You, a Parent??

Do you want kids (or already have them)? What kind of a parent do you think you'd make (or do you consider yourself to be)?

Yes I do, someday, and I would make a great parent, because I'm great at everything.🙂

Who cares about me? I was askin' all you Scorpios.

People call you "Mommy Dearest", do they? As in, that effed up movie, or in an endearing manner?

Hahaha...that's hilarious. I can see why people can say it's mean, but I'm the same way occasionally...as far as unnecessary attitude goes on the munchkin's part, I treat them like a little adult because I ain't feelin' the brattiness. I don't understand why people seem to just pacify kids who are obnoxious or basically suck. Not that I think all kids suck, but some definitely do. So I don't blame you at all for being honest with them, as you call it.

lmao...you're not going to believe me, but that sounds exactly like something I would do/say

although, not if the kid was genuinely upset about something. just when they're acting out to get attention/what they want.

No and probably.Im kinda neutral on it,if it happens it happens,if it doesn't it doesn't.I don't see myself freaking out over being pregnant and getting abortions or at a fertility doc trying to get knocked up.I will say i'd be unconventional though as a parent,as is I work nights and stuff unlike most parents do before they become parents.

"all I have to do is just throw out money and sweet talk her."

Is that your mentality on women in general...well thats what it seems like. I hope you do a little more than that, if more women had serious father figures, maybe your rants would be far less right now.

Well Brahn....I think my dad had that mentality...let their mom raise them and I'll beat the shit out of the boy to toughen him up....its not his fault totally thats how he was raised too.

I havent turned out bad, let me rephrase: I turned out pretty darn spectacular... because I tend to learn by example and observing, thats why I dont take bullshit from men, because my daddy is what I cansider a "real man" (stereotypical and all). I'd say be "proactive" in her life, set an example as to what a man should be so, she would bypass the losers. That over protectiveness can often be unsuccesful, set rules and standards thats all we really need. Girls arent that hard to deal with, we learn pretty fast from our mistakes, especially after faces the consequences (an ass whippin).

Ia m not a sweet talker by nature actually. I am more goofy, opinionated, and quiet.

In the words of the great aqua, Paris Hilton....Thats Hott... LOL.

Well im a notorious note taker who never refrences her notes, because the writing aids me in remebering better. Im a visual hands on learner, explanations do very little, especially in math...which is why I also quit the Cisco online course, it wasnt hands on enough and I wasnt learning to well...i miss computers though.

Guys should try reading manuals, it saves you alot of time.

Back to the orginal question....

Me and kids...I dont think so, but I could change my mind in the future. They scare me...the kids and the birth giving part.

Well I can see you read alot...you lost me with set theories, lexical analyzers, and parsers...but i'm sure you can teach me

I think women tend to take comfort in note taking and reading, even if they are going to forget or never even apply it. They seem to want a more intimate understanding of what they are doing

True...I like knowing that I have a reference if I ever need it. I like to make sure I fully comprehend what I'm being taught. But I rarely look back at the notes, only during comprehensive finals though.

Im sure i'll have a kid someday, my mom says its selfish to not want any, she gets pissed when I say it. I'm not thinking about that right now anyway...i want to be one of those career women Prime dislikes so much. A family should come under the right circumstanes, so thats what I'm waiting for...the career, husband, then kids. Hope it works out well enough, but I'll try not to fret about the biological clock too much.

Agreed AP

LOL...AB youve digressed 🙂

do i want kids—

NO.. i want to adopt kids...

I probably would spoil my daughter and be overly crtical of my son. think boys only learn hard lessons in life, and I plan to beat his ass with reality at any given opportunity.

why do all men think alike?? my aries said the same thing the other day....

Branh

Life doesnt always give you the perfect situation for bringing kids into the world, but kids can usually change the parents...if they are willing. You must admit under the best circumstances would be ideal for having kids. I think kids deserve a healthy two parent and financially stable home. True, it doesnt always work that way now-a-days, but it can exist. Thats how I was raised and based on from what I've experienced and others it has yeilded some of the best adults yet...im not saying kids who come from broken homes or young unwed mothers cant turn out great, its just the lives of the kids and parents could have been so much easier if they did.

I think kids deserve a healthy two parent and financially stable home.
im not saying kids who come from broken homes or young unwed mothers cant turn out great, its just the lives of the kids and parents could have been so much easier if they did.

totally agree with ya Lady M....

I disagree that there is a "proper" time to have children though.

'Proper' timing is VERY important.. i want to give my kids the best life ever... emotionally, financially, physically and spiritually....i mean being in college and getting pregnant is a silly thing to do ( in my case)...i dont even have to explain why coz its obvious...

i have lots of friends my age and younger with kids and they can handle it...fine but i want to be a devoted mom and for Me timing is important coz i always put my heart and soul into everything i do.... so it aint gonna be any different when it comes to Motherhood 🙂....

I am a parent. I have a girl and a boy. They drive me crazy!!!! Crazy with life-Crazy in love!! I love my little ankle bitters!!!

They consume almost all my time. Unless I am at work, I am always with them. I spend money on them almost everytime we leave the house. They are time consuming, expensive, attention demanding.....and I love it!

There is never really the RIGHT time to have children. You just want to be sure you are ready to devote the rest of your life to them.

I was the oldest child and the first grandchild in the family. So I always had an aunt or uncle that needed me to babysit. I was helping my family raise the kids since age 10. So having children for me was second nature. Some people need to spend their 20's looking for themselves and where they want to go/be in life before they have children, and I think that is very smart. Some people are ready to start a family right out of high school. To each his own!

But all in all I think I am doing a decent job as a parent. I do what I can to make them independent, loving, caring, polite, and educated. And LOVED!!!!!!

love kids... all ages. absolutely want my own at some point in life, but would prefer a healthy home for them (two ready parents) first. if ever i get there, then i'll be all over it like white on rice. one or two. two would be great. i love having siblings and would want my kids to have the same experience of comaraderie.

"You just want to be sure you are ready to devote the rest of your life to them." ...exactly!

Agreed Branh.

it all depends on your mentality.

if life throws you a lemon, it is your choice pending on your mentality as to how you see it and whether you cry about it, or rejoice and make lemonade. yum!

and for some people, children are an aspiration and not a mere inconvenience.
any part of our life(work, family, hobby, etc.), no matter how much it's something we want as part of our lives, will at some point get in the way of each other. c'est la vie.

There is no right time or wrong time to have children

totally disagree....

i suppose though... for someone who isnt careful with their sexual life style ... then there is no planning or avoidance... then i guess there's no point in deciding on a right or wrong time, in which case you'd better be the right person.

I want 2 or 3..and by the age of 31

I would love to have children. Or at least one child. I don't know if it will ever happen for me though.

I believe I will be a very stern mother but with lots of love to give. Right now I am in my selfish faze though. I don't want any children right now. I don't have a man or the right man in my life and let's face it I honestly don't want children at the moment...

Answer to the original question:

YES! I would love to have children in the future, but that part of my life has to have some structure to it. First things first ... I'd like to get married before I decide to have children.

I like to think of myself as a stern but loving mother. The kids can't get away with being brats but at the same time I want them to enjoy life as in their youth -- they will only get this time once.

Lets see how many ...

Two at the most, no more then that. Those kids are painfull to push out 😄

MM, what kind of parent to you envision yourself being?

"YES! I would love to have children in the future, but that part of my life has to have some structure to it. First things first ... I'd like to get married before I decide to have children."

I think you'll be an excellent mother once you're ready.

LOL..me too...

Wheelhomies: I think I will be quite a strict parent, not strict as in they don't dare speak but they will know authority. I can't stand parents who spoil their kids rotten only to have them disobey later on in life. A good balance of friendship and authority. Teach them norm, values, respect and hope they grow up to be decent human beings..not to mention an excellent education. I will try and not live my career aspirations through my children but I can see that happening to some degree...I want a scorpio or an earthling child...So I will get the timings right as well..hopefully..lol..

I am defo having one of those things

*sigh*

I can at least say that there is definitely a wrong time. As far as right time goes... the world aint perfect and life isnt fair... but i'm going to make the right time FOR ME as right as it can be.

whether i or anyone else is the right person for the job... we can certainly only expect ourselves to try our best. I know some amazing people who have come from crappy, abusive, neglectful upbringings. Conversely I know of assholes who have come from perfectly decent families. The right or wrong person for the job seems redundant to me. Dont get me wrong... im not saying that that is an excuse for crack addicts to go out and procreate. My point is that child rearing is never as black and white as the right or wrong time OR person(s).

and because of that, branh, you should put a clear definition to what you mean by 'right' or 'wrong' person. if you wanna define the 'right person' as someone who can be sensitive to their childs needs in a way that they understand when and what to give, nourish, and equip their son or daughter with so that when they leave the child alone to allow him/her to learn, socialize, exchange and provide certain interactions for themselves (and by this i mean at all ages of childhood), they can watch their child as they win, fail and recover from winning or failing in socially graceful ways... then i think the 'right persons' are very few, in at least our society.

I think you'll be an excellent mother once you're ready.

Thank you Wheels 🙂 I hope we'll both be good mothers once we are ready ^_^.

Yeah i am very scared of that.....

Yeah girl ... what if the head is too big!!! Yep, I'd need to be swoon up after all that :O

whether i or anyone else is the right person for the job... we can certainly only expect ourselves to try our best. I know some amazing people who have come from crappy, abusive, neglectful upbringings. Conversely I know of assholes who have come from perfectly decent families. The right or wrong person for the job seems redundant to me. Dont get me wrong... im not saying that that is an excuse for crack addicts to go out and procreate. My point is that child rearing is never as black and white as the right or wrong time OR person(s).

I'm right with you CP. There are people that have had great upbringing, that turn out to be the biggiest pricks and the worst bitches you'd ever meet. Yes, there is indeed a wrong time to have children, and I don't believe there are every any real "accidents" when it comes to child rearing -- Only because people know what can happen when sex is involved so how can anything be an accident or a mistake? 😉