What would you do?

OK, you all know me as a joking, pretty fun person so far. Most of you that have been in convo with me, anyway. So last night was a weekly get together. Every Tuesday a bunch of us from work get together and hang out. Well, last night I was not in the mood. I was in a 'scorp brooding stage'. I had a lot of stuff on my mind and I wanted to take some time out. The thought of hanging out pretending I was in party mode did not sound appealling. I did not want to drink because that inhibits my thinking. I didn't even get on dxp for hell sakes. I just turned off my phone and had some "me" time. Well, my guy friend (who thinks he's in love with me *huffs*) calls and leaves a message.
"Are you coming?"
I didn't call back.
He calls back later, a little intoxicated and tells me I'm fucked up because I blew everyone off and HE doesn't deserve it. WTF? It wasn't a fucking RSVP party. It was a 'whoever wants to come over and hang out is invited' party.

Then I get an e-mail today and he tells me I lost his friendship. WHATEVER!!!! Why are people so insensitive? Does everybody think life is all roses and should always be a party? Am I the only person on earth who turns off the phone when I need alone time?

Fellow scorps, how would you handle this? My first instinct is to tell him off then ignore him for a month. What's the more 'reasonable' way to react? BTW, he is a Virgo. Yup, Virgo!

Well did you tell them that you weren't attending this party? If you just kinda disappeared without a word and they expected you to be there then I guess I would be slightly confused. But for him to turn around and say that is a bit fishy...hmmm..Looks like JP has a secret admirer..lol

You could just say, whats the deal, I just needed some alone time, you know me well enough to know I need some time and space..whats wrong with that? why did you react the way you did? what provoked you to say that? I would ask straight out.

But I think theres something more here..No other friends reacted that way!..You only get a reaction out of someone who's emotions you have tapped into. He obviously felt her absence..(bucket please)

Put the stinger down..its only to be used in the right circumstances..

Well did you tell them that you weren't attending this party?

I told them throughout the week I probably was not going to attend. Now I'm an ass because I missed a Tuesday. These get togethers are weekly. It's not like a big dinner party. It's a stupid drunkfest. Plus I think some were disappointed because I drink alot and I am quite amusing at times. Maybe he's pissy because the "free" party clown was not going to be there. Who will provide the entertainment if JP doesn't show up?

I think I'm going to put my point across once and them if I get his usual temper tantrum, he can just piss off! I'm sick of dealing with cry babies. I have 2 kids of my own. I don't need to be everybodies mother.

Lol!..thats the spirit (excuse the pun!)..confront him. Be direct it always works..

But I think theres something more here..No other friends reacted that way!..You only get a reaction out of someone who's emotions you have tapped into. He obviously felt her absence..(bucket please)

*JP emties the bucket and hands it to MM*

He has had a thing for me for awhile. He KNOWS I'm in a relationship. He is a good reliable friend and has been there for me for a long time. But this bullcrap about 'you didn't come to dysfunctional family day (that's what we call our tuesdays)' is stupid. I think he is more upset that I didn't call and say I'm not coming. Like I said though, it's not RSVP.

Why can't other signs be more sensitive to our brooding needs?

Well when I am going somewhere and don't want to go at the last minute I would tell somebody to pass the word that I won't be there.

Know on the other hand if you was in one of your scorpio moods I feel you on that, some days you just don't want to be bothered, and like DB said if your friends know you then they would understand

"Then I get an e-mail today and he tells me I lost his friendship"

As for the friendship part with the Virgo who claims to be in love with you, I would put him in his place.

Thanks Scorplady. I will.

Tell him to 3897498374 off!!!!!!! he'll just have to get over it!

I hate it when people make me responsible for their own happiness. Isn't that called co-dependent? I can't even make myself happy. Why do others have to lean on me for happiness.

Do you feel like that? Like others lean on you for their own happiness. Like you are the only bright sunny thing in their pathetic life? That thought just depresses me.

UGH! I'm taking time out to think about the crap going on in my life. Obviously it's not pretty if I'm passing up the chance to party. Now I have more shit to deal with. I think I will be calling him up soon. This is just building up like a pimple ready to be popped! I'm about ready to pull out the stinger kids!

pull it out, pull it out...make himmmmm hurrrrrrrt!

I'm was listening to Patsy Cline. Now I'm moving on to Alanis Morissette. You know what that means girls!?

it's okay juwana...take a nice, night for you after the kiddies are asleep, take a bubble bath get drunk, and have your alone time if you need to do it for a while, thats up to you...it'll be okay =) smile your the sign of sexiness =D

smile your the sign of sexiness =D

LOL Juicy! You sure know how to make a girly feel good about herself don't ya?

Alanis wonderful

I don't want to be the filler if the void is solely yours
I don't want to be your glass of single malt whiskey
Hidden in the bottom drawer
I don't want to be a bandage if the wound is not mine
Lend me some fresh air
I don't want to be adored for what I merely represent to you
I don't want to be your babysitter
You're a very big boy now
I don't want to be your mother
I didn't carry you in my womb for nine months
Show me the back door

LOL Juicy! You sure know how to make a girly feel good about herself don't ya?

i try i try =d, every girl needs a little boost when she's down and its true!, i'm impressed with myself today lol

Ah, that feels better!

SCREAM IT JUWANA! =D

Alright, I did it. He didn't answer so I left a message. I told him I have things going on more important than partying. Things that I don't go and talk about to everyone because they have no way of understanding and I feel so fucking lonely sometimes. So if I lost your friendship over something as shallow as not showing up to a party, then you are a shallow person. Then I hung up with a big FUCK YOU!!!!

Is that sincere enough?

FINE! Spoil my FUN! - There there...go fetch ya toys and come give missy a hug..theres a lad 😛

Stop going all cute on me with your puppy dog eyes..**shhhmack**

I have generally hated this month. It has been SHIT

I generally hate people this month. People have been shit!

JP - Is this really as big an issue?. Were you really that worried about it? I wouldn't have given it a second thought. Oh well guess I am a cold callous bitch..nevermind..

SB..glad things are going well for your sister..or maybe she's too proud to admit things are going tits up!..

JP this ones for you sweetie

A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs.

A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her
love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.

A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them. A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves toward the future.

A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her playground, but without God she will just be played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.

Girl Smile...YOU KNOW YOU HAVE IT GOING ON!....So Keep On Keeping On

🙂 Thank you! I need to save that SL.

That was meant for scorpio women 😛

LOL MM

Hey we sista need to stick together and keep each other spirits lifted high.

I feel JP on not wanting to be bothered...I to sometimes don't want to deal with life so I will crawl in my cave and not say a word for 2 days, just be with me and it feels good when you come out, refreshed.

Respect to the sisterhood...lol..

Yeah been there myself..I had a nice chat to my friend today. I take a mentally handicapped child to the cinema every wednesday and today I couldn't so I spoke to him on the phone..and he was telling me how much of a strong woman I am!..its so nice to hear it from someone else for a change..

"I take a mentally handicapped child to the cinema every wednesday"

That is very nice of you MM, how long have you been doing that? What made you do it?

For about 2 months SL. Don't know, just fell in love with him when I saw him..(not in that way!) he's 21 but a mental age of about 10..He's a taurus 😉 so we clicked..lol..He is adorable..but today we were just complaining how hot it was and he was telling me how he went shopping with his mum and I was joking with him just how much I hate food shopping..awww cutie pie..

That is sweet, When I was a teenager I used to tutor kids in first grade, how to read, I taught a little boy name Teddy to read (See Spot Run) and he feel in love with me he was so cute and fat. LOL

I guess that is why I am in the medical field I love helping people, especially the sick, you get a sense of purpose in life. And although I can't be there for them they way they want, I do make sure I give them hugs and ask how there day is going and just doing that makes them feel good.

Ok let me stop I was just sitting her feeling emotional for life and just caring about people. LOL

Its ok...your job sounds fulfilling. Which is just ace!..you don't get that a lot these days..people are just in it for the money..