How do you ask if someone is okay?

My regular deli girl was wearing an awful pair of big sunglasses yesterday, I'm hoping it is simply her being goofy but I know there's two reasons to wear glasses, one is a black eye and the other is a red eye from hanging ones self.

I'm moving away from where I live now so she won't be my regular deli girl anymore and I'm not so sure what to do. Hopefully she just got her eyes dilated but if it doesn't look that way, how would you even ask? It's a bit more out of my shell than I'm used to.

Edit: just went through your old posts. I see you're a Scorpio.

I'd just talk to her normally and then somehow work into the conversation "I like your shades, but I don't usually see you wearing them in doors. Everything ok?"

And then if she plays it off and says "I'm fine" with a nervous laughter, then you persist and ask "you sure? It just seems pretty unusual." And see how the conversation goes from there.

But if she seems taken aback by your question or how genuinely concerned you are, then you can assume she probably had an unfortunate incident with putting her contacts in or something.

Scorpio, would make a joke about it but I have a way of horrifying people with how accurate it would be. Kind of erring on safe, this is the woman that makes my breakfast normally.

No to the jokes suggestion. Put yourself in her shoes and imagine how insensitive it would be if she actually did have a black eye.

What's stopping you from just asking "Hey are you okay?"

i guess i just cant help myself bc a patient that lives in her car with her bf was walking by and waved hello. she is a cap lady about my age. she and i chit chat here and there (mostly when her annoying drugee bf isnt around) so i could not help but pry when i saw her with a busted lip, red- faced. i said "did someone hit you?!" nearly right after she got close enough for me to see. domestic violence gets my blood boiling having dealt with a couple of these assholes myself. she tried to downplay it so i didnt push and simply reminded her to take care of herself. for some people this is hard. we love very hard and we dont like giving up. me, ive become disillusioned by "love" in the past so i feel deeply for those going thru something similar. when it comes down to it, you can care and even say something, but it may not bring forth any changes. she's still with dude and i treat him cordially when i do see him. shes got to make her own mind up to take care of herself, if that really is whats going on. she'll probably appreciate someone just showing a little care either way.

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Posted by irreconcilabledifferences

was she wearing plaid coz that's when you know it is bad.

Lmao

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Actually they were a hideous blue, green and pink splotchy set of sunglasses. Did not see her this morning for breakfast. The nightshift guy was filling in. I guess I'll find out more Monday.

Maybe she's just hitting bongs out back every time she gets a break because her jobs boring as fuck.