins. It sure made me consider it all from a different angle 🙂
Now I want to listen to the song ROAR, and maybe go shop for a new little number....in some kick ass 'power' outfit of course. HaHa!
I do feel pretty proud that I stood my ground simply because it is one of my lessons. I did so and all along feeling gratitude for the moments we've had so far. Yes, it hurts but in the end, WHEN HE COMES BACK to me as WHO he is I will know I deserve him and he deserves me.

Had to capitalize those words, I know you understand why.🙂