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Scorpio Intense then Withdraw
Why Do Scorpios Show Intense Then Withdraw Behavior
Scorpios often display intense and romantic behavior when they feel connected but may withdraw when they need emotional space or feel insecure. Their emotional depth can cause them to fluctuate between closeness and distance as they process their feelings. Understanding their need for trust and boundaries helps explain this pattern.
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Lol ok sometimes we withdraw because we know we were overwhelming
We also wait n see how you took it
Lmao really?? I do the same thing 😂😅
Lol ok sometimes we withdraw because we know we were overwhelming
We also wait n see how you took it
How long does this withdrawal last usually?
We are opposites but the same lol
Maybe few days
I’m probably scared I scared you away lol
Lol very true
Oh wow I hope that isn’t the case lol
So what do you Scorpios want the person to do when this happens? Leave you alone? Check up on you? Wait on you to talk to them first?
The one I'm seeing hasnt yet to withdrawal and has been weirdly consistent 🤷...instead I find myself wanting too but not because of him...just because it's in my nature lol.
If anyone can figure us out its you.
Definitely not me lol
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
I've known two Scorpios romantically. Neither withdrew. I tried... they will shamelessly hunt you down.
They talked about withdrawing from females with me though. They said it was females they were physically attracted to but didn't really like.
Also, I noticed when they were preoccupied by other women... like an ex... in a bad way though.
The intimacy with Scorpio men was overwhelming.
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
I've known two Scorpios romantically. Neither withdrew. I tried... they will shamelessly hunt you down.
They talked about withdrawing from females with me though. They said it was females they were physically attracted to but didn't really like.
Also, I noticed when they were preoccupied by other women... like an ex... in a bad way though.
The intimacy with Scorpio men was overwhelming.
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This Scorpio literally will withdraw from everyone, not just me. All his friends and some family. His friends say he does it all the time. I wonder why though.
If anyone can figure us out its you.
I believe in you.
Definitely not me lol
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Lol thanks for the pep talk
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
I've known two Scorpios romantically. Neither withdrew. I tried... they will shamelessly hunt you down.
They talked about withdrawing from females with me though. They said it was females they were physically attracted to but didn't really like.
Also, I noticed when they were preoccupied by other women... like an ex... in a bad way though.
The intimacy with Scorpio men was overwhelming.
This Scorpio literally will withdraw from everyone, not just me. All his friends and some family. His friends say he does it all the time. I wonder why though.
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Severely introverted? Gets really exhausted by interactions.
I'm an extrovert and when alone, I'm exhausted. I have to get out or feel like I will take that forever sleep.
Yeah... my fiance is a scorpio and I realize he just needs his space from time to time if he needs to think. He likes companionship though because his moon is in libra.. but I've known many scorpios who like to just be left alone. Sometimes, their emotional nature is just too much for them and can scare them. But, once they're hooked, they are hooked. So, he'll come back! I promise! I wouldn't contact him until then! I would let him come to you! In my past, it's always gone bad if I freak out and contact them first. Just do you and live your life and he will come back
Thanks for this! I was planning on just letting it be. I don’t mind leaving him alone I need a lot of alone time as well. I just don’t want him to think I don’t care about him because I’m not checking on him. He does this a lot. One time he went a year and a half without seeing any of our friends (before we started dating we were good friends). Never really dealt with a Scorpio man so idk how they are lol.
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
I've known two Scorpios romantically. Neither withdrew. I tried... they will shamelessly hunt you down.
They talked about withdrawing from females with me though. They said it was females they were physically attracted to but didn't really like.
Also, I noticed when they were preoccupied by other women... like an ex... in a bad way though.
The intimacy with Scorpio men was overwhelming.
This Scorpio literally will withdraw from everyone, not just me. All his friends and some family. His friends say he does it all the time. I wonder why though.
Severely introverted? Gets really exhausted by interactions.
I'm an extrovert and when alone, I'm exhausted. I have to get out or feel like I will take that forever sleep.
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Yeah that’s true. He really is severely introverted. He’s always disappearing. I don’t mind it because I’m introverted too, but I just don’t want him to think I don’t care by not checking up on him, and I don’t want him to lose interest or forget about me 😫 I just need lots of reassurance
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
I've known two Scorpios romantically. Neither withdrew. I tried... they will shamelessly hunt you down.
They talked about withdrawing from females with me though. They said it was females they were physically attracted to but didn't really like.
Also, I noticed when they were preoccupied by other women... like an ex... in a bad way though.
The intimacy with Scorpio men was overwhelming.
This Scorpio literally will withdraw from everyone, not just me. All his friends and some family. His friends say he does it all the time. I wonder why though.
Severely introverted? Gets really exhausted by interactions.
I'm an extrovert and when alone, I'm exhausted. I have to get out or feel like I will take that forever sleep.
Yeah that’s true. He really is severely introverted. He’s always disappearing. I don’t mind it because I’m introverted too, but I just don’t want him to think I don’t care by not checking up on him, and I don’t want him to lose interest or forget about me 😫 I just need lots of reassurance
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His behavior may continue throughout a relationship. People think they can handle it and feel neglected.
i withdraw after being emotionally intense. usually for 3-4 days... maybe longer if it was really intense.
i do it to regroup & give some air to processing emotions, for both parties. there is an underlying “fuck i prob scared him off”, so, i will also give space & see if they reach out. if they dont, i was too intense & they dont deserve me. if they reach out, im still in tha game 😎
He didn’t withdraw right away, he withdrew a couple days ago, so idk if it just hit him or what lol. But man our little moment we had was so intense. He told me things that we surprising. I loved it though lol 😍 I mean I have 8th house placements so that’s probably why.
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
I do this. I’ve always wondered if it was my moody cancer moon or my indecisive libra rising that makes me do this. Lol I only do it because it’s really a reflection of how I feel. Some days i feel I want to spend every waking moment with someone then the next day I just want to be left the fuck alone because people annoy me and I love sweet silence and alone time. 🤣🤣
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Lol I do the same thing 😅 cancer moon also
They just need to decompress , not just from you ... but from the world and life in general
Recharge and go at it again
But if you see the Scorpio out and about with someone else on their arm , then it wasn’t to decompress . You probably just got played
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
Because you’ve been fucking dumb.
Its their way to trap you... Then they go for the kill (steal your heart/make you want more) . Caps (mature one) usually see through it though.
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
You ever sail in a stable, solid, calm body of water?
Neither have I.
Thanks for this! I was planning on just letting it be. I don’t mind leaving him alone I need a lot of alone time as well. I just don’t want him to think I don’t care about him because I’m not checking on him. He does this a lot. One time he went a year and a half without seeing any of our friends (before we started dating we were good friends). Never really dealt with a Scorpio man so idk how they are lol.
Yeah, this is a yellow flag to be mindful of. Yeah, we tend to withdraw from time to time to gain perspective, breathe, *fill in blank here*, but it's still bad form to just disappear without a word. It's not healthy for any relationship. As your relationship deepen, gently discuss it as an observation and inquire as to his actual reason. Absolutely no offence to all the helpful people here because their feedback is on point, but we all have our own unique reason for why we withdraw and sometimes need those we care about to lovingly bring to our attention that our actions have an impact on them.
...Sometimes I flip a coin.
Lol.
Thanks for this! I was planning on just letting it be. I don’t mind leaving him alone I need a lot of alone time as well. I just don’t want him to think I don’t care about him because I’m not checking on him. He does this a lot. One time he went a year and a half without seeing any of our friends (before we started dating we were good friends). Never really dealt with a Scorpio man so idk how they are lol.
Yeah, this is a yellow flag to be mindful of. Yeah, we tend to withdraw from time to time to gain perspective, breathe, *fill in blank here*, but it's still bad form to just disappear without a word. It's not healthy for any relationship. As your relationship deepen, gently discuss it as an observation and inquire as to his actual reason. Absolutely no offence to all the helpful people here because their feedback is on point, but we all have our own unique reason for why we withdraw and sometimes need those we care about to lovingly bring to our attention that our actions have an impact on them.
The year n a half was withdrawn from freinds not her relationship but I agree with the above if in relationships
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No, I know it was with friends, however some personal traits we show in one type of relationship rarely looks that different in another type of relationship. My only point is, he has shown that he is a person that can disappear regardless of the bond he has with others. Doesn't make him a bad guy, just how he deals with his emotions or stress, so it's just something for the OP to be aware of.
Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?
Well I'm not quite sure because you are talking about romance, but with friends I do this, when I feel like I know where I have you, so even though I can love you I don't get that oooooooooooh I have to constantly be in touch or reply and work for it. I guess I am more aware of my own real needs in these situations and when I need space and I can relax more, but it can also be a little bit boring, so I look for people that challenge me and I don't fully know where I have.
If a true scorpio in relationships (stellium / venus) is cold on you, you screwed up.
Update: I saw him Friday, and it was lovely dovey as usual. I was planning on asking him if I’m just wasting my time because of the hot and cold behavior, but he was so drunk and I didn’t want to talk to him about while drunk.
The next day, I texted him because I didn’t wanna wait anymore and asked if I’m wasting my time liking him because he seems like he’s into me one min then distant the next. He told me I’m wasting my time. I got pissed and told him that when he sees me around not to come up to me telling me he wants to be with me and all this bs. I blocked him on social media.
Yesterday he texted me saying that he really likes me inside and out but that I’m wasting time on him because he has a tendency to cheat and he doesn’t want to put me through that because he knows what I went thru with my ex, and I don’t deserve that. He said he’d rather mess with someone else’s mind and not mine. And he doesn’t want to completely lose me or our friendship. I haven’t replied yet. I’m not ready to yet. I’m glad he ended it and was honest with me, but I’m mad that he waiting this long and carried on the sweet talk, flirting etc.
Update: I saw him Friday, and it was lovely dovey as usual. I was planning on asking him if I’m just wasting my time because of the hot and cold behavior, but he was so drunk and I didn’t want to talk to him about while drunk.
The next day, I texted him because I didn’t wanna wait anymore and asked if I’m wasting my time liking him because he seems like he’s into me one min then distant the next. He told me I’m wasting my time. I got pissed and told him that when he sees me around not to come up to me telling me he wants to be with me and all this bs. I blocked him on social media.
Yesterday he texted me saying that he really likes me inside and out but that I’m wasting time on him because he has a tendency to cheat and he doesn’t want to put me through that because he knows what I went thru with my ex, and I don’t deserve that. And he doesn’t want to completely lose me or our friendship. I haven’t replied yet. I’m not ready to yet. I’m glad he ended it and was honest with me, but I’m mad that he waiting this long and carried on the sweet talk, flirting etc.
That might be just a bs excuse cause if a Scorpio is really into you they will not withdraw the way he did.
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That’s what I was thinking too. If you really liked someone you would try for them.
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Why do Scorpios who like you act really intense and romantic one day, then the next they disappear and barely talk to you?