Bull-ish
@Boots1313
7 Years1,000+ Posts
Comments: 2429 · Posts: 2637 · Topics: 65
"Want to make sure you are the 'real deal'"
You are on page out of 3 | Reverse Order
Posted by RockyMountainOysters
He needs to get rid of the cat.... all your problems will be solved... and less hair on the sofa.
He's a good little kitty, only a brat when he doesn't have food.
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
Posted by Ariqua
Could it be that he lies because you are so reactive?
I don’t think it’s his job to fix your trust issues either. Being Facebook official wont fix your issues.
He did say he thought I would "shame him or get mad". I'm not usually reactive, only when I'm blatantly lied to.
I don't want to find out he's a habitual liar and lies abut everything....
And I know he's not supposed to fix my trust issues, but he can help reassure me at times and lying certainly isn't reassuring...
Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
Posted by ChuggingA
Duuuump him. Lies, doesnt want to possess you, doesnt feed his cat wtf, and looks real skinny...
Right!
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
Don't give us away... what are you DOING?!
Of course he was listening!click to expand
you do this too? I have agreed to entire vacations in fake listening mode....then been completely caught off guard later....
Posted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronNo it was through a text message. Not verbal.
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little moreclick to expand
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some shit happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....click to expand
That does sound accurate...
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
I'm gonna use this... I'm glad einstein was a pisces... they're lazier than tauruses.. and with the whole relativity thing.. who's gonna argue with einstein?click to expand
It may have been Terramine....I get the two confused.....
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I wouldn’t call it a lie. If he forgot he forgot. I forget stuff all the time, especially grocery shopping stuff.
No I specifically asked " did you get cat food" he said "yes" ...lie.
Though text. I have the convo screen shotted.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
Did you tell him how you feel about this?click to expand
Yes a d he said "let me do this on my time"
Posted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
that would bother me....I'm a weirdo though....I don't have sex until I know I can commit...once we go there, its like I'm over-committed....I feel like I will be with that person for life...if they didn't want to acknowledge it publicly at that point, I'd probably feel like they were embarrassed of me, or still playing the field/leaving options open....
Posted by ChuggingAPosted by Boots1313Well you know what you have to do. Make his cat a facebook and put yourself as in a relationship with him.
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof topsclick to expand
lmao
Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
that would bother me....I'm a weirdo though....I don't have sex until I know I can commit...once we go there, its like I'm like over-committed....I feel like I will be with that person for life...if they didn't want to acknowledge it publicly at that point, I'd probably feel like they were embarrassed of me, or still playing the field/leaving options open....click to expand
This is more in line with how I am. When I give yup my body I give you everything
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
Did you tell him how you feel about this?
Yes a d he said "let me do this on my time"
Not much you can do if you’ve both expressed what you want. You either accept it or you don’t. Trying to force it would be a bad idea. I don’t think bringing it up again in a few weeks would be bad though.click to expand
I brought it up end of last month after we went on vacation and he said not yet. And I was okay with it.
So I brought it up again last night and same response and then he said "I like to set the pace and things are good right now" and I said well when? "I can't tell you when, but when I feel ready it will happen" I'm like dude I'm not asking for a proposal!
Posted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronThis is more in line with how I am. When I give yup my body I give you everythingPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
that would bother me....I'm a weirdo though....I don't have sex until I know I can commit...once we go there, its like I'm like over-committed....I feel like I will be with that person for life...if they didn't want to acknowledge it publicly at that point, I'd probably feel like they were embarrassed of me, or still playing the field/leaving options open....click to expand
100% same...honestly in most matters of attachment/emotion, I tend to relate more to women than men in general (need an emotional attachment for sex, etc.)....I hold out on the sex for that reason (will have all other sexual relations though), and past partners have gotten a little rapey with me lol....it definitely has its downside though....if I make the wrong decision, I feel locked in....
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
that would bother me....I'm a weirdo though....I don't have sex until I know I can commit...once we go there, its like I'm like over-committed....I feel like I will be with that person for life...if they didn't want to acknowledge it publicly at that point, I'd probably feel like they were embarrassed of me, or still playing the field/leaving options open....
What happens when you're over-committed in your mind, go to have sex and she's a dude? Then what?click to expand
lmao...most of the chicks I wind up with are super assertive/masculine to begin, so I always know to check for that just in case...best way is to be the little spoon when you are snuggling on the couch....you'll feel it....
Posted by ChuggingA
Omg its so easy to get anything you want from a taurus man if theyre into you like that. They're venusians and not stubborn when it comes to pleasing their girlfriends. You should set the pace. He might put the brakes on right quick for a fat minute, but he'll bend.
Lmao...well I guess he isn't that into me...
No he does bend a lotttt for me. I'm not the easiest person to be with (crippling anxierty, trust issues and codependency) he has been rely good and understanding with that, but there is just a few issues ...we also sort of have a "taboo" relationship. I broke up with one of his friends to date him. So although the guy knows I guess he's still waiting for that dust to settle
Flip the script on him.
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅
Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Hell, maybe he meant to change the FB status after he bought the catfood..
Your funny. What was your user name before
Posted by LadyNeptune
Flip the script on him.
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅
Genius...duh
Posted by ChuggingA
Like seriously, I told this one taurus guy that he will conform to my demands because I'm the female and thats how it works with our species. I cant believe he's still talking to me lol. And he says I own his dick and its not even that serious. He started off telling me he doesnt chase.. I was just like, is that so? He's been chasing pretty hard these past few days.
Idk, I'm not really a game player, I wear my heart on my sleeve.
We tease aND joke around a lot but we're both mushes.
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by ChuggingA
Omg its so easy to get anything you want from a taurus man if theyre into you like that. They're venusians and not stubborn when it comes to pleasing their girlfriends. You should set the pace. He might put the brakes on right quick for a fat minute, but he'll bend.
This is true.. I've never not given in to a girlfriend.. I'll take my time... but I'll eventually give them what they want..click to expand
So how do I push without being confrontational ...he gets super defensive in disagreements. I'm kind of sick of arguments with him, they always seem to escalate.
Posted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptuneGenius...duh
Flip the script on him.
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅click to expand
Lol come to me for all your manipulative relationship needs. This Pisces has got you covered 😉
Posted by ChuggingA
You just need to make him move. He's being lazy with you cuz you lettin him 💁
pretty much what everything boils down to with me....I don't even want to be that way, but I do tend towards the easiest path....if a woman caters to me too much, has very few demands, etc., I just roll with it....it becomes a huge imbalance, I tend to take them for granted, etc.... I think bulls need a strong woman who will assert her needs or we take advantage w/o even knowing it....
Posted by ChuggingAPosted by MetatronThis taurus told me his last long term girlfriend was a cancer. I spit my water all over him (we have weird water fights. He does the same shit to me) and told him, sorry, I just realized I can literally do anything I want to you and youre not going to go anywhere...Posted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
that would bother me....I'm a weirdo though....I don't have sex until I know I can commit...once we go there, its like I'm like over-committed....I feel like I will be with that person for life...if they didn't want to acknowledge it publicly at that point, I'd probably feel like they were embarrassed of me, or still playing the field/leaving options open....
This is more in line with how I am. When I give yup my body I give you everything
100% same...honestly in most matters of attachment/emotion, I tend to relate more to women than men in general (need an emotional attachment for sex, etc.)....I hold out on the sex for that reason (will have all other sexual relations though), and past partners have gotten a little rapey with me lol....it definitely has its downside though....if I make the wrong decision, I feel locked in....click to expand
lol I enjoy such things....food fights, water fights, you throwing knives at me fights lol....just not in public...I did break up with a Cancer for throwing a drink in my face at a restaurant....
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by ChuggingA
Omg its so easy to get anything you want from a taurus man if theyre into you like that. They're venusians and not stubborn when it comes to pleasing their girlfriends. You should set the pace. He might put the brakes on right quick for a fat minute, but he'll bend.
This is true.. I've never not given in to a girlfriend.. I'll take my time... but I'll eventually give them what they want..
So how do I push without being confrontational ...he gets super defensive in disagreements. I'm kind of sick of arguments with him, they always seem to escalate.
I'm telling you.. make it seem like its his idea..
Me personally.. every single time I have made my mind to commit to someone... it was because they had stopped pressuring me (and it always happens at first, everyone wants to know where they stand) and just 'was'. If I'm around someone consistently, I like them.. if I physically touch someone a lot, I'm attracted to them..
I'm both logical and emotional, I have to assess my emotions over time.. Now, you try to rush that process and I'll blow my cool, but I'll come back to center fairly soon..
What always hooks me is passion.. not necessarily sexual passion either.. just watching a woman do something she loves to do.. when She's in her own little world and content and happy..art, dance, music, etc. I'll watch and smile.. then I'm hooked..
Do things that you're good at and are passionate about around him.. know hes there but don't focus on him..click to expand
all this is very true for me also....love creative types who are passionate about whatever they're into....
Posted by ChuggingAPosted by Metatron..but did you get back together?Posted by ChuggingAPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
that would bother me....I'm a weirdo though....I don't have sex until I know I can commit...once we go there, its like I'm like over-committed....I feel like I will be with that person for life...if they didn't want to acknowledge it publicly at that point, I'd probably feel like they were embarrassed of me, or still playing the field/leaving options open....
This is more in line with how I am. When I give yup my body I give you everything
100% same...honestly in most matters of attachment/emotion, I tend to relate more to women than men in general (need an emotional attachment for sex, etc.)....I hold out on the sex for that reason (will have all other sexual relations though), and past partners have gotten a little rapey with me lol....it definitely has its downside though....if I make the wrong decision, I feel locked in....
This taurus told me his last long term girlfriend was a cancer. I spit my water all over him (we have weird water fights. He does the same butter to me) and told him, sorry, I just realized I can literally do anything I want to you and youre not going to go anywhere...
lol I enjoy such things....food fights, water fights, you throwing knives at me fights lol....just not in public...I did break up with a Cancer for throwing a drink in my face at a restaurant....
Its the taurus sun/leo moon combo. I'm worried for you. I secretly want to be nice to him.click to expand
I did not get back with her....that was kinda the last straw....tons of incompatibility....she froze up completely stiff whenever we were sexual due to trauma she experienced as a kid, and I knew that was going to be very difficult to figure out/work through, she was extremely immature in general, and also she smelled weird lmao...still probably would've married her if not for the drink in the face...I switched to another Cancer soon after though......
that's sounds annoying, there's something going on with virgo mooners and getting fib 😆, Idk why, maybe you're prone to criticize him? so he tries to avoid that by lying.
otherwise he would be a compulsive liar, I know two of those, I can't understand the thought process of those peoples, you can't never trust'em.
I don't get the FB thing either, kinda brings memories, I know someone that didn't change his status there for years, so he could keep chatting with random girls online, didn't necessarily cheat, he just wanted the attention.
otherwise he would be a compulsive liar, I know two of those, I can't understand the thought process of those peoples, you can't never trust'em.
I don't get the FB thing either, kinda brings memories, I know someone that didn't change his status there for years, so he could keep chatting with random girls online, didn't necessarily cheat, he just wanted the attention.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptune
Flip the script on him.
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅
Genius...duh
Lol come to me for all your manipulative relationship needs. This Pisces has got you covered 😉click to expand
Didn't work. Made him angry "you got to be kidding me...I'm not the real deal?! I do everything for you... "yadda, yadda...oops
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by ChuggingA
Omg its so easy to get anything you want from a taurus man if theyre into you like that. They're venusians and not stubborn when it comes to pleasing their girlfriends. You should set the pace. He might put the brakes on right quick for a fat minute, but he'll bend.
This is true.. I've never not given in to a girlfriend.. I'll take my time... but I'll eventually give them what they want..
So how do I push without being confrontational ...he gets super defensive in disagreements. I'm kind of sick of arguments with him, they always seem to escalate.
I'm telling you.. make it seem like its his idea..
Me personally.. every single time I have made my mind to commit to someone... it was because they had stopped pressuring me (and it always happens at first, everyone wants to know where they stand) and just 'was'. If I'm around someone consistently, I like them.. if I physically touch someone a lot, I'm attracted to them..
I'm both logical and emotional, I have to assess my emotions over time.. Now, you try to rush that process and I'll blow my cool, but I'll come back to center fairly soon..
What always hooks me is passion.. not necessarily sexual passion either.. just watching a woman do something she loves to do.. when She's in her own little world and content and happy..art, dance, music, etc. I'll watch and smile.. then I'm hooked..
Do things that you're good at and are passionate about around him.. know hes there but don't focus on him..
all this is very true for me also....love creative types who are passionate about whatever they're into....
It always seems to be that moment where you watch them as they are deep in concentration almost "in the zone" like.. I'll catch myself staring.. and thinking... you're mine now..click to expand
yes...also why I like competitive/athletic chicks....sag ex I'm talking to now is like this...we play beach or pool volleyball occasionally and she is like better than 90% of the dudes, playing like her life depends on it....1x1 she is the same with me whether its cards, video games, etc....she cries if I beat her too much though lol....could be my incessant bragging...
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by ChuggingAPosted by MetatronPosted by ChuggingAPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313
I think the not wanting to "possess and claimed me" as his on social media is bothersome and upsetting me more.
like he really has no excuse other than he isn't ready for that yet.
Meanwhile he talks about the future . We are bf gf...exclusive.
Idk...I wanna scream it from the roof tops
that would bother me....I'm a weirdo though....I don't have sex until I know I can commit...once we go there, its like I'm like over-committed....I feel like I will be with that person for life...if they didn't want to acknowledge it publicly at that point, I'd probably feel like they were embarrassed of me, or still playing the field/leaving options open....
This is more in line with how I am. When I give yup my body I give you everything
100% same...honestly in most matters of attachment/emotion, I tend to relate more to women than men in general (need an emotional attachment for sex, etc.)....I hold out on the sex for that reason (will have all other sexual relations though), and past partners have gotten a little rapey with me lol....it definitely has its downside though....if I make the wrong decision, I feel locked in....
This taurus told me his last long term girlfriend was a cancer. I spit my water all over him (we have weird water fights. He does the same butter to me) and told him, sorry, I just realized I can literally do anything I want to you and youre not going to go anywhere...
lol I enjoy such things....food fights, water fights, you throwing knives at me fights lol....just not in public...I did break up with a Cancer for throwing a drink in my face at a restaurant....
..but did you get back together?
Its the taurus sun/leo moon combo. I'm worried for you. I secretly want to be nice to him.
I did not get back with her....that was kinda the last straw....tons of incompatibility....she froze up completely stiff whenever we were sexual due to trauma she experienced as a kid, and I knew that was going to be very difficult to figure out/work through, she was extremely immature in general, and also she smelled weird lmao...still probably would've married her if not for the drink in the face...I switched to another Cancer soon after though......
"She smelled weird" that's why you never over commit before...click to expand
I mean, that's a radical understatement....not to be cruel but she smelled so bad in certain contexts, my heart broke and I felt our whole future collapsing every time I got a whiff....still I can overlook a lot and would've worked around it.....just don't disrespect me in public, especially if I've been drinking....could cause table flipping followed by a Scarface "say goodnight to the bad guy" speech....
Posted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptuneDidn't work. Made him angry "you got to be kidding me...I'm not the real deal?! I do everything for you... "yadda, yadda...oopsPosted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptune
Flip the script on him.
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅
Genius...duh
Lol come to me for all your manipulative relationship needs. This Pisces has got you covered 😉click to expand
Everything but that fb status yo 😏
Posted by RockyMountainOysters
the virgo I started dating would literally walk right past her on her way in...
lmao!....mine had a moustache too actually....I'm Italian so reminded me of my mother and I was cool with it....
Posted by ChuggingAPosted by RockyMountainOystersLolz I definitely do both. I'm also a piss poor loser when that rarely happens.Posted by ChuggingAPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by ChuggingA
Omg its so easy to get anything you want from a taurus man if theyre into you like that. They're venusians and not stubborn when it comes to pleasing their girlfriends. You should set the pace. He might put the brakes on right quick for a fat minute, but he'll bend.
This is true.. I've never not given in to a girlfriend.. I'll take my time... but I'll eventually give them what they want..
So how do I push without being confrontational ...he gets super defensive in disagreements. I'm kind of sick of arguments with him, they always seem to escalate.
I'm telling you.. make it seem like its his idea..
Me personally.. every single time I have made my mind to commit to someone... it was because they had stopped pressuring me (and it always happens at first, everyone wants to know where they stand) and just 'was'. If I'm around someone consistently, I like them.. if I physically touch someone a lot, I'm attracted to them..
I'm both logical and emotional, I have to assess my emotions over time.. Now, you try to rush that process and I'll blow my cool, but I'll come back to center fairly soon..
What always hooks me is passion.. not necessarily sexual passion either.. just watching a woman do something she loves to do.. when She's in her own little world and content and happy..art, dance, music, etc. I'll watch and smile.. then I'm hooked..
Do things that you're good at and are passionate about around him.. know hes there but don't focus on him..
all this is very true for me also....love creative types who are passionate about whatever they're into....
It always seems to be that moment where you watch them as they are deep in concentration almost "in the zone" like.. I'll catch myself staring.. and thinking... you're mine now..
yes...also why I like competitive/athletic chicks....sag ex I'm talking to now is like this...we play beach or pool volleyball occasionally and she is like better than 90% of the dudes, playing like her life depends on it....1x1 she is the same with me whether its cards, video games, etc....she cries if I beat her too much though lol....could be my incessant bragging...
Yep! Competitiveness gets me going also. I actually enjoy getting beat though.. by a woman I'm interested in.. don't get it twisted.. but, i think that goes back to wanting to see how she handles herself in victory and defeat..
Are you turned off by mad gloaters or something?
No. Well, it depends on I'd the gloating is more of an "I'm great" or a "you suck" mentality.. if it's the latter I'm out for blood in a rematch... if it's the former it's cute.
Gloating is attractive to me. When they win and make fun of me. Lightens my mood.click to expand
the gloating for me is just part of the psychological game....if you can get in their head so bad that you destroy their confidence, you don't have to put so much effort into actually competing lol....I swear I beat the sag in so many consec. games of Rummy, we both believed I had magical powers at one point....
Posted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptuneDidn't work. Made him angry "you got to be kidding me...I'm not the real deal?! I do everything for you... "yadda, yadda...oopsPosted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptune
Flip the script on him.
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅
Genius...duh
Lol come to me for all your manipulative relationship needs. This Pisces has got you covered 😉click to expand
don't assume bc we get angry and shoot it down, that we aren't taking it into consideration....I think @RockyMountainOysters said this on here before, but that is just sorta how we are...we can't back down in the midst of the argument so much, but we will walk away and ponder it still, and it will change our behavior....
Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Boots1313Posted by LadyNeptune
Flip the script on him.
“I also want to make sure your the real deal. Being official on social media is a step in that direction”
*bats eyes 💅
Genius...duh
Lol come to me for all your manipulative relationship needs. This Pisces has got you covered 😉
Didn't work. Made him angry "you got to be kidding me...I'm not the real deal?! I do everything for you... "yadda, yadda...oops
don't assume bc we get angry and shoot it down, that we aren't taking it into consideration....I think @RockyMountainOysters said this on here before, but that is just sorta how we are...we can't back down in the midst of the argument so much, but we will walk away and ponder it still, and it will change our behavior....click to expand
Lmao
Well at the end of the conversation I said " im over this" which he took me as saying over the relationship but I meant the conversation and then I said " well we have reached an impassioned because neither one is backing down" 20 minutes later I got a relationship request on fb.
And he messaged me saying "I don't wanna hear a peep pit of you for 6 months *heart emoji*"
And I said thank you! You won't!
Then he said "over it, you're so annoying"
I guess I win?
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
I bet the more independence you show the more he'll come around to what you want.. absence makes the heart grow fonder.. and I don't know a single Taurus who doesnt love a strong independent woman.click to expand
truth....one week away from my partner, and that first time seeing them again reignites the passion almost to the level of that early infatuation phase....
@Boots1313 I think its especially the case with venus in gem like your dude has....I have that, and too much familiarity, seeing each other daily, and it can sort of feel like you're just becoming roommates....I've seen you post about him needing space before, and that is a prerequisite for me, in any relationship....doesn't mean there won't be periods where we just straight indulge in each other in every way, non-stop for a while....but those breaks are important I think....to remember who you are, what you're into, as an individual....and to give yourself a chance to miss/yearn for your partner again....
Posted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
I bet the more independence you show the more he'll come around to what you want.. absence makes the heart grow fonder.. and I don't know a single Taurus who doesnt love a strong independent woman.
truth....one week away from my partner, and that first time seeing them again reignites the passion almost to the level of that early infatuation phase....
@Boots1313 I think its especially the case with venus in gem like your dude has....I have that, and too much familiarity, seeing each other daily, and it can sort of feel like you're just becoming roommates....I've seen you post about him needing space before, and that is a prerequisite for me, in any relationship....doesn't mean there won't be periods where we just straight indulge in each other in every way, non-stop for a while....but those breaks are important I think....to remember who you are, what you're into, as an individual....and to give yourself a chance to miss/yearn for your partner again....click to expand
I'm also venus in gem...idk why I'm so damn clingy.
But it's true. I didn't see him Monday or Tuesday ad when I saw him wednesday...he came to my place it was like the first few weeks all over again.couldn't get enough of me.
I'm trying really hard, but the Co dependency is is a real disorder I have.
I'm consciously making an effort and working hard everyday.
Posted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronI'm also venus in gem...idk why I'm so damn clingy.Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
I bet the more independence you show the more he'll come around to what you want.. absence makes the heart grow fonder.. and I don't know a single Taurus who doesnt love a strong independent woman.
truth....one week away from my partner, and that first time seeing them again reignites the passion almost to the level of that early infatuation phase....
@Boots1313 I think its especially the case with venus in gem like your dude has....I have that, and too much familiarity, seeing each other daily, and it can sort of feel like you're just becoming roommates....I've seen you post about him needing space before, and that is a prerequisite for me, in any relationship....doesn't mean there won't be periods where we just straight indulge in each other in every way, non-stop for a while....but those breaks are important I think....to remember who you are, what you're into, as an individual....and to give yourself a chance to miss/yearn for your partner again....
But it's true. I didn't see him Monday or Tuesday ad when I saw him wednesday...he came to my place it was like the first few weeks all over again.couldn't get enough of me.
I'm trying really hard, but the Co dependency is is a real disorder I have.
I'm consciously making an effort and working hard everyday.click to expand
I've been in a codependent situation myself....It actually worked out fairly well for a long time....don't you paint or something? I remember you having a brush in your old avi....do whatever hobbies you have just get eclipsed by the relationships you're in?
Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
I bet the more independence you show the more he'll come around to what you want.. absence makes the heart grow fonder.. and I don't know a single Taurus who doesnt love a strong independent woman.
truth....one week away from my partner, and that first time seeing them again reignites the passion almost to the level of that early infatuation phase....
@Boots1313 I think its especially the case with venus in gem like your dude has....I have that, and too much familiarity, seeing each other daily, and it can sort of feel like you're just becoming roommates....I've seen you post about him needing space before, and that is a prerequisite for me, in any relationship....doesn't mean there won't be periods where we just straight indulge in each other in every way, non-stop for a while....but those breaks are important I think....to remember who you are, what you're into, as an individual....and to give yourself a chance to miss/yearn for your partner again....
I'm also venus in gem...idk why I'm so damn clingy.
But it's true. I didn't see him Monday or Tuesday ad when I saw him wednesday...he came to my place it was like the first few weeks all over again.couldn't get enough of me.
I'm trying really hard, but the Co dependency is is a real disorder I have.
I'm consciously making an effort and working hard everyday.
I've been in a codependent situation myself....It actually worked out fairly well for a long time....don't you paint or something? I remember you having a brush in your old avi....do whatever hobbies you have just get eclipsed by the relationships you're in?click to expand
Yes, unfortunately I give 100% when I'm in relationships.
I block print as a hobby, it's a fairy easy thing to do and I often bring a block with me to my bfs and I'll do that while he plays piano/guitar (his hobby) we inspire eachother in that way.
He recently told me he wants to try a print one day and I told him I would love that. He's trying to teach me piano also.
I really do love our relaturns hip and how we work.
I just find everything more enjoyable with someone. I'm not good at solo
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
I bet the more independence you show the more he'll come around to what you want.. absence makes the heart grow fonder.. and I don't know a single Taurus who doesnt love a strong independent woman.
truth....one week away from my partner, and that first time seeing them again reignites the passion almost to the level of that early infatuation phase....
@Boots1313 I think its especially the case with venus in gem like your dude has....I have that, and too much familiarity, seeing each other daily, and it can sort of feel like you're just becoming roommates....I've seen you post about him needing space before, and that is a prerequisite for me, in any relationship....doesn't mean there won't be periods where we just straight indulge in each other in every way, non-stop for a while....but those breaks are important I think....to remember who you are, what you're into, as an individual....and to give yourself a chance to miss/yearn for your partner again....
The other day when you asked how the virgo and aqua moon worked together... this.. she also enjoyed this as much as I did.. we could go days without talking but know intuitively what the other was going through.. was weird.. we'd go days and not call but when we did decide to call we would do it at the same exact time. On several occasions the phone wouldn't even ring I would hit send and immediately all i heard was her saying "hello? Hello?"click to expand
love that, can def. see that w/Aqua placements too....I always feel in synch with my partner like this when away doing my thing....if I'm really in love, they're my muse for creative projects, my reason for working towards financial goals, all of it....sometimes I like just being away and daydreaming about them, while listening to music, missing them, etc. as well....When you're in early phases of a relationship, these things come naturally because you're not always around each other. But when you are together every day, they cease, and its just accepted that this is the way things ought to be. I think there's obviously something to be said for having that space to be apart and engaged in what you're passionate about - without that I think you lose so much of what attracted you to each other initially. Even further though, that space to just think about the person imaginatively is really undervalued. Women complain a lot that men lose the romantic approach they started the courtship with, and I think its a legit complaint. But its almost impossible to have the authentic feelings/desires that underlie that sort of creative behavior, or really even the time to consider it/implement it, if you're always together.
Posted by LethalFantasia
He's not ready for that yet because he probably has some cookiemonsteres on the side.
85% of Taurus males.
Probably his ex, too.
See and these are the thoughts that go through my head.
It's 85% of males in general.
In every relationship I've been cheated on, I have very little trust in people.
He did he though. He gave in and made it official. ..could still have a cookie monster on the side tho. Just telling her to be quiet...sigh
Posted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronYes, unfortunately I give 100% when I'm in relationships.Posted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
I bet the more independence you show the more he'll come around to what you want.. absence makes the heart grow fonder.. and I don't know a single Taurus who doesnt love a strong independent woman.
truth....one week away from my partner, and that first time seeing them again reignites the passion almost to the level of that early infatuation phase....
@Boots1313 I think its especially the case with venus in gem like your dude has....I have that, and too much familiarity, seeing each other daily, and it can sort of feel like you're just becoming roommates....I've seen you post about him needing space before, and that is a prerequisite for me, in any relationship....doesn't mean there won't be periods where we just straight indulge in each other in every way, non-stop for a while....but those breaks are important I think....to remember who you are, what you're into, as an individual....and to give yourself a chance to miss/yearn for your partner again....
I'm also venus in gem...idk why I'm so damn clingy.
But it's true. I didn't see him Monday or Tuesday ad when I saw him wednesday...he came to my place it was like the first few weeks all over again.couldn't get enough of me.
I'm trying really hard, but the Co dependency is is a real disorder I have.
I'm consciously making an effort and working hard everyday.
I've been in a codependent situation myself....It actually worked out fairly well for a long time....don't you paint or something? I remember you having a brush in your old avi....do whatever hobbies you have just get eclipsed by the relationships you're in?
I block print as a hobby, it's a fairy easy thing to do and I often bring a block with me to my bfs and I'll do that while he plays piano/guitar (his hobby) we inspire eachother in that way.
He recently told me he wants to try a print one day and I told him I would love that. He's trying to teach me piano also.
I really do love our relaturns hip and how we work.
I just find everything more enjoyable with someone. I'm not good at soloclick to expand
I think as long as you're learning/growing together there's nothing necessarily wrong with that....its just when its all about indulgence - couch, tv, food, sex - and the life purpose/creative pursuits get sidelined, that I think it gets dangerous....sounds like you two have a lot you can do together though....thats promising, even if its a bit of a struggle to give him some of the space he needs....
Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by MetatronPosted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOysters
Has he said anything about you being codependent?
He's very independent, but he works with me. He givesme 3 to 4 nights a week to hangout and he answeres all my late ight phone calls. He is very giving in that sense and supportive. Sometimes tough love but it's needed.
We are acrikey working on it, and compromising so both of our needs are met.
He is the most understanding in that sense
I bet the more independence you show the more he'll come around to what you want.. absence makes the heart grow fonder.. and I don't know a single Taurus who doesnt love a strong independent woman.
truth....one week away from my partner, and that first time seeing them again reignites the passion almost to the level of that early infatuation phase....
@Boots1313 I think its especially the case with venus in gem like your dude has....I have that, and too much familiarity, seeing each other daily, and it can sort of feel like you're just becoming roommates....I've seen you post about him needing space before, and that is a prerequisite for me, in any relationship....doesn't mean there won't be periods where we just straight indulge in each other in every way, non-stop for a while....but those breaks are important I think....to remember who you are, what you're into, as an individual....and to give yourself a chance to miss/yearn for your partner again....
I'm also venus in gem...idk why I'm so damn clingy.
But it's true. I didn't see him Monday or Tuesday ad when I saw him wednesday...he came to my place it was like the first few weeks all over again.couldn't get enough of me.
I'm trying really hard, but the Co dependency is is a real disorder I have.
I'm consciously making an effort and working hard everyday.
I've been in a codependent situation myself....It actually worked out fairly well for a long time....don't you paint or something? I remember you having a brush in your old avi....do whatever hobbies you have just get eclipsed by the relationships you're in?
Yes, unfortunately I give 100% when I'm in relationships.
I block print as a hobby, it's a fairy easy thing to do and I often bring a block with me to my bfs and I'll do that while he plays piano/guitar (his hobby) we inspire eachother in that way.
He recently told me he wants to try a print one day and I told him I would love that. He's trying to teach me piano also.
I really do love our relaturns hip and how we work.
I just find everything more enjoyable with someone. I'm not good at solo
I think as long as you're learning/growing together there's nothing necessarily wrong with that....its just when its all about indulgence - couch, tv, food, sex - and the life purpose/creative pursuits get sidelined, that I think it gets dangerous....sounds like you two have a lot you can do together though....thats promising, even if its a bit of a struggle to give him some of the space he needs....click to expand
Yes, don't get me wrong 2/4 days is t.v food, couch, and sex or as we say
"PuBg and chill" but...on our day off we make sure to be productive and do our hobbies and be outside in nature. Toss the pig skin, go to the gym together stuff like that.
We have a good balance. He says our relatioship is basically perfect except for this social media fight.
Posted by RockyMountainOysters
@boots1313 glad it worked out.. I'd still get rid of the cat though.. JK..
"Lord barthalamew of brattington" you mean
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
I love a taurus man who is married with two daughters. And I am divorced without having any kids. We were friends since 2011 and at that time we both were married. We were friends on Facebook and we chatted since then. Although we met at a tour before bec
I am a Pisces and have been dating a taurus man for 4months. I am head over heels for him but he tells me I have to be patient with him. That it could take years for him to open up and even say he loves me which I'm fine with. But about a week ago he said
Hello,
I have been talking to a Taurus man for 6 months - we initially met at work, but he later quit and contacted me 6 months later (i just got out of an 8 year relationship). I was really happy when he texted me, and we met for coffee. We started ta
I'm a Capricorn female and have been friends with a Taurus male for over 10 years. We have a pattern of dating on and off and now we’re on our 3rd cycle LOL. I would like to end the cycle but I honestly don’t know how, because I’m not sure why he keeps po
hahahaha...i posted this as a comment in another thread but couldnt resist posting it as a new topic
cause it just cracks me up how taurus is misunderstood
rule number one (and i cannot stress this enough)...when it comes to taurus men:
DONT T
You taurus men are something else! I’m a Scorpio (yes, you heard that right ☺️) so you can pretty much write and finish the story if you wanted to.. lol it’s been 17 years and no matter what he always comes back for one reason or another but we can’t ever
I don't know if this is typical for a Taurus man, but t certainly isn't typical for any other relationship I have been in.
My birthday passed a few days ago and I'm still waiting for a present from my significant other.
He seemed to me like the type of
So i’ve been talking to this Taurus guy i’m an Aries by the way. We like each other but um he got more interesting to me as we finally met) I feel like he’d rather observe something i’ve done and start going for what he believes is the reason for my actio
So, I've been texting/calling with this Taurus guy and we get along really well.
Usually when we talk about something serious or emotional, we're both a 100% present, but today for the first time when I was talking about my childhood issues and our co
Im going through a very difficult period with my taurus guy... I need help because im not going to give UP no matter what. If i have to go through hell then i am..
My taurus man has left me because i pushed him to the edge and I wish I should've given
Taurus man here that needs some advice:
My ex and I were together for about 2 years before I decided to end the relationship. I broke up with her because I was depressed, unstable in my life (mentally and financially) and felt as if she deserved better
Well met this great Taurus man almost two months ago. Went on several dates we seemed equally crazy about each other. And now it's been 5 days and no text. I haven't reached out to him cause well, if he's interested he'd reach out to me no? Sigh. Why do y
I met this Taurus man at a dinner with friends 2 weeks ago. I went in hearing that he had a crush on me, but I wasn’t expecting anything. When we met, immediate chemistry and sparks flew. That whole night he couldn’t keep his hands off me and we clicked.
Taurus wanted to take me to dinner for my birthday today, of course I declined cuz I’m seeing someone. He’s back from his country .. I could only imagine what he was doing there.. sorry sweet, sexy Taurus man, u will always have a place in my heart.. the
We've dated once. he left.
We've hooked up, on and off, in between him seeing other people, and me still stuck on him.
When we've hooked up, he's been distant, and cold, and he has blocked me out of nowhere for other girls.
Now, months later, he tells
Taurus man tells that he likes you, but he doesn't want a relationship. Could he change his mind in the future or this is it?
I recently met this Taurus man and we really hit it off. None of my friends have met him yet but they've seen pictures of him and they say he's pretty hot. Any who - a few nights ago, I had a dream with my ex bf, this guy that I had a huge crush on after
Met an incredible Taurus man and I am completely smitten. He is so chilvarous, calm, cool and confident. As an aquarius, I know I should be pretty radical and spontaneous and would wish that for my partner but this mans energy just does it for me. It can
Hi,
I ve read it often and I think I have that Tendency, that Taurus Men pick women, that are not very compatible
and will most likely difficult to live with? Many Taurus end up with air and fire signs (and scorpio lol),
but if were more reason
Update. The Taurus male has contacted me back but why would he tell me that he’s not looking for sex and if he was it’s his business I think that’s kinda weird for him to say. He’s been asking me what I been up to. I told him I was going out with a friend
Slow and stubborn you taurus males...
Last night was supposed to be a quiet evening with my bf. He worked a 12 hour day and asked me to go to his house and hang, while he was on his way home from work "get comfy and rest. I cant wait to see you" he said.
I get to his place and I realize his cat is hungry so I go to feed his cat and there is no food. Now I specifically texted him the night before and asked if he got cat food ad he said "yes".
Now im a little annoyed. I don't like to be lied to no matter how small or insignificant. The reason I asked about the cat food was because I would have picked some up on my way over.
So I call him, and ask if he's gong to pick up cat food "yes. I should have yesterday but I forgot" I said "well why did you tell me yes and lie to me?"
"Babe can yu just relax, I worked 12 hours, I was all happy to see yu all now you are giving me a hard time. This is a microscopic lie"
"This isn't the first small lie. What else are you lying about"
This made him freak out.
Now I have trust issues in general and now this just kind of rubbed me the wrong way and he was not backing down.
He comes home with cat food ad says "I'm sorry I lied. I didn't want you to shame me" (I don't shame, I would have simply gotten cat food)
The rest of rhe night he tells me I ruined the night, he jist wanted to snuggle with me and basically making it all about his feelings and not taking into consideration mine.
We eventually move past it and I asked him about being official on fb (stupid I know, but it would just help my trust issues) he says "I'm not ready for that yet" and I say why not...we've been together 5 months and he says "I want to make sure you are the real deal"...real deal?! He told me he loves me and I've said it back but he's still indecisive?
...this is just a rant.