if you recently found out that someone you consider(ed) a confidante, was telling all your business?
What would you do...
Stop telling them anything and get away from them asap.
Posted by rabidtalkerSo that would be the end of the friendship? No second chances?
Stop telling them anything and get away from them asap.
Posted by ontransitLol... what's a given? Me confoosedPosted by femmeUmm...thats a given, sweetie.
if you recently found out that someone you consider(ed) a confidante, was telling all your business?
The sooner you get over that hump, the better for you.click to expand
you give out false information of course
Posted by geegeeUgh, that's sad as I really value the friendship. Would it matter if they were telling your business years ago, but you're just now finding out?Posted by femmePosted by rabidtalkerSo that would be the end of the friendship? No second chances?
Stop telling them anything and get away from them asap.
Yes, no second chances. The dynamics of the relationship will change for sure.
For me, this falls in the line of ultimate betrayal.click to expand
Posted by firebunnyLOL I didn't think I had to do that with a confidante :p
you give out false information of course
Posted by femmeCut them out of my private business. I'd be social, but never again would I trust them with anything. They just went from the inner circle to the outer circle.
if you recently found out that someone you consider(ed) a confidante, was telling all your business?
- scorpio venus & rising
Posted by firebunnyYeah and make them look stupid for spreading incorrect gossip.
you give out false information of course
Posted by trollbaitYes, true... ugh.Posted by femmeBut the person is no longer your confidante!Posted by firebunnyLOL I didn't think I had to do that with a confidante :p
you give out false information of courseclick to expand
This is Rambunctious right? Heyyyy boo!
Stop telling them confidential stuff.
Just withdraw silently.
Just withdraw silently.
I'm curious, why are you asking, are you really torn about what to do? It sounds like this person betrayed your trust, they have shown you that they are not your friend and are not looking out for you. Or are you the person, who broke the trust and spread the info??
I was hoping someone would say... give them a second chance, I've known her/confided in her for years 😭
Seriously, no confrontations?
Where the frick are the fire signs?
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Where the frick are the fire signs?
😕
Posted by trollbaitGlad you're back 😄Posted by femmeHello! 😈Posted by trollbaitYes, true... ugh.Posted by femmeBut the person is no longer your confidante!Posted by firebunnyLOL I didn't think I had to do that with a confidante :p
you give out false information of course
This is Rambunctious right? Heyyyy boo!click to expand
Posted by femmeAsk her.
I was hoping someone would say... give them a second chance, I've known her/confided in her for years 😭
Posted by TaurusinTexasI AM torn... She's an awesome person, very caring and generous. I don't know if I should cut the friendship off, being that her only flaw in my eyes, is that she can't hold her tongue.
I'm curious, why are you asking, are you really torn about what to do? It sounds like this person betrayed your trust, they have shown you that they are not your friend and are not looking out for you. Or are you the person, who broke the trust and spread the info??
I would never betray a friend. I'm a Scorpio after all 😛
Posted by MontgomeryHeyyyy Monty. Ask her what? Why she felt the need to be telling everybody the business?Posted by femmeAsk her.
I was hoping someone would say... give them a second chance, I've known her/confided in her for years 😭click to expand
Posted by trollbaitI'm going to have to, girl.Posted by femmeThen maybe you should let her know that you're aware of what she's doing, and slowly place her at the back of the queue for your trust.Posted by TaurusinTexasI AM torn... She's an awesome person, very caring and generous. I don't know if I should cut the friendship off, being that her only flaw in my eyes, is that she can't hold her tongue.
I'm curious, why are you asking, are you really torn about what to do? It sounds like this person betrayed your trust, they have shown you that they are not your friend and are not looking out for you. Or are you the person, who broke the trust and spread the info??
I would never betray a friend. I'm a Scorpio after all 😛click to expand
Point blank, I'm confronting them. 9 times out of 10, they'll try to deny it, then I'll cuss they ass out.
They're getting cut off after that. I hate a loose lip bitch.
They're getting cut off after that. I hate a loose lip bitch.
umm
act like I haven't found out and "empower" the person with 1-2 fake secrets that can be proven false .. of course, give the impression those secrets had to be drawn out of me .. then patiently wait for confidante to make a fool out of him/herself
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act like I haven't found out and "empower" the person with 1-2 fake secrets that can be proven false .. of course, give the impression those secrets had to be drawn out of me .. then patiently wait for confidante to make a fool out of him/herself
😈
Posted by femmeYup.Posted by MontgomeryHeyyyy Monty. Ask her what? Why she felt the need to be telling everybody the business?Posted by femmeAsk her.
I was hoping someone would say... give them a second chance, I've known her/confided in her for years 😭click to expand
🙂
Posted by ElleDuMondeO that little saying
I love not having any secrets to tell.
secrets are little soul crushers that eat you.
You're only as sick as your secrets.
Posted by femmeImmediately stop telling the person my business. I wouldn't say a word to them, as I don't see what there is to discuss, just keep my stuff private from that point forward.
if you recently found out that someone you consider(ed) a confidante, was telling all your business?
I would also deal with my feelings regarding the matter in private.
Posted by femmeDoesn't matter, once they show they can't be trusted then what's left to value in them? I've had a trusted confidant (from 6th grade!.....over 30 yrs of history) prove she wasn't trust worthy by having an affair for yrs with my husband (now ex), and she was his little rat telling him everything I was saying and doing. Once a betrayer ALWAYS a betrayer, IMO. No forgiveness, no second chances, and ZERO place in my life.
I was hoping someone would say... give them a second chance, I've known her/confided in her for years 😭
Posted by MoonArtistThat's low. Bottom of the ocean scum low. If I was your friend, I'd have that bitch beat up.Posted by femmeDoesn't matter, once they show they can't be trusted then what's left to value in them? I've had a trusted confidant (from 6th grade!.....over 30 yrs of history) prove she wasn't trust worthy by having an affair for yrs with my husband (now ex), and she was his little rat telling him everything I was saying and doing. Once a betrayer ALWAYS a betrayer, IMO. No forgiveness, no second chances, and ZERO place in my life.
I was hoping someone would say... give them a second chance, I've known her/confided in her for years 😭click to expand
Wow. 30 years.
Posted by mzmeeA beating is too easy. I honestly hope she eventually gets divorced (yes, she's married), then marries my ex and he abuses her the way he abused me, and I hope she never has the backbone to leave him. I want her soul crushed.Posted by MoonArtistThat's low. Bottom of the ocean scum low. If I was your friend, I'd have that bitch beat up.Posted by femmeDoesn't matter, once they show they can't be trusted then what's left to value in them? I've had a trusted confidant (from 6th grade!.....over 30 yrs of history) prove she wasn't trust worthy by having an affair for yrs with my husband (now ex), and she was his little rat telling him everything I was saying and doing. Once a betrayer ALWAYS a betrayer, IMO. No forgiveness, no second chances, and ZERO place in my life.
I was hoping someone would say... give them a second chance, I've known her/confided in her for years 😭
Wow. 30 years.click to expand
Posted by EllycakesYeah...*in Wailers singing voice*
That's assuming I was the one to discover their betrayal. If it was a so and so told so and so who told me, I would feel suspicious and confront them but not make a decision until after the talk....
"Only your friend know your secrets
So only he could reveal it.
And who the cap fit, let them weeeear it..."
When you hear personal information, that came from your lips being repeated to you, you're well pass suspicion. The only time I could see this being a matter of suspicion is if you share personal stuff with a whole gang of people and you don't know who the culprit is. In that case, my question would be why the hell are you mad since you're putting your stuff in everyone's ear anyway?
One of the reasons no two people know the exact same thing about me. What little I do share...
I'd slap that mofo in the mouth then buy him a beer. I hate losing friends
Posted by femme
if you recently found out that someone you consider(ed) a confidante, was telling all your business?
My reaction depends on 1000 considerations.
are they stupid? malefic? 2faced? chatty? more loyal to the others involved than to me? unconventional?
didn' they know that it was too private for me?
are they otherwise very good people? how deep is the roots of our connection?
but besides that: I usually assume that it is not possible to have private matters 100% private. I can only control my part.
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