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Posted by Boots1313
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awe @jeane ...I would like to hear your two cents!
haha, i hadn't read to the end of the thread! glad you got it all sorted. hope this goes a way to making you feel more reassured and confident in yourself, what you have to offer and what you have with this taurus.
Posted by sagittariusxo
I really like you Boots.
I appreciate your advice to me, and I too struggle with my Taurus.
BUTTTTTTT.... I think.... (unless there is some bad boyfriend backstory to your trust issues) that you are making more stress out of this then what really matters. its important to a Taurus they don't feel taken for granted. kitty food is no something that should lead to insinuations of disloyalty. I send loves song to my Taurus and on occasion caught him in the they lie that he never actually listened to it. did it sting for him to say he did when he didn't. Yes, am I going to look at him differently then the person I know he is to me, no way. and im definitely not going to question his love and loyalty that easy.
with everything you need to pick your battles. and if your trust issues aren't because of him DO NOT TAKE THEM OUT ON HIM.
hope you guys can work it out.
yes I might have over reacted a bit, honesty is important to me and something in my gut just didn't like that he lied, no matter how insignificant it was. Also I was more upset about how he reacted to it instead of the actual lie...defensive and flipped the switch "I worked 12 hours and WAS looking forward to spending the night with you"..guilt tripping...no consideration that I was hurt. he did apologize eventually.
I know him, but its only been 5 months there is still a lot to learn and i'm just concerned ill learn he's a habitual liar and will lie about bigger things.
I WOULD HAVE JUST GOTTEN CAT FOOD LOL!
he lied about something else in the beginning of our relationship, a little bigger than this.
I do have trust issues, been cheated on by ALL my past boyfriends...I am annoying with my constant reassurance but lying to me just makes me FREAK OUT that a little lie can turn bigger.
You are overreacting. He forgot to buy cat food he didn't lie.
And yes trust issues are yours to work with and not have irrational expectation of the partner.
And yes trust issues are yours to work with and not have irrational expectation of the partner.
Posted by jeanePosted by Boots1313
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awe @jeane ...I would like to hear your two cents!
haha, i hadn't read to the end of the thread! glad you got it all sorted. hope this goes a way to making you feel more reassured and confident in yourself, what you have to offer and what you have with this taurus.click to expand
Thank you!
I know it sounds so childish with the fb thing, and I sound like a broken record, but it will just ease my mind.
Honestly I cant think of anything else to complain about now that its taken care of.
It will help me 1000% just start to feel more at ease in all areas, my insecurity, trust issues and codependency.
im not perfect, i can be difficult but just that small insignificant thing helps.
Posted by Pathos
You are overreacting. He forgot to buy cat food he didn't lie.
And yes trust issues are yours to work with and not have irrational expectation of the partner.
no he lied i said "did you buy cat food" "YES"
Posted by Boots1313Posted by sagittariusxo
I really like you Boots.
I appreciate your advice to me, and I too struggle with my Taurus.
BUTTTTTTT.... I think.... (unless there is some bad boyfriend backstory to your trust issues) that you are making more stress out of this then what really matters. its important to a Taurus they don't feel taken for granted. kitty food is no something that should lead to insinuations of disloyalty. I send loves song to my Taurus and on occasion caught him in the they lie that he never actually listened to it. did it sting for him to say he did when he didn't. Yes, am I going to look at him differently then the person I know he is to me, no way. and im definitely not going to question his love and loyalty that easy.
with everything you need to pick your battles. and if your trust issues aren't because of him DO NOT TAKE THEM OUT ON HIM.
hope you guys can work it out.
yes I might have over reacted a bit, honesty is important to me and something in my gut just didn't like that he lied, no matter how insignificant it was. Also I was more upset about how he reacted to it instead of the actual lie...defensive and flipped the switch "I worked 12 hours and WAS looking forward to spending the night with you"..guilt tripping...no consideration that I was hurt. he did apologize eventually.
I know him, but its only been 5 months there is still a lot to learn and i'm just concerned ill learn he's a habitual liar and will lie about bigger things.
I WOULD HAVE JUST GOTTEN CAT FOOD LOL!
he lied about something else in the beginning of our relationship, a little bigger than this.
I do have trust issues, been cheated on by ALL my past boyfriends...I am annoying with my constant reassurance but lying to me just makes me FREAK OUT that a little lie can turn bigger.click to expand
I understand. we all have things to be considerate of and to work on to better situations.
I think if you maybe do it for him. I know that sounds lame and mothering but I think Taurus men appreciate that in a person. next time give him options. "did you do that or do you need me too?"
Posted by Boots1313Posted by sagittariusxo
I really like you Boots.
I appreciate your advice to me, and I too struggle with my Taurus.
BUTTTTTTT.... I think.... (unless there is some bad boyfriend backstory to your trust issues) that you are making more stress out of this then what really matters. its important to a Taurus they don't feel taken for granted. kitty food is no something that should lead to insinuations of disloyalty. I send loves song to my Taurus and on occasion caught him in the they lie that he never actually listened to it. did it sting for him to say he did when he didn't. Yes, am I going to look at him differently then the person I know he is to me, no way. and im definitely not going to question his love and loyalty that easy.
with everything you need to pick your battles. and if your trust issues aren't because of him DO NOT TAKE THEM OUT ON HIM.
hope you guys can work it out.
yes I might have over reacted a bit, honesty is important to me and something in my gut just didn't like that he lied, no matter how insignificant it was. Also I was more upset about how he reacted to it instead of the actual lie...defensive and flipped the switch "I worked 12 hours and WAS looking forward to spending the night with you"..guilt tripping...no consideration that I was hurt. he did apologize eventually.
I know him, but its only been 5 months there is still a lot to learn and i'm just concerned ill learn he's a habitual liar and will lie about bigger things.
I WOULD HAVE JUST GOTTEN CAT FOOD LOL!
he lied about something else in the beginning of our relationship, a little bigger than this.
I do have trust issues, been cheated on by ALL my past boyfriends...I am annoying with my constant reassurance but lying to me just makes me FREAK OUT that a little lie can turn bigger.click to expand
I understand. we all have things to be considerate of and to work on to better situations.
I think if you maybe do it for him. I know that sounds lame and mothering but I think Taurus men appreciate that in a person. next time give him options. "did you do that or do you need me too?"
Posted by Boots1313Posted by Pathos
You are overreacting. He forgot to buy cat food he didn't lie.
And yes trust issues are yours to work with and not have irrational expectation of the partner.
no he lied i said "did you buy cat food" "YES"
click to expand
Maybe you are been overly serious and cautious upon matter that are not that serious like this one. It's a white lie. Maybe your overcautiouness is funny to him and also get into his nerves.
Posted by PathosPosted by Boots1313Posted by Pathos
You are overreacting. He forgot to buy cat food he didn't lie.
And yes trust issues are yours to work with and not have irrational expectation of the partner.
no he lied i said "did you buy cat food" "YES"
Maybe you are been overly serious and cautious upon matter that are not that serious like this one. It's a white lie. Maybe your overcautiouness is funny to him and also get into his nerves.click to expand
perhaps...I just read so many things that say little lies are a sign that they will lie about bigger things.
I do have to take a step back and look at myself tho, I guess I tell small lies as well.
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by Boots1313Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by ChuggingA
Omg its so easy to get anything you want from a taurus man if theyre into you like that. They're venusians and not stubborn when it comes to pleasing their girlfriends. You should set the pace. He might put the brakes on right quick for a fat minute, but he'll bend.
This is true.. I've never not given in to a girlfriend.. I'll take my time... but I'll eventually give them what they want..
So how do I push without being confrontational ...he gets super defensive in disagreements. I'm kind of sick of arguments with him, they always seem to escalate.
I'm telling you.. make it seem like its his idea..
Me personally.. every single time I have made my mind to commit to someone... it was because they had stopped pressuring me (and it always happens at first, everyone wants to know where they stand) and just 'was'. If I'm around someone consistently, I like them.. if I physically touch someone a lot, I'm attracted to them..
I'm both logical and emotional, I have to assess my emotions over time.. Now, you try to rush that process and I'll blow my cool, but I'll come back to center fairly soon..
What always hooks me is passion.. not necessarily sexual passion either.. just watching a woman do something she loves to do.. when She's in her own little world and content and happy..art, dance, music, etc. I'll watch and smile.. then I'm hooked..
Do things that you're good at and are passionate about around him.. know hes there but don't focus on him..click to expand
Ah yes the “make it seem like it’s their idea” and “say you agree but actually do your own thing” comes almost second nature to mutables
Posted by Ariqua
Could it be that he lies because you are so reactive?
I don’t think it’s his job to fix your trust issues either. Being Facebook official wont fix your issues.
hahahhahaah this 😆
Posted by sagittariusxo
I really like you Boots.
I appreciate your advice to me, and I too struggle with my Taurus.
BUTTTTTTT.... I think.... (unless there is some bad boyfriend backstory to your trust issues) that you are making more stress out of this then what really matters. its important to a Taurus they don't feel taken for granted. kitty food is no something that should lead to insinuations of disloyalty. I send loves song to my Taurus and on occasion caught him in the they lie that he never actually listened to it. did it sting for him to say he did when he didn't. Yes, am I going to look at him differently then the person I know he is to me, no way. and im definitely not going to question his love and loyalty that easy.
with everything you need to pick your battles. and if your trust issues aren't because of him DO NOT TAKE THEM OUT ON HIM.
hope you guys can work it out.
AMEN
Posted by -sierra
chill it's just cat food
small thing
also you're overthinking
oh wait with that combo you'd probably be very controlling.. like dude it's only 5 months and fb official is not a priority
Virgo moon man!
i've never been controlling, also it isn't the first lie i've caught him in, just the one that kind of broke the camels back.
5 months is awhile, especially when you are intimate. I don't like to be taken as a fool or played with.
I have to know its legit.
ill chill out now.
honestly nothing else is going to be an issue now.
honestly nothing else is going to be an issue now.
Posted by -sierraPosted by Boots1313Posted by -sierra
chill it's just cat food
small thing
also you're overthinking
oh wait with that combo you'd probably be very controlling.. like dude it's only 5 months and fb official is not a priority
Virgo moon man!
i've never been controlling, also it isn't the first lie i've caught him in, just the one that kind of broke the camels back.
5 months is awhile, especially when you are intimate. I don't like to be taken as a fool or played with.
I have to know its legit.
i'm a triple virgo (sun-rising-merc)
so i can kinda understand..
what are his placements?click to expand
Taurus sun, libra moon, sag rising, aries merc, Gemini venus, cancer mars,
Posted by Boots1313
A vent....
Slow and stubborn you taurus males...
Last night was supposed to be a quiet evening with my bf. He worked a 12 hour day and asked me to go to his house and hang, while he was on his way home from work "get comfy and rest. I cant wait to see you" he said.
I get to his place and I realize his cat is hungry so I go to feed his cat and there is no food. Now I specifically texted him the night before and asked if he got cat food ad he said "yes".
Now im a little annoyed. I don't like to be lied to no matter how small or insignificant. The reason I asked about the cat food was because I would have picked some up on my way over.
So I call him, and ask if he's gong to pick up cat food "yes. I should have yesterday but I forgot" I said "well why did you tell me yes and lie to me?"
"Babe can yu just relax, I worked 12 hours, I was all happy to see yu all now you are giving me a hard time. This is a microscopic lie"
"This isn't the first small lie. What else are you lying about"
This made him freak out.
Now I have trust issues in general and now this just kind of rubbed me the wrong way and he was not backing down.
He comes home with cat food ad says "I'm sorry I lied. I didn't want you to shame me" (I don't shame, I would have simply gotten cat food)
The rest of rhe night he tells me I ruined the night, he jist wanted to snuggle with me and basically making it all about his feelings and not taking into consideration mine.
We eventually move past it and I asked him about being official on fb (stupid I know, but it would just help my trust issues) he says "I'm not ready for that yet" and I say why not...we've been together 5 months and he says "I want to make sure you are the real deal"...real deal?! He told me he loves me and I've said it back but he's still indecisive?
...this is just a rant.
word of advice:
these little lies....are really not worth putting your relationship at risk
and ..............taurus really dont like it making a big deal out of nothing
he was really looking forward to a night with you
and you basically made a fuss about nothing
1: cats dont die if they dont eat for a day....relaxxxx chillll
2. i must agree with one of the comments above: he knows you ...knows you problably nagg about little things that dont get done....well....and my guess is, he found a way to work around that and tells little white lies
3. asking him to make it official on fb— never ask....if someone does it on their own....much better. if you want to solve your trust problems....this is not the way. like they said above here: your trust issues are not his fault. he doesnt need to do something he isnt ready for to ease your insecurities.
4. he not being ready is normal and very good actually. he is actually researching if this is something real
a man who doesnt care wouldnt even do THAT
but to be honest....what you are doing right now.....might put the chance of him seeing it as a real deal on risk
my advice? seek proffesional help for your trust issues and begin to understand that taurus who plans a night with you....actually still makes an effort after how you reacted and comes back to you—? REALLY LIKE YOU and deserves more trust
Posted by looneymoonmaidenPosted by Boots1313
A vent....
Slow and stubborn you taurus males...
Last night was supposed to be a quiet evening with my bf. He worked a 12 hour day and asked me to go to his house and hang, while he was on his way home from work "get comfy and rest. I cant wait to see you" he said.
I get to his place and I realize his cat is hungry so I go to feed his cat and there is no food. Now I specifically texted him the night before and asked if he got cat food ad he said "yes".
Now im a little annoyed. I don't like to be lied to no matter how small or insignificant. The reason I asked about the cat food was because I would have picked some up on my way over.
So I call him, and ask if he's gong to pick up cat food "yes. I should have yesterday but I forgot" I said "well why did you tell me yes and lie to me?"
"Babe can yu just relax, I worked 12 hours, I was all happy to see yu all now you are giving me a hard time. This is a microscopic lie"
"This isn't the first small lie. What else are you lying about"
This made him freak out.
Now I have trust issues in general and now this just kind of rubbed me the wrong way and he was not backing down.
He comes home with cat food ad says "I'm sorry I lied. I didn't want you to shame me" (I don't shame, I would have simply gotten cat food)
The rest of rhe night he tells me I ruined the night, he jist wanted to snuggle with me and basically making it all about his feelings and not taking into consideration mine.
We eventually move past it and I asked him about being official on fb (stupid I know, but it would just help my trust issues) he says "I'm not ready for that yet" and I say why not...we've been together 5 months and he says "I want to make sure you are the real deal"...real deal?! He told me he loves me and I've said it back but he's still indecisive?
...this is just a rant.
word of advice:
these little lies....are really not worth putting your relationship at risk
and ..............taurus really dont like it making a big deal out of nothing
he was really looking forward to a night with you
and you basically made a fuss about nothing
1: cats dont die if they dont eat for a day....relaxxxx chillll
2. i must agree with one of the comments above: he knows you ...knows you problably nagg about little things that dont get done....well....and my guess is, he found a way to work around that and tells little white lies
3. asking him to make it official on fb— never ask....if someone does it on their own....much better. if you want to solve your trust problems....this is not the way. like they said above here: your trust issues are not his fault. he doesnt need to do something he isnt ready for to ease your insecurities.
4. he not being ready is normal and very good actually. he is actually researching if this is something real
a man who doesnt care wouldnt even do THAT
but to be honest....what you are doing right now.....might put the chance of him seeing it as a real deal on risk
my advice? seek proffesional help for your trust issues and begin to understand that taurus who plans a night with you....actually still makes an effort after how you reacted and comes back to you—? REALLY LIKE YOU and deserves more trustclick to expand
Thank you,
I will take that all into consideration.
but its over an done with now.
There really wont be problems down the line.
Posted by -sierraPosted by Boots1313Posted by -sierraPosted by Boots1313Posted by -sierra
chill it's just cat food
small thing
also you're overthinking
oh wait with that combo you'd probably be very controlling.. like dude it's only 5 months and fb official is not a priority
Virgo moon man!
i've never been controlling, also it isn't the first lie i've caught him in, just the one that kind of broke the camels back.
5 months is awhile, especially when you are intimate. I don't like to be taken as a fool or played with.
I have to know its legit.
i'm a triple virgo (sun-rising-merc)
so i can kinda understand..
what are his placements?
Taurus sun, libra moon, sag rising, aries merc, Gemini venus, cancer mars,
maybe it's just libra moon
makes sense to me he's like that
you gotta get used to them being a little indecisive, forgetful and trying to avoid confrontation... personally, i kinda find those things about them cute but lolz i have libra mars
he's tired from work so gotta avoid nagging especially over small things.. rant about it online or make a thread about it lolzclick to expand
yup that's what im trying to do.
I mean I worked 10 hours too, I was looking forward to seeing him just as much.
idk, it just really got to me.
who lies about cat food?! and it just made me think he could lie about bigger things I would never know!
Posted by Boots1313Posted by looneymoonmaidenPosted by Boots1313
A vent....
Slow and stubborn you taurus males...
Last night was supposed to be a quiet evening with my bf. He worked a 12 hour day and asked me to go to his house and hang, while he was on his way home from work "get comfy and rest. I cant wait to see you" he said.
I get to his place and I realize his cat is hungry so I go to feed his cat and there is no food. Now I specifically texted him the night before and asked if he got cat food ad he said "yes".
Now im a little annoyed. I don't like to be lied to no matter how small or insignificant. The reason I asked about the cat food was because I would have picked some up on my way over.
So I call him, and ask if he's gong to pick up cat food "yes. I should have yesterday but I forgot" I said "well why did you tell me yes and lie to me?"
"Babe can yu just relax, I worked 12 hours, I was all happy to see yu all now you are giving me a hard time. This is a microscopic lie"
"This isn't the first small lie. What else are you lying about"
This made him freak out.
Now I have trust issues in general and now this just kind of rubbed me the wrong way and he was not backing down.
He comes home with cat food ad says "I'm sorry I lied. I didn't want you to shame me" (I don't shame, I would have simply gotten cat food)
The rest of rhe night he tells me I ruined the night, he jist wanted to snuggle with me and basically making it all about his feelings and not taking into consideration mine.
We eventually move past it and I asked him about being official on fb (stupid I know, but it would just help my trust issues) he says "I'm not ready for that yet" and I say why not...we've been together 5 months and he says "I want to make sure you are the real deal"...real deal?! He told me he loves me and I've said it back but he's still indecisive?
...this is just a rant.
word of advice:
these little lies....are really not worth putting your relationship at risk
and ..............taurus really dont like it making a big deal out of nothing
he was really looking forward to a night with you
and you basically made a fuss about nothing
1: cats dont die if they dont eat for a day....relaxxxx chillll
2. i must agree with one of the comments above: he knows you ...knows you problably nagg about little things that dont get done....well....and my guess is, he found a way to work around that and tells little white lies
3. asking him to make it official on fb— never ask....if someone does it on their own....much better. if you want to solve your trust problems....this is not the way. like they said above here: your trust issues are not his fault. he doesnt need to do something he isnt ready for to ease your insecurities.
4. he not being ready is normal and very good actually. he is actually researching if this is something real
a man who doesnt care wouldnt even do THAT
but to be honest....what you are doing right now.....might put the chance of him seeing it as a real deal on risk
my advice? seek proffesional help for your trust issues and begin to understand that taurus who plans a night with you....actually still makes an effort after how you reacted and comes back to you—? REALLY LIKE YOU and deserves more trust
Thank you,
I will take that all into consideration.
but its over an done with now.
There really wont be problems down the line.click to expand
there will be problems down the line. that's ok. there are meant to be problems. the key is how you handle it.
i think this episode shows that occasionally he makes dumb decisions, does stupid things and makes mistakes. you are both still learning about each other.
let this be an opportunity for you to learn about him but also to learn about yourself!
you've done the right thing and let it go. it was an error in judgement on his part. it triggered you. he didn't mean it. you didn't mean it either. you're going to get triggered again...and again...and again...until one day you won't be. but to get there you have to be aware of your triggers! to go from 0 to YOU'RE AN UTTER LYING BASTARD THAT CANNOT BE TRUSTED WITH ANYTHING AT ALL EVER FOREVER! is not sustainable for you or for him. at some point you have to come to the realisation that the trigger is irrational and put it down. at the moment you are carrying it with you like a shield of armour. to truly put it behind you though is going to take time.
Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BSclick to expand
only because he could not yet accept the implications of quantum mechanics for the reality of alternate futures, in which all possible outcomes are actualized...
Posted by -sierraPosted by Boots1313Posted by -sierraPosted by Boots1313Posted by -sierra
chill it's just cat food
small thing
also you're overthinking
oh wait with that combo you'd probably be very controlling.. like dude it's only 5 months and fb official is not a priority
Virgo moon man!
i've never been controlling, also it isn't the first lie i've caught him in, just the one that kind of broke the camels back.
5 months is awhile, especially when you are intimate. I don't like to be taken as a fool or played with.
I have to know its legit.
i'm a triple virgo (sun-rising-merc)
so i can kinda understand..
what are his placements?
Taurus sun, libra moon, sag rising, aries merc, Gemini venus, cancer mars,
maybe it's just libra moon
makes sense to me he's like that
you gotta get used to them being a little indecisive, forgetful and trying to avoid confrontation... personally, i kinda find those things about them cute but lolz i have libra mars
he's tired from work so gotta avoid nagging especially over small things.. rant about it online or make a thread about it lolzclick to expand
hahhaha im libra mars too
find it adorable
he is sometimes on the phone with me...starts talking to a friend and forgets im on the phone for a split second HAHAHAHAHA and i just find it hilarious
i know they dont forget the important stuff
that..they are actually briliant with
Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BSclick to expand
i know what metatron means....my bull has it too and i do too sometimes lol
not with big things though hahahaha
Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BSclick to expand
ok...soooooooo people know you are together and he posts pictures of you together—?? THEN WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?
no seriously...its freaking fb.....not importantttt
if people know you are together then why are you stressing him?!!!!!
dont! really.......stop that
i know couples who have been married for years....and dont know how fb works and still has it on single
who caresssssssssssss
Posted by -sierraPosted by looneymoonmaidenPosted by -sierraPosted by Boots1313Posted by -sierraPosted by Boots1313Posted by -sierra
chill it's just cat food
small thing
also you're overthinking
oh wait with that combo you'd probably be very controlling.. like dude it's only 5 months and fb official is not a priority
Virgo moon man!
i've never been controlling, also it isn't the first lie i've caught him in, just the one that kind of broke the camels back.
5 months is awhile, especially when you are intimate. I don't like to be taken as a fool or played with.
I have to know its legit.
i'm a triple virgo (sun-rising-merc)
so i can kinda understand..
what are his placements?
Taurus sun, libra moon, sag rising, aries merc, Gemini venus, cancer mars,
maybe it's just libra moon
makes sense to me he's like that
you gotta get used to them being a little indecisive, forgetful and trying to avoid confrontation... personally, i kinda find those things about them cute but lolz i have libra mars
he's tired from work so gotta avoid nagging especially over small things.. rant about it online or make a thread about it lolz
hahhaha im libra mars too
find it adorable
he is sometimes on the phone with me...starts talking to a friend and forgets im on the phone for a split second HAHAHAHAHA and i just find it hilarious
i know they dont forget the important stuff
that..they are actually briliant with
they're adorable 😍
some women find that frustrating but it's so cute to me like i just wanna kiss their forgetful heads 😍
but i'm forgetful too so we'd probably be so scattered together
my boyfriend's aries moon and he's all about "okay here is what we're gonna do.."
and i'm like: "i don't know.. i'm not sure.. maybe, i'll think about it" or i fall asleep lolz
my mind is super active but i outwardly seem lazy asf lmao like he sometimes gotta actually carry me downstairs so i'd finally do what i keep saying i willclick to expand
HAHAHAHA THIS
we actually fall asleep on eachother
like reallyyyy hahahahahahaa "imma call you in a sec babe" "ok sweety no rush"
and then we both fall asleep lol
8 hours later "omgggggggggggggggg i completely fell asleep on you" "me tooooooo phahahahah"
lol lol
Posted by AriquaPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by looneymoonmaidenPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
ok...soooooooo people know you are together and he posts pictures of you together—?? THEN WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?
no seriously...its freaking fb.....not importantttt
if people know you are together then why are you stressing him?!!!!!
dont! really.......stop that
i know couples who have been married for years....and dont know how fb works and still has it on single
who caresssssssssssss
Nope couldn’t disagree more. We live and love in the Information Age. No way you’re going to pursue a girl and lock her down into a domestic situation (she’s blowing up about cat food) then be a Melennial and say “I wanna make sure before I do the FB official thing”
Melennials who do that shiiit are hiding,
You may not care but I think this OP does and so would any person who is 5 months into a domestic relationship not just dating.
She strong armed him into changing the status.
This is what’s going to happen. He’s still in the honeymoon phase so he’s going to accommodate everything she wants but eventually resentment is going to build up because nothing will ever be enough. She’ll constantly be seeking more and more from him to prove that he is “the real deal” and he’s going to feel unappreciated and go full silent treatment.
Based on multiple years of seeing it happen on dxp.click to expand
AMEN
Posted by ChuggingAPosted by AriquaYou have to reward them for good behavior... With blowjobs and gifts lol.Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by looneymoonmaidenPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
ok...soooooooo people know you are together and he posts pictures of you together—?? THEN WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?
no seriously...its freaking fb.....not importantttt
if people know you are together then why are you stressing him?!!!!!
dont! really.......stop that
i know couples who have been married for years....and dont know how fb works and still has it on single
who caresssssssssssss
Nope couldn’t disagree more. We live and love in the Information Age. No way you’re going to pursue a girl and lock her down into a domestic situation (she’s blowing up about cat food) then be a Melennial and say “I wanna make sure before I do the FB official thing”
Melennials who do that shiiit are hiding,
You may not care but I think this OP does and so would any person who is 5 months into a domestic relationship not just dating.
She strong armed him into changing the status.
This is what’s going to happen. He’s still in the honeymoon phase so he’s going to accommodate everything she wants but eventually resentment is going to build up because nothing will ever be enough. She’ll constantly be seeking more and more from him to prove that he is “the real deal” and he’s going to feel unappreciated and go full silent treatment.
Based on multiple years of seeing it happen on dxp.click to expand
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA SO TRUE....awfull of me to laugh
but reallyyyy....true
and you will get it ten times back in return though
give and takeeee
Posted by AriquaPosted by ChuggingAPosted by AriquaPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by looneymoonmaidenPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
ok...soooooooo people know you are together and he posts pictures of you together—?? THEN WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?
no seriously...its freaking fb.....not importantttt
if people know you are together then why are you stressing him?!!!!!
dont! really.......stop that
i know couples who have been married for years....and dont know how fb works and still has it on single
who caresssssssssssss
Nope couldn’t disagree more. We live and love in the Information Age. No way you’re going to pursue a girl and lock her down into a domestic situation (she’s blowing up about cat food) then be a Melennial and say “I wanna make sure before I do the FB official thing”
Melennials who do that shiiit are hiding,
You may not care but I think this OP does and so would any person who is 5 months into a domestic relationship not just dating.
She strong armed him into changing the status.
This is what’s going to happen. He’s still in the honeymoon phase so he’s going to accommodate everything she wants but eventually resentment is going to build up because nothing will ever be enough. She’ll constantly be seeking more and more from him to prove that he is “the real deal” and he’s going to feel unappreciated and go full silent treatment.
Based on multiple years of seeing it happen on dxp.
You have to reward them for good behavior... With blowjobs and gifts lol.
I guess lol
And when you’re telling people how your relationship developed.
“Well I was dating his friend but I realized I liked him better...then I threatened him to make it official.”
😳
So romantic...like The Notebook.click to expand
HAHAHAHHA
Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
only because he could not yet accept the implications of quantum mechanics for the reality of alternate futures, in which all possible outcomes are actualized...
In your mind perhaps.
Until you can demonstrate your ability to traverse the space time continuum I think it’s foolish to speculate or assert that lying isn’t lying because the concept perhaps exists.
click to expand
I have a paper on it that is awaiting publication in a major physics journal....I will tag you and link it when it passes peer review....
Posted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
only because he could not yet accept the implications of quantum mechanics for the reality of alternate futures, in which all possible outcomes are actualized...
In your mind perhaps.
Until you can demonstrate your ability to traverse the space time continuum I think it’s foolish to speculate or assert that lying isn’t lying because the concept perhaps exists.
I have a paper on it that is awaiting publication in a major physics journal....I will tag you and link it when it passes peer review....click to expand
me too please
Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
Posted by jeanePosted by Metatronme too pleasePosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
only because he could not yet accept the implications of quantum mechanics for the reality of alternate futures, in which all possible outcomes are actualized...
In your mind perhaps.
Until you can demonstrate your ability to traverse the space time continuum I think it’s foolish to speculate or assert that lying isn’t lying because the concept perhaps exists.
I have a paper on it that is awaiting publication in a major physics journal....I will tag you and link it when it passes peer review....click to expand
absolutely....its entitled "Special Relativity, the Physics of Time Travel, and White Lies told by Taurus Men"....should cause a major paradigm shift w/in the scientific community....
Posted by AriquaPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by looneymoonmaidenPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
ok...soooooooo people know you are together and he posts pictures of you together—?? THEN WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?
no seriously...its freaking fb.....not importantttt
if people know you are together then why are you stressing him?!!!!!
dont! really.......stop that
i know couples who have been married for years....and dont know how fb works and still has it on single
who caresssssssssssss
Nope couldn’t disagree more. We live and love in the Information Age. No way you’re going to pursue a girl and lock her down into a domestic situation (she’s blowing up about cat food) then be a Melennial and say “I wanna make sure before I do the FB official thing”
Melennials who do that shiiit are hiding,
You may not care but I think this OP does and so would any person who is 5 months into a domestic relationship not just dating.
She strong armed him into changing the status.
This is what’s going to happen. He’s still in the honeymoon phase so he’s going to accommodate everything she wants but eventually resentment is going to build up because nothing will ever be enough. She’ll constantly be seeking more and more from him to prove that he is “the real deal” and he’s going to feel unappreciated and go full silent treatment.
Based on multiple years of seeing it happen on dxp.click to expand
This is wrong.
Trust me I have backed down abut wverything. This is my one minor vicotry.
He even said to me last night " I'm the one who makes the rules as the man"
No one is strong arming him, trust me.
He's all muscle.
Posted by MetatronPosted by jeanePosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
only because he could not yet accept the implications of quantum mechanics for the reality of alternate futures, in which all possible outcomes are actualized...
In your mind perhaps.
Until you can demonstrate your ability to traverse the space time continuum I think it’s foolish to speculate or assert that lying isn’t lying because the concept perhaps exists.
I have a paper on it that is awaiting publication in a major physics journal....I will tag you and link it when it passes peer review....
me too please
absolutely....its entitled "Special Relativity, the Physics of Time Travel, and White Lies told by Taurus Men"....should cause a major paradigm shift w/in the scientific community....click to expand
i'll look out for it.
Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
only because he could not yet accept the implications of quantum mechanics for the reality of alternate futures, in which all possible outcomes are actualized...
In your mind perhaps.
Until you can demonstrate your ability to traverse the space time continuum I think it’s foolish to speculate or assert that lying isn’t lying because the concept perhaps exists.
I have a paper on it that is awaiting publication in a major physics journal....I will tag you and link it when it passes peer review....
Happy for you but H G wells wrote a book on it. Doesn’t make it real.
But I respect your dedication and good luck with the paper.click to expand
I'm just being stupid....
in reality though, I have done that before where I intend to do something and my response is like "its done" bc that's 100% my intention and I'm about to be on it....then I forget....if I'm being honest, honesty is not really my greatest strength...I tell white lies here and there...most of my partners are usually this way too though so it works out....
Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.click to expand
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.click to expand
That would be on him then no?
Posted by RockyMountainOysters
176 post deep now, OP....
Bet you wish you would have just ditched the cat now, huh?
Makes no sense to me how this blew up..
I was just all cranky this morning...now this is just entertaining me.
😄
Posted by RockyMountainOystersPosted by MetatronPosted by jeanePosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by MetatronPosted by Boots1313Posted by Metatron
on the cat food "lie", are you sure he wasn't just fake listening/agreeing bc he was tired or preoccupied? ...I have a bad habit of doing that in relationships...partner will be talking to me about some mundane/day-to-day things, and I will be giving all the body language and verbal cues of someone who is being attentive, but I'm checked out completely, often agreeing to things I'm not even aware of, completely in another world in my head....5 mos. and you're sleeping together, but no official/public commitment though? I'd definitely be suspicious as well....
No it was through a text message. Not verbal.
He posts pics of us at times, people know we are together my friends and his close friends...but I need a little more
That kind of lie could be due to the effects of relativity/time dilation....sometimes if a partner asks me if I've done something, I know I am planning on doing it 100% , so I project myself into the future where it is already done, and I answer from there in the affirmative....then some butter happens in the present like I forget about it entirely and now I am on a different trajectory, and it will look like I lied later....Einstein spoke of this....
Yeah Einstein called it BS
only because he could not yet accept the implications of quantum mechanics for the reality of alternate futures, in which all possible outcomes are actualized...
In your mind perhaps.
Until you can demonstrate your ability to traverse the space time continuum I think it’s foolish to speculate or assert that lying isn’t lying because the concept perhaps exists.
I have a paper on it that is awaiting publication in a major physics journal....I will tag you and link it when it passes peer review....
me too please
absolutely....its entitled "Special Relativity, the Physics of Time Travel, and White Lies told by Taurus Men"....should cause a major paradigm shift w/in the scientific community....
Forget the scientific community.... IMAGINE THE IMPLICATIONS IT WILL HAVE ON THE ASTROLOGICAL COMMUNITY!
GREAT SCOTT!!!click to expand
Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
That would be on him then no?
Did you slide into his friends dms? Or vice versa?click to expand
He hit me up first to ask if my friend was okay. She was sick on the last day of the trip...for all I knew he was interested in her.
Posted by -sierraPosted by Ariqua
Actually the other person I know who did this was also another Taurus woman lol.
Taurs always try to church it up so they don’t look bad.
my taurus sun-taurus moon cousin fell in love with a gemini while she was still with her boyfriend
they're actually pretty quick to dump you when they find a better connection so i've never understood the whole 'slow' thing about them coz they're so pushy and will bulldoze you to get what they want
but what can you do when you're just not feeling it?click to expand
This is accurate.
My libra ex and I were on two completely different paths. It wasn't a serious relationship, and he even told me prior that he didn't see a "future with me" he was jist dating and "having fun"
That didn't fly with me, so when I met someone that I had a strong instant connection with, and he felt it as well I broke up with libra.
Trust me, he didn't wanna potentially ruin his friendship, unless he felt the connection just as strongly.
I wrote about it in my history, it's all there if yu would like to catch up.
Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.click to expand
ending a relationship with someone, because you realize you have stronger feelings for another, is definitely not cheating IMO....seems like its just the right thing to do...I see that suggested on here all the time, as an alternative to actually cheating.....
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Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
That would be on him then no?
Did you slide into his friends dms? Or vice versa?
He hit me up first to ask if my friend was okay. She was sick on the last day of the trip...for all I knew he was interested in her.
Lol.
You guys sound like a good match either way.click to expand
Do I sense sarcasm and facetiousness?
Posted by AriquaPosted by MetatronPosted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
ending a relationship with someone, because you realize you have stronger feelings for another, is definitely not cheating IMO....seems like its just the right thing to do...I see that suggested on here all the time, as an alternative to actually cheating.....
How do you develop strong feelings for someone while you’re in a relationship in the first place unless you’re open to it?click to expand
Guess you have never felt a strong connection? Sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants. It's an awful thing to feel. It's not fun, no one wants to fall for another while with someone.
There's a quote that says " if you love two people at the same time. Choose the 2nd, because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second".
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Actually the other person I know who did this was also another Taurus woman lol.
Taurs always try to church it up so they don’t look bad.
my taurus sun-taurus moon cousin fell in love with a gemini while she was still with her boyfriend
they're actually pretty quick to dump you when they find a better connection so i've never understood the whole 'slow' thing about them coz they're so pushy and will bulldoze you to get what they want
but what can you do when you're just not feeling it?
Idk I guess as an Aries I don’t understand staying in an unfulfilling relationship waiting for something better to come along so I can jump ship.click to expand
Sometimes you aren't sitting around intentionally waiting for that, plotting to leave. You actually feel somewhat fulfilled, but then someone with whom you have a much stronger connection with, walks into your life. Often one form of chemistry w/a person can even completely dissolve another. You can try and stick it out, but if things don't change, many people would say you're doing your current partner a disservice by denying them the chance to be with someone that is more into them....
Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
That would be on him then no?
Did you slide into his friends dms? Or vice versa?
He hit me up first to ask if my friend was okay. She was sick on the last day of the trip...for all I knew he was interested in her.
Lol.
You guys sound like a good match either way.
Do I sense sarcasm and facetiousness?
Yes and no.
I think the situation started out shady but he is putting up with your insecurities like a champ at the moment so it seems to be working somehow.
I do feel bad for his friend though. I read a little of the backstory and he sounded insecure too.click to expand
I can tell you I am much happier in this relationship currently.
We still see my ex and everything is fine. Him and my bf play handball togther.
When he found out about us he said "she's a great girl. Just not the one for me. You have my permission to pursue her"
We really tried to go about it in the most honest and least hurtful way possible.
Yes he's great to me.
He is really a good boyfriend and I tell him that all the time.
Posted by AriquaPosted by MetatronPosted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
ending a relationship with someone, because you realize you have stronger feelings for another, is definitely not cheating IMO....seems like its just the right thing to do...I see that suggested on here all the time, as an alternative to actually cheating.....
How do you develop strong feelings for someone while you’re in a relationship in the first place unless you’re open to it?click to expand
Feelings aren't always something that are under conscious control. If someone is in your social circle, you spend time with them, communicate around interests, laugh together, etc. - and feelings arise. If you're with someone, you hope they stop at the level of friendship. But if you happen to meet someone in your shared circle of friends, to where you both feel like you're really struggling internally around this person - and there's a romantic attraction there, a better compatibility, etc., assuming there are no marital issues to factor in, why would it be wrong to break up and pursue it? There are people who literally use that as a litmus test as to whether or not they are really in love. They don't go seeking out other connections, but if someone can sway them like that, they take it as a sign that the emotional/romantic bond isn't where it needs to be with their current partner.
Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by MetatronPosted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
ending a relationship with someone, because you realize you have stronger feelings for another, is definitely not cheating IMO....seems like its just the right thing to do...I see that suggested on here all the time, as an alternative to actually cheating.....
How do you develop strong feelings for someone while you’re in a relationship in the first place unless you’re open to it?
Guess you have never felt a strong connection? Sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants. It's an awful thing to feel. It's not fun, no one wants to fall for another while with someone.
There's a quote that says " if you love two people at the same time. Choose the 2nd, because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second".
I wouldn’t expect that from someone at your age though. If your last relationship was bad then yes.
But no one has a perfectly fulfilling relationship and falls for someone else unless they want to. A relationship is a commitment to another person...it’s not “well I’ll stay unless I find someone better.” 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
Commitment has many aspects though. There should also be commitment to be honest about where you're at emotionally, if you feel you are falling out of love, not going to work out etc. Dating is not marriage where you vow to stick it out regardless....If my partner meets someone they feel more for, I absolutely would want to know and set them free to explore that....Can't imagine anything worse than someone staying with me merely out of obligation/commitment...
Posted by MetatronPosted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by MetatronPosted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
ending a relationship with someone, because you realize you have stronger feelings for another, is definitely not cheating IMO....seems like its just the right thing to do...I see that suggested on here all the time, as an alternative to actually cheating.....
How do you develop strong feelings for someone while you’re in a relationship in the first place unless you’re open to it?
Guess you have never felt a strong connection? Sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants. It's an awful thing to feel. It's not fun, no one wants to fall for another while with someone.
There's a quote that says " if you love two people at the same time. Choose the 2nd, because if you really loved the first you wouldn't have fallen for the second".
I wouldn’t expect that from someone at your age though. If your last relationship was bad then yes.
But no one has a perfectly fulfilling relationship and falls for someone else unless they want to. A relationship is a commitment to another person...it’s not “well I’ll stay unless I find someone better.” 🤷🏻♀️
Commitment has many aspects though. There should also be commitment to be honest about where you're at emotionally, if you feel you are falling out of love, not going to work out etc. Dating is not marriage where you vow to stick it out regardless....If my partner meets someone they feel more for, I absolutely would want to know and set them free to explore that....Can't imagine anything worse than someone staying with me merely out of obligation/commitment...click to expand
Amen
Thank you
Posted by AriquaPosted by MetatronPosted by AriquaPosted by MetatronPosted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by AriquaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Ariqua
Did you cheat on your ex to be with your current bf or did you end the relationship with the ex before dating him?
Are you suspicious of other people because you yourself are untrustworthy?
I met him on a ski trip with mutual friends.
Nothing flirtatious on the trip, I had a boyfriend and I'm loyal in a relationship.
After the ski trip we were talking on fb messanger about the trip and he was so funny and real and honest and I suddenly realized I liked him, a lot more than my boyfriend.
I might have crossed a line a day or two before I broke up with my boyfriend. Told the guy I liked him more then a friend and he admitted the same.
After friend and I broke up, we waited 3 weeks before going on our first date. Then another week for our second and so on. We made things exclusive a month after our first date.
He cheated in his past, but then was cheated on by the love of his life so he says he would never out someone through that pain again, but yu can never be certain.
😑 but...you cheated.
How?
By liking someone ..and then breaking up with my boyfriend? When I realized? I broke up with my bf as soon as I could.
Nothing physical even happen between us until a month in.
Maybe not to other people but it’s cheating to me. It’s shady behavior at the very least. Especially because it was his friend.
ending a relationship with someone, because you realize you have stronger feelings for another, is definitely not cheating IMO....seems like its just the right thing to do...I see that suggested on here all the time, as an alternative to actually cheating.....
How do you develop strong feelings for someone while you’re in a relationship in the first place unless you’re open to it?
Feelings aren't always something that are under conscious control. If someone is in your social circle, you spend time with them, communicate around interests, laugh together, etc. - and feelings arise. If you're with someone, you hope they stop at the level of friendship. But if you happen to meet someone in your shared circle of friends, to where you both feel like you're really struggling internally around this person - and there's a romantic attraction there, a better compatibility, etc., assuming there are no marital issues to factor in, why would it be wrong to break up and pursue it? There are people who literally use that as a litmus test as to whether or not they are really in love. They don't go seeking out other connections, but if someone can sway them like that, they take it as a sign that the emotional/romantic bond isn't where it needs to be with their current partner.
This is sad and not my definition of love. But cest la vie.click to expand
I tend to stick with what's familiar myself....But there have been times in my life where I regret having done so, and I don't fault anyone else for pursuing a stronger chemistry....I also don't think love has any one strict definition. Even from an astrological perspective, wherever Venus happens to land in a partner's chart, how its aspected/expressed, etc., I think you're bound to learn something new from that person about the nature and possible expression of love....
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with everything you need to pick your battles. and if your trust issues aren't because of him DO NOT TAKE THEM OUT ON HIM.
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