Why thou?

The Scorpio dude lost my trust.

Now his trying so hard to gain it back and suddenly opening up to me with his past stories.

Let me explain why he lost my trust in the first place.

We were working the same shift the other night. One of the older ladies in customer service is his best friend.

I was stuck in my department cleaning while I see him and her playing around from the distance (their department requires walking around the store).

Seeing them together and joking around I questioned his words from what he told me back in December.

"Don't come near me at work. Dont talk to me. Or anything that involves me." Because he was trying to get promoted.

In January, he told me that I could talk to him in the store. (I didnt know he meant i could joke around with him too after arguing with him the other night) So I casually talked to him, keeping what he said in December in mind.

Until I see him fooling around with his best friend from the distance. I'll admit I was jealous, but really disappointed at the same time.

After work he wanted me to come over and spend the night at his place. I refused and bluntly told him "Why? No thanks. I dont fucking trust you for shit. Thanks"

He demanded an explanation. I was so fawking pissed off by him telling me "stop playing games. I'm sick and tired of these mind games, so grow up and put your big girl underwear on" and tell him what was bugging me.

"This bitch" I said, so I fawking snap and pointed out all his BS. How much patiences I have dealing with him and he knew dealing with him wasn't easy. And I respected his decisions and what he told me in December.

And I told him, "Fuck you and fuck your damn assumptions. I never played games and I was always honest from the beginning. There's a fucking difference between playing and talking. How the fuck am I supposed to know I was allowed to joke around with you like you did with your fawking best friend today."

He admit that she was only a best friend and nothing more. But I didn't give a flying shit, all I cared about is the words he told me in December that made me questioned everything and his actions. I told the Scorpio, "This doesn't matter anymore. You're a free man, go be free. Fly away bitch"

He was all mad and whatnot. He called me and I end up telling him I was honest and lost all the time cause he was so vague with everything. He was apologizing and I told him, "fuck you and fuck your actions. I dont accept insincere apologies"

The next day, he tried talking to me. He was trying to figure out what we were, "So are we just friends? Or something?"

I was in class when I read the text. So I straightforwardly text him back, "gee, you decide."

He responded, "Well, you're the one who fucking flip out."

I told him, "I'm over it. And why are you asking we were friends from the get go. We were never a thing, you even said so yourself before."

After telling him that, his text was just one simple word.

Around evening, I just woke up from a nap and he text me. His message somehow turned into flirting and pick up lines.

- "I was wondering where the smell of death was coming from No wonder you get me so aroused when your around 😘"

- "So smile sweetie"

- "Cause you might look hot frowning but you lookin sexier with that smile"

- "Your company? Of course always a joy awaiting for my old friend the grim reaper"

- "You seem to fit very well in the dark. Maybe you hate me cause you love me. Cause in some twisted way you love the way we are. 🤔🤔 satans fallen angel"

He invited me over and he joked around the whole entire car ride when he came to pick me up. I notice he was trying hard to hold a conversation with me because I was quiet the whole entire time.



Finished my summary of the story, my question is: I thought you usually disappear after someone bluntly point out the facts. But here he is, still wanting to be in my life.

We aren't even a thing and he was the one who said it too, so I dont understand why he was upset.

Posted by JustBrowsing

Wow, there's so much to say here. Dude's playing.

I thought so too. I was refraining from posting anything in the Scorpio forum until I figured shit out myself beforehand

Posted by Dreamyboy

One thing I’ve noticed about, in comparison to my Super close Scorpio friend, he starts diving in hard if things like this happens.

He can be nonchalant and kind of an asshole, but the moment you feel upset and call him out for it, damage control comes in real hard.

The fuck man...

Posted by Ellygant

I know you see what you did as bluntly pointing it the facts. But to him that was not what it was. It was a jealous and possessiveness display.

You yelling and going into Cancer beast mode opened the door to the worst possible path of the Cancer/Scorpio match, the desire to drag each other down into depths other signs find uncomfortable. Scorpio loves the pull of the abyss and wants to take someone down with them. Cancer says sure, I’ll do this with you if it means you want me too. Cancer suffocated and leaves. Scorpio gets high off the emotional masochism, isolates, hurts and the cancer feels it and comes back, because the toxicity fulfills the desire they have to be needed above anything else. It almost becomes like an emotional drug for both till finally they end up despising each other after a few rounds.

It might not be quite that intense yet but you’re definitely at the start of that. You were upset about him exerting totally control, to the point he tells you to not speak to him at work. That’s what he was doing. Just trying to be in total control. That was what needed to be pointed out and the calmly leave.

There’s plenty of much more liberating and healthier ways for a cancer to relate, and way better variations of the Scorpio/Cancer match. I’d run far from this before your emotions get you more entangled in it than you already are.

Shit. Cause we just talked awhile ago....

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Yall both sound unstable tbh

You for sweatin a dude this much who isn't even yours.

Him for playing those weird high school games.



"Don't talk to me at work" - What??

Why would you even be ok with something like that?

Girl you right. Smack me with the cold hard truth. I'll be needing it as much as possible

Posted by ACsquarepluto

Not a Scorpio and never dated a Scorpio so my opinion means nothing

But depending on how much you value this guy, I think the workplace scenario is forgivable. From what you've shared before he seems to care for you (I'm thinking of your Christmas thread: he remembered your favorite character and bought you a plushie). Maybe ask him if you'll ever be official, see what he says and decide then what you want to tolerate

Ughhh, I dont think I wanna. I'll leave shit be

I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

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Wow, there's so much to say here. Dude's playing.

I thought so too. I was refraining from posting anything in the Scorpio forum until I figured shit out myself beforehand

I don’t think you could do that. Not if he’s this much in your head. If you keep it to yourself you’ll make excuses for him. Letting it out makes that difficult. Letting it out unburdens you and helps you see clearly.

That’s some real toxic shit tho. Him first with trying to see how far he could push boundaries. But you play right into it, going off on him the way you did, makes it mutual. His flirtations back to you sound really unhealthy and codependent. He’s clearly showing you he’s not a healthy or strong individual. Believe that and act accordingly.

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I'll keep these in mind. Thank you

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

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There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

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It was happening around December. When I noticed he was distance with me and our communication just suddenly died out, our long joy of laughter and jokes faded. 🤷‍♀️

I was asking him what was going on, cause apparently I was the last one to found out that the whole entire store knew about the rumor flying around. He lost all patiences with me for asking him, and that's when he told me to back off and didn't explain anything. He didnt mention anything about a promotion until January.

So I respected his words and ignored him at work. 🤷‍♀️ Just watch from the distance and admired him.

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

It was happening around December. When I noticed he was distance with me and our communication just suddenly died out, our long joy of laughter and jokes faded. 🤷‍♀️

I was asking him what was going on, cause apparently I was the last one to found out that the whole entire store knew about the rumor flying around. He lost all patiences with me for asking him, and that's when he told me to back off and didn't explain anything. He didnt mention anything about a promotion until January.

So I respected his words and ignored him at work. 🤷‍♀️ Just watch from the distance and admired him.

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That is his fault for not communicating it to you. But I almost bet, he got pulled aside by management and they had a "talk" with him. That he was more than likely being considered for a promotion, but then the rumors were brought up to him.

This is why I say, don't shit where you eat. I will tell you a story that I recently heard. This guy, was a lead in his department. He started dating a girl in the same department. She actively disregarded work protocol, and began to systematically bully another girl in the department, that the lead (her now bf) liked prior to getting with her. Now this mean girl, also slept with a few other guys in other departments, but her new bf had no idea. She ends up leaving the company, and gets an office job. However, her and the lead bf move in together. She is still friends with the other girls from their department. These other girls come over to the lead and the ex-employees house to socialize still. Mind you, he is still their direct supervisor at work. Well, the girl continues to gossip and have the other girls still working there, go and bully the girl still, eventhough she no longer works there.

It is now so bad, that corporate opened an investigation into it, because the girl being bullied submitted a complaint. The lead, did nothing to protect her from the bullying, because his personal feelings were biased towards his gf, and her friends that worked under him, and came over to his house.

This is why policies are so strict about work romances.

He doesn’t want you to approach him at work so that’s it’s one less bs explaination of ‘she’s just a friend’ he has to make to the other women he’s sleeping with at work. Your not the only one.

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He doesn’t want you to approach him at work so that’s it’s one less bs explaination of ‘she’s just a friend’ he has to make to the other women he’s sleeping with at work. Your not the only one.

Damn this just makes me go cold-hearted

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

It was happening around December. When I noticed he was distance with me and our communication just suddenly died out, our long joy of laughter and jokes faded. 🤷‍♀️

I was asking him what was going on, cause apparently I was the last one to found out that the whole entire store knew about the rumor flying around. He lost all patiences with me for asking him, and that's when he told me to back off and didn't explain anything. He didnt mention anything about a promotion until January.

So I respected his words and ignored him at work. 🤷‍♀️ Just watch from the distance and admired him.

That is his fault for not communicating it to you. But I almost bet, he got pulled aside by management and they had a "talk" with him. That he was more than likely being considered for a promotion, but then the rumors were brought up to him.

This is why I say, don't shit where you eat. I will tell you a story that I recently heard. This guy, was a lead in his department. He started dating a girl in the same department. She actively disregarded work protocol, and began to systematically bully another girl in the department, that the lead (her now bf) liked prior to getting with her. Now this mean girl, also slept with a few other guys in other departments, but her new bf had no idea. She ends up leaving the company, and gets an office job. However, her and the lead bf move in together. She is still friends with the other girls from their department. These other girls come over to the lead and the ex-employees house to socialize still. Mind you, he is still their direct supervisor at work. Well, the girl continues to gossip and have the other girls still working there, go and bully the girl still, eventhough she no longer works there.

It is now so bad, that corporate opened an investigation into it, because the girl being bullied submitted a complaint. The lead, did nothing to protect her from the bullying, because his personal feelings were biased towards his gf, and her friends that worked under him, and came over to his house.

This is why policies are so strict about work romances.

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I see okay. 😥 This made me realize why he didnt want anyone knowing what was going on.

Cause I was always pondering why the hell he wanted to keep it low key that we were talking to each other and I questioned myself, if he was obviously embarrassed with me or something.

Because yes, he was pulled aside from the store manager about what was going on between us in his office. And I did found out that the Scorpio was no longer getting a promotion cause of the rumor.

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

It was happening around December. When I noticed he was distance with me and our communication just suddenly died out, our long joy of laughter and jokes faded. 🤷‍♀️

I was asking him what was going on, cause apparently I was the last one to found out that the whole entire store knew about the rumor flying around. He lost all patiences with me for asking him, and that's when he told me to back off and didn't explain anything. He didnt mention anything about a promotion until January.

So I respected his words and ignored him at work. 🤷‍♀️ Just watch from the distance and admired him.

That is his fault for not communicating it to you. But I almost bet, he got pulled aside by management and they had a "talk" with him. That he was more than likely being considered for a promotion, but then the rumors were brought up to him.

This is why I say, don't shit where you eat. I will tell you a story that I recently heard. This guy, was a lead in his department. He started dating a girl in the same department. She actively disregarded work protocol, and began to systematically bully another girl in the department, that the lead (her now bf) liked prior to getting with her. Now this mean girl, also slept with a few other guys in other departments, but her new bf had no idea. She ends up leaving the company, and gets an office job. However, her and the lead bf move in together. She is still friends with the other girls from their department. These other girls come over to the lead and the ex-employees house to socialize still. Mind you, he is still their direct supervisor at work. Well, the girl continues to gossip and have the other girls still working there, go and bully the girl still, eventhough she no longer works there.

It is now so bad, that corporate opened an investigation into it, because the girl being bullied submitted a complaint. The lead, did nothing to protect her from the bullying, because his personal feelings were biased towards his gf, and her friends that worked under him, and came over to his house.

This is why policies are so strict about work romances.

I see okay. 😥 This made me realize why he didnt want anyone knowing what was going on.

Cause I was always pondering why the hell he wanted to keep it low key that we were talking to each other and I questioned myself, if he was obviously embarrassed with me or something.

Because yes, he was pulled aside from the store manager about what was going on between us in his office. And I did found out that the Scorpio was no longer getting a promotion cause of the rumor.

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Honestly, I don't think it was ever him being embarrassed by you. A lot of this is just miscommunication between you two. Him thinking you should know, and you thinking he should know.

I mean, if you were aware that he was pulled aside by the store manager, and that his promotion fell through, I can see why he would assume you should know why he told you that. He was basically punished professionally due to whatever you guys are doing.

Remember, not to let your emotions get the better of you, and to immediately go into a negative space. Don't assume he will know everything, "just because". Half of this stuff, could have been prevented, had you just talked to him about how it bothered you he could horse play with his friend, and not you. He would have explained it to you in a better way, because it devolved into you cussing at him, and calling him a bitch, and him belittling you. And talking to you as if you are an inept child that can't understand.

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

It was happening around December. When I noticed he was distance with me and our communication just suddenly died out, our long joy of laughter and jokes faded. 🤷‍♀️

I was asking him what was going on, cause apparently I was the last one to found out that the whole entire store knew about the rumor flying around. He lost all patiences with me for asking him, and that's when he told me to back off and didn't explain anything. He didnt mention anything about a promotion until January.

So I respected his words and ignored him at work. 🤷‍♀️ Just watch from the distance and admired him.

That is his fault for not communicating it to you. But I almost bet, he got pulled aside by management and they had a "talk" with him. That he was more than likely being considered for a promotion, but then the rumors were brought up to him.

This is why I say, don't shit where you eat. I will tell you a story that I recently heard. This guy, was a lead in his department. He started dating a girl in the same department. She actively disregarded work protocol, and began to systematically bully another girl in the department, that the lead (her now bf) liked prior to getting with her. Now this mean girl, also slept with a few other guys in other departments, but her new bf had no idea. She ends up leaving the company, and gets an office job. However, her and the lead bf move in together. She is still friends with the other girls from their department. These other girls come over to the lead and the ex-employees house to socialize still. Mind you, he is still their direct supervisor at work. Well, the girl continues to gossip and have the other girls still working there, go and bully the girl still, eventhough she no longer works there.

It is now so bad, that corporate opened an investigation into it, because the girl being bullied submitted a complaint. The lead, did nothing to protect her from the bullying, because his personal feelings were biased towards his gf, and her friends that worked under him, and came over to his house.

This is why policies are so strict about work romances.

I see okay. 😥 This made me realize why he didnt want anyone knowing what was going on.

Cause I was always pondering why the hell he wanted to keep it low key that we were talking to each other and I questioned myself, if he was obviously embarrassed with me or something.

Because yes, he was pulled aside from the store manager about what was going on between us in his office. And I did found out that the Scorpio was no longer getting a promotion cause of the rumor.

Honestly, I don't think it was ever him being embarrassed by you. A lot of this is just miscommunication between you two. Him thinking you should know, and you thinking he should know.

I mean, if you were aware that he was pulled aside by the store manager, and that his promotion fell through, I can see why he would assume you should know why he told you that. He was basically punished professionally due to whatever you guys are doing.

Remember, not to let your emotions get the better of you, and to immediately go into a negative space. Don't assume he will know everything, "just because". Half of this stuff, could have been prevented, had you just talked to him about how it bothered you he could horse play with his friend, and not you. He would have explained it to you in a better way, because it devolved into you cussing at him, and calling him a bitch, and him belittling you. And talking to you as if you are an inept child that can't understand.

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I never mentioned the fact that he started with the name calling when he ran out of patiences with me.

I've never name called him until he pushed my limits and I was always constantly trying to figure out what was going on.

It may seemed like I did it first, cause I was honestly explaining the situation of my story.

I even pointed that out to him that I've never named called him. I was always patience and trying to understand his vague explainations..... and he knows this cause he mentioned about it when he recently had me over.

I'll try to maintain a cool composure with my emotions. All I could think of was, "this liar" when I saw him fooling around with his best friend.

Plus I only found out about his promotion part a few weeks ago...

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I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

It was happening around December. When I noticed he was distance with me and our communication just suddenly died out, our long joy of laughter and jokes faded. 🤷‍♀️

I was asking him what was going on, cause apparently I was the last one to found out that the whole entire store knew about the rumor flying around. He lost all patiences with me for asking him, and that's when he told me to back off and didn't explain anything. He didnt mention anything about a promotion until January.

So I respected his words and ignored him at work. 🤷‍♀️ Just watch from the distance and admired him.

That is his fault for not communicating it to you. But I almost bet, he got pulled aside by management and they had a "talk" with him. That he was more than likely being considered for a promotion, but then the rumors were brought up to him.

This is why I say, don't shit where you eat. I will tell you a story that I recently heard. This guy, was a lead in his department. He started dating a girl in the same department. She actively disregarded work protocol, and began to systematically bully another girl in the department, that the lead (her now bf) liked prior to getting with her. Now this mean girl, also slept with a few other guys in other departments, but her new bf had no idea. She ends up leaving the company, and gets an office job. However, her and the lead bf move in together. She is still friends with the other girls from their department. These other girls come over to the lead and the ex-employees house to socialize still. Mind you, he is still their direct supervisor at work. Well, the girl continues to gossip and have the other girls still working there, go and bully the girl still, eventhough she no longer works there.

It is now so bad, that corporate opened an investigation into it, because the girl being bullied submitted a complaint. The lead, did nothing to protect her from the bullying, because his personal feelings were biased towards his gf, and her friends that worked under him, and came over to his house.

This is why policies are so strict about work romances.

I see okay. 😥 This made me realize why he didnt want anyone knowing what was going on.

Cause I was always pondering why the hell he wanted to keep it low key that we were talking to each other and I questioned myself, if he was obviously embarrassed with me or something.

Because yes, he was pulled aside from the store manager about what was going on between us in his office. And I did found out that the Scorpio was no longer getting a promotion cause of the rumor.

Honestly, I don't think it was ever him being embarrassed by you. A lot of this is just miscommunication between you two. Him thinking you should know, and you thinking he should know.

I mean, if you were aware that he was pulled aside by the store manager, and that his promotion fell through, I can see why he would assume you should know why he told you that. He was basically punished professionally due to whatever you guys are doing.

Remember, not to let your emotions get the better of you, and to immediately go into a negative space. Don't assume he will know everything, "just because". Half of this stuff, could have been prevented, had you just talked to him about how it bothered you he could horse play with his friend, and not you. He would have explained it to you in a better way, because it devolved into you cussing at him, and calling him a bitch, and him belittling you. And talking to you as if you are an inept child that can't understand.

I never mentioned the fact that he started with the name calling when he ran out of patiences with me.

I've never name called him until he pushed my limits and I was always constantly trying to figure out what was going on.

It may seemed like I did it first, cause I was honestly explaining the situation of my story.

I even pointed that out to him that I've never named called him. I was always patience and trying to understand his vague explainations..... and he knows this cause he mentioned about it when he recently had me over.

I'll try to maintain a cool composure with my emotions. All I could think of was, "this liar" when I saw him fooling around with his best friend.

Plus I only found out about his promotion part a few weeks ago...

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I am not saying your outburst was inappropriate, just so you know. I am just trying to verbalize his possible perspective to you.

This is why I said it is a lack of communication on both your sides. Him, for assuming "you should know", and vice versa.

Personally, I think you should let this one go, because it will end up in so much work place drama for you.

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Posted by nikkistar

I don't really condone his behavior. But it sounds like he is going to the extreme when trying to manage his social life with work. There is probably some sort of fraternization bullshit at your work, and there are probably rumors going around about you two. This is all assumption on my behalf, but him "hiding" you to this extreme, is probably due to this. His joking around with his bestfriend is likely because he isn't sexually attracted to her, so he doesn't have the same kind of stupid thought process of remaining indifferent to her at work because "I wouldn't sleep with her" comes into play.

But for you, it seems like he is being hypocritical, which causes conflict between you two because he views it as you throwing a possessive tantrum in his eyes. I am not saying that is what you are doing, but how he probably sees it in his head.

At the end of the day, all I gotta say is, don't shit where you eat. Work place romances are messy af. Because your personal feelings become intertwined with professional aspects.

Nikki, you nailed it. Everything you said have happened. I didnt want to say the rumor part cause that shit was too long to explain and I didnt know where to fit that part in.

There is always a reason for a specific action for most people. For him to go to that extreme, to tell you not to talk to him at all at work, had to have a reason behind it. It is especially so, when someone is trying to get a promotion, and now has to mitigate rumors of him potentially dating someone that would possibly be a subordinate to him if he received the promotion.

And let's be real, people at work are nosy and busy bodies. The rumor mill has probably been churning about you two for awhile.

It was happening around December. When I noticed he was distance with me and our communication just suddenly died out, our long joy of laughter and jokes faded. 🤷‍♀️

I was asking him what was going on, cause apparently I was the last one to found out that the whole entire store knew about the rumor flying around. He lost all patiences with me for asking him, and that's when he told me to back off and didn't explain anything. He didnt mention anything about a promotion until January.

So I respected his words and ignored him at work. 🤷‍♀️ Just watch from the distance and admired him.

That is his fault for not communicating it to you. But I almost bet, he got pulled aside by management and they had a "talk" with him. That he was more than likely being considered for a promotion, but then the rumors were brought up to him.

This is why I say, don't shit where you eat. I will tell you a story that I recently heard. This guy, was a lead in his department. He started dating a girl in the same department. She actively disregarded work protocol, and began to systematically bully another girl in the department, that the lead (her now bf) liked prior to getting with her. Now this mean girl, also slept with a few other guys in other departments, but her new bf had no idea. She ends up leaving the company, and gets an office job. However, her and the lead bf move in together. She is still friends with the other girls from their department. These other girls come over to the lead and the ex-employees house to socialize still. Mind you, he is still their direct supervisor at work. Well, the girl continues to gossip and have the other girls still working there, go and bully the girl still, eventhough she no longer works there.

It is now so bad, that corporate opened an investigation into it, because the girl being bullied submitted a complaint. The lead, did nothing to protect her from the bullying, because his personal feelings were biased towards his gf, and her friends that worked under him, and came over to his house.

This is why policies are so strict about work romances.

I see okay. 😥 This made me realize why he didnt want anyone knowing what was going on.

Cause I was always pondering why the hell he wanted to keep it low key that we were talking to each other and I questioned myself, if he was obviously embarrassed with me or something.

Because yes, he was pulled aside from the store manager about what was going on between us in his office. And I did found out that the Scorpio was no longer getting a promotion cause of the rumor.

Honestly, I don't think it was ever him being embarrassed by you. A lot of this is just miscommunication between you two. Him thinking you should know, and you thinking he should know.

I mean, if you were aware that he was pulled aside by the store manager, and that his promotion fell through, I can see why he would assume you should know why he told you that. He was basically punished professionally due to whatever you guys are doing.

Remember, not to let your emotions get the better of you, and to immediately go into a negative space. Don't assume he will know everything, "just because". Half of this stuff, could have been prevented, had you just talked to him about how it bothered you he could horse play with his friend, and not you. He would have explained it to you in a better way, because it devolved into you cussing at him, and calling him a bitch, and him belittling you. And talking to you as if you are an inept child that can't understand.

I never mentioned the fact that he started with the name calling when he ran out of patiences with me.

I've never name called him until he pushed my limits and I was always constantly trying to figure out what was going on.

It may seemed like I did it first, cause I was honestly explaining the situation of my story.

I even pointed that out to him that I've never named called him. I was always patience and trying to understand his vague explainations..... and he knows this cause he mentioned about it when he recently had me over.

I'll try to maintain a cool composure with my emotions. All I could think of was, "this liar" when I saw him fooling around with his best friend.

Plus I only found out about his promotion part a few weeks ago...

I am not saying your outburst was inappropriate, just so you know. I am just trying to verbalize his possible perspective to you.

This is why I said it is a lack of communication on both your sides. Him, for assuming "you should know", and vice versa.

Personally, I think you should let this one go, because it will end up in so much work place drama for you.

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Ya 😢 I understand

Posted by Gobby

Please re-read this old thread of yours, along with my advice. Compare then and now, and learn to modify your behaviour in future...

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/good-memories--11941493/

😔😔 ok