Do u think its true that when u...

say something to someone usually the statement leaving ur mouth at that moment is what u really mean/feel/think? ... My mother always told me that people say whatever is really on their mind the first time, which would include those times when the person follows their statement with "Nosa or I was just joking" ...

Since most people have an ability to think before they speak do u beleive that people really mean what they say the first time?

What are ur thoughts?

I think it depends on the person and the situations. SOme people enjoy making comments strictly for shock value. It may not be the way they legitimately feel, but need to get a specific response. I think it just comes down to knowing who your talking to and if you don't then you can't know if what they say is truely what they mean. There are leaders and there are followers... to me it's the same concept.

LMAO GB. yes you did. Depends on the person. too bad more people don't say what's on their mind and always mean what they say. which brings me to this conculsion: I gotta work on that. lol

I think that what comes out of people's mouths the first time they say something, is what they mean... but at the same time, some people don't know how to use the words to make what they mean (or how they feel) clear enough to get the point across to someone who would use different words to explain how they feel or what they're thinking. Also whatever is said (given the situation) could be misinterpreted by the person 'listening.'
For instance...
My older brother and I know each other better than our parents do (because we were the hot potatoes in a custody battle). And even though we have spent most of our lifetime in each others' presence, we still have a communication problem. I'm better with words than he is, but I'm not as anal about words like 'couple' when used in the phrase "couple of minutes," as he is. I know that the definition of couple means two, but if he was to tell me "give me a second," I'm not going to count to 1 and chew his head off about whatever. He frustrates me with this, and this causes me to get heated up... and in turn, my selection of words (even though I know the meaning of them) becomes limited and careless. Then things spiral out of control. My brother says what he feels (the first time), but the fact that he tries to use big/new words that don't belong with the feelings/points he's trying to express... ruins the topic of conversation. What gets me more pissed off, is that he's the one that is such an @ $ $ hole about what words mean.
...but for some reason, (though he knows what he means but) he doesn't know WTF he's saying sometimes. And HE's the one that is so anal about what words like 'couple' MEAN.

"hey, Baby-G, we can't all be Geminis."

So funny that the brother I'm referring to is one of them too.

GB...I got the message..I responded babes

"I think that what comes out of people's mouths the first time they say something, is what they mean... but at the same time, some people don't know how to use the words to make what they mean (or how they feel) clear enough to get the point across to someone who would use different words to explain how they feel or what they're thinking. Also whatever is said (given the situation) could be misinterpreted by the person 'listening.'"

I concur B_S

I definitely agree that first response is what they mean/feel. Oftentimes people hide behind the "I'm joking" thing. It's like they say when you take a test, your first instinct/response is usually the right answer (well, if you've studied lol).

"Oftentimes people hide behind the 'I'm joking' thing."
I did kind of leave that out of my first response.
Unless "I'm joking" is the end of the sentence...
They meant it.

Like if I said 'F*** you @ $ $ hole!' ...and later on I come back and say 'I was just kidding.'
I meant it when I said it. But I just don't want to talk about it anymore... so STFU about it!

But if I said 'F*** you @ $ $ hole (*laughing* or *smiling*)... I'm kidding, I'm kidding!' then I clearly meant to let you know I was kidding before you had the time to take serious offense to it.

I think it can go either. Lotta times first thing that comes to mind for me on some things is really just a joke. I say it cause it amuses me even though the topic may be a bit more serious.

I guess I'm just serious when I shouldn't be and not serious when I should be.